๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐ A few factors which could prevent you from wanting to form a friendship with some people:
1] Jealousy:
•° If they feel jealous of you for some reason, they may refuse to connect.
•° If some of their joys, capabilities or attributes cause you to be slightly envious, avoiding them may be more manageable than struggling with envy whenever they're around.
•° If you're both envious of each other, building a friendship can be a struggle.
2] Insecurities or lack of trust:
•° If they are incapable of feeling safe and comfortable around you, if their presence makes you feel uncomfortable or insecure due to dissimilar goals and values which lead to conflict, or if you equally regard each other as unreliable, then it doesn't make sense to become allies.
3] Expecting too much from them and refusing to forgive their past mistakes:
•° If they perceive that you haven't done enough to be counted as an ideal friend, if you find them uninspiring or you still haven't forgiven them wholeheartedly, or if you mutually sense the "friendship" is one-sided, then both sides would eventually stop trying to become actual friends.
Usually those with decent upbringing would refrain from associating with anybody who appears like a threat and who could influence them to do things they don't really wish to do. So when you wonder why certain friendships fail to last longer than you anticipated them to, realize that maybe jealous feelings got in the way of connecting, you were obviously incompatible, or simply Allah the Most Wise didn't allow you to remain in a connection which is harmful for your faith/Imaan and emotional well-being.
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๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith (Imaan) and envy do not combine within a believing servant."
In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."
Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
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