💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
📝 Five things to avoid as a Muslim wife because these insecure actions could imply you don't truly respect your dear husband:-
❌ 1. Taking photos of snacks, beverages or meals you've enjoyed without your husband, whether in a restaurant or at a female friend's house etc. then sending him those pictures as if you're indicating that he's missing out on what you seem to be enjoying, even if you include the captions "wish you were here, habeeby" or "darling, you're supposed to be with me right now". Doing that a lot would be awfully childish or immature on the woman's part and may unnecessarily cause her husband to feel annoyed or hangry. How would she feel if her husband regularly took photos of gold jewelry and pearl necklaces behind a window glass then he sends those pictures to her with the captions "I wish I could afford them so they'd be yours" or "my dear, do you prefer to stare at these and daydream about them or high-resolution photos of bitten chocolate?"
❌ 2. Frequently and ungratefully comparing him to other men including one or some of your male relatives. Saying uncalled-for statements like "my father back in Saudi Arabia very often brought us cake and other desserts whenever he arrived from work. Why can't you be like him in terms of at least bringing something memorable after your duty instead of coming home without anything impressive?" Or "you know that new Imam who spoke with you yesterday? Can you please grow your beard faster so it's a lot longer than his?" could make him doubt your loyalty and if you genuinely appreciate him.
❌ 3. Consistently delaying your responses to his messages or missed calls on purpose, because of offended ego/pride, whenever he answers your messages late due to his busyness or other understandable reasons. Truly and sincerely loving your husband for Allah's sake doesn't mean you should always match his energy and efforts in showcasing how much he cares about you, but you courageously keep loving him, your other half and soulmate, to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala as one of the best deeds you can do which hopefully leads to Jannah Paradise, regardless of his inevitable imperfections and occasional human mistakes.
❌ 4. Speaking with your husband using a sarcastic tone or talking to him in a manner that makes him feel less intelligent. For example, if he asks "what's for lunch?" and you respond with "but of course your favorite - cigarettes and toothpicks because you're too stupid to quit and admit how dangerous smoking is", or he goes "am I more handsome in a black shirt or blue shirt?" and you so sarcastically go "neon pink skirt, since it's difficult to notice your dark skin at night unless you're near a streetlight... which works well unlike you.".
❌ 5. Intentionally making your husband appear bad or incompetent in front of his loved ones, friends, employer, colleagues, and even strangers. For example if you overhear one of the visitors at an Eid gathering asking your husband "what do you usually do when you're not busy?" and you straight away interfere blurting "oh nowadays he wastes most of his time updating loads of pointless channels on YouTube with nonsensical videos which he assumes I'd watch but I seldom do."
✅ To stay respectful towards your husband for Allah's sake:
1. Avoid doing anything directly or indirectly which could hurt his feelings, particularly if he is somewhat sensitive in reality.
2. Whenever he speaks with you, as much as possible listen attentively, clearly display that you're interested in what he has to say (as long as his speech doesn't oppose Allah the Almighty and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam in any form), lovingly giving him full attention with good eye contact and pleasant countenance.
3. Don't make him look bad in front of anybody. If he needs to be advised, then politely approach him privately - without nosy bystanders who could misconstrue your conversation.
4. Remember the main reason why you willingly agreed to your husband's marriage proposal from the very beginning - to love each other for Allah's sake patiently and help one another to successfully reach Jannah Paradise together as destined soulmates.
5. Never let shaytan win in disrupting your marriage due to kibr or ego/pride. Don't be affected by temporary and unreasonable emotions.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things: Her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman otherwise you will be a loser."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090
In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27
📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim