๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐ Seven examples of how to respond to your husband's misconduct so you don't come off as a petty, overly sensitive, and insecure wife:
1] When your husband lets a male relative of his, friend or colleague take over the front seat while driving:
✅ Instead of scolding your spouse about how you should be sitting next to him in the car because you're his wife, try to understand that maybe the reason why he wants this guy to be seated beside him is so he doesn't have to stare at you from the backseat or so he can assist your husband with looking at the road and helping with the directions.
2] When your husband sits on some clothes which you placed on the chair, couch, bed or sofa while he seems preoccupied with answering text messages on his phone:
✅ Understand that perhaps he didn't notice your clothing or laundry as he was busy with his cellphone, and even if he did it on purpose you can easily pull the items out from him, kindly requesting him to budge a bit without instigating unnecessary drama.
3] When your husband takes some food from your plate or bowl after he completed his own meal:
✅ Instead of angrily telling him to hunt for leftovers from somebody else or to quit overeating, realize he's probably not yet full. So encourage him to have as many bites as he likes or allow him to consume what you can't finish if you're actually trying to lose some weight.
4] When your husband starts eating before you for the nth time or leaves the dining table while you're still having lunch / dinner:
✅ Don't make it a big deal. Seriously, a lot of guys get annoyed when a woman acts too childish and clingy expecting her husband to be near her 24/7.
5] If your husband arrives home from a long trip without bringing anything special, souvenirs, or exotic edibles:
✅ Thank Allah the Almighty that your spouse at least arrived safely. Don't expect your other half to gratify you all the time, particularly if he is temporarily struggling financially.
6] If your husband went to a park, resort, restaurant, mall or tourist attraction with some of his relatives, kids or colleagues without informing you:
✅ Put yourself in his shoes. Maybe he didn't invite you because he knows you already had other plans and more important tasks to do, or one of his escorts asked him to leave you out on that occasion as they wanted to focus on spending quality time with him specifically. If he was attempting to indirectly signal that he's upset about something you did recently, try to have a calm discussion with him at the most appropriate timing - when he's not tired, sleepy, stressed out, hungry or working.
7] If your husband suddenly answers your questions in a curt or furious tone:
✅ Keep calm for Allah's sake. Apply empathy and patiently analyze why he's unnaturally grumpy. His irritability could be a result of stress at work, he received bad news, or he had a quarrel with an employee or client etc. Rather than worsening the dilemma, give him some space or do something creative to improve his inner state.
Your husband, after your dear parents, is one of the people on earth who deserve your altruistic love for Allah's sake, patience, and understanding.
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๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125
๐ Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe. The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
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