💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
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🗒️ Question: As a Muslimah whose MBTI personality type is INTJ-A, are you okay with being incredibly picky when it comes to your choice of close friends? What are some negative characteristics of people whom you are not interested in befriending so they're only strangers to you while much more interesting than chatting with them is researching about chickens and monkeys?
📑 Answer: Alhamdulillah, yes, I tend to be very choosy regarding my selection of close friends, and I don't feel ashamed to state that my actual friends are not that many.
❎ From the negative characteristics of people who remain to me as mere strangers or acquaintances whose personal lives (and absolute lies) don't intrigue me at all:
1. They (as well as their child or children) generally display bad manners that even stationary or sleeping donkeys appear more well-bred than them.
2. They frequently don't answer your salaams/greetings and often leave your online messages on "seen". They usually behave towards you according to their insecurities and unreliable emotions.
3. They have an ugly tendency to act passive-aggressive and seem to enjoy proving how awfully immature they are through gossiping regularly (addicted to backbiting about you and/or others cowardly).
4. It's obvious they have zero interest in learning more about Islam or they find seeking Islamic knowledge "tedious" or "tiring".
5. They're overly sensitive or overdramatic narcissists who can't welcome frank feedback and constructive criticism.
6. They've undeniably lied to you on purpose more than twice.
7. They are terrible at inviting you to gatherings and beneficial conferences. They consistently exclude you from joining them in attending certain events either because they're intensely envious of you and your confident personality intimidates them or they don't regard you as part of their circle in which case you should likewise view them as a mere stranger and stay unfazed by whatever they do and say.
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah (The Almighty), hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782
Sahih Muslim 2998
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Keep only a (true) believer for a companion and let only a righteous person eat your food."
At-Tirmidhi and Abu Dawud
Reference: Riyaad As-Salihin 366
In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 366
