Tips: Some Advice On How To Logically Respond To Users' Refusal To Answer Your Message

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: As an unemotional personality type (INTJ), how do you logically react when some users leave your messages on "seen" mode and they didn't answer you in a way that you'd want them to, especially if the recipients of your announcements or questions are colleagues, fellow teachers, or students who aren't taking online studies seriously?

📝 Answer: I would feel slightly disappointed that they didn't respond in a timely manner, but at the same time I wouldn't be very surprised because I understand that not all people on earth were blessed to enjoy proper upbringing, they may have had a miserable childhood which explains their awful lack of manners, or they're struggling with a serious personality disorder which triggers them to misbehave online and offline. Just because a person has deserved the description of being "undependable", "untrustworthy", "uncooperative", "insecure" or "irresponsible" in my opinion, doesn't mean I have to act like them nor absorb or duplicate their obnoxious misconduct. 

I'd feel glad and grateful Alhamdulillah that at least I did my job. I did what I could to carry out the tasks which were assigned for me, which are doable, and which don't go against any of the orders of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

If some users purposely ignored my messages, I believe that they'll be held accountable for every action they choose to do and not do. 

On Judgment Day Inn-sha-Allah all of the souls whom Allah the Most Wise has decreed that we'd encounter shall see the fruits of their toil and outcomes of how they intentionally dealt with Allah's servants. 

One secret to not easily getting offended with people's rejection or refusal to correspond with us is to imagine ourselves being in their situation. 

📨 Maybe they didn't answer our message nor react to it because: 

1] They probably thought we're not expecting a clear response from them or they mustn't answer back out of respect according to their own perspective. Maybe they assume that a thumbs up emoji, "OK", or "yes" is rude, so no response but "seen" is their way of silently saying "roger", "alrighty", "I understood your message. Can I sleep now?".

2] Somebody else from their residence or workplace borrowed their cellphone and unknowingly opened our message thread without informing the original recipient about it, and the latter wasn't aware of our message because they received newer messages which kept them preoccupied from checking ours. 

3] It could be that they're so intimidated by our forceful personality or overwhelmed by numerous messages waiting for them in their inbox, and they got tired of finding it challenging to nervously type an immediate response with shaky or sweaty fingers. 

Alhamdulillah. What matters anyway is that they got the message and we did what we're supposed to do.

4] If they were attempting to display childish disrespect, and they're ignorant of the proper ways to interact with other humans on the web, visualize being a soccer or volleyball player who throws the ball at them only for them to get hit while standing still unresponsive. If they are incapable of responding, because they're uneducated about basic netiquette or internet etiquette, simply move on to the next recipient and don't be flabbergasted if they similarly fail to react decently. 

Thank Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for being among the minority whom He has guided to having a beautiful heart which causes a lot of people to feel envious or ethically inferior because nearly each time they talk to you, your confident vibes remind them of the pleasant qualities they lack. 

5] Or maybe they noticed our message but in the midst of typing a reply, something else came up, such as an emergency, they had to pray / perform Salah first, playful kids were borrowing their cellphone or laptop, or they temporarily lost internet connection, until they genuinely forgot to check our messages when the network connectivity became stable again.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-tips-on-how-to-deal-with-users-who.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-three-tips-on-how-not-to-be-overly.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-dont-be-affected-by-what-people.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-three-ways-to-respond-to-rudeness.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/how-each-myers-briggs-type-handles-criticism/ 

Poem: If A Friend Is Worth Keeping, Then Don't Quit On Them Easily

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 If some friends bailed out or cancelled certain plans with you, 

If one said "Sorry, I can't come. I've got work to do." 

And another ignored your messages for a few 

Days without explaining why your meeting was eschewed, 

Will you forgive them or doubt if your friendship is true? 

~•~ 

Maybe this friend didn't attend your wedding due to 

Familial issues, financial problems, or bad moods, 

While the other changed their moves and acted insecure, 

Refusing to mingle with humans including you, 

As depression causes them to act rude and aloof.

~•~ 

If they're worth liking, many times they've been kind to you, 

And staying connected to them brings lots of virtues, 

Then forgiving them shouldn't be a hard thing to do. 

Be the type of friend who would determinedly refuse 

Quitting on good souls quickly because they're flawed like you. 

~•~

Tell yourself, regarding friends who cancel plans with you, 

"They've got their own families and their own tasks to do. 

I'm not their only pal. They've got other contacts too. 

To decline or accept invites they've a right to choose."

Real friends give space. Toxic ones expect too much from you.

~•~

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No Muslim servant supplicates for his brother behind his back but that the angel says: 'And for you the same.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2732

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Al-Bayhaqi reported: Abu Qilabah, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “If you hear something about your brother that you hate, then make an effort to obtain an excuse for him. If you do not find an excuse, then say to yourself: 'Perhaps my brother has an excuse I do not know.'”

Source: Hilyat Al-Awliyā’ 2485 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-were-here-to-serve-allah-not.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-true-friends-who-love-you-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-concerning-loved-ones-and-friends.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/tips-advice-on-how-to-deal-with-loved.html 

Note: A Person Having Lots Of Children Isn't Always An Indicator That Allah The Almighty Loves Them

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Some weeks ago while browsing around social media, before deciding to delete the Instagram account, I stumbled upon the Instagram feed of one of my Pakistani former classmates from Middle East International School back in Riyadh city. On her profile she loudly stated that she was a "mommy of twins" while another acquaintance who is a few years older than me emphasized on her main page that she's a mom of eight kids. Meanwhile, one of the parents here (MashaAllah) is blessed with ten kids at the moment, my husband's parents are blessed with twelve children all in all including himself, and the parents of two of our former teachers are blessed with fourteen kids, and they haven't mentioned anything about the number of children that Allah the Almighty bestowed upon them. One of my cousins got married in her early twenties and after being blessed by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala with two daughters she's currently pregnant with twins. She and her husband are around 25 or 26 years old. MashaAllah. 

As I encounter different types of parents and notice various family sizes, I recall that somewhere around the world are still a large number of individuals who are married yet they don't plan on having kids or they're infertile. Another group of people, despite being a minority, seem to be wholeheartedly contented with not entering marriage life, either because they're avoiding the huge responsibility in being a dutiful spouse or they would much rather enjoy flawless romance in Jannah Paradise. 

Whether you are childless, incapable of giving birth, or you're a loving parent of just one child, your worth as a Muslim isn't measured by how many children you bring up or adopt nor by how stable your marriage is. 

A person having lots of kids isn't always an indicator that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves them. There may have been cases where some parents were murdered by their own children, their kids turned into belligerent criminals, or they were sent away to old age homes or elderly care centers by the so-called adults whom they looked after since they were babies. 

Your Taqwa (fear of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala along with steadfast trust in Him) and your firm faith/Imaan are what can determine your soul's actual worth. The stronger your connection is with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, the more noteworthy and special you are to Him, regardless of whether you have kids or not. 

One of the most renowned scholars and writers in Islamic history, Ibn Taymiyyah (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.) never actually married nor had kids of his own, yet hundreds of righteous souls worldwide regularly include him in their Du'as or at least benefit from his writings and beneficial knowledge which he generously left behind for Allah's sake. 

Allah the Most Merciful knows best.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look to those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125 

Sahih Muslim 2963

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim  

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah but that Allah raises his status."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2588

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-be-grateful-to-allah-and-avoid.html https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-dont-compare-your-life-journey-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-true-wealth-is-in-faithimaan-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-what-you-can-do-to-avoid-feeling.html 

Note: Marriage Life Survey

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 •[ Marriage life survey ]• 

1] How old were you and your husband when you both married? 

🔹 I was 20 years old while my husband was 28. 

2] In three ways how are you and your husband so different? 

🔹 My MBTI personality type is INTJ while his is ESFJ. Alhamdulillah I was born in Saudi Arabia while he grew up in Southern Philippines. While I enjoy desserts, he prefers salty edibles. 

3] Mention three aspects that make you and your husband nearly similar to each other? 

🔹 We both aren't fans of corn (mais). The jobs we wanted when we were still at school aren't precisely the occupations we have at the moment. If I'm not mistaken, my husband was initially interested in becoming a pilot but then after some time decided to be employed as a medical doctor. As for me, I aspired to major in psychology back then but Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala planned that I'd focus on studying more about Islam. Alhamdulillah my husband and I similarly enjoy helping others out whenever we're given the chance to assist and advise. 

4] What is one funny or interesting thing you can't forget about your wedding?

🔹 There wasn't any wedding cake as we wanted to keep the joyful occasion closer to the Sunnah of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. I remember my husband trying to feed me pancit bihon (noodles) while I felt awkward as I wasn't accustomed to being fed by another adult. 

5] Who did your makeup on your wedding day? 

🔹 A Visayan I think beautician who was hired to apply cosmetics on the brides (it was a mass wedding, with three grooms and three brides). Since I didn't want to look clownish, I later on erased half of the heavy makeup which she applied. 

6] After marrying each other for Allah's sake as a number of years have passed by, how are you and your husband different from when you were single? 

🔹 Alhamdulillah, with Allah's Will, my husband played a huge role in inspiring me to quit feeling insecure about my weight and body image. Through him Alhamdulillah I've learned to be more confident, understanding of people with special needs, and appreciative of actual inner beauty. I've seen him gradually progress as well Alhamdulillah, for instance he reads from the Noble Qur'an more often than before, avoids staring at non-mahram females as much as he can, and he doesn't wear neck chains anymore. 

7] What advice can you briefly give to Muslim wives and husbands to ensure that their marriages can thrive in both worlds? 

🔹 Always do everything sincerely for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala with dedicated patience / sabr and consistent gratitude / shukr. Understand that perfection and complete happiness can only be found in Jannah Paradise. Include your spouse in your Du'as regularly and remind yourself that you married a human being, so don't be surprised if some of his actions upset you occasionally. True love for Allah's sake doesn't give up that easily. Instead of comparing your soulmate's development to other individuals, contentedly concentrate on the countless blessings of your unique love story.

~•~ 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "O young men, if you are able to support a wife, get married. Verily, it lowers the gaze and guards chastity. Whoever is not able to do so, he must fast as it will restrain his passions (desires)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1806 

Sahih Muslim 1400

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-my-brief-love-story-and-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-why-i-dont-get-tired-of-loving-my.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/note-survey-on-love-and-marriage.html 

Note: Seven Types Of Temporary People And How To Deal With Their Departure

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Seven types of temporary people we meet in this temporal life, and how to deal with their departure: 

1📨 People who are like chewing gum, whose presence we enjoy for a limited time period. Once we get tired of being around them or when they lose their flavor, we easily discard them as they're no longer useful, purposeful, or beneficial to us. (Example↪️ Some of our teachers who taught subjects which we didn't really find interesting, classmates and schoolmates whose life goals differ from ours.) 

✅ How to deal with discarded packs of gum: Crying over them would make one look irrational. Patiently accept Allah's Qadr/Destiny and move on, aware that you can purchase or receive new ones Inn-sha-Allah in the future if you pass by a store or street vendor selling them. 

2📨 People who are like dust or sand particles, whose faces and vibes haven't proven to be meaningful in your life at all. (Example↪️ Salespeople, shoppers and pedestrians whom you notice when outdoors.) 

✅ How to deal with granules which carry no purpose in your life: If you can't plant flowers or trees with them, or even enjoy making sandcastles out of them, then don't worry about them. They have their own set of people who were destined by Allah the Most Wise to network with them, and it's perfectly alright if you're not among them. 

3📨 People who are like thorns, staples or thumbtacks which you clumsily step on, and their disappearance brings peace and relief. (Example↪️ Employers, colleagues and neighbors who act like troublesome bullies or internet trolls who post offensive comments because they abhor their unhappy selves.) 

✅ How to deal with unwelcome troublemakers: Stand firm for Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and don't let their nonsensical insults affect you. Carefully avoid them for Allah's sake or at least keep your encounters as few as possible. 

4📨 People who are like synthetic or artificial flowers. While having lots of them can make you appear "cool", "popular", "likable", "charismatic" and "intriguing", staying connected to these types doesn't add any noteworthy value to your faith/Imaan. They can't teach you anything valuable nor are they eager to learn more about Islam. (Example↪️ So-called "friends" on Facebook and acquaintances who are superficially friendly.) 

✅ How to deal with disposable plastics: If you can't benefit from such decorations or there's no significant role for them in your life, gladly move on and thank Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for the lessons you've learned through them. Nonetheless, still maintain good manners with them because you're a kindhearted Muslim.

5📨 People who behave like leeches, who drain you emotionally and haven't done a single act of kindness ever since you first met. (Example↪️ Actual narcissists who feel so entitled to earn your loyalty while they themselves aren't trustworthy, and who expect you to spoil them with gifts and freebies while it's clear they're jealous of you secretly.) 

✅ How to deal with toxic people and jealous frenemies: Be grateful to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala that He kept you far away from their negative influence. Patiently look forward to building new connections with better souls 

Inn-sha-Allah in the future. 

6📨 People who are like gigantic signboards containing symbols and text written in a language which you can't decipher. (Example↪️ Participants who attend a conference or online workshops with you, and you haven't found any reason to connect with them because your souls' energies don't align with each other.) 

✅ How to deal with complete strangers: Just as their lack of interest in connecting with you doesn't necessarily mean they're bad people, your indifference to their existence isn't an implication that you're morally deplorable. Acknowledge the fact that Allah the Most Loving didn't select them to be a part of your circle. 

7📨 People who are like mirrors but turned into shattered pieces of glass when the trust between you was destroyed. (Example↪️ Former friends whom you thought you could trust or ex-friends who abandoned you as prideful ego prevented them from accepting your apology.) 

✅ After three courageous attempts of trying to reconcile with them, stop forcing yourself to fix something that is irrevocably broken. Admit, with rewarding Sabr/patience, that what happened occurred according to Allah's Will, and nothing on earth can take place if Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala doesn't want it. Confidently learn from your mistakes. Don't repeat them with others. 

Understand that people coming to your life only for them to exit after some time is an important reminder that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala is the Only One Whom we can rely on at all times.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is a mirror to his faithful brother. He protects him against loss and defends him behind his back." 

Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, 'The believer is a mirror to his brother. If he sees something wrong in him, he should correct it.' 

Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 239 

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/note-allah-never-leaves-let-people-come.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-as-long-as-we-have-allahs-love-we.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-what-you-can-do-when-you-discover.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-theres-always-something-to-learn.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-how-to-move-on-from-broken.html 

Tips: What Many INTJ Personality Types Would Regard As Toxic

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ personality type, when do you regard somebody as "toxic" or not worthy of befriending? And how do you avoid toxic people? 

📝 Answer: I consider some individuals toxic when... 

1] More than three times they've proven to be unreliable, unhelpful, uncooperative, untruthful, and unclear with their statements or promises. 

2] I caught them at least twice cowardly criticizing certain people behind their backs while gossiping seems to be an obnoxious activity they enjoy. 

3] Spending time on solitary tasks (like reading, researching, and listening to some Islamic lectures), while trusting Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, is more enjoyable than trying to maintain shallow convos with them, specifically if there's a language barrier and they tend to misunderstand me mostly. 

📨 Avoiding toxic people for Allah's sake involves: 

1) Minimizing unnecessary interactions with them online and offline. Never stalking their social media accounts nor going out of my way to occasionally check how they're doing. 

2) Not giving them the reaction they desire whenever they'd misbehave or act deplorably. Ignoring their ignorant acts as much as possible, almost in the same way that mature lions wouldn't bother chasing bored flies for buzzing noisily. 

3) Having no interest in visiting their house or office even if it is only a few steps away. If there's a need to interact with them, I'd speak very briefly, in a serious no-nonsense manner. You know that an INTJ doesn't perceive you as a potential friend if they can't laugh at your jokes or they're uninterested in joking around with you. 

If a person's vibes make you uncomfortable, as if you worry that anytime they could do or say something (such as backbiting) which would displease Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, it's better to keep your distance from them for Allah's sake as much as you can.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-how-most-intj-personality-types.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-choosiness-of-most-intjs-when-it.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/note-how-most-intj-personality-types.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-well-you-handle-toxic-people-based-on-your-personality-type/ 

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-important-sincerity-is-to-each-personality-type/

Note: Combining And Shortening Obligatory Prayers Can Be Done When Traveling Long Distances

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: Is it permissible to combine the prayers together when you're working due to the shortness of the day? For example, praying Salat Adh-Dhuhr with Salat Al-'Asr?

📝 Answer: No, it is not permissible. Take five to ten minutes, then go and pray somewhere. Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala has made all of the earth a place of purification and prayer. You can purify yourself (perform wudhu / ablution) and you can pray anywhere on earth. So find a place, except for the laboratories (bathrooms) and toilets. 

Find a place, a room, or closet somewhere, whether you're at school or college, or whether you're at work, or wherever you are, find somewhere, go to the parking lot and pray. Who's going to stop you from praying? Go next to your car or in between two cars and make Salah. Take your prayer mat. If some people tell you that you can't pray in this place because it's an open area, where there are people going in and out of the main office or any building, then go to the car park and pray. Don't be embarrassed. 

(Allah the Almighty will Inn-sha-Allah reward you for good deeds you strive to do sincerely for His sake.) 

If you're on the motorway, go to a service station, keep a prayer mat in your car, take it out and pray. Let the people see how devoted we are to Islam, and of course we show our devotion to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala first and foremost that we worship Him when He has called us to worship Him at the (designated) times which He has called upon us to worship Him. 

📑 From one of the talks of brother Abu Khadeejah Abdul-Waahid  https://abukhadeejah.com/ 

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The first action for which a servant of Allah will be held accountable on the Day of Resurrection will be his prayers. If they are in order, he will have prospered and succeeded. If they are lacking, he will have failed and lost. If there is something defective in his obligatory prayers, then Allah the Almighty will say: 'See if My servant has any voluntary (Sunnah) prayers that can complete what is insufficient in his obligatory prayers.' The rest of his deeds will be judged the same way." 

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 413 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://youtu.be/CT2Bsoe0FFI

Tips: As A Muslim Wife, Don't Be Petty And Insecure

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Seven examples of how to respond to your husband's misconduct so you don't come off as a petty, overly sensitive, and insecure wife: 

1] When your husband lets a male relative of his, friend or colleague take over the front seat while driving: 

✅ Instead of scolding your spouse about how you should be sitting next to him in the car because you're his wife, try to understand that maybe the reason why he wants this guy to be seated beside him is so he doesn't have to stare at you from the backseat or so he can assist your husband with looking at the road and helping with the directions. 

2] When your husband sits on some clothes which you placed on the chair, couch, bed or sofa while he seems preoccupied with answering text messages on his phone: 

✅ Understand that perhaps he didn't notice your clothing or laundry as he was busy with his cellphone, and even if he did it on purpose you can easily pull the items out from him, kindly requesting him to budge a bit without instigating unnecessary drama. 

3] When your husband takes some food from your plate or bowl after he completed his own meal: 

✅ Instead of angrily telling him to hunt for leftovers from somebody else or to quit overeating, realize he's probably not yet full. So encourage him to have as many bites as he likes or allow him to consume what you can't finish if you're actually trying to lose some weight. 

4] When your husband starts eating before you for the nth time or leaves the dining table while you're still having lunch / dinner: 

✅ Don't make it a big deal. Seriously, a lot of guys get annoyed when a woman acts too childish and clingy expecting her husband to be near her 24/7. 

5] If your husband arrives home from a long trip without bringing anything special, souvenirs, or exotic edibles: 

✅ Thank Allah the Almighty that your spouse at least arrived safely. Don't expect your other half to gratify you all the time, particularly if he is temporarily struggling financially. 

6] If your husband went to a park, resort, restaurant, mall or tourist attraction with some of his relatives, kids or colleagues without informing you: 

✅ Put yourself in his shoes. Maybe he didn't invite you because he knows you already had other plans and more important tasks to do, or one of his escorts asked him to leave you out on that occasion as they wanted to focus on spending quality time with him specifically. If he was attempting to indirectly signal that he's upset about something you did recently, try to have a calm discussion with him at the most appropriate timing - when he's not tired, sleepy, stressed out, hungry or working. 

7] If your husband suddenly answers your questions in a curt or furious tone: 

✅ Keep calm for Allah's sake. Apply empathy and patiently analyze why he's unnaturally grumpy. His irritability could be a result of stress at work, he received bad news, or he had a quarrel with an employee or client etc. Rather than worsening the dilemma, give him some space or do something creative to improve his inner state. 

Your husband, after your dear parents, is one of the people on earth who deserve your altruistic love for Allah's sake, patience, and understanding. 

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe. The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/tips-seven-things-which-inspire-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-patiently-understand-and-empathize.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/tips-three-common-mistakes-which-some.html 

Tips: JOMO - Joy Of Missing Out On Gatherings With Fitna, Music And Free-Mixing Between Non-Mahrams

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: As an introvert (INTJ personality type), what advice can you offer to switch feelings of FOMO (fear of missing out) to JOMO (joy of missing out)? What should extroverts do to avoid feeling regretful or sad they declined an invitation to a social gathering? 

📝 Answer: 1] If you've prayed two Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaara before finalizing your decision to not attend an event, you shouldn't feel remorse or guilt for choosing the option that you believe is most rewarding for your overall well-being. Any choice you make sincerely for Allah's sake is followed by tranquil contentment with its outcomes which Allah the Most Wise has already destined. 

2] Remind yourself of all the reasons why you hesitated to attend the social gathering. The very fact that you felt uncertain about attending shows maybe your presence there could've caused more trouble than merit. 

3] If you quickly noticed that some of the attendees uploaded several photos on their social media accounts or group chats, swiftly ignore them, look away, and stubbornly skip reading complimentary comments regarding them. You chose not to attend, so likewise choose not to absorb any content or info connected to the social gathering. 

4] While a number of your loved ones, classmates or colleagues are attending the event which you declined, instead of watching Facebook live videos about it do something else that is more productive, continue working on the tasks you need to complete, or chat with a close friend or your husband if he isn't busy. 

5] Don't feel guilty about not being able to show up at each congregation you're invited to or excluded from. As a human being with freewill, you have every right to select which gatherings to attend, who from Allah's servants to affiliate with willingly, and when to pause an assignment to be present for an appointment that won't act as a fitna to your faith/Imaan and piety.

~•~ 

📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah loves a servant who is righteous, independent, and obscure (unknown, unpopular, not famous)."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2965

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-trust-allah-strive-for-him-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-to-socialize-and-be-friendly-or.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-how-most-intj-personality-types.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-easily-you-can-detach-from-others-based-on-your-personality-type/

Poem: Don't Stay Sad.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Some guess that when Allah loves them life becomes easy, 

They'd always feel cheerful and loved by everybody, 

When that's not the case, because in actuality 

The more you're beloved to Allah the Almighty, 

The more you meet difficult souls as trials increase.

~•~ 

Don't assume that if Allah loves you then instantly 

You're treated like a well-respected celebrity 

Who's greeted and welcomed with smiles by each soul you see. 

Expect to be despised and ignored by those guilty 

Of envying you or misconstruing your beliefs. 

~•~ 

Please, don't daydream about living on earth with full glee, 

Unceasing joyful moments, uninterrupted peace, 

Days devoid of working and evenings free of worries. 

This world is currently a stage of temporary 

Tests, and those whom Allah guides have a chance to succeed.

~•~

Seek guidance from Allah constantly, consistently 

Strive for Allah's sake to earn His Love through righteous deeds, 

And pray that Allah protects us from hypocrisy 

And foul qualities which prevent one from victory 

On Judgment Day when our test results shall be revealed. 

~•~

Sometimes Allah may decree that we weep or shed tears 

So saddened hearts recall to depend on Him Only, 

To detach from dunya's toys and joys that aren't real, 

And focus on striving to deserve Jannah's entry. 

Don't stay sad. Allah gives us not what we want but need.

~•~

📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are the most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of righteousness or closeness to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318 

Sahih Muslim 2573

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-remember-allah-and-you-wont-be.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-minimize-or-avoid-stress-by-doing.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-ways-to-deal-with-depression-as.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-advice-to-patiently-deal-with.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-what-you-can-do-as-muslim-when.html 

🗒️ Note: Reminder to read Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday, recite Surah Al-Mulk each day and night, and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.

Tips: What Kind Of Co-Wife Would You Be If Your Dear Husband Had All Four Wives?

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: If your husband had four wives, what kind of co-wife would you be? 

📝 Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best. 

If my husband, with Allah's Will and Qadr/Decree, was legally married to four women, with me being one of his wives, I would: 

1] Try my best to frequently remind him to take care of all his wives as fairly and lovingly as he can for Allah's sake, avoiding intentional injustice and unjustified negligence towards any of the women whom he is lawfully married to. 

2] Advise the other wives to have patience with our husband whenever he is financially struggling or emotionally unwell. 

3] Occasionally visit the residence of each co-wife, if we've learned to become close friends, and similarly welcome them to the place where I stay whenever I'm in the mood to receive visitors. 

4] Consistently make effort to develop the friendship and sisterly love for Allah's sake with the wives of our husband, while staying away from favoritism and insecurely teaming up against one wife or two wives. 

5] Treat the children of my husband's other wives as if they were my own kids - with patient empathy and understanding. If one wife is infertile, I'd do what I can to avoid mentioning topics which I sense could upset her. 

6] Invite all co-wives or one co-wife on different timings for shopping, attending Islamic lectures together, or dining outdoors to strengthen our sisterhood for Allah's sake, while reminding one another to stay steadfast regarding showing respect to our dear husband. 

7] Act as an unbiased referee whenever two or three co-wives are quarreling, and calmly attempt to resolve the dispute, instead of coaxing them to aggravate avoidable drama. 

8] Inspire each co-wife to diligently educate their loved ones and other individuals about the virtues and wisdom of why Allah the Most Wise legalized capable and willing Muslim males to be wed to up to four loving wives.

9] Coach my husband to always forgive his wives, including myself, if ever any of them behaves in a way that he finds disappointing. Motivate him to never quit trying to keep the family strong and united for Allah's sake, reminding him as well as the co-wives that our foe shaytan is the only one who truly gets satisfied upon witnessing the number of broken Muslim families increasing due to pride/kibr, selfishness, impatience, unjust suspicion, and irrational attachment to this fleeting dunya.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-my-answer-to-what-made-you-accept.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-seven-misconceptions-about.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/tips-when-is-polygyny-better-than.html 

Poem: Don't Be From The People Who Are Too Proud And Too Sad To Admit They're Sorry

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 The bigger one's ego, the harder it is to say 

"I'm sorry", "forgive me for what I did yesterday", 

And "please accept my apology. I'll compensate 

For any loss or damage that was clumsily made." 

Connections can weaken when ego gets in the way. 

~•~ 

Three reasons why some people can't admit their mistakes: 

The level of contentment with their lives is small-scale, 

So their eagerness to sadden you stems from self-hate, 

Or pride causes them to presume they're flawless always, 

Or they're driven by intense envy to misbehave. 

~•~ 

If someone's response to your messages was delayed 

And why they answered late isn't tactfully explained, 

Or a rude shopper's cart collided with yours one day, 

And some sellers didn't give the right amount of change, 

Let Allah deal with them, and move on for Allah's sake. 

~•~ 

For people's apologies it's better not to wait, 

As most are insecure and immersed in dismal states. 

Don't expect those with bad ethics to enunciate 

That they regret behaving badly and straight away 

They'll correct their errors when from pride they're not yet saved. 

~•~ 

Pardon their shortcomings and choices, for Allah's sake. 

Through encounters with them we're trained to never betray 

And act improperly with any of Allah's slaves. 

When mistreated by souls who carry around self-hate, 

Thank Allah. "Sad" and "insecure" aren't from your traits. 

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah but that Allah raises his status."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2588

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:

"The supplications of three persons are never turned away (rejected): A fasting person until he breaks his fast, a just ruler, and the supplication of the oppressed which is raised by Allah above the clouds, the gates of Paradise are opened for it, and Allah the Almighty says: 'By My Might and Majesty, I will help you in due time.'"

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3598 Grade: Sahih

Umar Ibn Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu said:

"Beware of the supplication (Du'a) of the oppressed, for the supplication of the oppressed is answered."

Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa 1890 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/note-how-to-apologize-to-people-youve.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/poem-as-muslim-dont-be-rude-and-insecure.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-ways-to-react-to-peoples-rudeness.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-warning-against-dhulm-oppression.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-advice-to-those-who-went-through.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-thank-those-who-gossip-about-you.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/allah-has-forbidden-oppression-for-himself-and-has-forbidden-it-for-the-people-hadith-qudsi/

Hadith: The Prohibition Of Sculpting And Drawing Images Of Living Beings

📖 Abu Talhah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The angels do not enter a house in which there is a dog, nor an image in a likeness." Abu Talhah RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, “The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam means by likeness an image of living souls.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3225 

Sahih Muslim 2106

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Every maker of graven images will be in Hellfire. Every image he made will be given a soul to punish him in Hell." Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma said, 'If you must do so, make images of trees or whatever does not have a soul within it.'

Source: Sahih Muslim 2110

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://youtu.be/SXSRKfbcpTU

Poem: Patience For Allah's Sake vs "Toxic Positivity"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Please note that toxic positivity isn't in 

Staying patient with the man whom Allah has chosen 

As your trusted friend to Jannah, travel companion, 

And sweet soulmate whom you can spoil with your compassion. 

Allah loves those Muslims who for His sake have patience. 

~•~ 

Toxic positivity isn't in welcoming 

Challenges to have Sabr with your man's shortcomings, 

Decision to study or work in a different 

City so you can't enjoy his soothing vibes often, 

Or ability to care for more than one woman. 

It's not toxic if it's blessed, worthwhile, and rewarding. 

~•~

Choosing to smile and stay hopeful isn't toxic when 

Understanding your spouse shows your love is genuine, 

Missing him inspires you to increase supplications, 

Forgiving your soulmate causes your faith to strengthen, 

And patience which brings you near Allah isn't tiring. 

~•~ 

Toxic positivity is clear when you're: Acting 

Cheerful while indulging in sins such as gossiping, 

Laughing at people's flaws as one conceals depression, 

Earning sins while feeling certain to be forgiven, 

And behaving as if dunya is everlasting. 

~•~ 

Patience with something or somebody gets toxic when 

There's no improvement after long periods of waiting 

And optimism only invites newer problems. 

For Allah's sake, stand by your husband if you love him 

From day one. Don't let shaytan ruin any blessing.

~•~ 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some people from the Ansaar asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and he gave them. Then they asked for charity again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them. Then they asked again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them until all he had was gone. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I had anything, I would not withhold it. Whoever refrains from asking others, then Allah will make him content. Whoever would be independent, then Allah will make him independent. Whoever would be patient, then Allah will make him patient. There is no gift that is better and more comprehensive than patience."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6105

Sahih Muslim 1053

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-patience-for-allahs-sake-with.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-love-your-husband-truly-for-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-be-patiently-persistent-in-loving.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-stay-as-your-husbands-patient.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-have-enough-patience-to-wait-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-loyalty-of-pious-wives.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-three-clear-signs-that-you-married.html 

Note: Five Things Done By Awfully Insecure Couples Which Confident Wives And Husbands Avoid

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Five things done by clearly insecure couples which actually confident Muslim husbands and wives do not do: 

1] Frequently uploading photos of themselves on social media whenever they're on a date, in a restaurant, or when socializing with other couples. 

2] Posting flirty comments regularly on each other's Facebook timelines and social media posts, when they can discuss certain issues with one another through inbox or face-to-face. 

3] Making it a requirement to wear matching outfits or clothes with the same colors whenever possible, intending to emphasize how they're together while many individuals are already aware of their marriage. 

4] Constantly feeling the need to check on the cellphones and electronic gadgets of one's spouse, inspecting the messages they receive, and occasionally interrogating them about their whereabouts, connections and plans. Not being able to trust one another for Allah's sake due to struggling with loads of insecurities. 

5] Testing and pranking each other a lot to determine if they both truly love one another. For example, when a guy assigns a male acquaintance to flirt with his wife or signs up for fake accounts to check if she's genuinely loyal, and when a woman keeps asking her husband insecurely if he really loves her or not. 

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162

Grade: Sahih

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/note-everything-including-marriage-is.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-what-it-means-to-be-truly-happy-in.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/poem-advice-for-muslim-wives-to-not.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-way-you-perceive-marriage-can.html 

Tips: What I, An INTJ Personality Type, Do When Unfriended On Facebook

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ personality type, what would you do if you found out that some users unfriended you? Or what's a rational way of reacting to certain people's decision to discontinue being "friends"?

📑 Answer: Alhamdulillah, without fabricating lies and ego soothing, my usual reaction when I discover that a user unfriended me on Facebook is I don't feel surprised or offended at all because:

1) I understand that people are temporary. The Only One Who always remains is Allah the Almighty.

2) Since I'm strictly selective regarding who I regard as an actual friend, I'm incapable of getting emotionally attached to people easily. So even if an acquaintance or neighbor left after several years, their departure doesn't affect me, as there was no real connection built in the first place.

3) Even if the person who unfriended me had pleasant qualities or they can't be described as "toxic", I'd accept Allah's Will, with contentment, in letting them go because Allah the Most Wise decides who gets to stay in our lives and who should exit stage right for our own well-being. 

Once a user is no longer connected to me on social media, I don't bother stalking their accounts or thoroughly reading their posts and any comment mentioning their names. They're like withered leaves which fell from a tree, and picking them up for future use or evaluating if they've changed positively doesn't sound appealing to me. 

Oftentimes Allah the Most Loving causes us to meet particular souls only for us to separate on a destined date to train us to rely on nobody but Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. The more we get accustomed to noticing people come and go, the more our heart detaches from the longing for others' approval to just focusing on attaining Allah's Love and Guidance to Jannatul Ferdaus where the hearts of Allah's slaves aren't tempted anymore by negative distractions such as undue suspicion, dishonesty, and jealousy. 

As for relatives who aren't on my "Facebook friends" list, including my dear husband, my brothers and some aunties, of course I care about them for Allah's sake and Alhamdulillah we're on good terms. I respect the right of any human to select what kind of status updates and content they regularly absorb on their news feed.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Ali Ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/note-allah-never-leaves-let-people-come.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-how-to-deal-with-people-who-hate-us.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-secret-to-feeling-indifferent-when.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-choose-your-online-and-offline.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-how-to-react-when-some-users.html 

~•~

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-indifferent-you-appear-based-on-your-personality-type/

Poem: If I Could Make Any Wish Regarding Marriage Life

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 "If you could make just one wish regarding your marriage, 

What would you wish for if it's something you don't see yet?" 

I wish that when my spouse and I are reunited 

In Jannah, with Allah's Will and His Mercy granted, 

I wish my spouse can watch a playback of what I did 

To prove my love for him, from how frequently my lips 

Mentioned him in Du'as to how I cared for his kids. 

~•~ 

I wish he can be shown a list of recorded clips 

Of me mentioning him while praying on a carpet 

Or ground, beseeching Allah to keep him protected, 

Inspired to do what's right and to the Straight Path guided, 

Supplicating for my husband whenever he's missed, 

When his frequent absence and late replies cause unrest, 

And when my contentment with this marriage is expressed. 

~•~ 

I wish he sees that when non-mahrams are detected, 

I'd lower my gaze so from fitna I stay shielded, 

Proving he's the only soul on earth I'm in love with. 

If I could make just one wish regarding my marriage, 

I'd wish that when my dear soulmate and I are granted 

Jannah's entry, with Allah's Will, that he views some clips 

Of me staying loyal ever since we got married.

~•~

📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)."

[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]

Riyad As-Salihin 286

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/poem-always-love-your-husband-even-if.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/poem-righteous-muslim-wife-is-loving.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-tips-to-cope-with-ldr-and-how-to_7.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-mindset-of-loyal-and-patient-wife.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-have-enough-patience-to-wait-for.html 

Note: Reflection On Why We Gravitate To Certain Souls More Than Others

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Why is it that even if you have thirteen or more headscarves / hijabs and abayas / cloaks / outfits etc. you prefer to wear only three or so out of them more regularly than the others? Why is it that even if you have hundreds of "friends" on Facebook, there's a certain group of users whose timelines you enthusiastically check more often than the other individuals' pages? 

Five possible reasons why we gravitate to some souls a lot more than those whom we regard as mere acquaintances: 

1] They're more readily accessible, reachable, available, responsive, and reliable.

2] We've had more enjoyable and memorable moments with them than with the others. 

3] We feel more comfortable, secure, and confident when we're around them than when we are anywhere near the others. 

4] They've proven to be helpful, understanding, and cooperative in more instances than the other acquaintances who can assist only in specific events, seasons, or circumstances. 

5] They're our type - they have relatable characteristics and more qualities which we search for in an ideal friend than the complete strangers whose dissimilarities bring about conflict and apathy. 

The more somebody reciprocates our efforts to connect, the more they become likable to us. The more distant, disinterested, aloof, unresponsive and negative a person acts, the more we gradually distance ourselves from them until they no longer have any significant role in our lives. 

While it's not obligatory to befriend each and every soul whom Allah the Most Wise destines us to meet, we should as Muslims strive to practice basic courtesy with them for Allah's sake, avoiding purposely telling lies, betraying, and gossiping also to preserve our good deeds.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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Note: Can A Muslimah Attend Her Husband's Second Wedding? Yes Or No?

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Can a Muslimah attend her husband's second wedding? Allah the Almighty knows best. Since there is no clear evidence regarding the prohibition of a first wife attending the second wedding of her husband, she may attend that special occasion as long as she willingly, wholeheartedly, and enthusiastically wants to be a guest at her husband's second wedding, while the new bride stated that she is completely fine with the first wife's presence. Nonetheless if the first wife believes that attending such wedding could only trigger conflict and unwelcome drama, she has a right to stay at home and decline the invitation, particularly if many of the guests may be distracted by feeling sorry for her rather than congratulating the new bride for getting married. 

✅ When is it reasonable for a Muslimah to attend her husband's second wedding? 

1] If she herself persuaded her husband to remarry, and the woman whom he agreed to marry for Allah's sake happens to be one of her close friends or cousins, while there's no enmity between them.  

2] If she feels that she is confident and strong enough to handle watching her husband marry another woman, while she has spoken to the new bride several times before, and she intends to consider her as one of her good friends, not competitors, for Allah's sake. 

3] If she was invited by the new bride to attend the wedding and she seems eager to form a friendship with the first wife. 

❎ When is it wiser for her to not attend her husband's second wedding? 

1] If she has a plan to spoil the wedding, to embarrass the new bride, or to command the attendees to take her side and persuade her husband to cancel his second marriage. 

2] If she can sense that the new bride still doesn't feel comfortable around her and attending the special event could make the new bride feel awkward or guilty about marrying an already married guy. The first wife can patiently wait for some days to go by until she gradually gets more acquainted with her co-wife.

3] If her husband politely requested or clearly commanded her to not attend his second wedding, while reassuring her that he will always love her for Allah's sake even if he is married to up to four wives. 

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📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do not cause harm or return harm. Whoever harms others, Allah will harm him. Whoever is harsh with others, Allah will be harsh with him."

Source: Al-Sunan Al-Kubrá 11070

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Tips: Seven Things To Tell Yourself To Avoid Feeling Envious Of Your Co-Wife / Co-Wives

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Seven things which you can tell yourself to avoid feeling envious of your co-wife/co-wives: 

1] "Allah the Almighty has made it lawful/halal/permissible for Muslim men, who are capable financially and responsibly, to be married to up to four wives. Why should I complain about something which Allah the Most Wise legislated and permitted?" 

2] "I see my husband's other wife/wives as a potential friend (potential friends) whom I can also care about for Allah's sake. If she/they is/are unwilling to reciprocate my willingness to build a friendship, at least I look forward to attaining plentiful rewards from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for striving to maintain patience, good manners and contentment with Allah's Qadr/Destiny." 

3] "My co-wife isn't my enemy. In fact, seeing how we both love the same handsome, caring, funny, hardworking, and huggable Muslim man as our husband, it's one sign that we have a lot in common. Our actual foe is shaytan, and this devil despises it when Muslim co-wives strive to be at peace with one another." 

4] "From the signs of being a pious Muslimah is to want for other Muslims what one wishes for oneself. I choose to be friendly and courteous with my co-wife just as I'd like it if she treated me cordially as well." 

5] "My co-wife has her own special qualities which my husband finds attractive. Likewise I'm contented with the unique traits which Allah the Most Loving has bestowed upon me and which keep my husband feeling grateful for having me as his patient, loyal, faithful, dedicated and empathic wife." 

6] "Anything which my co-wife does intending to provoke, upset or annoy me occurs because of shaytan's evil whisperings. She's a human being after all, prone to making mistakes once in a while. I'd rather forgive her for Allah's sake than satisfy shaytan by stooping to the level of insecure adults who constantly play tit-for-tat to pacify their insecurities." 

7] "Envying other human beings is almost the same as questioning Allah's Wisdom in how He has wisely distributed His favors and blessings to His servants. As a Muslim Alhamdulillah who strives to accept Allah's Qadr with Shukr (gratitude) and Sabr (patience), I refuse to act on jealous feelings, particularly to preserve my good deeds."

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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Envy consumes good deeds just as fire burns wood. Charity (Sadaqah) extinguishes sinful deeds just as water extinguishes fire. Prayer is the light of the believer and fasting is his shield from the Hellfire."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4210

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Ibn Asakir 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)."

[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]

Riyadh As-Salihin 286

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286 

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Tips: Seven Things Which Inspire Your Husband To Thank Allah The Almighty For Having You As His Devoted Wife

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Seven things which can make your husband happy and grateful to Allah the Almighty for having you as his faithful wife, besides trying to look good, cooking for him regularly and mentioning him in your loving Du’as frequently:

1] Making him feel appreciated. Thanking him on a regular basis for the big favors and little things he does.

2] Making him feel and sense that you truly trust him, that you don’t suspect his moves or find the need to constantly check on his cellphones and whereabouts etc.

3] Laughing at his jokes or finding his efforts to make you laugh adorable, or returning his comical remarks with similarly playful comments without purposely hurting his feelings – because you respect him.

4] Trying your best to deal with his loved ones kindly and courteously. A lot of guys’ affection for their wives increase significantly when they see their wives getting along so well with their mothers.

5] Giving your husband space, peace and quiet when he needs it. Not disturbing him with irritating questions and unnecessary interviews as soon as he arrives from work or time spent with his colleagues etc.

6] Not being petty, immature, oversensitive, overly interfering, and too clingy. The more thick-skinned you are and the more you solve marital problems using logic, along with trust in Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala, the more you can thrive as your husband’s loyal wife.

7] Frequently letting your husband/soulmate know that he’s the only soul on earth whom you’re in love with. Not cheating on him at all, not having male non-mahrams on your social media “friends list”, not staring back at non-mahram guys, not indulging in any emotional affair even jokingly, and not carrying any feelings of attraction for anybody apart from him (your husband whom you love patiently and wholeheartedly for Allah’s sake).

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Narrated Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: On Eid-ul-Fitr or Eid-ul-Adha, Allah's Messenger SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam went out to the Musalla. After finishing the prayer, he delivered the sermon and ordered the people to give alms (charity). He said, "O people! Give alms." Then he went towards the women and said. "O women! Give alms, for I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-Fire were you (women)." The women asked, "O Allah's Messenger! What is the reason for it?" He replied, "O women! You curse frequently, and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. O women, some of you can lead a cautious wise man astray." Then he left. And when he reached his house, Zainab, the wife of Ibn Mas`ud, came and asked permission to enter It was said, "O Allah's Messenger! It is Zainab." He asked, 'Which Zainab?" The reply was that she was the wife of Ibn Mas'ud. He said, "Yes, allow her to enter." And she was admitted. Then she said, "O Prophet of Allah! Today you ordered people to give alms and I had an ornament and intended to give it as alms, but Ibn Mas`ud said that he and his children deserved it more than anybody else." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "Ibn Mas`ud had spoken the truth. Your husband and your children had more right to it than anybody else."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 1462

In-book reference: Book 24, Hadith 65

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 24, Hadith 541

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Note: Five Signs Indicating It Is A Blessing You Are Not Close Friends With Some People Anymore

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Five signs indicating it's a blessing you are no longer close to certain people (former "friends") and there is no reason to look back at your old chat conversations: 

1] You feel that your faith / Imaan has increased and you've found more tranquility ever since they stopped communicating with you. 

2] If you ever stumble upon their social media accounts, you notice they still haven't changed for the better - they're still narcissistic, frequently uploading vainglorious selfies with loads of makeup on and occasionally posting passive-aggressive posts as though they haven't given up their toxic addiction to backbiting and fault-finding. It's for your own good that Allah the Most Wise decreed to keep you far away from their negative influence.

3] Although you may hear their names being mentioned or see their usernames online once in a while, there's not a single bit of remorse in detaching from them. This shows that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala didn't destine your souls to connect. Why cry over somebody who was never meant to network with you?

4] Staying connected to them doesn't add any value to your life as a Muslim. Instead of showing interest in learning more about Islam, generously sharing authentic Islamic knowledge, and discussing topics to strengthen your belief/'Aqeedah, they're more fascinated with materialistic matters, watching movies, listening to the latest songs, purchasing items on sale or joking about other people's flaws. 

5] With or without them you know you can Inn-sha-Allah manage, aware that the empty spaces they left behind can eventually be replaced by other souls who are more deserving of your love for Allah's sake and Du'as if not in this world then in Jannah Paradise.

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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”

Source: ‘Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56 

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