Tuesday, July 5, 2022

Note: Why A Lot Of INTJs Are Not Very Likable / Approachable

πŸ’ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
πŸ“‘ Three reasons why a lot of individuals whose MBTI personality type is INTJ are not very popular or approachable: 
1] They're not afraid of standing out or behaving differently from the crowd.
If a person is desperate to be liked by a particular group, they'd do whatever they can to change certain aspects of themselves to be on the same level as all the group's members, making sure to avoid any act which could bring about their ejection. Most INTJs would remain unaffected if they got kicked out of a team or a clique rejected them because they stood by their values and didn't bother acting in a way that contradicts who they truly are. 
2] They tend to be intimidatingly honest, outspoken and straightforward, not caring at all about how strangers perceive them. 
A person who is eager to be your friend would refrain from saying statements which you may regard as offensive or questionable. An INTJ on the other hand would unapologetically tell you the truth or readily give feedback which could offend most people since they're not into sugarcoating words and pretending to be whom they aren't. Spoiling you with flattery and insincere compliments is something which many INTJs are not interested in doing if they actually despise your vibes. 
3] They don't chase people nor bother mending the unfixable. 
If you intentionally excluded an INTJ from a trip, meeting or gathering, nine times out of ten don't expect them to tearfully ask why you didn't invite them. They'll probably analyze all the reasons why it's a blessing they didn't join an outing filled with actors, liars and gossipmongers, and they'd refocus on something else that's far more important, and distance themselves from your insecurities further with contentment. 
While some individuals would beg for your attention, an INTJ who can sense that you're ignoring their messages on purpose would gladly quit attempting to connect with cowards who are obviously too unconfident or different. 
Most INTJ Muslims would rather enjoy serene solitude with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala than pretend to be besties with somebody who's just a phony, nuisance or distraction.
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πŸ“– Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
πŸ“– Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The Mufarridun (the isolated or those who like to isolate themselves) have gone ahead (in gaining rewards)." He was asked, "Who are the Mufarridun?" He SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "Those men and women who remember Allah much."
[Sahih Muslim]
Arabic/English book reference: Book 16, Hadith 1436 
πŸ“– Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 
πŸ“– Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are troops collected together. They come close upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim