Tips: How Most INTJs Would Respond To Insults And Criticism

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ personality type, how would you react to insults and criticism? 

📝 Answer: 

1🔹 If the supposedly offensive remark is true, I'd agree with them, confirm they have a point, and acknowledge the fact that they also aren't perfect. 

🗨️ For example, if someone says: "Your room is nasty, I'm not joking." 

My response: "You're right. It's an absolute mess. I'm waiting for the ideal time to start cleaning." or "Yes, I can see that. 

Inn-sha-Allah one of these days I'll try to clean it up." 

If they ask "When?" I could say "As soon as you cleanse your heart from impure characteristics like arrogance and jealousy" or "when Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala decrees that special moment."  

2🔹 If the insult isn't true at all, and it's obvious that the critics are lying about me, I'd feel nothing, indifferent, and unaffected. I'd probably be laughing at them from inside, finding it amusing how they're audacious enough to assume they know me while in actuality they don't. 

🗨️ For example, if someone says: "Liar, you only love your husband for his money." 

My reaction would be: "Whatever. If you insist on misjudging me according to your little fibs, ignorance, and fabricated jokes, so be it. At least my "lies" aren't as abominable as the false claims of a delusional atheist whose ability to analyze logical concepts in Islam was overshadowed by his immeasurable insecurities and gigantic ego." 

3🔹 If the "insult" or disrespectful conduct didn't make any sense, I'd confidently walk away from the toxic individual, stubbornly ignore them, or ask them something like "Are you okay? Are you going through some tough times lately that you desperately need to spread your sadness with others so you're not the only person who's emotionally suffering? Shall I help you search for a spouse on a matrimonial website so you won't be insecure anymore and you can finally stop misbehaving? But then again, who'd want to marry an obnoxious bully whose self-hatred compels them to be gossipy and troublesome?" 

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-dont-let-critics-decelerate-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-dont-be-affected-by-what-people.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-on-how-not-to-be-affected-by.html 

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http://www.michaelcaloz.com/personality/ 

Hadith: Warning Against Celebrating So-called "Halloween"

💐 In The Name Of Allah

 The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

https://www.salafisounds.com/just-3-minutes-on-halloween-by-abu-khadeejah/

📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever imitates a people is one of them."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4031

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

🔹

https://youtu.be/ztUFsLmOihw 

 https://youtu.be/r--DBIgJSz0

📣 https://www.spreaker.com/show/short-reminders

Poem: How Can You Tell If A Person's Vibes Are Good For You?

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Three signs that someone's energy is in line with yours, 

That a person's vibes are good, not toxic, so convos 

With them flow smoothly and connecting doesn't seem forced, 

As though Allah the Almighty destined that you'd both 

Meet on earth, network and help each other reach your goals: 

~•~ 

First sign - when they're around, you're calm. Overall your pulse 

Vibrates in a way that shows your heart is not disturbed. 

When they're nearby, you can relax, while you don't feel worse 

In their presence or absence. They're not the kind to hurt 

You with lies, deceit, gossip, rumors, and unkind words.

~•~ 

Second sign - when talking to them, you can be yourself, 

In a sense that when it's your turn to speak, there's no urge 

To sugarcoat your remarks so you won't get ignored, 

Or to act like someone you're not so they don't get bored. 

Connecting with potential friends doesn't require force. 

~•~

Third sign that Allah decreed you'd vibe with righteous souls - 

Though they thrive or grow faster, you're not jealous at all, 

Because you're in the same team. If they attain a goal 

Or showcase they're better at something, you win also. 

They're just swift rowers if you were rowing the same boat. 

~•~ 

Be careful when choosing your close friends. Stress and remorse 

Are often the results of befriending the wrong souls. 

Don't search for smiles, jokes and laughter. Most acts are rehearsed.

Instead observe your current moods when around some souls. 

Their vibes suit yours if they inspire you and bring comfort.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are like conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109 

Sahih Muslim 2638 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-souls-who-connect-with-us-and.html 

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/souls-of-believers-meet-after-death-the-souls-of-the-living-meet-the-dead-in-dreams/

Poem: The Ways That My Dear Husband Is Like Cozy Garment For Me

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 From the ways that my husband is like garment for me, 

How the man whom Allah chose as my soulmate wisely 

Is like outfit I wear which keeps me feeling comfy, 

While I and my fierce loyalty so similarly 

Resemble cloaks which he wears gladly and gratefully: 

~•~

He's like my jacket which I'd put on so eagerly 

When the weather gets cold or when bright times briefly freeze. 

His loving words are like thick socks that warm freezing feet, 

And his hugs are like glow-in-the-dark shirts which brightly 

Light up when darkness falls so glee outshines misery. 

~•~

He's like a favorite hijaab worn so frequently 

Whose color suits my personality perfectly. 

Each time my dear garment gets stained momentarily, 

I'd wash it or wipe the dirt off so it's less dirty, 

Thankful that my dear spouse strives to do the same for me. 

~•~ 

Throughout our travel on earth my spouse is like cozy 

Attire which I always value so that modesty 

For Allah's sake can refine my life's priorities. 

My husband's worth outweighs luxurious accessories, 

And this garment is like a key to Jannah's entry. 

~•~

He's like precious presents sent to kids by sweet aunties 

Who know precisely what their nephews and nieces need. 

I believe he's a gift from Allah the Almighty 

Who sees that my spouse befits my unique goals and needs, 

Just as I'm his garment, beautifying his journey. 

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162

Grade: Sahih 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e. her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090

In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/note-my-brief-love-story-and-why-i-dont.html 

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Note: For Allah's Sake Keep Loving Your Dear Husband

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 When I married my husband at 20 years old while he was 28 in 2006 Shawwaal, I was very ignorant when it came to cooking. I acknowledge that to this day I'm one of those few females who lack actual culinary skills. 

On one occasion I cooked some pancakes for him. Since they weren't properly cooked from the inside, some of the liquid mixture was oozing out as he'd take every bite. I apologized to him about me being a terrible "chef" and he jokingly told me that it's okay, we can imagine that the uncooked part of the pancake is cream filling. 

From the undeniable signs that your husband loves you for Allah's sake is when he tries his best to have patience with your flaws, mistakes and shortcomings. If a woman can't do an impressive job in cooking, a caring husband would either stay patient with her incompetence and volunteer to do the cooking himself, buy take-outs or order food from restaurants often, hire somebody who's more capable to cook for them, or even motivate her to attend culinary school and pay for the courses which she decides to take. 

Likewise when a Muslimah does whatever she can to patiently keep loving the man whom Allah the Most Wise selected as her other half and soulmate, she'd be patient, tolerant, or accepting of his qualities which he can't change while persistently praying to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for her husband's gradual development and progress, aware that his perfect version can be thoroughly enjoyed 

Inn-sha-Allah in Jannah Paradise, not in this brief dunya where being completely flawless is unattainable.

~•~ 

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "I was shown the Hellfire and (found) that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 29

In-book reference: Book 2, Hadith 22

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 1, Book 2, Hadith 29 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-dear-husband-thank-you-loving-you.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-your-choice-to-either-keep-loving.html 

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Poem: The Countless Ways That My Dear Husband Has Inspired Me

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 "In what ways does your husband inspire you to become 

A better Muslimah?" if I were asked that question, 

From the bottom of my heart I'd truthfully respond, 

"Since my spouse is a gift from Allah the Most Loving, 

Loving my travel buddy to Jannah has strengthened 

My faith/Imaan in countless ways, as my dear husband 

Inspired me to improve in contentment and patience." 

~•~

When he's out often with his friends or his employment, 

When he's busy caring for his mom or his patients, 

Or frequent stress at his workplace triggers his mood swings, 

He motivates me to perform wudhoo/ablution, 

Then I'd pray Sunnah prayers or start supplicating 

To Allah, asking Allah with fierce dedication 

To please keep this marriage blessed and protect my husband.

~•~ 

When hubby arrives, I can't stop myself from smiling, 

Grateful to Allah that my zawj has safely returned, 

Feeling more enlightened that angst isn't permanent, 

And aware that in Jannah is joy everlasting. 

My husband has taught me how to be a patient friend - 

If his replies are delayed, I'd choose to comprehend 

That despite his defects, he's still my special someone.

~•~ 

My husband, one of the best gifts Allah has given, 

Inspired me to enhance leniency and resilience, 

To be more loving and tolerant with my loved ones, 

And to resist quitting challenges in an instant. 

Sincerely I thank Allah for His wise selection, 

And for answering a Du'a when I was a teen. 

Loving my spouse inspired me more to always believe.

~•~

📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)."

[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]

Riyad As-Salihin 286

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-why-i-dont-get-tired-of-loving-my.html 

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Poem: Ways To Determine If A Wife's Love For Her Husband Is Authentic

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Any married woman can visibly claim that she 

"Loves" her husband for Allah when in reality 

She's wed to him for his status, nationality, 

And satisfies him with her body for his money, 

Or she protects her marriage to please her family. 

~•~ 

Don't look at wives who showcase their love through frequently 

Uploading sweet photos of themselves and their hubbies, 

Sharing romantic quotes, writing sappy poetry, 

Or reminding you how their marriage life is happy. 

You can't fake true love. When love is real, it's felt deeply. 

~•~ 

A Muslimah's love for her spouse is proven clearly 

When she lovingly says his name in prayers daily 

And nightly when she prays while most people are asleep. 

Since she's fiercely loyal, if one day Allah decreed 

That the guy needs divorce, she'd still love him inwardly. 

~•~ 

Stubbornly she won't quit loving him and patiently 

Praying for his return. Proposals that she'd receive 

From willing suitors would be rejected instantly. 

That proves her love is real. The man whom Allah wisely 

Gifted her as her spouse won't be ditched that easily.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-true-love-for-allahs-sake-can-go.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-sincere-love-for-allahs-sake.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-what-happens-when-allah-most-wise.html 

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Note: How Most INTJ Personality Types Deal With Those Whom They Dislike

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: How does a person with the INTJ personality type deal with people whom they dislike? 

Answer: Like they don't exist - in their circle. Since the INTJ believes, after discovery or having their intuition (from Allah the Almighty) on point, that certain individuals are untrustworthy or incompatible, the INTJ doesn't want anything to do with them. 

1] Instead of blocking toxic users on social media, most INTJs have the ability to avoid checking out their pages. If they noticed some of their comments on a mutual friend's post, they don't bother thoroughly reading any of what they posted. 

2] You know that an INTJ regards you as a trusted friend if they go out of their way to closely pay attention to what you say online and offline. When around individuals whom they despise, INTJs can be scarily aloof, indifferent, and unwilling to give proper eye contact. Seeing how they're uninterested in being more acquainted with them, an INTJ who typically enjoys researching would stubbornly refrain from asking inquisitive questions. 

3] Unlike many SF types (particularly a number of ESFJs and ISFPs) who tend to complain and gossip about people whom they hate, INTJ Muslims prefer to avoid mentioning the names of anybody whom they abhor for Allah's sake. Whether you've done some things to disappoint them or you did something remarkable on one occasion, an INTJ who finds you uninteresting or unworthy of befriending would shun any opportunity to enunciate your name. 

INTJs in general confidently ignore their haters, stay away from conflict, and willfully distance themselves from anyone whose vibes they can sense aren't good for them. Prolonging aimless arguments, constantly trying to prove they can win every single debate, cowardly gossiping about those whom they clash with, and continually stalking strangers whose goals differ from theirs are some insecure acts which don't appeal to nor suit most INTJs.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 

By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

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http://www.michaelcaloz.com/personality/

Poem: Five Signs That You Are Very Much In Love With Your Husband

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five clear-cut signs that you're still in love with your husband, 

If you're a Muslim wife who deals with her man's distance 

As your spouse works someplace else to earn halal income, 

Or he studies overseas, or more than one woman 

Are lawfully his wives hence you can't see him often:

~•~ 

First sign - since you love him for Allah, you're not lying 

About the fact you're fiercely loyal to your husband. 

While other guys are richer than him, yours stays handsome, 

Huggable to you and worthy of your affection. 

He's a recipient of your loving supplications. 

~•~ 

Secondly, coping with his absence isn't tiring. 

He may be gone for weeks or months, and you'd still love him. 

Through practicing patience while waiting for his return, 

You're trained to be more patient with what Allah destines. 

Have Sabr for Allah so rewards from Him are earned. 

~•~

Thirdly, nearly every moment you're doing something, 

Whether you're washing clothes, browsing online or cooking, 

You find yourself missing your husband's calming presence, 

Recalling his soothing hugs and gifts he had given, 

And your choice to stay married becomes further strengthened. 

~•~ 

Fourthly, even if some relatives or concerned friends 

Tried to convince you to request for separation, 

You'd stubbornly refuse to welcome their suggestions. 

Even if you were bribed to marry another man, 

You'd act like lawyers defending innocent clients.

~•~ 

Fifthly, you know your love is real and you're not acting 

When his image appears in dreams and contemplations 

A lot, and that proves you clearly have feelings for him. 

Though your love language has no connection with presents 

Or touch, you love him a lot, and you're not pretending. 

~•~ 

Just as good farmers can wait for seeds to start growing 

And some birds can fly for days during bird migration, 

Persevere for Allah. Stay in love with your husband 

And look forward to a grand delightful reunion 

In Jannah Paradise where bliss is everlasting.

~•~

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)."

[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]

Riyadh As-Salihin 286

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286 

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Poem: Understand That There's Wisdom Behind Polygyny

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Understand that when Allah legislated rulings, 

Forbade some acts and allowed us to do certain things, 

He intends to examine our faith as His servants, 

To test our patience and if we truly live for Him, 

If we're sincere enough to not question His Wisdom. 

~•~ 

From what Allah made lawful, not an obligation, 

Is Muslim men being wed to up to four women. 

It's halal if the males don't abuse this permission, 

Discouraged if it leads them to sins and oppression, 

And a blessing if it helps improve them as Muslims. 

~•~ 

But why only four? Why not seven or eleven? 

Just as Allah created and designed the heavens, 

Flowers, trees, plantations, mountains, animals, oceans, 

Nature and humans in a way He knows is fitting, 

As Allah's servants we have no right to question Him. 

~•~ 

Polygyny is there so those who can't bear children 

Can enjoy a blessed marriage life without divorcing. 

A co-wife can be a source of peace when she befriends 

You and cares about you for Allah, while her intent 

Of sharing the same spouse is to earn Jannah's entrance. 

~•~

Don't regard the other wife/wives as competition. 

See them as inspiration to love more your husband, 

And trainers who urge you to be a pro at patience.

Find chances to please Allah so you're loved more by Him 

In polygyny which frightens insecure women. 

~•~ 

📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-patience-for-allahs-sake-can.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-seven-misconceptions-about.html 

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Quotes: Not Everyone On Earth Can Appreciate And Recognize The Value Of Real Gold

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ "Be certain that the gold remains gold, valuable as it is. A piece of gold, if you hold it and throw it in the road, stays golden. If you take that gold and sell it somewhere, it is still gold. Wherever you place it, that piece of gold remains golden and very valuable. At least one day has to come when somebody notices that piece of gold and appreciates its precious value. 

Maybe that previously rejected or discarded gold was held by someone who got accustomed to holding rocks so he/she considers that piece as an ordinary rock but only its color is different, which is why he/she is unable to appreciate its real value. Thus he/she finds it easy to throw that piece of gold away. 

Maybe this gold, if it had feelings, would become infuriated or feel upset because that individual didn't pay close attention to it or they failed to acknowledge its value. However it doesn't know that Allah the Most Wise may have allowed such person to discard it so there can be somebody else in the future who (truly deserves them and) would appreciate the value of that valuable gold, picking it up, appreciating its worth, and holding it dear to them." 

~•~ 

Dr. Mohammed Al-Khaaldi (motivational speaker) 

https://t.me/drrmohh

https://www.instagram.com/drrmohh/?hl=en 

https://m.youtube.com/channel/UC8EtfO0n91gtqVz2_AwqpSA/videos 

Poem: Patiently Cope With The Death Of Loved Ones Who Died Without A Goodbye

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 What you can do to cope with the death of those who died 

And returned to Allah without a formal goodbye, 

To shun regret - instead of sighing "if only I 

Spent more time with them or if I weren't so unkind..."

You calmly accept the choice of Allah the Most Wise: 

~•~ 

Do what the beloved Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) advised. 

Patiently say the prescribed Du'a when Muslims die. 

Make sure the body is covered, including their eyes, 

And avoid crying in a style which Allah dislikes. 

To question Allah's plans and wisdom we have no right. 

~•~ 

Thank Allah they're no longer suffering in this life. 

No more stress, tears, and worries every once in a while. 

No more difficulties for them as long as they tried 

Their best to live dunya in a way that Allah likes. 

If they're from the righteous, rejoice for them from inside. 

~•~ 

Pray that Allah forgives them, every once in a while 

Ask Allah to grant them mercy, fill their graves with light, 

To join them with good souls who make it to Paradise 

Where we can hopefully meet again and reunite, 

And pray that wherever they are they enjoy delight. 

~•~

Hope to see them in Jannah. Almost each day and night 

Mention their names when praying. Know it's okay to cry 

Whenever you miss them and certain people remind 

You of the nice things they did while they were still alive. 

Keep striving for Allah. There's no grief in Paradise. 

~•~ 

📖 Ibn 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma from his father that the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The deceased is punished in his grave for the wailing done over him." (Refrain from wailing or excessively crying over those who've returned to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.)

Reference: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1292

In-book reference: Book 23, Hadith 51

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 23, Hadith 379 

📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: A man said, "O Messenger of Allah, which of the believers is the best?" The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those with the best character." The man said, "Which of the believers is the wisest?" The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those who remember death often and have best prepared for it with good deeds; those are the wisest."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4259

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-dear-muslim-kids-whove-been.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/poem-when-im-gone.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-some-tips-to-patiently-cope-with.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-seven-things-to-do-to-respect.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/note-what-our-initial-reaction-to-news.html 

Poem: Have Enough Patience To Wait For Your Husband

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 When I receive news he won't arrive until later,

I tell my heart, "Stay patient, soon things will get better,

With Allah's Will, if not here then in Jannah up there,

Where there's no separation between destined lovers."

~•~

When my husband has been gone for many days or weeks,

With his absence leading me to feel grieved and fatigued,

I tell my mind, "Understand your husband is busy."

So excuses are made to shun negativity.

~•~

When the reasons to give up outweigh those that cry "Stay.",

I tell myself, "I married him all for Allah's sake."

Emphasizing that with patience things will be okay.

One reward for the patient is seeing Allah's Face.

~•~

Every season of every year I'll keep loving him -

The man whom Allah chose as my spouse - through thick and thin.

Whether our moods are warm or the feelings get frozen,

Love remains, in spite of silent breaks and arguments.

~•~

This love which Allah taught me is different I see -

It's an odd mix of confusion and addicting peace,

A healing refreshment which I take so eagerly,

And gift whose value isn't clear to everybody.

~•~

I'm like an attorney defending a friend with crimes

Of preferring his work and neglecting love sometimes,

Against interfering critics who claim to be kind,

Unaware that I'm fine, even as my man's first wife.

~•~

I don't regret accepting this kind of marriage life.

Since this love is for Allah, I believe it can thrive.

This bond allows me to wait for my spouse day and night,

Preparing for reunion in Jannah Paradise.

~•~ 

📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)".

[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]

Riyadh As-Salihin 286

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-tips-to-cope-with-ldr-and-how-to_7.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-mindset-of-loyal-and-patient-wife.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/poem-always-love-your-husband-even-if.html 

Poem: Obvious Reasons Why shaytan Finds Divorce Appealing

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Likely reasons why our foe and Allah's enemy, 

The devil / shaytan likes it when Muslim families 

Break up, and hearing Muslims quarrel unreasonably 

Entertains him immensely, letting this demon feel 

As if he's won the battle against humanity: 

~•~ 

What Allah designed - shaytan wants it to disappear. 

All that Allah loves - shaytan hates and hopes they would cease, 

Or he'll mess with them so they open doors to misdeeds. 

If Allah the Almighty beautifully decreed 

Some souls to become spouses, shaytan boils with envy. 

~•~ 

Since the beginning, shaytan is filled with jealousy 

Towards Prophet Adam ('alaihis salaam) who was blessed with Hawwa / Eve. 

It makes sense that he feels furious when humans increase 

In numbers. He'd do whatever he can tirelessly 

To destroy lawful love and prescribe disharmony.

~•~ 

Concerning divorce, the likeness of shaytan when he 

Tries to urge couples to fight each other pridefully 

Is that of a sly referee who deceitfully 

Persuades naive players to end the game unfairly, 

Then he comes out as the champion, whilst they greet defeat. 

~•~ 

Divorce is permitted, but it fills shaytan with glee  

If the husband and wife were both too proud to agree 

That, while they have needs and flaws, they've got ability 

To keep loving each other for Allah patiently, 

Eager to shield their marriage from shaytan's miseries.

~•~

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'" 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-why-i-despise-divorce-even-though.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-seven-reasons-why-divorce-is-more.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-if-my-husband-wanted-divorce-id.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-so-you-divorced-you-can-remarry.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-three-tips-to-preserve-your.html 

Poem: From The Things Which Truly Happy People Do Not Do

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Even if some people smile or pretend to giggle, 

Most of them are insecure, concealing their actual 

Moods and inner state - likely envious, miserable, 

Or empty and confused if they lack meaningful goals. 

Three things which are never done by truly happy souls: 

~•~ 

Sabotaging oneself through doing what's unlawful, 

Such as mistreating others to feel less sorrowful, 

Deceiving and telling lies to seem remarkable, 

And spying on others' lives to search for joys to spoil. 

Happy souls uplift you, not act like troublesome trolls. 

~•~ 

Living life not to please Allah but to charm people, 

Wanting fellow servants' compliments and approval, 

Expecting people's support when one is unable 

To cheer for everyone always, and not feeling whole 

If some behave poorly are not done by happy souls. 

~•~ 

Being controlled by pride, having a heart that's spiteful, 

Constantly wishing that foes become unsuccessful 

Instead of praying for them, losing track of one's goal, 

And overall acting as a failure who's vengeful 

Are from obnoxious actions not done by happy souls. 

~•~ 

Those who are joyful from inside, not artificial, 

Aspire to serve just Allah, not fearing the people. 

They strive to do good despite critics' disapproval, 

And shield themselves from sins which clearly lead to turmoil. 

Happy souls share bright vibes. They're not causers of trouble. 

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-three-signs-of-people-who-are.html  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-what-does-actual-happiness-look.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-three-qualities-common-among-those.html 

https://youtu.be/u61TXnw_L0Y 

Poem: Some Advice On How to Get Rid Of Same-Sex Feelings Of Attraction

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Tips to get rid of same-sex feelings of attraction, 

To eradicate foul urges and stop wondering 

If there's something wrong with your sexual orientation, 

And so those who were involved in this inclination 

Can clear their doubts when they choose to become true Muslims: 

~•~ 

Accept that Allah legislated laws and rulings. 

There are actions which Allah forbade. So avoid them. 

Allah made temptations available and common 

To examine who from His servants have the patience 

To obey Him and ignore shaytan's vile instructions. 

~•~ 

The resemblance of shaytan frequently whispering 

Into your heart, with diverse ways of persuasion, 

Inciting you to act on deluded emotions, 

Is that of a jobless clown asking you to ruin 

Your workplace and scramble your employer's arrangement.

~•~ 

If shaytan can't tempt you to commit fornication 

With those of the opposite gender, he may convince 

You to change your perception of a certain someone 

And switch harmless admiration into obsession, 

Giving way to fitna and a serious major sin. 

~•~ 

Forget "love wins". Fulfill your job as Allah's servant. 

Allah created us not for fun but to serve Him, 

To worship Allah instead of submitting to sins.

Bravely resist shaytan's pleas to doubt Allah's Wisdom. 

Zina loses appeal when you recall death often. 

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Remember often the destroyer of pleasures," by which he meant death.

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2307

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, what I fear most for my nation is the deed of the people of Lot (i.e. homosexuality)."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1374

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti 

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu reported from his father that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "A man should not see the private parts of another man, and a woman should not see the private parts of another woman, and a man should not lie with another man under one covering, and a woman should not lie with another woman under one covering." 

Sunan Abu Dawud p.201 v.2

Sahih Muslim and Musnad Ahmed 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-on-topic-of-sexual-orientation-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-three-reasons-why-taking-pride-in.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/tips-on-dealing-with-fitna-of-same-sex.html 

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/lgbtq-homosexuality-gay-muslims-and-islam/ 

Tips: Some Advice On How To Solve "Incompatibility" In Marriage

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 According to some astrologers my husband who's a so-called "Capricorn" and I, a "Leo", are incompatible since "Capricorns" and "Leos" generally behave in a way that would cause them to clash with one another. Seeing how the alignments of stars have zero impact on our future and people's personalities, I don't believe in such nonsense. A few MBTI practitioners would also suggest that my husband and I are not an "ideal match" because he's an ESFJ while my personality type is INTJ. ESFJs and INTJs, as acquaintances or colleagues, in general could struggle to get along if they perceive most circumstances differently and they don't share the same values. The fact that he enjoys watching basketball tournaments while I prefer soccer matches if I had to choose which athletic game I'd rather watch, and his preference for socializing at large gatherings while I'm one of those guests who usually leave early, are from the other aspects which set us apart, likely resulting in "incompatibility". 

🔹 Even if some outsiders and delusional critics assume that your husband doesn't appear to be compatible with you, there are five things which you can do to manage the "incompatibility": 

1] Try to look at the benefits or advantages of your husband's qualities which make him different from you. 

2] Find at least three interests or characteristics which you and your husband have in common, one of them being your eagerness to serve Allah the Almighty and succeed in reaching Jannah Paradise together. 

3] Remind yourself often that there are different kinds of love stories. Some marriages consist of couples who resemble one another in myriad ways, while other spouses are able to get along peacefully despite their differences. 

4] See what you can learn from each other's dissimilarities. For instance, your husband's enjoyment of talking to people regularly can inspire you to network with others when necessary, and your choice to seclude yourself once in a while reminds him that it's okay to be alone (with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) from time to time. 

5] If there is something about your husband which requires modification and it is adjustable or fixable, then stay patient in waiting for his self-development, as he does what he can to solve any problem. However, if your spouse has a defect which can't be changed, then strive for Allah's sake to have patience with your husband's flaws and acknowledge the truth that perfection can only be achieved in Jannah Paradise. 

~•~ 

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow up a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162

Grade: Sahih 

📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)."

[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]

Riyadh As-Salihin 286

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-three-signs-that-your-marriage-is.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-three-clear-signs-that-you-married.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-what-often-leads-to-conflict-or.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-three-reasons-why-we-cannot-click.html 

💚 Note: Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your supplications.

Hadith: Importance Of Striving To Follow The Sunnah Of The Noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam

📖 Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The noble Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I have left you with two matters and you will never go astray for as long as you hold on to them: The Book of Allah (The Qur'an) and the Sunnah (tradition) of His Prophet (Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam)."

Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1661

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) 

~•~ 

https://youtu.be/gHLSXg1ZfHM 

https://m.youtube.com/c/darelhadeeeth/videos 

Poem: As Your Husband's Loyal Wife, Avoid Ingratitude

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Just as you'd appreciate it if your husband knows 

You're a human with a list of shortcomings and flaws 

So he shouldn't expect you to be perfect at all, 

Recall that he's like you - sometimes he'll forget, slip, fall, 

Misconstrue and make mistakes. He's not flawless at all. 

~•~

If he works hard in daytime, he'll get tired when night falls. 

If he often copes with clients with problems to solve 

Or he tries to console many patients young and old, 

It may be challenging for him to take all your calls 

Or answer your messages while he's stressed out at work. 

~•~ 

If on some days he talks to you with an annoyed tone, 

Remember all those moments when he'd lovingly joke 

To hear you laugh, sweet episodes when he'd hold you close, 

Times when he'd apologize when he'd do something wrong, 

And countless cases when his words brought loving comfort. 

~•~

Don't let his errors make you forget the gifts he bought. 

Never allow his clumsiness or delayed response 

To cause you to cancel out each one of his efforts 

In the past and present to ensure this marriage works. 

Don't let pride and your man's weaknesses incite divorce.

~•~ 

Though your husband made statements that had your feelings hurt 

Or frequently he's unable to put your needs first, 

Patiently forgive him for Allah. Know that divorce 

Doesn't end sorrow. Breaking a blessed bond makes life worse 

If you loved him from the start and he inspires self-growth. 

~•~

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "I was shown the Hellfire and (found) that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 29

In-book reference: Book 2, Hadith 22

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 1, Book 2, Hadith 29 

📖 Narrated Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: On Eid-ul-Fitr or Eid-ul-Adha, Allah's Messenger SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam went out to the Musalla. After finishing the prayer, he delivered the sermon and ordered the people to give alms (charity). He said, "O people! Give alms." Then he went towards the women and said. "O women! Give alms, for I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-Fire were you (women)." The women asked, "O Allah's Messenger! What is the reason for it?" He SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "O women! You curse frequently, and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. O women, some of you can lead a cautious wise man astray." Then he left. And when he reached his house, Zainab, the wife of Ibn Mas'ud, came and asked permission to enter It was said, "O Allah's Messenger! It is Zainab." He asked, 'Which Zainab?" The reply was that she was the wife of Ibn Mas'ud. He said, "Yes, allow her to enter." And she was admitted. Then she said, "O Prophet of Allah! Today you ordered people to give alms and I had an ornament and intended to give it as alms, but Ibn Mas'ud said that he and his children deserved it more than anybody else." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "Ibn Mas'ud had spoken the truth. Your husband and your children had more right to it than anybody else."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 1462

In-book reference: Book 24, Hadith 65

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 24, Hadith 541 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-love-your-husband-patiently-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-be-strong-wife-and-love-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/note-when-pious-wife-loves-her-husband.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-dear-husband-thank-you-loving-you.html 

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/what-makes-a-man-happy-and-what-makes-him-miserable/

Poem: It's Easy To Stay In Love With Your Husband When He's Got Faith/Imaan And A Good Personality

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Some actions which cause your husband to be lovable, 

Some deeds that endear him to you and help you recall 

How your marriage is blessed, while to Allah you're grateful 

For loving this special soul among the other souls - 

The more your spouse does these, the more he's memorable: 

~•~

Gently waking you up to pray while you're asleep still;

Leading you in Salah when you pray once in a while 

Together and hearing him recite keeps you tranquil; 

Advising you to keep calm, forgive, and shun quarrels 

When he listens to you complain about some people; 

~•~

Apologizing after he says something hurtful; 

Putting effort to compensate when he's unable 

To meet all your needs; making jokes to hear your giggles; 

Trying his best to listen when you've some news to tell; 

Helping you cook; completing your chores when you're unwell;

~•~ 

Telling your kids/child cool stories; smiling when you smile; 

Reminding you often that you look so beautiful; 

Bringing home snacks from work or souvenirs from travel; 

Welcoming your weird habits which some individuals 

Find deplorable; and believing you're lovable. 

~•~ 

If several traits make your spouse unforgettable 

And you know that loving him for Allah is worthwhile, 

Then stay patient with him. Train yourself to be loyal 

Not for his wealth nor good looks but how he is able

To inspire you to join pious wives who are grateful. 

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162

Grade: Sahih 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best of you are the best to their women."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1978

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-good-muslim-man-who-respects-his.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-some-signs-your-husbands-love-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-five-signs-that-your-husband-is.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-three-clear-signs-that-you-married.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/poem-always-love-your-husband-even-if.html 

Poem: Some Advice On How To Be Your Husband's Loyal Wife

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 A few tips on how to be your husband's loyal wife, 

To ensure that he's the only soul whom your heart likes 

Romantically as you both journey to Paradise: 

Love your spouse truly for Allah. Don't allow your eyes 

To wander shamelessly, staring at guys left and right. 

~•~ 

Even around females be careful with how your sight 

Is utilized. Don't end up like females who admire 

Each other too much then succumb to sinful desires. 

And control how your eyesight is used so your love life 

Stays stable. Don't compare your romance to other wives'.

~•~ 

Take care of your conduct and communicating style. 

Watch how you speak and behave both online and offline. 

Don't let certain phrases and emoticons imply 

That you're flirting or trying to spoil your marriage life. 

Interact with manners, and pointless talks minimize. 

~•~

When being looked at by non-mahrams, divert your eyes 

From theirs to look at something else, at the ground or skies, 

Or walk away from where they are. Those watching nearby 

Mustn't inspire you to return their glances likewise. 

The more often you gaze, the more you get magnetized.

~•~

Remind yourself a lot that for Allah the Most Wise 

You love the man whom Allah chose, while you're satisfied 

With your spouse, grateful to remain as his loyal wife. 

Unlike lovers who search for fun to their left and right, 

Value loyalty - stay content with your marriage life.

~•~

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)".

[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]

Riyadh As-Salihin 286

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-what-happens-when-allah-most-wise.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-genuine-love-is-in-getting-married.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/tips-controlling-your-gaze-is-from-many.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-it-takes-lots-of-strength-to-be.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/tips-one-sign-of-disloyalty-and-how-to.html 

Poem: How To Identify Who's A Fake "Friend" / Frenemy

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 You may have some true friends whom you don't talk to always 

But they pray for you often, love you for Allah's sake, 

And try their best to help you though they live far away.

Meanwhile in your group are some frenemies who display 

And claim they like you when deep inside they're full of hate. 

~•~ 

Frenemies aren't real friends. Their affection is fake. 

They're enemies who oppose your goals, despise your tastes, 

And envy you secretly though nearly night and day 

They chit-chat, seem fun, and showcase they support your aims, 

While in fact they want you to fail and go far astray. 

~•~ 

How do you tell who's real? How to differentiate 

Genuine friends who care about you from two-faced fakes? 

Feel their vibes. When you're with them, try to evaluate: 

Are you at ease when they're nearby? Are you fully safe, 

Sure they won't gossip about you once you walk away? 

~•~ 

They're frenemies if they call you with hurtful nicknames, 

Make spiteful jokes about you, never ask how your day 

Was, and when you've got good news they can't congratulate, 

And you get so insecure whenever they complain 

About things which shouldn't matter, like your looks and weight. 

~•~ 

They're opponents disguised as caring fans or teammates 

If they frown at your gains and giggle at your mistakes, 

Give badly chosen gifts, provoke you in childish ways, 

And when seeing you happy they've nothing nice to say. 

They're not worth liking if they keep you from Allah's Way. 

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782

Sahih Muslim 2998

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are troops collected together. They come close upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-toxic-friendships-which-we-cease.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-types-of-toxic-friends-we-must.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/note-when-to-stay-in-touch-when-to-let.html 

Poem: Let Allah's Love And Guidance Keep You Motivated

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Don't expect a person who is partly paralyzed 

To stop a speeding driver who's about to collide 

With some pedestrians while they watch from the sidelines. 

Likewise, when someone is sad and insecure inside, 

It's not easy for them to assist you and be kind. 

~•~ 

Don't wait for any person to inform and remind 

You that you're special, guided by Allah the Most Wise, 

And actual joy can be found in Jannah Paradise. 

Motivate yourself and with Allah's Love stay inspired 

To maintain good manners and not copy the unkind. 

~•~ 

In a world where not everyone deserves Allah's Light, 

Keep calm, unaffected by jealous people's bad vibes, 

And thank Allah you're not like them suffering inside 

From envy, self-hatred, and lack of aim in their lives. 

Allah's Love suffices to inspire us day and night.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-think-well-of-allah-and-practice.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-live-as-stranger-or-traveler-who.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-stay-kind-in-spite-of-unkind-people.html 

💚 Note: reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.

Tips: Controlling Your Gaze Is From The Many Secrets Of Protecting Your Marriage

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 One of the most effective ways which you, as your husband's fiercely loyal and grateful wife, can do to never be guilty of the major sin of zina (fornication / adultery) is purposely lowering your gaze when necessary. According to some researches, it is possible for two complete strangers, regardless of gender, to fall in "love" if they deliberately stare into each other's eyes for at least four minutes on condition they mutually find one another interesting or attractive somehow. 

Striving to control your gaze for Allah's sake isn't just done offline and in public places, but you're also required as a Muslim to be very careful with what you look at while browsing through social media. 

🌼 From the benefits of controlling your gaze: 

1] Your heart is shielded from unwanted or inappropriate feelings of attraction. The less you allow yourself to marvel at the beauty or handsomeness of some non-mahrams, the less chances are there in getting distracted from loving and appreciating the man whom Allah the Most Wise chose to give you as your husband/soulmate. 

2] Protecting your marriage from shaytan's evil plots to disrupt its peace. By lowering your gaze when necessary, you admirably prevent yourself from dissatisfaction with Allah's Destiny/Qadr and from insecurely comparing your spouse to other souls. 

3] The more you master the skill of controlling your gaze, the better you get at self-discipline, resilience, inner strength, Taqwa, and patience in staying away from the sins which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam warned against. 

~•~ 

📖 Mu'awiyah Ibn Haydah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Three eyes will not see the Hellfire: An eye standing guard in the Way of Allah, an eye weeping from fear of Allah, and an eye lowering its gaze from what Allah has forbidden."

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 16375

Grade: Sahih li ghayrihi according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of loitering in the roads." They said, “O Messenger of Allah, we have nowhere else to sit and talk.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If you insist, then give the road its rights." They said, “What are its rights, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Lower the gaze, refrain from harm, return greetings of peace, enjoin good, and forbid evil."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2333

Sahih Muslim 2121

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/poem-for-allahs-sake-avoid-fitna-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-importance-of-lowering-your-gaze.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/note-importance-of-lowering-gaze.html 

https://youtu.be/kVf4hCDKyP8 

💚 Note: Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'a

Quote: Reminder On The Prohibition Of Gossiping And Backbiting

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ "If the banks were to pull out or withdraw from our savings every time we indulged in gossip or backbiting, and they transferred some of our money to the accounts of the people whom we gossiped about, we would try our best to stay quiet to protect our wealth. Is our fleeting wealth more important and precious than our remaining good deeds?" 

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do you know who is the bankrupt?" They said, “The one without money or goods is bankrupt.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the bankrupt of my nation are those who come on the Day of Resurrection with prayers, fasting, and charity, but also with insults, slander (gossiping, spreading rumors, and backbiting), consuming wealth, shedding blood (committing murder), and beating others. The oppressed (those whom they unfairly mistreated) will each be given from his good deeds. If his (the oppressor's) good deeds run out before justice is fulfilled, then their sins will be cast upon him and he (the oppressor who treated them wrongly) will be thrown into Jahannam/Hell."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2581

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever wrongs his brother in his honor or anything else should resolve the matter today before it cannot be resolved with gold and silver coins. If he has good deeds to his credit, they will be taken from him according to the measure of his injustice. If he has no good deeds left, he will bear the evil deeds of the one he has oppressed."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2317

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-some-things-to-consider-before-you.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/note-gossip-is-done-by-insecure-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-theres-difference-between.html 

Poem: How To Deal With One-Sided "Friendships"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Some advice on how to deal with one-sided "friendships", 

Idle bonds in which one soul is too scared to connect, 

And from the reasons why they're passive, unresponsive, 

Or uncooperative are they're either jealous, 

Intimidated, or they can't fathom your language: 

~•~ 

Firstly, thank Allah that through them you're motivated 

To differ from their lack of manners, and their toxic

Ways of treating people based on unjust perspectives. 

Acknowledge that not all souls, such as yourself, were blessed 

To be brought up by parents who are educated. 

~•~ 

Understand there's a difference between messages 

Left unanswered due to the fact they weren't read yet 

And ones that are ignored repeatedly on purpose. 

When coping with the latter, stay patient, and know this - 

True love can't be forced. If they act like walls, forget it. 

~•~ 

Just as you can't force yourself to enjoy egg sandwich 

With apple slices inside and cobwebs beside it, 

People have a right to choose who deserves their friendship. 

It's not your fault if your bright vibes scare someone's sadness, 

And if your values don't align with what they cherish.

~•~ 

Though you and some souls aren't friends, stay kind and know this: 

Allah the Most Wise controls everything and chooses 

Who gets to befriend you, who's better off avoided, 

And who shows up in your life as a gift to perfect 

Your patience in leaving what Allah prohibited. 

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-dont-cry-over-ex-friends-whose.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/tips-some-signs-that-you-and-certain.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-seven-signs-that-indicate-jealousy.html 

Poem: When You Feel Like Complaining, Cry To Allah, Not His Servants

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Isn't it ironic when we feel like complaining 

To trusted loved ones or friends, seeking their opinions, 

Suggestions or solutions to some of our problems, 

We'd greet disappointment when nobody would listen, 

Yet when some whine to us we're not always listening? 

~•~ 

From the reasons why we can't give people attention 

Twenty-four-seven and we can't at all times welcome 

Complaints to guide the confused and heal the heartbroken: 

We're humans just like them, with our own set of problems, 

While sometimes we're prone to misjudgment and exhaustion. 

~•~ 

Even the strongest, the bravest and most confident 

Of warriors have their ups and downs, go through tough moments, 

And challenges that were sent by Allah to strengthen 

Our faith/Imaan, enlightenment, contentment, patience, 

And insight from Allah to trust no one except Him.

~•~

If on earth there's no confidant or close companion, 

Consider it as a blessing, and a protection 

From egocentric convos, misleading discussions, 

Invitations to indulge in lousy gossiping, 

Urges to lie, or confiding in the wrong persons. 

~•~ 

You need someone to hear you out? Seek Allah's Guidance. 

No one cares? That's not true. Allah sees us and listens 

To each word we utter, whisper, and hide from within. 

Allah always hears us. When you feel like complaining, 

Seek Allah's Help and know your secrets stay safe with Him.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those in solitude have raced ahead." They said, “O Messenger of Allah, who are those in solitude ('al-mufarridoon')?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are men and women who remember Allah a lot."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2676

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some people from the Ansaar asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and he gave them. Then they asked for charity again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them. Then they asked again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them until all he had was gone. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I had anything, I would not withhold it. Whoever refrains from asking others, then Allah will make him content. Whoever would be independent, then Allah will make him independent. Whoever would be patient, then Allah will make him patient. There is no gift that is better and more comprehensive than patience."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6105

Sahih Muslim 1053

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-allah-almighty-always-sees-us-were.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-trust-allah-and-you-cant-feel.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-independence-while-trusting-allah.html 

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