Monday, July 8, 2024

Poem: Never Trust Narcissists; Never Admire Them.

šŸ’ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
šŸ“ Some signs you're dealing with narcissists, never trust them, 
Since they care more about their ego and appearance 
Than morals or truly connecting with their loved ones: 
They upload tons of selfies, eager for compliments, 
With often filtered photos so their flaws are hidden.
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Uploading videos of their guests, shopping or outings, 
Broadcasting events they attend like lavish weddings 
Or bragging to strangers about all their achievements, 
Are from the strange things they do to boost low confidence - 
Craving admiration, so insecure from within.
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If they're females, they love colored lenses, concealing 
Defects with heavy makeup or photo editing, 
Wearing fake eyelashes or frequently gossiping 
About women whose inner beauty belittles them. 
They'd do whatever they can to appear alluring.
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If they are male narcissists, from their strangest actions 
Include posting pics of cars they could be borrowing, 
Recording vids of themselves at fancy restaurants 
With the main intention of showing off affluence, 
Or their posts are mostly meant to prove intelligence.
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They get energized knowing they've got fans who need them. 
It's no surprise that narcissists are prone to acting 
Generous in the beginning to form attachments, 
Then after some time they attempt to crush their victims 
So the latter doubt their worth and seek their attention.
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To defeat narcissists, with Allah's Will, remind them 
Of who they were before their current predicament, 
"You grew up with poor parents, why are you pretending 
As if the world revolves around your recognition? 
If you're rich, you'd be kind to the needy and orphans.
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Allah the Most High is Above us and everything. 
Why do you behave as if you're stronger than mountains, 
As if your sweat is made of musk and you excrete gems, 
And as though you have all the answers to all questions?"
Then say: Arrogance is ugly and a major sin.
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Arrogance befits donkeys that like to imagine 
They're dragons in realms where dead dinosaurs adore them, 
While they deny they're fallible, filled with shortcomings. 
Because narcissists tend to lie a lot and pretend, 
Remain indifferent to their foul and false statements.
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If some relatives are narcissistic, stay patient, 
And respect yourself enough to not wish you were them. 
They're not admirable at all if they're suffering 
From envying you and resenting your existence. 
Continue being better at truth and contentment.
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šŸ“– Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah as a truthful person. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhārī 5743 
Sahih Muslim 2607
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
šŸ“– Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed (or atom) of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise." Someone said, "But a man loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes." The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance means rejecting the truth and looking down on the people."
In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of faith in his heart will enter Hellfire."
Source: Sahih Muslim 91
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

Poem: Thirteen Lessons Learned From Several Years Of Marriage

šŸ’ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
✅ 13 Lessons learned on loving your spouse, from around 17 years of being married (Alhamdulillah):
1] Getting married isn't the main source of happiness. Your joy, inner peace and contentment should be found in sincerely obeying Allah the Almighty. Regardless of what your marital status is (married, single, widowed, separated), you can never be happy if you don't have Islam, faith/Imaan and Taqwa / piety, as well as awareness of adherence to the correct 'Aqeedah/belief.
2] Genuinely loving your husband for Allah's sake, with actual sincerity / Ikhlaas and patience / Sabr, can 
Inn-sha-Allah help you go through any trial, challenge and difficulty in marriage life. By stubbornly remaining loyal to your destined soulmate for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, you have the ability 
Inn-sha-Allah to continue loving him patiently as his faithful wife despite the different kinds of struggles which you both go through once in a while.
3] Instead of feeling easily hurt when he doesn't return your calls or answer your text messages instantly, be brave enough to forgive, understand him and accept the likelihood of him being so busy, or realize maybe he didn't reply because he had no load that time to send text messages, or if you're in a polygynous marriage, maybe his other wife (who could be insecure and awfully envious of you) is trying to disrupt your communication if you're in polygyny. Earn abundant rewards by practicing patience for Allah's sake rather than insisting on divorce unreasonably.
4] Be grateful for even the smallest acts of kindness and gestures of love from your husband, whether it's found in him feeding you with his own right hand while eating together, drinking from the glass you drank from, enjoying the dishes you cook for him while refraining from inconsiderately criticizing your cooking, letting you lovingly massage him, and showing enthusiasm or willingness to pay close attention when you inform him how your day went or you wish to share some insightful lessons.
5] It's not always that you get to sleep and spend time with your husband. There will be moments when he has to travel to another city or country for several days or months, so at times you anxiously miss him. Missing someone's presence is clear evidence that you really care about them.
6] Don't expect everything to be ideal or absolutely flawless in marriage. Expect instances when your husband makes a mistake, hurts your feelings or cancels appointments. Acknowledge the truth that your spouse is precisely similar to you in being a human. Consider every disappointment as an opportunity to develop your strength in accepting Allah's Qadr/Destiny with rewarding patience.
7] Being patient with your husband doesn't indicate you're weak or you are settling for less than what you actually deserve, but you're in actuality strong enough to not let your ego take control over your actions and you don't allow temporary examinations to keep you upset.
8] It's not a necessity for every Muslim couple to be exactly alike and perfectly compatible for them to get along with each other. In some marriages, the husband is more religious than his wife, whereas in other love journeys, the pious wife has a beautiful chance to inspire her husband to become more righteous for Allah's sake with admirable perseverance.
9] The number of kids that Muslim couples have together do not necessarily measure the quality of their love life. It is possible for a man and woman to remain married without bringing up any children. Their infertility is a test from Allah the Most Merciful, to examine their level of patience and contentment or acceptance of Allah's Decree. Not having offsprings may be their chance to earn more of Allah's Love by showing interest in taking good care of orphans or those who are deprived of the affection of responsible parents.
10] It is absolutely normal for husbands and wives to argue with one another now and then. Instead of considering divorce after an argument, find the courage to be the first to forgive for Allah's sake, the first to apologize, the first to reconcile and make sincere effort to sympathize with how your husband is different. If he stubbornly insists on committing an obvious wrongdoing though, such as smoking or gambling, don't be too quick to abandon him. Pray to Allah that He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala guides your husband and include your spouse in your frequent supplications.
11] Your marriage life is a blessing and gift from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala if it leads you and your spouse to Jannah Paradise, protects you from haraam/forbidden relationships, and trains you to give preference to pleasing Allah over surrendering to shameful desires.
12] In some cases there can be a possibility for a wife to feel attracted to someone other than her husband, or for a man to admire other women who are not his wife/wives. This is another type of test from Allah the Most Forgiving. You are not accountable for whatever thoughts or feelings you have, as long as you try your best to ensure you don't put those inappropriate urges into intentional actions. Strengthen your connection with Allah the Almighty, patiently persist in disciplining your nafs, and courageously lower your gaze as a striving Muslim.
13] Once in a while you may feel slightly jealous of other people's marriages, especially if the sort of friends you hang out with tend to frequently brag about how their love lives seem "perfect". Rather than doubting the quality of your own marriage or feeling discontented, confidently be happy for them, encourage them to stay loyal for Allah's sake, and appreciate the love journey that Allah the Most Loving wisely selected for you. What works for you may not work out for others, and what goes well with others' love lives may not be suitable for your love journey. Since Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala created His servants with unique roles and abilities, not everybody goes through life's trials similarly. 
There are various ways of reaching the peak of a mountain, either by traditional mountain-climbing or mountaineering, ascending a flight of stairs if a stairway has been constructed, riding a cable car if there is one, flying with a helicopter or jet plane, or even just imagining or visualizing you've already reached the top of the mountain. 
Avoid comparing the chapters of your marriage life to others' romance. Do your best for Allah's sake to be a pleasant wife to your husband until you reunite in Jannah Paradise where profound bliss and perfection can be enjoyed for eternity.
šŸ“– Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibban 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

šŸ“– Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I have left you with two matters which will never lead you astray, as long as you hold to them: The Book of Allah (The Qur'an) and the Sunnah of His Prophet (Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam)."
Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1661
Grade: Sahih (Authentic)
šŸ“š Some of the English-speaking Salafi/Sunni speakers who call towards the Qur'an and Sunnah of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. Try to research and listen to their lectures on YouTube attentively:
Abbas Abu Yahya
Abdul Hakeem Mitchell
Abdulillah Lahmami
Abu Adam Jameel Finch
Abu Hafsa Kashiff Khan
Abu Hakeem Bilal Davis
Abu Humayd Saalim
Abu Idrees
Abu Iyaad Amjad Rafiq
Abu Khadeejah Abdul Wahid
Abul Hasan Malik
Abu Muadh Taqweem Aslam
Abu Muhammad Al Maghribi
Abu Talha Dawud Burbank
Abu Uways
Anas Waters
Anwar Wright
Hamza Abdur Razzaq
Hassan Somali
Moosaa Richardson
Mustafa George
Raha Batts
Rasheed Barbee
Rayaan Barker
Sa'eed Rhana
Umar Quinn
Uways at-Taweel
šŸ§¾ List of Arabic-speaking scholars of today whose Islamic lectures we can benefit from:
- Imām Abdul-Aziz Ibn Bāz
- Imām Muhammad Nasiruddin al-Albani
- Imām Muhammad Ibn 'Uthaymīn
- Imām Muqbil bin Hādī Al-Wādi'i
- Imām Ahmad An-NajmÄ« 
- Shaykh Sāleh Al-Fawzan
- Shaykh Hassan ibn 'Abdul-Wahhāb Marzooq Al-Bannā
- Shaykh Sālih Al-Luhaydān
- Shaykh 'Abdul-Muhsin Al-'Abbād
- Shaykh Rabi' ibn Hādī Al-Madkhalī
- Shaykh 'Ubayd Al-Jābiri
- Mufti Shaykh 'Abdul-'Azīz Āl-ush-Shaykh
- Shaykh Sālih Āl-ush-Shaykh
- Shaykh 'Abdullāh Al-Bukhari

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šŸ’šNote: Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday, Surah Al-Mulk each day and night, and include the Muslim Ummah in your prayers.