📑 Allah the Almighty knows best. Seven signs that a Muslim husband actually loves his wife for Allah's sake even if they can't always be intimate or close to each other as often as they would like:
1] He tries his best to regularly read her messages and answer her calls despite being busy or tired, even if many of his responses are delayed at times.
2] He patiently listens to her whenever they have a chance to discuss matters face to face and offers whatever tips or words of reassurance that he can provide when she asks for his advice.
3] He encourages his wife to have the strength to forgive others for Allah's sake and to be at peace with her parents, siblings and relatives instead of coercing her to go against her own family.
4] On a regular basis he mentions his wife in many of his prayers and supplications, beseeching Allah the Almighty to preserve her faith Imaan and well-being.
5] He is contented with his wife's beauty and body size or at least he doesn't keep arrogantly nagging her on striving to look "flawless".
6] He allows her to massage, poke and tease him playfully from time to time.
7] If ever he knowingly upsets or offends his wife, he goes out of his way to straightforwardly apologize or does something compassionate to compensate for his mistake.
✅ Seven signs that a Muslim wife sincerely loves her husband for Allah's sake even if they can't always be intimate or beside each other as often as they would like:
1] She strives to avoid all of the means which could result in fitna and adultery, including making sure that none of the users on her Facebook "friends lists" is a male non-mahram.
2] She ensures that she never acts like a flirt to anybody besides her dear husband, controlling her gaze whenever she can and refusing to stare at non-mahrams online and offline.
3] She does what she can to educate her husband more about Islam and the correct 'Aqeedah, occasionally sending several useful links to Islamic articles or lectures which her husband can benefit from.
4] On a regular basis she mentions her husband in many of her prayers and supplications, beseeching Allah the Almighty to preserve his faith Imaan and well-being.
5] She isn't a gold-digger at all. Whatever amount of allowance she receives from her husband is okay for her as long as she believes that his earnings are halal / lawful.
6] She readily gives him gifts, edibles or items she hopes her husband would appreciate without wanting anything in particular in return. If ever she feels that she is unable to completely meet her husband's needs and permissible wants, for Allah's sake she lets him know that she is fine with him being married to up to four legal wives, while reminding him of the importance of treating his multiple spouses with wisdom and justice to the best of his ability.
7] She encourages him to do more good deeds which can lead to Jannah Paradise including praying with the congregation in the Masjid (specially Salat Al-Fajr and Salat Al-Jumuah), performing Hajj pilgrimage, doing charity frequently, training their children to become better Muslims and maintaining harmonious connection with their relatives etc.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125
📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "I was shown the Hellfire and (found) that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 29
In-book reference: Book 2, Hadith 22
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 1, Book 2, Hadith 29
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani