Wednesday, August 7, 2024

Note: Some Reminders From An INTJ Muslimah (53)

 


Poem: The More The Other Wife Acts Like A Homewrecker The More You Must Compete In Patience And Loyalty

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
💚 Dear Muslim wife who found out her husband recently 
Remarried and this man has more than one family, 
And what may upset her the most is his legally 
Marrying another lady without directly 
Telling her, the woman he married initially...
~•~
If you wonder why at times your husband acts strangely 
Ever since he remarried, why he speaks angrily 
Towards you or why he frowns at you regularly, 
Why he stopped complimenting your cooking or beauty, 
And he's "busier" these days than he was previously...
~•~
While it's fine to be busy, if he consistently 
Cancels meeting up with you, avoids your family, 
And in three months or more he doesn't financially 
Support you and your child/children whom he lovingly 
Cared for more in the past, then perhaps it's sorcery?
~•~
What if someone from either side guilty of envy 
Or desire for revenge was the one who spitefully 
Had the black magic done while being ignorantly 
Unaware of the ruling on witchcraft in our Deen? 
Refuse to be defeated by shaytan's trickery. 
~•~
If your husband was stuck in a pit that's pretty deep, 
Wouldn't you find ways to get him out or patiently 
Keep him company as you wait for a rescue team? 
Wouldn't you ask Allah to increase his piety?
Wouldn't you be that wife who tries to meet her man's needs?
~•~
And if you can't meet all his needs, wouldn't you bravely 
Allow him to remarry, and through polygyny 
You earn more rewards for loving your spouse patiently, 
For accepting Allah's Plans and what Allah decreed. 
See the other wife as a teammate, not enemy.
~•~
In the same team, striving to deserve Jannah's entry, 
View the other wife as a friend who helps you compete 
In gaining more rewards, so in both worlds you succeed, 
And you become more resistant to foul jealousy. 
That Allah will love you more for your patience believe.
~•~
If the other woman brings mischief and selfishly 
Prevents the good man whom you both love from rightfully 
Visiting you and your child/kids whom he lovingly 
Cared about more in the past, then don't permit defeat 
And impatience to destroy your loving family.
~•~
Better let your loved ones learn from your fierce loyalty, 
Resilience and full trust in Allah the Almighty, 
Rather than joining regretful female divorcees 
Who cowardly quit due to scorning polygyny.
Seek Allah's Justice. Don't surrender to sorcery. 
~•~
If the other wife acts like a homewrecker, then be 
Your husband's faraway castle that he didn't leave 
But goes to eagerly when he's ready and released, 
And he still looks forward to a special kind of peace 
With you, his more loyal wife who won't accept defeat.
~•~
If the other wife is like a storm that lasts really 
Long, then be your husband's serene breeze that brings relief, 
Even if time spent with his other wife sadly feels 
As though he abandoned you or like he disappeared. 
Sincere love can wait and doesn't give up easily.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātīḥ 5/2125
📖 Abdullah Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader of the people is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects. A man is the guardian of his family and he is responsible for them. A woman is the guardian of her husband's home and his children, and she is responsible for them. The servant of a man is a guardian of the property of his master and he is responsible for it. No doubt, every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6719
Sahih Muslim 1829
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The most complete of believers in faith (Imaan) are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162
Grade: Sahih