Poem: Avoid Overthinking, Suspicion And Negative Self-Talk

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Allah the Almighty gave you a mind to be used

To carry good thoughts that please Him, not to be misused.

Find rest in saying Dhikr, expressing gratitude,

Accepting destiny with patience and fortitude.

~*~

Train yourself to think of thoughts which can help you improve,

From pondering what Allah made to what He gave you,

To reflecting on the Qur'an and deeds you can do

Like studying Islam and increasing your Sujood.

~*~

Avoid negative self-talk and haters' points of view.

Dismiss harmful notions that lead to ingratitude.

Brush off dismal thoughts which include "If only I knew...",

"If only I didn't...", "Why am I misunderstood?".

~*~

Don't stress over worries which can mentally abuse

You, feeling heartbroken, overwhelmed, lost and confused.

Forget thinking why certain souls seem better than you.

Focus on serving Allah with faith that's firm and true.

~*~

Let go of overthinking people's conduct and cues.

Don't be too quick to assume. Try to give them excuse.

Concentrate on honoring Allah's Rights upon you.

Do what Allah loves, not concerned if His slaves approve.

~*~

Choose thoughts that guide you to understand, not misconstrue.

Ideas which spark off suspicion should be eschewed.

Recall Allah's favors on you even if they're few,

Especially being Muslim guided to the Truth.

~*~

Instead of fantasizing about a crush who's cute

Or obsessing over things which don't hold good value,

Remind yourself of Allah, Jannah, Islam's virtues,

The beauty in Sabr and that "YOLO" isn't true.

~*~

📖 It was narrated that Abu Hurairah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The strong believer is better and more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, although both are good. Strive for that which will benefit you, seek the help of Allah, and do not feel helpless. If anything befalls you, do not say, "If only I had done such and such" rather say "Qaddara Allahu wa ma sha'a fa'al (Allah has decreed and whatever He wills, He does)." For (saying) 'If only' opens (the door) to the deeds of shaytan.'"

Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)

English reference: Vol. 1, Book 1, Hadith 79

Arabic reference: Book 1, Hadith 83

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has pardoned my nation for what occurs within themselves, as long as they do not speak of it or act upon it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6287, Sahih Muslim 127

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Ibn Al-Qayyim, May Allah have mercy on him (Ameen.), said, “Know that passing thoughts are not harmful. Indeed, they are only harmful if they are sought after and engaged. For a thought is like a passerby on the road; if you ignore him, he will depart from you.”

Source: Al-Jawāb Al-Kāfī 1/157

📖 Anas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beloved to me in the world are women and perfume, yet the delight of my eyes is in prayer."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3939

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Poem: Ways To React When Told "You're Ugly"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 When told "you're ugly", "pangit ka", "you're not that pretty",

Respond to immature actions intelligently.

Ask them questions so they notice their idiocy,

Echo their remarks or walk away confidently.

~•~

Ask them, "Is 'ugly' a new word you learned recently?

Is that a nickname given by your mom and daddy?

If that's your way of flirting with me, then I'm sorry,

I don't like shallow people who lack inner beauty."

~•~

Scornfully repeat what they said. Their nonsense copy 

Just to give them a taste of their immaturity,

Or be the more mature adult and ignore their folly.

Their envy or self-hate could be why they act rudely.

~•~

Don't let your self-esteem decrease by anybody 

Who thinks they're perfect or dictates how you should appear,

When they too have flaws and their skin isn't always clear,

And they don't have power to make wrinkles disappear.

~•~

What's their definition of "beautiful", now tell me?

Wearing colored contact lenses? Looking like Barbie?

Fancy wigs? Fake eyelashes? Cosmetic surgery?

Altering oneself to satisfy society?

~•~

Actual beauty is more than what you let people see.

It involves a grateful heart that serves Allah Only,

A beautiful soul content with Allah's Destiny,

And pleasant thoughts that don't welcome wretched qualities.

~•~

Envy, suspicion and treating others unfairly 

Aren't recognized by souls enriched with real beauty.

Troubled and wounded souls speak ugly speech fluently,

While those whom Allah guides talk truthfully and kindly.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah does not look at your appearance or wealth, but rather He looks at your hearts and actions."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2564

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abdullah Bin Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:

"The Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hands the Muslims are safe."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 10 Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever wrongs his brother in his honor or anything else should resolve the matter today before it cannot be resolved with gold and silver coins. If he has good deeds to his credit, they will be taken from him according to the measure of his injustice. If he has no good deeds left, he will bear the evil deeds of the one he has oppressed."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2317

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

https://abdurrahman.org/2009/07/28/the-story-of-julaybib-radhi-allaahu-anhu/

Poem: Ways To Tell If Someone Is A Friend Or Acquaintance

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Ways to tell if someone's an acquaintance or a friend:

You're friends if you share the same goals, interact often,

Support each other and by their joys you're not threatened.

Your bond stays strong despite frequent absence or distance.

~•~

They're an acquaintance if you go through awkward moments,

If there's friction or tension in your conversations,

And you're too formal in meeting their expectations.

You know each other's names yet don't have much in common.

~•~

Friends defend your name in your presence and when absent.

Acquaintances mock you or indulge in gossiping.

Friends worry about you and care for your well-being.

Acquaintances just reach out when they require something.

~•~

Friends mention you in their regular supplications,

Want what is best for you and enjoy seeing you win.

Most acquaintances wait for signs or invitations 

To converse, and when you thrive they whine or appear grim.

~•~

Friends never get tired of helping you out, advising, 

Forgiving, and waiting for you. They value patience.

Acquaintances are more prone to misunderstandings, 

Misjudgment, arguments and miscommunication.

~•~

The likeness of friends versus many acquaintances 

Is that of sturdy fortresses versus feeble tents.

Not all acquaintances can guarantee commitment,

While true friends stick around to help you with your problems.

~•~

Be grateful to Allah if you have at least one friend 

Who prays for you and insists you reach Jannah with them.

You're fortunate if from those true friends are your parents,

Child/children, siblings, and your destined soulmate/husband.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are like conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638

📖 Mu’adh Ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah the Almighty said: 'Those who love each other for the sake of My Glory will be upon pulpits of light, admired by the prophets and the martyrs.'"

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2390

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Poem: Do Good For Allah And Don't Be Affected By Ignorant Laughter

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 You know how strong you are when you choose to keep going,
Continue serving Allah with your modest clothing,
With niqab and abaya that state "I am Muslim.
I dress to please Allah. I'm not enslaved by fashion."
~•~
You've been there many times - walking by people laughing,
Indicating they're ignorant while rudely staring,
Yet you stood firm and understood well their ignorance.
If they were educated, they wouldn't be mocking.
~•~
Tell yourself each time some clowns laugh at your decision
To be modest for Allah, "Let them laugh. It's nothing.
They likely never traveled, they're so inexperienced,
Or they're morally poor and don't know worldwide customs."
~•~
The more immature "adults" laugh at what you're wearing,
Or the more you get mocked by badly brought up children,
The more you should trust Allah as your faith is strengthened,
And say 'HasbunAllah wa ne'm Al-Wakeel' often.
~•~
Don't feel disheartened by their laughter and derision.
If you're doing the right thing, ignore criticism.
Look forward to more rewards every time you're patient.
Observe who'll be laughing next on the Day of Judgment.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu ‘anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills.” Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan.“
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Poem: Advice From A Thirty-Something To Younger Adults

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Tips from a thirty-something to those in their twenties 

And young ones trying to survive in their teenage years:

Know our purpose in life - to worship Allah Only, 

To serve Allah despite being viewed by some as "weird".

~•~

Three words that describe dunya: Tough, brief, temporary - 

This world isn't our resting place. Life's a test and dream -

Strive to pass Allah's tests with Sabr and piety,

And do what you can to join those destined to succeed.

~•~

Avoid giving up, being spiritually asleep,

Easily distracted and emotionally weak,

By maintaining strong connection with Allah daily 

And being careful with the kind of knowledge you seek.

~•~

Not only should you be cautious about what you read,

But be wise too in choosing close friends from those you meet.

Those who gossip and prove they're guilty of jealousy 

Should be replaced by the pious, helpful and sincere.

~•~

When networking, recall "quality, not quantity".

One false friend is more dangerous than ten enemies.

Better lonesome yet loved by Allah than be deceived 

By toxic companions who disturb your soul's journey.

~•~

Take note, you can never feel lonely when you believe

That Allah is always with us and Angels are near.

When you strengthen your faith and learn to have your doubts cleared,

Defeating fitna, with Allah's Will, can be achieved.

~•~

Refuse to be controlled by five emotions: Envy,

Unjust anger, intense attraction that can mislead,

Vile pride, and grief that makes one forget Allah's Mercy.

Taqwa and trust in Allah can be effective shields.

~•~

Three good qualities to cultivate: Sincerity,

Humility or contentment with Allah's Decree, 

And patience, not quitting in spite of difficulties -

Rising after every fall, willing to persevere.

~•~

Speed up in doing good deeds, as time goes by quickly.

For the grand meeting with Allah try to be ready.

Remember three facts: Allah controls all. Death is real.

Islam and good deeds can save us, not friends nor money.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills.” Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Ibn ‘Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Take advantage of five before five: Your youth before your old age, your health before your illness, your riches before your poverty, your free time before your work, and your life before your death.”

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 9575

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Poem: Forgive For Allah's Sake Those Who Hurt You And Move On

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 It's not easy to forgive those who've hurt your feelings,
Who spread rumors and threw around false accusations,
Who describe you with the most unfair definitions,
And who doubt your motives, but still try to forgive them.
~•~
Forgiving doesn't mean you become close friends again
Nor is it re-opening doors to bad influence,
But you remove resentment, cancel plotting revenge,
And realize they're like you - a fallible human.
~•~
They claimed you're such and such? Clearly they do not know you.
Blamed you for being what you're not? Relax, it's not true.
Your value shouldn't change by the lies that critics use.
Go on seeking Allah's Love. Ignore what haters do.
~•~
Forgive. Things could've been worse; if you were in their shoes,
Busily envying others, inside feeling blue,
Accusing people - to soothe their emotional wounds,
And hating you as your joys make them feel insecure.
~•~
Forgive and say Du'a. Let Allah deal with your foes
Who misjudge you and view your name through their toxic thoughts.
While we can't control what each person thinks, feels or does,
We can forgive and leave those who bring no good but loss.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah but that Allah raises his status.”
Source: Sahih Muslim 2588
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The merciful will be shown mercy by the Most Merciful. Be merciful to those on the earth and the One (Allah) in the heavens will have mercy upon you."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1924
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi
📖 Al-Shafi’i, may Allah have mercy on him, wrote in his poetry, “When I forgave and stopped holding malice against anyone, I relieved my soul of the worries of enmity.”
Source: Dīwān Al-Shāfiʻī 31
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/poem-be-strong-enough-to-forgive-others.html

Note: The Importance Of Answering A Muslim's Salaams

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Some people misunderstand the concept of answering salaams, assuming that you only respond to those whom you like, or you have every right to ignore a greeting if it comes from a complete stranger. Others pathetically act according to fluctuating emotions and refuse to answer your salaams if they're in a bad mood.

Regardless of our current emotional state and whether we're close or not to so-and-so, it's our duty as Muslims who value good character to return their salaams rather than being cowardly silent. Even if we're unsure yet about a person's sect or correctness of their belief/'Aqeedah, returning a Muslim's salaam is done not necessarily to declare that you respect them 100% but you respond to their salaams sincerely to maintain proper Islamic manners, in obedience to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam.

In the long run, those who repeatedly ignore our salaams indirectly signal to us that they're not worthy of being more than just an acquaintance because they lack basic courtesy, they conceal an enormous load of jealous sentiments from within, or their selfish pride could be a hindrance to a stable friendship.

~•~

📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: A man asked the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam “Which Islam is best?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "To feed the hungry and to greet with peace those you know and those whom you do not know."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 28 

Sahih Muslim 39

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: A man passed by the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam while he was sitting in a gathering. The man said, “Peace be upon you.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Ten good deeds.” Another man passed by and he said, “Peace be upon you and the Mercy of Allah.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Twenty good deeds.” Another man passed by and he said, “Peace be upon you, the Mercy of Allah, and His Blessings.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Thirty good deeds.” A man stood up to leave the gathering and he did not offer salutations of peace. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “How quickly your companion forgets! If one of you comes to a gathering, let him greet them with peace. If there is room for him to sit, let him sit. If he stands to leave, let him offer salutations of peace. The former duty is no different than the latter.”

Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 980

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the best people to Allah are those who are first to greet with peace."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 5197

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The rider should greet with peace those who are walking, those who are walking should greet those who are sitting, and a small group should greet a larger group."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5880

Sahih Muslim 2160

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Poem: The Stronger Your Belief In Allah, The Less Likely You Envy Others' Lives

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Strong faith/Imaan and acceptance of Allah's Qadr 

Can prevent us from envying the lives of others.

When we receive Allah's gifts with Sabr and Shukr,

And have firm faith, we won't go after others' favors.

~•~

That person's tall height, light-colored eyes, or huge mansion,

This woman enjoying a rich romantic husband,

And families who get to travel abroad often - 

They can't make us jealous; we know those gifts were destined.

Their joys and achievements are tests Allah has given.

~•~

That woman's pretty face and impressive credentials,

This person delighting in a luxurious lifestyle,

And individuals who label themselves "successful",

They can't make us feel inferior nor one bit doubtful

About blessings Allah gave which are uncountable.

~•~

You married an Arab? Mabrook. Be a grateful wife.

You own a thriving business? Good for you. Remain kind.

Published books? Well done. Keep inspiring through what you write.

Train yourself to be happy when other Muslims thrive.

~•~

Enhance your beauty inside by smiling every time 

News of someone's "success" or happiness would arrive,

And accept the fact Allah designed everyone's lives.

Focus on your journey. Don't let envy slow your drive.

~•~

📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, who are the best people?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “One with a heart swept clean and truthful in speech.” We said, “O Messenger of Allah, we know truthful in speech. What is a heart swept clean?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “One that is mindful of Allah and pure, in which there is no sin, nor aggression, nor envy.” We said, “Who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “One who hates worldliness and loves the Hereafter.” They said, “And who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “A believer with good character.”

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 4457

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 'Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Faith and envy do not combine within a believing servant.”

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant.”

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Beware of envy, for it devours (removes) good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass.”

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

Poem: Faith/Imaan Levels Oftentimes Fluctuate

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Often our level of faith/Imaan can fluctuate.

Sometimes it's up and we're in a motivated state,

Energized to do many good deeds for Allah's sake.

Other times it goes down, and we feel lost and dismayed.

~*~

When our faith/Imaan level would reach the lowest point,

When it reaches rock bottom and life just disappoints,

We get depressed or dependent on money and coins,

Eager to amass worldly joys, easily annoyed.

~*~

What cause our level of faith/Imaan to drop include:

Forgetting Allah, delaying Salah, less Sujood,

Gossiping with friends who tell lies and lack good virtues,

Impatience, and wasting time on things without value.

~*~

The following, when done a lot, can strengthen our faith:

Striving for Allah's Love, saying Dhikr night and day,

Reciting from the Qur'an daily at least one page,

Praying Tahajjud at night when most are not awake,

Being grateful to Allah for blessings that He gave,

~*~

Having worthwhile talks with Muslims who enjoy learning,

Reading about Islam and notes on self-improvement,

Showing kindness to animals, orphans and children,

Working hard for good results on the Day of Judgment,

~*~

Staying content with what Allah chose and predestined,

Not comparing our tests to friends' examinations,

Refusing to carry envy, pride and suspicion,

Reminding ourselves we can die at any moment.

~*~

May Allah the Most Kind keep our faith/Imaan strengthened,

Forgive us and take us when we're ready to meet Him,

Smiling and deserving of Jannah's entrance. Ameen.

Maintain these for strong Imaan: Gratitude and patience.

~*~

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The faith of a servant is not upright until his heart is upright, and his heart is not upright until his tongue is upright. A man will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his evil."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 12636

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Ja’far RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: ‘Umayr Ibn Habib RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, “Faith increases and decreases.” It was said, “How does it increase and decrease?” ‘Umayr said, “If we remember our Rabb (Allah) and fear Him, it will increase. If we are heedless and we forget, and we waste our time,  it will decrease.”

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imaan 55

Poem: Dear Muslim Revert

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📜 Dear Muslim revert, don't despair of Allah's Mercy.

Allah the Almighty sees your faith which you conceal,

Your heart accepts Just One God. Tawheed is your belief.

You love Islam but then you meet these difficulties...

~•~

Some born Muslims suspect you, doubting if you're sincere,

Or you're simply acting to join their community.

Then ostracized and disowned by your own family,

With both sides hating on you, you feel stuck in between.

~•~

It's tough being misunderstood by fellow Muslims,

Abandoning you as you still haven't stopped some sins,

Not knowing you're struggling yet striving with patience,

Hoping you can find friends who are more understanding.

~•~

In Ramadan often you have to hide you're fasting,

Most of your Salahs/prayers are done in seclusion,

Inside your room where few Islamic books are hidden,

Wearing hijab and modest clothes only when praying.

~•~

Like a game of hide and seek, you have Islam concealed,

Afraid to be harmed by loved ones if it is revealed.

You're guilty of pretending, yet you know it's all real,

The real you is Muslim. With Islam your wounds are healed.

~•~

Dear Muslim revert, worship Allah so patiently,

Even if you must hide, pray to God consistently,

Say Du'as and Dhikr secretly and sincerely,

Study Islam when given the opportunity.

~•~

Eventually Allah can guide your loved ones. Trust Him.

Even if it takes years for them to become Muslim,

Invite them to Allah's Way and continue praying,

Do Da'wah with your manners, show them what they're missing.

~•~

Treat non-Muslim relatives with justice and mercy.

Your improved character can show them Islam's beauty.

Attend Islamic circles even if secretly,

Or befriend pious Muslims who can teach you your Deen.

~•~

Also learn the Qur'an, study its verses' meanings.

As you research more, you'll become better gradually.

Keep striving with Jannah as your main destination.

Paradise is where you'll find eternal bliss and peace.

Poem: Careful With The Social Media Accounts You Follow

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Have enough self-respect to ignore negative posts,

Unfollow toxic users, detach from wicked souls 

Who put you down or gossip through what they say or post,

And whose bad vibes drain you, so they're better left alone.

~•~

Toxic social media accounts include childish rants,

Gossipy notes about those whom they misunderstand,

Lame complaints about those whom they're too scared to confront,

And your energy drops when you read their verbal stunts.

~•~

Avoid jokers and clowns who outshine at gossiping 

Offline and online to emphasize their self-loathing.

Learn and seek content that bring about good influence,

And follow those who inspire and share enlightenment.

~•~

Be careful too, ensure you don't mix with nor promote

Those who support bid'ah, who are careless with their words,

Who enforce extremism and acts bad for your soul,

And causing fitna or chaos is one of their goals.

~•~

Choose the right kind of info absorbed, and always pray 

That Allah the All-Knowing guides us to the Right Way,

To connecting with souls that are pure and strong in faith,

And to tell apart the striving from those led astray.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said to me: "Young man, if you are able every morning and evening to remove any rancor (grudges, hatred or jealousy) from your heart towards anyone, do so."

Then, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said to me:

"Young man, that is my Sunnah. Whoever revives my Sunnah has loved me, and whoever loves me will be with me in Paradise."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2678

Grade: Hasan

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu ‘anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills.” Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan.“

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Poem: You Have The Freewill To Do What Leads You To Your Goals

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 You can stay in bed throughout the morning feeling sad,
Recalling your past and recounting things you don't have,
Or you can pray Salat Ad-Duha and say Du'as,
And do your best to serve Allah with the means you've got.
~•~
You can browse the web and stalk users whom you envy,
Watching daily vlogs that cause self-doubt and jealousy,
Or listen to lectures that enhance your piety,
And read quotes or writings that breed positivity.
~•~
You can disturb your heart by fighting with your haters,
Arguing offline and online with keyboard warriors,
Or you can improve yourself by practicing Sabr,
And forgive for Allah's sake and leave troublemakers.
~•~
You can spend your free time listening to songs and beats,
Dancing with shaytan as your faith gradually gets weak,
Or you can recite from the Qur'an regularly,
And study Islam so your Imaan levels increase.
~•~
You can feel bad inside and keep comparing yourself
To others' lives, wishing you had their homes, looks and wealth,
Or you can thank Allah, dispel bad feelings you've felt
By focusing on your gifts and blessings without guilt.
~•~
You can stress yourself out by desiring perfection,
Complaining whenever you confront disappointments,
Or you can take it easy, rest often, be patient,
As you strive for Allah and accept what He destines.
~•~
Keep in mind that Allah gave you freewill to decide.
Your deliberate choices can impact your lifestyle.
So try your best to make decisions you think are right.
When you fall, rise. Get back up till you reach Paradise.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “If one of you looks at those blessed over him in wealth and appearance, let him look at those below him.”
In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Do not look to those above you, lest you view the favors of Allah as trivial.”
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125
Sahih Muslim 2963
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Poem: Thank Allah And Don't Compare Your Tests To Others' Tests

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Be wise enough to realize why Allah made you,
Strong enough to accept His Qadr with gratitude,
Brave enough to not compare friends' skills with what you do,
Competing against no one; just striving to improve.
~*~
When most women would brag and get jealous easily,
Claiming things like "I'm wealthy", "I got married early",
"My hair is fancy", "I have twins", "My hubby's Saudi",
Be among the few content with Allah's Destiny.
~*~
We're not in a competition for worldly pleasures,
Not here to prove who's richer and whose house is bigger.
Instead of working to show you're better or smarter,
Do more of Allah's Orders to gain extra ajar.
~*~
You're pretty? Good for you. Don't let your looks be misused.
Wear hijab. Ditch the selfies. Know modesty's virtues.
Finding others prettier shouldn't shrink your value.
Recall the disabled and put yourself in their shoes.
~*~
You run a business? Pray to Allah that it is blessed.
Ensure your earnings are halal to pass Allah's tests.
When other entrepreneurs succeed, don't be upset.
Focus on what Allah gave to reach your own success.
~*~
Still single? Few kids or no children yet? Don't worry.
Stay chaste and pray. Allah's timing is always timely.
Your worth isn't based on the size of your family,
Nor marital status, but your faith and piety.
~*~
While many people compete for fame or tons of likes,
Or they work hard to achieve a luxurious lifestyle,
Join Allah's allies enriched with contentment inside,
At peace, free from envy, as they strive for Paradise.
~*~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If one of you looks at those blessed over him in wealth and appearance, let him look at those below him."
In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do not look to those above you, lest you view the favors of Allah as trivial."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125, Sahih Muslim 2963
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Envy consumes good deeds just as fire burns wood. Charity extinguishes sinful deeds just as water extinguishes fire. Prayer is the light of the believer and fasting is his shield from the Hellfire.”
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4210
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Ibn Asakir
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it devours good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

Hadith: Du'a To Seek Allah's Protection From Riyaa / Minor Shirk

 📖 Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam came to us while we were discussing the False Messiah (the dajjaal). 

The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Shall I not tell you about my greater fear for you than the False Messiah?” We said, “Of course!” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “It is hidden idolatry (inconspicuous shirk/polytheism), that a man stands for prayer and beautifies his prayer when he sees another man looking at him.”

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4204

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

📖 Ma’qil ibn Yasar RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I departed with Abu Bakr RadhiAllahu 'anhu to meet the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. The Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “O Abu Bakr, there is (polytheism/shirk) idolatry among you more hidden than the crawling of an ant.” Abu Bakr RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, “Is there idolatry other than to make another god alongside Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “By the One in Whose Hand is my soul, there is idolatry more hidden than the crawling of an ant. Shall I not tell you something to say to rid you of it both minor and major? Say: "O Allah, I seek refuge in You that I associate partners with You while I know, and I seek Your Forgiveness for what I do not know."”

Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 715

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

https://preciousgemsfromthequranandsunnah.wordpress.com/2018/12/16/dua-for-protection-from-shirk-a-very-important-dua/

Poem: Real Men Are Strong Enough To Not Hit Their Wives

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 A real man never hits a woman; he's strong enough
To control his temper and triumph over his nafs.
He's a man who doesn't gossip nor girlishly slap,
And his ability to be patient proves he's tough.
~•~
Real men respect the rights of their wives and won't neglect
Their women's needs. These warriors aim to pass Allah's tests
By doing their best to sustain a blessed marriage
And adjusting themselves so their wives don't stay upset.
~•~
A good husband doesn't show preference to his friends,
Chilling with them and leaving his wife with impatience.
If ever he returns late or some days he's absent,
He grants his wife explanation and compensation.
~•~
Most women are easily provoked and sensitive,
While most men are detached, proud and argumentative.
To be from the elite men whose marriages are blessed,
Be gentle, as Eve was created from Adam's rib.
~•~
A guy's manliness only increases every time
He decides not to harm women, specially his wives.
His strength is also shown in overcoming his pride.
Allah's Love for him inspires him to treat women right.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “I enjoin you to treat women well, for the woman was created from a rib and the most curved part of the rib is its highest point. If you try to straighten it, you will break it. If you leave it as it is, it will remain bent. Thus, I enjoin you to be good to women.”
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3153
Sahih Muslim 1468
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 'Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: "The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam did not strike a servant nor a woman, and he never struck anything with his hand, unless he was fighting in the Way of Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala)."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2328
Grade: Sahih
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women.”
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

Tips: Five Ways To Detect If A Friend Is Toxic

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five ways to detect if a friend is too toxic:

1] Their mere presence makes you feel bad about yourself. They deliberately act as though they're perfect while you're always the one making mistakes, they pridefully brag about their accomplishments without consideration for what you lack, or they purposely treat you in a manner which leads to doubting your self-worth e.g. ignoring your salaams, making hurtful jokes about you, never taking initiative to reach out.

2] They insist (not advise or suggest) that you behave, dress and live exactly the way they do. "Don't eat that or you'll get fat.", "That outfit looks awful on you. You have zero fashion sense. Change it and copy our style." and "This person and so-and-so - don't ever visit them. Otherwise we'll stop hanging out with you too." are sample phrases that toxic "friends" say to control you.

3] Being overly controlling and domineering, they have unrealistically high expectations of you. They don't respect your need for space at times, instantly get offended if you didn't answer their messages straight away, and try to dictate most of your decisions, pressurizing you to do tasks that you're unable to carry out.

4] Instead of adding positive value to your life, they drain your energy. Their excessive complaints, incessant criticism, obsession with immature gossip, addiction to mocking people's flaws, or disrespectful indifference to your well-being cause you to wish you never met in the first place so you wouldn't have to tolerate their negative vibes.

5] They stubbornly repeat the same mistakes and do what bothers you. Even after apologizing, they still indulge in activities that you've warned against e.g. gossiping, posting cowardly passive-aggressive status updates, and openly supporting those who contradict the Sunnah of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam.

  🔹 How to deal with "frenemies" or toxic individuals:

1] Quit stalking their social media posts. Emotionally detach because we have nothing to do with them.

2] Minimize unnecessary interactions with those guilty of being untruthful, unreliable, gossipy, jealous, and manipulative.

3] Never disclose or reveal sensitive information, secrets or more personal details about yourself to them. Let them keep guessing what you're up to rather than updating them with your daily progress.

4] Forgive them for Allah's sake while maintaining self-preserving distance.

5] Learn from their mistakes. Also, if you truly cared about them, mention their names in your Du'as praying that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala guides them.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

Hadith: Encouragement To Do More Charity Even Giving A Glass Of Water

📖 Sa’d ibn ‘Ubadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, my mother has died. Shall I give charity on her behalf?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Yes.” I said, “Which charity is best?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A drink of water."

Source: Sunan al-Nasā’ī 3664

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “There are three to whom Allah will not speak on the Day of Resurrection, nor will He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) look at them, nor will He purify them, and they will have a severe torment: A man who has extra water in his vessel but prevents a traveler from drinking it. And a man who trades goods after midday prayer swearing by Allah that he had taken it for a certain price but it is not so. And a man who pledges allegiance to a Muslim leader only for something in the world; if he is given he fulfills his pledge, and if he is not given he does not fulfill it.”

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Allah will say: 'Today I prevent you from My Favor just as you withheld the favor of what you did not work for with your hands.'”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2230

Sahih Muslim 108

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “A man suffered from thirst while he was walking on a journey. When he found a well, he climbed down into it and drank from it. Then he came out and saw a dog lolling its tongue from thirst and licking the ground. The man said: 'This dog has suffered thirst just as I have suffered from it.' He climbed down into the well, filled his shoe with water, and caught it in his mouth as he climbed up. Then he gave the dog a drink.

Allah appreciated this deed, so He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) forgave him.” They said, “O Messenger of Allah, is there a reward for charity even for the animals?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Yes, in every creature with a moist liver is a reward for charity.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5663

Sahih Muslim 2244

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Poem: I Love My Husband For Allah's Sake And I'm Fine If He Remarries

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 According to some, "If a guy truly loves his wife,
He'd be satisfied she's 'the only one' in his life.
He won't remarry nor look at other women's eyes.
A man who remarries signals he's unsatisfied."
~•~
Most are terrified of polygyny, unlike me.
I side with the few who don't clone the majority,
Oppose lame love stories that breed from greed and envy,
And I'm with those who serve Allah, not society.
~•~
As Allah's servant, I believe Muslim men have rights
To be lawfully married to up to four good wives,
To raise righteous kids and increase their family size,
While training one another to discard vile desires.
~•~
Most women are prone to selfishness and jealousy.
Wives in polygynous marriages love patiently,
Survive strong, spending their whole lives for Allah Only,
And they keep loving their husbands with fierce loyalty.
~•~
That's what true love is - it stays the same or can't decline,
Whether you're your husband's first, second, third or fourth wife.
So long as he tries his best to be fair with his wives,
It's his right to remarry, your role not to deny.
~•~
Be that wife who when her man behaves romantically
With his other wives, her love for him doesn't decrease.
Her co-wives don't threaten her but push her to compete
In pleasing Allah and accepting His Destiny.
~•~
Let others guess we have an "unhappy marriage life";
We're not the ones deceived by ignorance day and night.
Alhamdulillah. Strive to join those whom Allah guides
And blesses their marriage so it leads to Paradise.
~•~
📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)".
[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]
Riyad As-Salihin 286
In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286

Poem: Meaningful Silence With Dhikr Is Better Than Meaningless Chatting

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 When asked why you're quiet, like your silence is a crime,
When some take your silent mode as a sign you're unkind,
Or they assume you're a snob while they're not worth your time,
Let them know, yes you can speak, but only when it's right -
To guide, teach, defend, rectify, remind, and advise.
~•~
Don't be from those who spread rumors, tell lies and backbite.
Don't disgrace yourself by having others' flaws described
Nor collect people's sins by dissing them from behind.
In gaining Allah's Love let your voice be utilized,
And beautify your speech with Dhikr and kind advice.
~•~
Have a mindset of knowing you can chat day and night
About different topics with whoever you liked,
But you hold back and get quiet around the wrong types
Who chill with you to gossip, betray or criticize.
Careful not to confide in the jealous and unwise.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak goodness or remain silent. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his neighbor. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his guest."
In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, “Let him not harm his neighbor.”
And in another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Let him uphold family ties.”
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5672
Sahih Muslim 47
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "May Allah have mercy on a person who spoke rightly and was rewarded, or who was silent and remained safe."
Source: Shu’b Al-Imān 4579
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani
📖 Mu'adh Ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, you will continue to be safe as long as you remain silent. If you speak, it will be recorded for you or against you."
Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 16591
Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi according to Al-Albani
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-silence-with-dhikr-is-better-than.html

Poem: Avoid Toxic People Who Lie And Gossip

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Some people don't talk to strangers. I don't talk to snakes, 

Two-faced gossipmongers who play emotional games,

Who mess around with your goals, get your energy drained,

Who gossip about others and who threaten your faith.

~•~

With these toxic species, we only deteriorate 

And gain no value from their presence nor what they say.

Lies and passive-aggressive slurs are nonsense they state.

If they backbite, they likely diss us when we're away.

~•~

We're better off without foes dressed as "friends" who are fake,

Who use us for their selfish gains, lie, manipulate,

Scrutinize our lives to count flaws and mock our mistakes,

And when we thrive or evolve they got nothing to say.

~•~

So long as we have Allah guiding us night and day, 

While solitude is sweet chance to reflect, read and pray, 

And avoiding toxic people keeps our Imaan safe,

We can never feel incomplete, lonely and dismayed.

~•~

Spending time with Allah is worthier than with fakes 

Who are glued to dunya or who are glad they're astray.

Through contentment with Allah's Love, inner peace is gained.

Our good deeds, not people's praise, are what will surely stay.

~•~

📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Three things follow a deceased person. Two of them return and one remains. His family, his wealth, and his deeds follow him (to the grave). His family and wealth return, but his deeds remain."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6149

Sahih Muslim 2960

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 AbdurRahman ibn Ghanm RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best servants of Allah are those who remind you of Allah when they are seen. The worst servants of Allah are those who carry gossip, separating between loved ones and seeking misery for the innocent."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 17998

Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782

Sahih Muslim 2998

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

Poem: From The Signs Of Pious Wives Is They Have Patience In Polygyny

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 My respect goes to each wife who accepts Allah's Will, 

Who strives for Allah and whose love for her spouse stays real.

Though in polygyny, her loyalty moves uphill,

Despite her man remarrying, she remains fulfilled.

Why fret when that's his right, and this is what Allah willed?

~•~

Glad tidings and kudos to tough wives who don't question

Nor display disappointment with what Allah destined.

Their acceptance of their husbands marrying again 

Is evidence they have trust in Allah, inner strength, 

Rich understanding of Islam, wisdom, and patience.

~•~

Amazing how those wives in polygynous marriage 

Keep loving for Allah, so they're never discouraged.

Though there are moments when they're prone to feeling jealous, 

They overcome their nafs, refuse to be defeated,

And subdue evil thoughts with admirable courage.

~•~

Not slaves to unstable feelings nor society, 

These wives submit to Allah's Decree so patiently,

Enlightened to see the beauty in polygyny -

Raising righteous families that value unity, 

Training queens to conquer prideful ego and envy.

~•~

Yes, polygyny is scorned by the majority,

And most ladies become territorial naturally,

But souls who compete for Allah level up their speed 

In attaining piety and doing more good deeds.

Their greater love for Allah helps their marriage succeed.

~•~

📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)".

[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]

Riyad As-Salihin 286

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286

Note: No Such Thing As Believing In Horoscopes And Zodiac Signs In Islam

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Checking your "daily horoscope", evaluating if you and another person are compatible based on your zodiac signs, and believing that the stars or galaxies have significant impact on our lives, attitude, and temperament are from shaytan's means of deception which could disturb a Muslim's belief/'Aqeedah.

The problem with some individuals relying on horoscopes and astrological star signs, even if they're just curious, is that believing in astrology indirectly shows their acknowledgement that Allah's creation from the cosmos have the so-called power to control people's affairs, or astrologers can predict the future when Allah the Most Wise is the Only One Who knows everything that occurs and will occur in the universe designed by Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.

If you're interested in self-discovery and wish to understand more about yourself in a way that isn't haraam/forbidden, you can refer to the MBTI personality type indicator which doesn't deal with issues that could gradually lead to shirk. Rather than identifying yourself as a bossy "Leo", stubborn "Taurus", talkative "Sagittarian", playful "Gemini", organized "Virgo", passionate "Pisces", or aggressive "Aries", you identify with being either an introvert or extrovert, and one who forms decisions according to logic or emotions etc.

https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

https://personalitygrowth.com/

📖 Zayd ibn Khalid RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Allah the Almighty said: "Among My servants are those who awaken with faith in Me and disbelief in Me. Whoever said we have been given rain due to the favor and Mercy of Allah, he is a believer in Me and a disbeliever in the stars. Whoever said we have been given rain due to the rising of this star, he has disbelieved in Me and has put his faith in the stars."”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 810

Sahih Muslim 71

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

https://abdurrahman.org/2016/01/27/daily-horoscope-in-newspapers/

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/astrology-as-a-means-of-seeking-knowledge-of-the-future-kitaab-at-tawheed-chapter-29/

https://binbaz.org.sa/articles/48/%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AA%D8%B9%D9%84%D9%82-%D8%A8%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%86%D8%AC%D9%88%D9%85-%D9%88%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A7%D8%A8%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%AC-%D9%88%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B7%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B9

Poem: Be Humble. All Humans Are Allah's Slaves.

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Whether Muslim or not, all humans are Allah's slaves.
We weren't made from steel nor gold but from dust and clay.
Recall, regardless of your height and your muscles' weight,
How smart some think they are and how proudly most behave,
We're not immortal, someday we must enter our graves.
~•~
Take note, don't be overly proud of what Allah gave -
The wealth you earn and spend, your loved ones, your pretty face,
Your intellect and talents you oftentimes showcase,
Cars you own, fancy clothes worn, delightful meals you ate,
And other temporal joys won't join you in your grave.
~•~
With humility use Allah's blessings for His sake.
Utilize what Allah taught you to help, educate,
Motivate, and so misguidance you obliterate,
To inspire others to serve Allah in the right way,
While expressing gratitude to Allah night and day.
~•~
Be kind and helpful. Know when to admit your mistakes,
Apologize when you're wrong, forgive those who betrayed,
And the urge to act like you're "flawless" try to forsake.
From those whom Allah loves are not experts in debates
But those who fear Him and maintain faithful inner state.
~•~
Be willing to learn from others even if they're maids,
Open to advice regardless of a person's age,
Brave enough to fix errors, patient enough to wait,
Wise enough to never racially discriminate,
And humble - so we pray to Allah as we're His slaves.
~•~
📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas’ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise." Someone said, "But a man loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance means rejecting the truth and looking down on people."
In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of faith in his heart will enter Hellfire."
Source: Sahih Muslim 91
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Allah the Almighty says: "Might is My Garment and Grandeur is My Cloak; whoever competes with Me regarding any of them, I will punish him."”
Source: Sahih Muslim 2620
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Suraqah ibn Ju’shum RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “O Suraqah, shall I tell you about the people of Paradise and Hellfire?” Suraqah said, “Of course, O Messenger of Allah.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “As for the people of Hellfire, it is every hard-hearted, cruel, and arrogant person. As for the people of Paradise, they are the meek and the oppressed.”
Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 6589
Grade: Sahih li ghayrihi according to Al-Albani

Hadith: Ask Allah For Steadfastness And Don't Judge Others By Their Outward Appearance

 📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must not be impressed with anyone until you see their end. Verily, a servant may do righteous deeds throughout his life, or for a long time. If he were to die in that state, he would enter Paradise, but then he diverts himself and does evil deeds. Verily, a servant may do evil deeds for a long time. If he were to die in that state, he would enter Hellfire, but then he diverts himself and does righteous deeds. If Allah intends goodness for a servant, He puts him into action before death." They said, O Messenger of Allah, how is he put into action?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "He is guided to righteous deeds and he holds firmly to it."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 11804

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah ibn Mas’ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam narrated to us, for he is the truthful and the trusted, “Verily, the creation of each one of you is brought together in his mother’s womb for forty days as a drop, then he is a clot for a similar period, then a morsel for a similar period, then there is sent to him the angel who blows the spirit into him and he is commanded regarding four matters: to write down his provision, his lifespan, his deeds, and whether he is blessed or damned. 

By Allah other than Whom there is no God, one of you acts like the people of Paradise until he is but an arm’s length from it, and what is written overtakes him so he acts like the people of Hellfire and he enters it. Verily, one of you acts like the people of Hellfire until he is but an arm’s length from it, and what is written overtakes him so he acts like the people of Paradise and he enters it.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 7016

Sahih Muslim 2643

📖 Sahl ibn Sa’d RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Verily, a man may appear to the people as doing the deeds of the people of Paradise, yet he is among the people of Hellfire. Verily, a man may appear to the people as doing the deeds of the people of Hellfire, yet he is among the people of Paradise.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2742

Sahih Muslim 112

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Tips: Put Down Your Phone And Pay Attention To Those Talking To You

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 A person who seems distracted or preoccupied with their phone while you are trying to talk to them indirectly signals their gadget is more important than you, they don't care about what you're saying, or they're too toxic, unmannered, and unreliable to earn your trust. From the etiquettes of having effective one-on-one conversations is to put your cellphone aside, switch it off or turn it to silent mode temporarily, and fully focus on the person you're attempting to connect with, particularly if that individual happens to be your mother, father, spouse, child or sibling.
In special cases, it is reasonable to stare at your cellphone screen and busy yourself with typing or reading when:
1) ...you're in a meeting or conference and you want to lower your gaze, to avoid staring unnecessarily specifically at non-mahram guys.
2) ...you are attending a class or lecture with a male speaker, and instead of just admiring the walls or board, you occasionally check your cellphone to refrain from exchanging awkward glimpses with the ustadh or lecturer.
3) ...you look at your cellphone rather than rudely staring at somebody who is coping with an embarrassing situation e.g. they slipped on the ground, they're being scolded, or someone hung up on them during a phonecall.
Attentively listening to the person who is conversing with you is one of the noble practices of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam which can contribute to better friendships, stronger bonds, and mutual respect.
📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam took a ring and put it on, then he said: "This distracted me from you all day, shifting my gaze from it to you (and back again)." Then he threw it away.
Grade: Sahih
Reference : Sunan An-Nasa'i 5289
In-book reference: Book 48, Hadith 250
English translation: Vol. 6, Book 48, Hadith 5291

Poem: Be Generous Enough To Pray For Other Muslims

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 It's a sign you truly care when you mention their name 

In frequent Du'as, in your Sujood, each time you pray, 

Praying they do good deeds sincerely for Allah's sake, 

Begging Allah to help them ensure their debts are paid, 

Saying Du'a to keep them happy, content and safe.

~•~

"Dear Allah, I'm in love and know zina is a sin, 

So protect me and those souls who grabbed my attention, 

Purify our hearts and remove distracting feelings, 

And grant us patience with what You Allah have destined. 

Ameen." - sample Du'a said by some striving Muslims.

~•~

Pray Allah cures them, sends solutions to their problems, 

Increases their halal income and grants them guidance, 

Even though we ourselves have our own predicament, 

Praying for a Muslim's well-being is rewarding.

Join those whom Angels include in their supplications.

~•~

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No Muslim servant supplicates for his brother behind his back but that the Angel says: 'And for you the same.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2732

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam mentioned the day of Friday and he said, "In it is an hour in which no Muslim stands to pray and ask Allah for something but that he will be given it," and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam indicated with his hand that the time is very short. 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 893 

Sahih Muslim 852 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Note: Typical Qualities Of INTJ Females

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Nine ways females with the INTJ personality type are different from other women:
1] INTJ females intensely dislike gossip and would rather stay quiet than chat about others' flaws aimlessly.
2] They don't experience FOMO (fear of missing out) nor feel "lonely and desperate for constant interaction", since they are thick-skinned, inherently independent and very selective with their choice of close friends.
3] Unlike women who get hurt easily, when they encounter insults, disrespectful behavior, or dismissive attitude from others, INTJ females understand that not all individuals were brought up well to be educated with decent manners. Thus they're not affected by people's enmity, rejection and criticism.
4] While they appreciate certain kinds of art, creativity, imaginativeness, order and aesthetic things, most INTJs are not materialistic, overly demanding and obsessed with social status.
5] They are significantly choosy regarding which rules to follow, who to emotionally invest in, and what sort of content they absorb online and offline. Their decisions are generally carried out by what makes most sense to them. Copying trends, following the crowd and "doing what everyone else does" do not come naturally to them.
6] You know you're valuable to an INTJ female if you've seen her shed tears, complain, or express herself more emotionally in a way that differs from her usual indifferent demeanor. INTJ females seldom reveal their emotional side unless you are especially close to them.
7] They can be both organized and messy depending on their current priorities. Focusing on completing tasks, assignments or projects can often cause them to disregard minute details to achieve efficiency.
8] Reading, researching and seeking beneficial information are activities they enjoy which not many women do.
9] Because INTJ females are a minority from the 16 MBTI personality types, it is typical for some INTJ women to feel as though they don't fit in with specific groups, particularly cliques in which chatty females savor gossiping, swapping rumors and discussing topics that they find irrelevant to their goals like cosmetics, showbiz and false news.
To discover what your mbti type is, you're welcome to take this test:
https://www.truity.com/test/type-finder-personality-test-201105
https://sintesa.net/mbti/
https://owlcation.com/social-sciences/INTJ-women-A-rare-Myers-Briggs-Category
https://personalitygrowth.com/the-rare-intj-female-and-the-struggles-of-being-utterly-uncommon/
https://psychologia.co/intj-relationships-and-compatibility/

Note: From Sincere Tawbah Is To Not Miss Your Sinful Past

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Whatever sin a Muslim has committed in the past should be forgotten, especially if they sincerely did Tawbah and repented from such wrongdoing. Whether your husband used to mingle freely with many women in his college days, if he can dance well as he was part of a varsity cheerleading squad, if he was the lead singer of a local band previously, or if he used to partake in forbidden Riba/usury, all his inappropriate misdeeds shouldn't define him now that he's striving to become a better Muslim, even if he still does other wrongs which he is currently working on. Similarly, if you had a wide collection of movie VCDs/DVDs and music cassettes back then in your teenage years, if you wore immodest outfits like sleeveless turtlenecks or tight bell bottoms, if you smoked pot or Shisha with your gang, and if you carried out the most unbelievably outrageous acts in Truth or Dare games, but you no longer do any of those along with certain sins you prefer to keep as a secret between you and Allah the Most Forgiving, people have no right to label or describe you based on your past wrongdoings.

You can't judge anyone according to their former doings and sins, when they've practically moved on, preparing for a brighter future, specifically in Jannah, by studying Islam and improving themselves in the present. 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas’ud RadhiAllahu anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said, "Regret is part of repentance."

Source: Sunan Ibn Majah 4252, Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani

In another narration, the beloved Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said, "The one who repents from his sin is as if he had never sinned at all."

Source: Sunan Ibn Majah 4250

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

Hadith: True Strength Is Not In Being Physically Strong But In Your Ability To Practice Self-Control

 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong are not the best at wrestling. Verily, the strong are only those who control themselves when they are angry."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5763, Sahih Muslim 2609
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Tips: Eleven Signs You Have A Strong Personality

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Eleven signs you have a strong and confident personality:

1] Since you trust Allah the Almighty and attain inner strength by striving to obey Him, you're not easily swayed nor negatively affected by His servants' enmity, hostility and criticism.

2] You are wisely selective or careful with your choice of close friends and the kind of content you expose yourself to online and offline. You don't stalk the social media accounts of people you dislike nor do you watch vlogs that could trigger you to question the quality of your lifestyle.

3] You don't go through self-doubt or self-pity when morally deficient individuals treat you disrespectfully. If someone ignored your salaams and messages, you never wonder if you did something wrong which caused them to despise you. You easily let go of unreliable attachments, move on confidently, and patiently accept that Allah the Most Wise already decreed which of His creation are capable of connecting with your soul's energy.

4] You intensely abhor gossip and avoid ethically incompetent people who cowardly discuss others' flaws. Gossiping and ridiculing a person while they aren't around to defend themselves befit those who are unconfident.

5] You persistently stick to what you understand is right, rational and sensible, regardless of the majority's opinions or stubborn efforts to persuade you to do what's wrong.

6] You're independent, while depending only on Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, and you are never desperate for people's approval, support and words of encouragement.

7] Insults, if there is a speck of truth in them, are chances for you to grow and improve. Offensive remarks, backhanded compliments and insulting jokes on the other hand which are obvious lies simply boost your ability to have patience for Allah's sake and contentment that you are unlike those who are insecure.

8] You know when to be quiet and when to speak truthfully, helpfully and kindly. In a group setting, you seldom talk a lot, unless talking benefits you as well as those who are listening.

9] You are incapable of envying the gifts, joys and achievements of Allah's servants. Someone's positive qualities or abilities can't make you feel inferior. You are supportive of your loved ones and friends, so long as their endeavors do not conflict with Allah's Orders.

10] As a Muslim who is self-confident, you readily defend those who are unjustly mistreated, bullied or being made fun of. You're not one to be a silent bystander when you notice somebody receiving disrespect or in an embarrassing situation. You courageously speak up especially if injustice is carried out without reasoning.

11] You never behave pridefully as though you're better and superior to everyone you meet nor do you consider yourself as "not good enough" if you can't fit in with a certain clique. You believe that your self-respect isn't based on people's dealings with you nor how you compare yourself to them, but how Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala sees you is what's actually important.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills.” Verily, the  phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan.“

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Note: You're Allowed To Continue Fasting Sunnah Fasts Even Without Suhoor Meal

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Allahu A'lam. When it comes to fasting Sunnah fasts, like fasting every other Monday and Thursday, you are allowed to continue fasting for Allah's sake even if you woke up after Salat Al-Fajr, did not have your Suhoor meal and was unable to form your niyyah/intention to fast. Especially for those who habitually fast Sunnah fasts, if they eagerly intended to fast the next day (say Monday, Thursday or yawm 'Arafah), but they overslept, missed their Tahajjud Qiyaam Al-Layl prayer and got up when the Adhaan of Fajr Salah was called, they can make their niyyah/intention to fast Sunnah fasting despite not having their actual Suhoor meal earlier. You can also intend to fast a Sunnah fast in the afternoon if you didn't eat or drink anything since Fajr prayer just as the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam intended to fast a Sunnah fast when he couldn't find anything to eat during the daytime.

One's niyyah/intention to fast is obligatory (waajib) when it comes to fasting in Ramadan.

From the benefits of fasting Sunnah fasts, to please Allah the Almighty, regularly:

1) You become closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and His beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam by striving to do more good deeds that are encouraged for us to do.

2) To join those who get to enter Baab Ar-Rayyaan in Paradise, a special place for those believers who loved fasting for Allah's sake.

3) More guarantee and higher chances of getting your Du'as answered as a fasting Muslim.

4) Your ability to implement self-control and self-discipline increases.

5) Your level or station in Jannah also increases 

Inn-sha-Allah.

📖 'Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said to me one day, “O Aisha, do you have anything to eat?” She said, “O Messenger of Allah, I have nothing.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Then I am fasting.”

Source: Sahih Muslim 1154

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Al-Nawawi said, “In this is evidence for the view of the majority, that it is permissible to form an intention to voluntarily fast during the day before the setting of the sun.”

Source: Sharḥ Al-Nawawī ‘alá Sahih Muslim 1154

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/8495/%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%B9%D8%AF%D9%85-%D8%AA%D8%A8%D9%8A%D9%8A%D8%AA-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%86%D9%8A%D8%A9-%D9%85%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%84%D9%8A%D9%84-%D9%81%D9%8A-%D8%B5%D9%8A%D8%A7%D9%85-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AA%D8%B7%D9%88%D8%B9

https://binothaimeen.net/content/9439

Note: The Importance Of Traveling With At Least One Male Mahram

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Even if a woman considers herself "independent", adventurous and confident enough to travel to another city or country without anybody accompanying her throughout the journey, she is still obligated to have at least one male mahram to escort her, in obedience to Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam when he advised the believing women against traveling long journeys on their own. A mahram is someone who is closely related that marriage with them is haraam/forbidden, and they're the ones who are allowed to accompany us during our travels.

🔹From a woman's mahrams, with whom she is permitted to shake hands and show her hair and face:

Her father, brothers, uncles (brothers of her father or mother, not their parents' male cousins), nephews, sons, grandsons, half-brothers and foster brothers (who were breastfed from the same nursing woman), and her husband since they are already married.

🔹 Some of the males who are not considered as mahrams for a woman, and they are marriageable: 

A woman's male cousin whether paternal cousin or maternal cousin (first, second or third degree etc. cousins are not your mahrams), male cousins of her parents, brothers in law (husbands of one's sisters), brothers of one's husband, and step-brothers.

🔹 Around non-mahram males, you as a Muslimah should:

1) Dress modestly for Allah's sake and maintain the proper hijab.

2) Refrain from being extremely friendly and touchy-feely. Don't poke them, shove them jokingly, hug or sit beside each other even if you claim there's no romantic feelings between you. No such thing as "I see him as a brother" when it comes to dealing with guys who are non-mahram.

3) Avoid unnecessary casual talks and being secluded together in the same room, car or elevator as our enemy shaytan can easily mess around with some of his conniving tricks.

📖 Jabir ibn Abdullah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Whoever has faith/Imaan in Allah and the Last Day, let him not be alone with an unrelated woman (non-mahram female) without her guardian (mahram). Verily, the third of them is shaytan.”

Source: Musnad Ahmed 14241

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “It is not lawful for a woman who has faith/Imaan in Allah and the Last Day to travel for a day and a night without her guardian (mahram).”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1038, Sahih Muslim 1339

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/mind-map-illustration-showing-the-mahrams-male-chaperones-of-a-woman-for-travel-and-sittings/

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/the-distance-a-woman-can-travel-without-a-mahram-by-shaikh-ibn-baz/

Note: Arranged marriages vs forced marriages

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 "Arranged marriages" and "forced marriages" are not the same. In an arranged marriage, it's typically the woman's parents who suggests a potential suitor for her and they plan a certain date where she and the guy can meet each other to check if there's compatibility or "instant chemistry", not by themselves but in the presence of other mahrams. If she happens to be an orphan, her brothers or uncles are usually the ones who find a suitable partner and they interview him, then allowing the guy to look at the woman he's willing to marry for Allah's sake, and finalizing the marriage contract when she clearly approves of his proposal.

Forced marriages, in contrast, occur when a woman is married off without her actual willingness to marry the man. Oftentimes the individuals who prepare this unjust transaction want it for their own personal gain, whether it's to get rid of the woman from staying at their house as she moves to another country with a guy whom she's not interested in marrying, to greedily acquire the wealth obtained from the bride's dowry, or to improve relations between the woman's family and the guy's clan despite the bride and groom being incompatible with one another.

There is no such thing as forced marriage in Islam. A Muslim woman has every right to choose who she wishes to marry, especially a pious, decent, or well-educated Muslim man whom she should be capable of being loyal to for many years.

It is the Muslimah who is getting married, not her parents, brothers, relatives and community. Thus a marriage is devoid of blessings if it goes against the Sunnah of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and both of the persons getting married are doing something merely to satisfy people out of coercion.

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Yes.” I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Her silence is her consent (agreement).”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6547

Sahih Muslim 1420

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Tips: Good Manners - Know When To Speak And When To Be Quiet

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 One of the signs of a well-mannered adult, who tries to excel at adulting or maintaining basic good manners, is knowing when to speak and when to refrain from expressing oneself unnecessarily. Supposing you and a number of your friends decided to meet at a mutual friend's house, after several months of not seeing each other face to face, then you notice a friend of yours has gained so much weight. Would you comment on her obvious weight gain saying something like, "I see you've been very productive during quarantine. Look at you! You're all fat now! I barely recognized you with those chubby cheeks." or will you keep your discriminatory thoughts to yourself, understanding maybe they've gone through loads of stress due to what's going on, and emotional eating is their way to destress?

If you saw your friend's face covered in acne, would you audaciously question them "What happened to your skin? Are those pimples or allergies? Let me guess, you're in love!" or would you tactfully be quiet about any facial defects while still appreciating their inner beauty?

Certain statements are better left unsaid, as some remarks could contribute to an acquaintance no longer trusting you, or their level of respect for you decreases every time they catch you babbling in an offensive manner. It's usually a bunch of lies, insults or backhanded compliments that ruin potential friendships. Even if a friend intends to make others laugh with their witty comments, a friendship is more likely to last longer if everyone in the group feels at ease and secure.

Naturally you'd regard somebody as toxic if you feel unsafe, uncomfortable and self-conscious around them, particularly if the last time you hung out they kept bugging you about your outward appearance, taste in clothing, accent, body size, opinions without a reasonable cause except to criticize you for not being their exact duplicate.

🔹 When can we, as Muslims, comment on someone's actions, behavior or decisions:

1) If they're doing something haraam/forbidden or bid'ah which clearly goes against Allah's Commands.

2) If what they're doing produces harm to themselves or other humans, whether they are aware or not.

3) If they're doing something halal/permissible or lawful but you can sense they don't really enjoy it. Part of loving someone for Allah's sake is to ensure they don't disrespect themselves by carrying out tasks which contradict their values.

🔹 When is silence recommended instead of criticizing an individual:

1) If you feel like judging them for how Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala created them. Why criticize another human for something which they can't fully control?

2) If you want to open your mouth and fabricate a lousy joke just to side with the insecure bullies who are being obnoxiously judgmental.

3) If your criticism won't help you at all nor benefit the subject you want to offend.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak goodness or remain silent. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his neighbor. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his guest.”

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, “Let him not harm his neighbor.”

And in another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Let him uphold family ties.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5672

Sahih Muslim 47

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Charity is due upon every joint of the people for every day upon which the sun rises. Justly reconciling two people is charity. Helping a man with his animal (or transportation) and lifting his luggage upon it is charity. A kind word is charity. Every step that you take towards the mosque is charity, and removing harmful things from the road is charity."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2827

Sahih Muslim 1009

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Poem: Avoid Unjust Assumptions

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Careful not to assume so-and-so is "arrogant" 

Just because they appear serious, quiet and distant.

Don't judge books by one page just as we can't judge someone 

By rumors about them or their outward appearance.

~•~

You haven't known a person from only one meeting,

From their social media posts or brief interactions.

If you've never seen them crying, or traveled with them,

Or kept each other's secrets, you're just an acquaintance.

~•~

Some rush to call you "selfish" if you hurt their feelings 

When you were "not kind enough" as you were struggling.

If your shortcomings are taken as disappointments,

You're dealing with a stranger, not a genuine friend.

~•~

Close friends respect your need for frequent space and silence, 

While those who don't know you accuse you of arrogance.

Strangers mistake your passion for shady intentions,

Whereas loved ones avoid suspicion and misjudgment.

~•~

Even 'Aisha (RadhiAllahu 'anha) wasn't spared from false accusations.

Lessons from that incident: Not every spread statement 

Is true. Gossip looks addicting to the ignorant.

To stop drama: Defend the oppressed or stay silent.

~•~

Put yourself in a Muslim's shoes prior to judging

Instantly without obvious pattern or evidence.

There's always a reason behind their acts, decisions, 

And opinions. Don't label based on speculation.

~•~

That seemingly "proud" woman may be a caring aunt, 

And that "loud" man could be a loving dad or husband.

There's no need to evaluate Allah's servants when

The truth will be uncovered on the Day of Judgment.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the most false of tales. Do not seek out faults, do not spy on each other, do not contend with each other, do not envy each other, do not hate each other, and do not turn away from each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5719

Sahih Muslim 2563

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Barzah Al-Aslami RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "O you who have faith with their tongues but faith has not entered their hearts! Do not backbite the Muslims or seek their faults. Whoever seeks their faults, Allah will seek his faults. And if Allah seeks his faults, He will expose him even in the privacy of his own house."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4880

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man does not accuse another man of wickedness or unbelief except that it will be turned against him if his companion is innocent."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5698

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

Tips: Ways To Purify One's Nafs

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Some of the ways that lead to purification of one's nafs:

1) Maintaining Tawheed and steadfast belief in Allah's Oneness. Avoiding shirk, bid'ah and anything that leads to polytheism. Avoid both major and minor shirk like riyaa, intentionally doing righteous deeds to show off.

2) Saying Du'a regularly.

3) Sincerely reading from the Noble Qur'an frequently, understanding Allah's Message and striving to implement what one learns.

4) Adhering to, following and loving the Sunnah of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam.

5) Cleansing one's heart from evil desires and negative qualities such as jealousy, dissatisfaction with Allah's Qadr/Destiny, and being excessively attached to people. 

Doing Tawbah and trying one's best to stay away from sins and haraam actions. 

Striving to control one's nafs while doing good deeds for Allah's sake with Ikhlaas/sincerity.

Beautifying one's heart with noble and dignified traits like humility, sincerity and having positive thoughts of other Muslims.

6) Closing all the pathways which lead to distancing oneself from purifying one's nafs. Shunning distractions, obstacles and fitna.

7) Constantly remembering death and preparing oneself to meet Allah the Almighty by doing the good deeds that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves.

8) Carefully choosing one's close friends and befriending only the pious true Muslims who strive to be closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.

9) Detaching oneself from self-amazement and acting as though one is flawless or more superior to others.

Understand that guidance only comes from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala Who guides whom He Wills and Who knows who are the truly guided believers.

10) Self-awareness. Being aware of one's weaknesses, limitations, needs, inclinations, strengths, potentials and reality. The more you familiarize yourself with your enemies and their intentions, the easier you can defeat them. Likewise the more you know your nafs, the more you can practice self-control and self-discipline.

📜 Islamic lecture on "purifying the nafs" by sheikh AbdurRazzaaq AlBadr:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=2JAy4233cn0

📜 "Qualities of Allah's servants who strive to be near Him" Islamic talk by sheikh AbdurRazzaaq AlBadr:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=dlcQBLMzMQw

Hadith: Virtues Of Raising Righteous Muslim Children

 📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When the human being dies, his deeds end except for three: Ongoing charity, beneficial knowledge (which he shared with others and left behind), or a righteous child who prays for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1631

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, among the good deeds that will join a believer after his death are these: Knowledge which he taught and spread, a righteous child he leaves behind, a copy of the Qur'an he leaves for inheritance, a mosque/Masjid he has built, a house he built for travelers, a well he has dug, and charity distributed from his wealth while he was alive and well. These deeds will follow him even after his death."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 242

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah the Almighty will raise the status of His righteous servants in Paradise and they will say: 'O Allah, what is this?' Allah will say: 'This is due to your child seeking forgiveness for you.'"

Source: Musnad Ahmed 10232

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

Poem: Go For Allah's Love And Mercy, Not His Servants' Approval.

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Ever went to buffet restaurants and realized 

Not all of the dishes displayed were ones that you like?

You had to carefully choose which foods brought you delight 

And ignore edibles that seemed weird though they looked nice.

~•~

Also in life. By everyone we cannot be liked.

Our good traits and wow factors may frighten certain types.

Some assume we're "insincere" while we're just being kind,

And others guess we're up to something each time we smile.

~•~

The language your soul speaks is readily recognized 

By souls whom Allah destined to appear in your life.

So if you're special and more complex, don't be surprised

If most people mistrust you or misconstrue your vibes.

~•~

Prophet Noah, may peace be upon him, he survived

With only a few supporters throughout his lifetime.

Our worth is never measured by how much we're well-liked,

But how much we want to be from those whom Allah guides.

~•~

Hence do not doubt your value when haters criticize,

When the jealous try to trump you with terrible lies,

When you feel ignored, or when you see trolls roll their eyes.

They're either insecure, scared of you, or sad inside.

~•~

Stay kind-hearted for Allah. Speak the truth, it's your right.

Don't undermine yourself because numbers fear your light.

Shine like the sun keeps shining even when criticized,

And when some peeps leave your circle, you're still strong and fine.

~•~

Maintain inner strength by trusting Allah day and night,

Aware we require Allah's Love, not His servants' likes.

When strangers or ex-friends insist on saying good-bye,

Let them go. As long as we have Allah, we're alright.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are like conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109, Sahih Muslim 2638

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Al-Nawawi said, "When bodies meet in the world, they come together or differ according to how they were created. The righteous will incline to the righteous, and the evil will incline to the evil."

Source: Sharh Al-Nawawī ‘alá Sahih Muslim 2638