๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐ Red flags of toxic friendships and signs that somebody isn't a real friend but an enemy in disguise or "frenemy", despite their rehearsed smiles, jokes and willingness to join you on outings:
1] They easily tease and laugh at you yet ironically get offended when you joke about them.
2] They don't seem genuinely interested or concerned whenever you share some news and info about yourself with them yet they expect you to be attentive when they're bragging or complaining to you about an issue.
3] They have an awful obsession with gossiping, fault-finding and acting as if they're completely flawless. It can be a challenge to act naturally around them because you're worried they may criticize, belittle or embarrass you at any moment.
4] Ever since you first met, they haven't actually been helpful, inspiring and supportive. You feel like you're only wasting time and energy whenever you unwillingly interact with them.
5] If you were to count the number of times they initiated conversations with you online and face to face, you'd realize that you're mostly the one reaching out and putting effort in maintaining the connection.
6] You're more joyful and at ease when they're absent than when they're around. You don't miss them when they've been away for several weeks, as their vibes and overall presence make you very uncomfortable or unsure of yourself.
7] Even if you exchange salaams and handshakes occasionally, a lot of your dialogues are unpleasantly awkward and several times they've indicated they're untrustworthy, so you can never entrust them with anything.
Once you've discovered that someone doesn't deserve your trust and loyalty, minimize unimportant interactions with them for Allah's sake to preserve your faith/Imaan and emotional well-being, while still treating them with common courtesy.
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๐ Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
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