💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
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📜 Question: A neighbor and acquaintance promised to me some time ago that when they get married (for the 2nd or 3rd time) they would surely invite me to their wedding. Just recently I discovered that she already had her wedding yesterday but she, as well as all our mutual acquaintances, never informed me of her remarriage. If you were in my situation, how would you deal as an INTJ-A?
📝 Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best. If I were in that case, I wouldn't feel surprised at all - especially if she is a former divorcee who failed to control her unstable emotions when she was previously married. You can't fully trust a person who allows their idiotic feelings and negative thoughts to spoil moral values and basic etiquettes.
She promised to invite you in the past and proved to you in the present how she can never be trusted in the future from now on. Never rely on her
Inn-sha-Allah for anything, for any advice and transaction, because her despicable efforts to make you feel excluded or left out, without even a genuine apology, confirms that she is intensely envious of you.
Perhaps she envies how you were married at a younger age, that your husband, Alhamdulillah, is more than a gazillion times better than the stranger who proposed to her to possibly take over whatever business she may be managing temporarily or she despises your inner beauty, admirable Sabr and strength to faithfully welcome polygyny for Allah's sake.
Knowing for sure that certain individuals are massively jealous of you is enough reason for your soul to remain contented Alhamdulillah that you don't have their inward ugliness, jealousy and enormous load of insecurities.
Don't bother asking them why they broke their promise (again most likely) and refuse to ask anyone else how their wedding went. Don't bother stalking any of their online posts nor giving them a belated gift to demonstrate artificial courtesy. You can't be totally courteous with someone whose acts more often resemble the moodiness and misconduct of aggravated monkeys and donkeys.
While you strive for Allah's sake to avoid befriending unreliable individuals, appreciate the few Muslim friends and loved ones whom you genuinely care for and maintain dignified character as much as you can wherever you are.
Let these types of people with lousy low morals remind you how it's a blessing Alhamdulillah that you are nothing like them in being unethical, insecure and miserable inwardly. Avoiding them for Allah's sake online and offline is also an excellent opportunity to train our patience and enhance our ability to refrain from going anywhere near the deeds which Allah the Most Wise commanded us to avoid.
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Note: Five Probable Reasons Why Some People Can't Always Include You To Their List Of Invited Guests
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to An-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah (The Almighty) than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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