Wednesday, January 18, 2023

Note: Why Many INTJs And INFJs Don't Have Long-lasting Friendships

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Three reasons why most INTJs (and a number of INFJs) may find some difficulty at times to maintain long-lasting friendships and why a lot of us are okay with not being "popular": 
1] INTJs are generally very goal-oriented. 
If an individual's presence is too toxic or so negative for us that they become like an intolerable obstacle to any of our goals, we won't hesitate to gradually distance ourselves from their bad vibes or instantly disconnect from them (online, in real life and emotionally) without necessarily informing them about our detachment the moment we realized they consistently distract us from our values... unless, in my case, they are part of my family then I try to maintain patience with all my relatives as much as possible. 
2] Most INTJs can be astoundingly supportive and fiercely loyal when they truly connect with someone whose temperament, communication style and main mission in life resonate with theirs. 
We don't want to show loyalty to the wrong person nor waste our emotions on meaningless causes or inauthentic and untrustworthy individuals.
3] Excessive socializing can sometimes be draining for many INTJ/INFJ personality types, particularly if we must pretend (out of courtesy) to like certain souls whom we don't gravitate towards. This is why we introverts tend to select our close friends carefully and with a purpose. 
Having more friends - actual friends, not mere acquaintances or neighbors - could entail more obligations, more responsibilities and more loved ones to worry about and check on regularly. A lot of INTJs can be satisfied with even one friend on earth, even if that "kindred spirit" happens to be their spouse, parent, sibling, cousin or aunt. 
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of a good companion and a bad companion is that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell (pleasant scent). As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
➡️ Some MBTI and cognitive functions test with more accurate results:
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https://personalitylingo.com/free-communication-style-quiz/
https://personalitylingo.com/thinker-communication-style/

Poem: Why I Believe That My Husband Is Handsome While Not All May Agree

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
💌 If you ask me, "So what is it? What makes him handsome, 
Your husband, the man whom Allah has wisely chosen 
As your soulmate, travel partner to Jannah Heaven, 
And special friend with whom you have a lot in common? 
What makes him attractive really in your opinion?"
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I'd say: Yes he's handsome; my husband is good-looking 
And appealing in a way not clear to everyone. 
He's like a wooden treasure chest filled with diamonds
And tons of emerald gems which worms and elephants 
Would perceive as "plain", "pointless" or "uninteresting", 
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While he's valuable to me - my husband is handsome 
Since he's a gift to me from Allah the Most Loving.
I've witnessed countless times my handsome spouse has proven 
To be caring, busy, productive and hard-working. 
Though not very athletic, he's got my attention. 
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His efforts to serve Allah, his sincere intention
To save up to perform Hajj with his hard-earned income, 
His charisma with children, patience with his patients, 
And his eagerness to become a better Muslim 
Are from my reasons for regarding him as handsome.
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To me, he's more handsome than the "hottest pop icons" 
And him having a pure heart is much more important 
Than staying in shape and pampering his appearance. 
I'm grateful to Allah for granting me my husband, 
My handsome husband who taught me about contentment.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things: Her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman otherwise you will be a loser."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090
In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim