Saturday, November 12, 2022

Tips: Five Likely Reasons Why Some Individuals Can't Always Invite You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Five probable reasons why a host or some individuals didn't invite you to a gathering despite talking to each other often: 
1] They're introverts who prefer to have a tiny circle of carefully selected friends who share their likes and dislikes. If you're one of the few courageous women worldwide who are okay with polygyny while they despise even the idea of seeing one's husband remarry, most definitely they'd find it uncomfortably challenging to invite you to their get-together willingly. Or imagine a flock of lambs and sheep munching on some grass or leaves. Would it be sensible for them to beseech a wolf, fox or lion to join them or even observe what they're doing? No. Never expect invitations from those who are intimidated by your assertive vibes or who are envious of you in any way, please. 
2] They hesitated to invite you because they assumed that you already arranged other plans, probably with your husband and loved ones or other categories of acquaintances.
Imagine a captain of a large ship busily trying to navigate the craft with thick sunglasses and headphones on while you're on a crowded seashore. You wouldn't invite the captain to have picnic with you and your clique if you don't have a loudspeaker to call the captain's attention and his phone is set to airplane mode 99% of the time. If you're known for being unreachable or intimidating, why freak out over not receiving a lot of invites. Don't act like a really tall basketball hoop that whines about not witnessing any goal while the players are all diminutive and couldn't think of utilizing ladders to reach out to you. 
3] Undoubtedly they're terribly jealous of you. Your achievements, admirable qualities, confident personality, educated parents, and other attributes (which were granted by Allah the Almighty, not by you) legitimately provoke them to feel "inferior" or "incompetent". By purposely excluding you on a regular basis, they desperately wish to see you upset, so on the inside they're not the only ones feeling atrocious and distressed. 
4] They innocently forgot to include you because, if truth be told, you haven't built a meaningful connection yet. Yes you communicate with each other occasionally, but you're still strangers to one another. Imagine a supermarket near your residence and you interact with the cashiers frequently. The employees at that shop wouldn't be instantly included in your list of invitees to an outing which you've carefully planned, especially if you are aware of how preoccupied they are recurrently and you aren't well-acquainted in the first place. Faithfully and patiently accept Allah's Qadr/Destiny in not allowing you to connect with those who are clearly incompatible and who could somehow spoil your future if you actually connected. 
5] You don't have a significant role in their gathering - to them, at least. As a well-mannered and self-respecting individual who likewise detests it when others are annoyingly clingy, confidently accept their choice to reject whatever and whomever they fail to understand. Resist the urge to conduct yourself like a renowned celebrity who feels so entitled to earn colorful invitations or red carpets from anybody and everybody. 
By sincerely striving to maintain a strong bond with Allah the Most Loving Who watches you at all times, while knowing that He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala has assigned some dutiful Angels to record your deeds, you wouldn't be prone to feeling "lonesome" or "empty", specially when reciting from the Noble Qur'an regularly brings actual inner peace.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There will come tribulations (fitan - plural of fitna/trial) in which the one sitting will be better than the one standing. The one standing will be better than the one walking. The one walking will be better than the one running. Whoever seeks these tribulations will be destroyed by them. Whoever finds a place of shelter or refuge, let him take refuge in it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6670
Sahih Muslim 2886
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."
Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: "If only I had done something else." Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim