💌 To the single ladies, the divorced and the widowed:
What are some signs to look for when a guy would propose?
First off, recall you're not in 'The Bachelorette' show.
Guys won't queue as you go 'Eeny, meeny, miny, moe'.
Decide to please Allah, not to appease your ego.
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Questions, through your wali or guardians, must focus on
The man's 'Aqeedah/belief before his profession.
Does he try his best to pray on time as a Muslim?
What are his habits and does he earn halal income?
What's his agenda? Or is your body all he wants?
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Upon inspecting him to check if the guy's okay,
In the presence of mahrams, don't mainly judge his face,
His height, how muscular he is, how much cash he makes,
But notice mutual attraction subtly portrayed
When you're both shy and nervous, while your heart palpitates.
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Can you accept the suitor as your ideal soulmate,
Imagine him as a good dad to cute kids someday,
Take him as a partner whose presence strengthens your faith,
Or can you welcome the challenge, see this as a game
You're willing to play, to win entry to Jannah's Gates?
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While some women married their men for their bank accounts,
Or their degrees, looks or status that made them feel proud,
You pray Istikhaarah first, then decide based on how
And if you'll be a better Muslimah through this spouse,
And if loving him brings you near Allah and Ferdaus.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials on the earth and the spread of corruption."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There is no Muslim who calls upon Allah, without sin or cutting family ties, but that Allah will give him one of three answers: He (Allah) will quickly fulfill his supplication, He will store it for him in the Hereafter, or He will divert an evil from him similar to it." They said, “In that case we will ask for more.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah has even more."
Source: Musnad Ahmed 10749
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Yes." I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Her silence (not refusing nor complaining) is her consent (sign that she accepts the marriage proposal)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6547
Sahih Muslim 1420
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
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