Note: Don't Be Too Quick To Ask For Divorce (Avoid These Qualities To Preserve Your Marriage)

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Eleven things, if your husband tries his best to do at least seven of them, then for Allah's sake don't be too quick to ask for divorce: 

1] He strives to pray all the obligatory prayers regularly. 

2] He enjoys reading and reciting from the Noble Qur'an, trying to reflect on Allah's Words whenever he can. 

3] He loves praying in the Masjid and in congregation. 

4] He treats his mother and father with genuine respect. 

5] He is loving, cheerful and caring towards your child/children and his relatives. 

6] He ensures that his job doesn't prevent him from carrying out his religious duties while he earns his income from lawful sources, avoiding ribaa (interest / usury) and gambling as much as possible. 

7] He reminds you to value modesty for Allah's sake and offers kind advice whenever he notices you doing something wrong. 

8] He is admirably capable of making you laugh and smile without being obnoxiously offensive to anybody. 

9] He does what he can to get along with your family and refrains from speaking about them negatively. 

10] He has noteworthy goals and lofty ambitions, including to dutifully care for a large Muslim family, to complete paying off his or a loved one's debts, and to perform Hajj as well as 'Umrah all to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

11] Although your husband may not always answer your calls and messages in a timely manner due to stress, preoccupation with work or unreliable internet connection, he actually puts effort into staying connected when he isn't busy and compliments you from time to time. 

❎ Avoid these characteristics as they could lead to divorce: 

1] Greed along with ingratitude - being unsatisfied with Allah's Qadr / Destiny, surrendering to envy and constantly wanting what other couples enjoy. 

2] Selfishness - only being concerned with what you desire, while purposely ignoring your spouse's needs or not giving your husband his right to be legally married to up to four wives. 

3] Impatience - lacking the determination to patiently wait for your husband's arrival, self-development and progress as a striving Muslim. 

4] Suspicion - unfairly mistrusting your spouse without justifiable evidence.

5] Arrogance - not having enough empathy to understand your husband's circumstances, to hear him out and accept his apology. 

6] Oversensitivity due to insecurities - instantly getting upset over trivial issues and making a big deal out of each other's past mistakes. 

7] Unwarranted attachment to this worldly life and ignoring the main purpose of why Allah the Most Powerful created us, to worship Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala sincerely, not enslave ourselves to our nafs, soulmate or society.

~•~

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Any woman who asks her husband for a divorce when it is not absolutely necessary, the fragrance of Paradise will be forbidden to her."

Sunan Ibn Majah 2055

In-book reference: Book 10, Hadith 40

English translation: Vol. 3, Book 10, Hadith 2055 

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-love-your-husband-for-allah-dont.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-if-my-husband-wanted-divorce-id.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-demerits-of-divorce.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-three-tips-to-preserve-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-its-easy-to-stay-in-love-with-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-dismiss-shaytans-whispers-as-he.html 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/16999/%D9%85%D8%B9%D9%86%D9%89-%D8%AD%D8%AF%D9%8A%D8%AB-%D8%A7%D9%8A%D9%85%D8%A7-%D8%A7%D9%85%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%A9-%D8%B3%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AA-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B7%D9%84%D8%A7%D9%82

Poem: Keep Serving Allah The Almighty Despite Frequent Mistakes

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Reminder to myself and Muslims who can relate, 

Who notice that their faith levels sometimes fluctuate, 

Motivated when good deeds are done for Allah's sake, 

And when sins are committed they feel guilty, dismayed, 

And afraid of Allah's Justice when mistakes are made: 

~•~ 

You're not a hypocrite if you oftentimes pray late, 

If from time to time you pray Fajr when the sun's rays 

Are visible as you overslept, went to bed late 

Or depression causes you to have some tasks delayed.

What matters is you believe and to Allah you prayed. 

~•~

Don't feel guilty of nifaaq if sometimes you play games, 

Watch videos while making sure you don't misuse your gaze, 

And joke about some friends when they're present or away. 

It's shaytan's job to tempt you so you can lose your way. 

Defeat shaytan by disobeying what he dictates. 

~•~ 

The devil and his armies want you to speculate 

That you'll never be good enough to reach Jannah's gates. 

Don't listen to our enemies. Strive for Allah's sake.

Pray Tahajjud and Duhaa prayer to compensate 

For shortcomings in the past along with some delays. 

~•~ 

Allah is the Most Forgiving, recall that always, 

And Allah rejoices when you repent for His sake.

More beloved to Allah than people who behave 

As if they're "perfect" are Muslims with persistent faith, 

Who won't quit serving Allah despite frequent mistakes.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: A man asked the Messenger of Allah, Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, “What is faith (Imaan)?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If you are happy with your good deeds and saddened by your bad deeds, then you are a believer." The man said, “O Messenger of Allah, what is sin?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If something waivers in your soul (makes you feel uncertain/full of doubts), then you must leave it."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 21695

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "By Allah, I seek forgiveness from Allah and I repent to Him more than seventy times in a day."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5948

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "By Him (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) in Whose Hand is my soul, if you did not sin, Allah would replace you with people who would sin and they would seek forgiveness from Allah and He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala would forgive them."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2749

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/note-always-seek-allahs-forgiveness-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-join-those-whom-allah-loves-from.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-never-give-up-on-allahs-mercy.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-evolve-and-keep-seeking-allahs.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/do-not-cease-being-repentant-to-allaah/ 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-careful-of-hypocrites-who-claim-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-avoid-nifaaqhypocrisy.html 

Hadith: Encouragement To Recite And Read From The Noble Qur'an With A Beautiful Voice

📖 Al-Bara Ibn 'Azib RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beautify the Qur'an with your voices."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 1468

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Lubabah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "He is not one of us who does not recite the Qur'an in a pleasant voice."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 1471

Grade: Jayyid (Very good) according to Al-Nawawi 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/21706/%D9%85%D8%A7-%D8%B5%D8%AD%D8%A9-%D8%AD%D8%AF%D9%8A%D8%AB-%D8%B2%D9%8A%D9%86%D9%88%D8%A7-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%82%D8%B1%D8%A7%D9%86-%D8%A8%D8%A7%D8%B5%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%AA%D9%83%D9%85 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/2401/%D8%A8%D9%8A%D8%A7%D9%86-%D9%85%D8%B9%D9%86%D9%89-%D9%84%D9%8A%D8%B3-%D9%85%D9%86%D8%A7-%D9%85%D9%86-%D9%84%D9%85-%D9%8A%D8%AA%D8%BA%D9%86-%D8%A8%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%82%D8%B1%D8%A7%D9%86

Poem: Patiently Persevere For Allah's Sake In Your Long-Distance Marriage

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Love letter which can be sent from every loyal wife 

To her husband who's absent on many days and nights, 

Physically unavailable a lot of times, 

Employed in another city and preoccupied 

With earning halal income so his fam can survive:

~•~

"Dear husband, the man I love for Allah the Most Wise, 

Although you're not around every single day and night, 

My loyalty stays intact, and this isn't a lie. 

Despite passing by strangers whenever I'm outside, 

You're the only guy whom I wish stayed right by my side.

~•~ 

Back then when I was a teenager or still a child, 

There may have been moments when I wondered what it's like 

To cook for your soulmate, care for him when he arrives, 

And carry out the chores of typical "good housewives", 

But then Allah chose for me this kind of marriage life... 

~•~ 

...This type of love story in which both husband and wife 

Must love each other patiently more than ego/pride, 

More than the hours and miles that keep them apart sometimes, 

And more than the urge to surrender as they desire 

To maintain the bond destined by Allah the Most Wise. 

~•~

Dear husband, persevere and don't worry. You and I 

Shall, with Allah's Will, make it to Jannah Paradise 

Where lovers won't go through sorrow and hearts never cry. 

Know earth is temporary, someday we'll surely die, 

And whether you're far or nearby, my love won't decline."

~•~ 

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/poem-i-love-my-husband-for-allahs-sake.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/12/poem-dont-regret-marrying-someone.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-have-enough-patience-to-wait-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/poem-if-i-could-make-any-wish-regarding.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-tips-to-cope-with-ldr-and-how-to_7.html 

Note: Not Everyone On Earth Has The Same Love Story. Be Contented With The Journey That Allah The Most Wise Chose For You.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Not everyone has the same love story. I remember my dear mom (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) telling me how my father (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.) used to make many attempts to court her, like the typical romantic Maranao guy with classic bell-bottoms back in the 80s, but she would reject every one of his efforts to gain her attention until he had the courage to speak to her family to officially seek her hand in marriage. Alhamdulillah my parents got married, visited several countries around the world including the US and UK, networked with Da'ees like Bilal Philips and AbdurRahman Dimashqiah, wrote several Islamic books together which were published by Darussalam Bookstores, and although their very first son passed away before I was born Alhamdulillah they did an excellent job at raising me and my brothers with a strict but worthwhile upbringing. Before my mom died from cancer she requested my dad to remarry so their kids can have a stepmother. My father however chose to have her as his only wife until after some months it was Allah's Qadr that my dad passed away following her. I believe his medical complications were also due to severe sadness from being a widower.

I pray that Allah the Most Merciful reunites my dear parents in Jannatul Ferdaus and accepts all their good deeds with Allah's Mercy. Ameen.

My husband's mother from what I know got married when she was around 14 or 15 years old. Alhamdulillah she and her husband, who happens to be my uncle (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.) since I married my cousin, were able to have twelve children together Alhamdulillah, with one baby boy that passed away before my husband was born. 

My brother Ahmad since he was a baby was engaged to get married in the future to his childhood friend whom we'll nickname "A". A's mother and my mother gave birth at almost the same time in 1988 Dammam (northeastern Saudi Arabia). Because they were close friends, they promised they would let their babies (boy and girl) get married when they become adults. However since Allah's Plans always overtake His servants', that plan didn't take place. Thus my brother Ahmad got married to our paternal cousin who's around three years older than him. Alhamdulillah they currently have five adorable kids, whereas A is married to a Saudi guy whom she met in Malaysia and has one beautiful half-Saudi half-Filipino daughter at the moment.

My brother AbdurRahman, with Allah's Will, was the one who got married to his childhood friend Eemaan. They were never close though as little kids, but our families regularly attended the same gatherings back in Riyadh city. I pray that Allah the Most Loving blesses them with many pious Muslim children. Ameen.

My love journey is a complicated one, but Alhamdulillah every struggle comes with a set of lessons learned from whatever we experience. In my teens I received several marriage proposals, one coming from a religious Pakistani guy, one from a Filipino Muslim who was employed in Madinah at that time, one from a Filipino residing in USA, and another from a childhood friend whose name is like one of my brothers Abdul-Rahman. I rejected them all, claiming this one was too baby-faced, that one was too shy, this one was younger than me and I preferred an older guy. After some time my mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) with her motherly instincts thought I was having a haraam connection with one of my former best friends, but that wasn't the case, we just enjoyed talking to each other on the phone a lot. Because she was worried I might turn into a "lesbian" (no, I'm not gay, queer, or bisexual), which is probably why in her opinion I kept saying no to the marriage proposals I was getting, she and my dad finally got me arranged to marry my first cousin, a medical doctor. So Alhamdulillah in Shawwal 2006 I got married at age 20 to my cousin who was 28 then. Since I grew up in Saudi Arabia while he was raised in Mindanao, we saw each other like complete strangers in the beginning and Alhamdulillah we learned more about love along the way. When I was around 26 years old I became his first wife when he married this Visayan lady who's one year older than me. Alhamdulillah through this marriage I became more enthusiastic and supportive of polygyny after doing extensive research on its virtues and benefits.

Another brief love story I want to mention is that of a childhood friend who divorced her husband after having one daughter with him. Several years later they remarried and Alhamdulillah they're able to have more children. Another older acquaintance, a mother of one of our students here at Wisdom Islamic School, also divorced her husband at one point but after a number of years went by, they remarried and had more kids with Allah's Will.

Never compare your love journey to others' marriage lives, as our Qadr, capabilities and roles are not exactly the same. What makes a marriage blessed isn't the couple's large number of children nor how much money the head of the family makes, but what really adds blessings and barakah to your marital life is genuine love for Allah's sake. A marriage is a blessing from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala if it protects both wife and husband from getting into zina / forbidden relationships, and if it trains you to embrace patience / Sabr and gratitude / Shukr thereby completing the other half of your Deen and leading you to Jannah Paradise where the sincere believers can enjoy perfect and flawless love for eternity.

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas’ud RadhiAllahu anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said, "O young men, if you are able to support a wife, then get married. Verily, it restrains the eyes and guards chastity. Whoever is not able to do so, he must fast (Sunnah fasts) as it is a means of control."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1806 

Sahih Muslim 1400

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-authentic-love-for-allahs-sake.html  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-five-signs-that-youre-tough-wife.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-if-you-have-good-intentions-you.html

Note: What I Have Learned From Marrying My Older Cousin For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 When I was around eighteen or nineteen years old, back in Saudi Arabia, I received a marriage proposal from one of my male 'childhood friends'. I quickly declined his request because he was about two years younger than me and I preferred marrying an older man with more life experiences. After declining several other marriage proposals, one of them from a guy who was employed in Madinah and another coming from the son of my parents' Pakistani friends, my late mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) insisted that I at least marry my first cousin who was then studying as a medical student. Initially I refused, because I understood that a lot of doctors can get preoccupied with work, which prevents them from enjoying quality time with their families. Eventually I accepted the proposal after praying two Sunnah Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaarah and measuring the pros and cons of getting married in 2006 at age twenty.

 Alhamdulillah through this marriage, I've learned to be very supportive of polygyny, more understanding towards individuals with certain disabilities (as my husband has an autistic brother), and Alhamdulillah I'm able to hopefully inspire wives whose husbands work abroad to remain faithful and steadfastly patient for Allah's sake. Last time I checked while browsing on Facebook, I found out that the 'childhood friend' whose marriage proposal I rejected is contentedly married with one of his cousins, just like I'm wed to my cousin, and Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala blessed them with a number of adorable kids. 

After my mother and a good friend of hers gave birth in the same year 1988, in Ad-Dammam city, they agreed to have their kids engaged and promised they'd get them married in the future, as a way to maintain their close friendship. I remember seeing photos of my brother as a baby holding hands with another baby and, if I'm not mistaken, they had cute tiny engagement rings on. Several years later their wedding was cancelled even though my brother was all set for his groom's outfit. Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala destined that my brother get married to one of our cousins instead who's about three years older than him. Alhamdulillah they're both currently blessed with five cute children. The girl on the other hand whom we thought could've been his wife actually married a Saudi guy whom she met during their university years in Malaysia. Alhamdulillah they're blessed with one beautiful daughter together at the moment. 

🔸The lesson I wish to share is that even if your plans to marry someone didn't work out, and no matter how many times you've tried proposing to some women only to receive a rejection, you shouldn't feel bad about yourself or wrongly assume that Allah doesn't love you. If being a particular woman's husband wasn't your Qadr/Destiny, your marriage with her can never take place despite being bribed with millions of cash. 

If Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala didn't decree that you become somebody's soulmate, you'd always stay single in spite of meeting numerous matchmakers who guess you're compatible with so-and-so. However if Allah the Most Wise already planned that you get married to a specific person, on an assigned date, in a chosen destination, nothing and nobody can prevent Allah's Plans from occurring. So keep trusting Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and ask Him, specially when praying Tahajjud, to grant you only what is right for your overall well-being. 

It could take days, weeks, months or years... but whatever was meant to be yours, according to Allah's Plans, will ultimately come to you at the most perfect and ideal timing. 

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: I was riding behind the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam when he said to me, "Young man, I will teach you some words. Be mindful of Allah and He will protect you. Be mindful of Allah and you will find Him before you. If you ask, ask from Allah. If you seek help, seek help from Allah. Know that if the nations gathered together to benefit you, they will not benefit you unless Allah has decreed it for you. And if the nations gathered together to harm you, they will not harm you unless Allah has decreed it for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2516

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

💚 Note: Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as 🌼

Note: On The Prohibition Of Plucking One's Eyebrows Completely

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Allah the Almighty knows best. 

Some notes regarding plucking one's eyebrows:

1] Plucking the entire eyebrows is not allowed in Islam (for both males and females) because it indicates that the person is not satisfied with the look which Allah the Most Wise chose for them. It is a sign of disrespect that if a leader or teacher obliged you to keep a certain tag or ID for identification you'd get rid of it and replace it with something else as if you know "better". 

2] The unibrow or extra hair on top of the nose and between the eyebrows can 

Inn-sha-Allah be removed since they are not part of the eyebrows. 

3] It is okay for a female to remove the hair on the upper lip and areas around the mouth so she does not resemble males in having a moustache and beard.

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/8529/%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%A7%D8%B2%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A9-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B4%D8%B9%D8%B1-%D8%A8%D9%8A%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AD%D8%A7%D8%AC%D8%A8%D9%8A%D9%86

Tips: Some Advice On How To Avoid Emotional Affairs And Adultery

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Some advice to be so fiercely loyal to your husband for Allah's sake that even shaytan envies your determination and loyalty: 

1] Consistently remind yourself of all the good qualities and admirable features of your husband. Reminisce about the enjoyable moments you've had together and stay gratefully appreciative of all the kind favors he has done. 

2] Resolutely control your gaze and refrain from unnecessarily staring at non-mahram guys. 

3] Delete all male users from your Facebook friends list and avoid chatting with non-mahram males as much as possible. 

4] Minimize meaningless conversations with females also to shield yourself from getting too emotionally attached to somebody who isn't your spouse. Set your boundaries straight. 

5] Ensure that you don't put effort into looking good in front of strangers while purposely neglecting your appearance when your husband is around. Be a lot more concerned about how your husband sees you than how you appear to other individuals. 

6] With loving dedication, frequently include your husband in your wholehearted Du'as and sujood. Talk about your husband lovingly to Allah the Almighty much more regularly than you mention other Muslims who aren't closely related. 

7] Stubbornly ignore online and offline content which could negatively impact the love you have for your husband. Unapologetically unfriend or unfollow and discontinue building connections with anybody who has the potential to get in the way of your beautifully destined marriage. 

8] Whenever you notice someone who is seemingly attractive, immediately divert your attention and recall that you're already blissfully married. Diminish unwanted feelings of attraction for them by recalling their unappealing traits and awful acts they did in the past. 

9] Visualize gaining plus points and rewards every time you successfully prove that you're indeed your husband's loyal wife. Steadfastly remain contented with the man whom Allah the Most Wise chose as your other half and soulmate.

~•~ 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e. her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090

In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-what-happens-when-allah-most-wise.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/note-undeniable-signs-that-man-married.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-nine-clear-signs-that-muslim-wifes.html 

Tips: How To Behave Towards Somebody Who Is Jealous Of You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ What to do when you realize that somebody's misconduct and mistreatment emphasize they're jealous of you: 

1] As much as possible keep your distance from them online and offline. Quit stalking their social media accounts, being interested in what they have to say and socializing with them unnecessarily. 

2] Don't trust them at all, even if they act cheerful and approachable towards you. 

3] Never tell them about your dreams nor ask them for advice. 

4] Never be affected by their criticism, complaints and jokes about you. Understand that their efforts to annoy you could indicate they're struggling with feeling insecure, jealously threatened or inadequate. 

5] Never confide in them about your worries, problems and secrets. Envious individuals may misuse the information you share for mockery or gossip.

6] If they ever borrow money and items from you, don't expect a timely response or the item they borrowed being returned in its proper condition. Good manners and loyalty are not to be expected from those who can't restrain themselves from envying other Muslims.

7] Feel sorry for them. Their discontentment with Allah's Justice and Wisdom is probably why they're unhappy inwardly. You don't need to get back at someone who's dealing with misery when they're already insulting themselves through jealousy.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do not envy each other, do not outbid each other, do not hate each other, do not turn away from each other, and do not outsell each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers. The Muslim is the brother of another Muslim. He does not wrong him, nor humiliate him, nor look down upon him. Righteousness is here," and he pointed to his chest three times. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is enough evil for a man to look down upon his Muslim brother. The entirety of the Muslim is sacred to another Muslim: his life, his wealth, and his reputation."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2564

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-clear-signs-of-jealous-people-even.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/note-how-to-deal-with-envious-people.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/note-people-are-tests-for-one-another.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-seven-signs-that-indicate-jealousy.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/poem-distance-yourself-from-jealous.html 

Poem: When Some Gossip/Backbite About You, They Also Give You Some Of Their Good Deeds

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 To the people whose mouths mentioned me negatively,

Who kept themselves busy with backbiting jealously,

Who joked about me in my absence and when near me:

Thanks for taking my sins. Thank you for all your good deeds.

~•~

Being spoken of badly is from Allah's Mercy,

When rewards are sent to my account effortlessly,

When sins I've done previously disappear easily -

Each time I'm ridiculed by those guilty of envy.

~•~

I know I'm not perfect, and I'm a threat to many,

I admit people's thoughts are not my reality.

Hence I don't backbite, even critics and enemies,

Since gossip is nonsense and shows instability.

~•~

The morally unstable, weak emotionally,

And sadly insecure are more likely gossipy.

Instead of saying Dhikr and Du'as fruitfully,

They sacrifice some good deeds to ease their jealousy.

~•~

Weren't they brought up to treat others respectfully?

Don't they know that being rude proves they're jealous clearly,

And their life doesn't improve by making people weep?

Broken things can't get fixed by causing beings to bleed.

~•~

Seeing how I was taught to preserve true dignity,

I minimize chit-chatting with people needlessly,

Replacing them with moments to self-reflect wisely,

Content with Qur'an reading to keep me company.

~•~

In an era when most are confirmed untrustworthy,

It's best to isolate, learn from afar carefully,

And leave gossipers with negative mentality,

To rely on Allah Only Who knows us truly.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do you know who is the bankrupt?" They said, “The one without money or goods is the bankrupt.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the bankrupt of my nation are those who come on the Day of Resurrection with prayers, fasting, and charity, but also with insults, slander (gossipping, falsely accusing and spreading rumors), consuming wealth, shedding blood, and beating others. The oppressed will each be given from his good deeds. If his good deeds run out before justice is fulfilled, then their sins will be cast upon him and he will be thrown into the Hellfire."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2581

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever wrongs his brother in his honor or anything else should resolve the matter today before it cannot be resolved with gold and silver coins. If he has good deeds to his credit, they will be taken from him according to the measure of his injustice. If he has no good deeds left, he will bear the evil deeds of the one he has oppressed."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2317

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do you know what backbiting is?" They said, “Allah and His Messenger (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) know best." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is to mention your brother in a way that he dislikes." It was said, "What do you think if what I said about him is true?" The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If what you say about him is true, it is backbiting. If it is not true, it is slander."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2589

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-be-brave-enough-for-allah-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-why-talk-badly-about-people-when.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-some-things-to-consider-before-you.html 

Tips: Seven Things To Avoid To Achieve Inner Peace And True Happiness

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Seven things to quit for Allah's sake to achieve actual happiness and inner peace: 

1] Quit listening to songs and music. Instead, read and reflect more often on the Aayaat (verses) of the Noble Qur'an. 

2] Quit nosily spying on the lives of strangers who absolutely have nothing to do with you, and you don't gain anything valuable from watching their frequent vlogs. Instead, focus on valuing the unique blessings which Allah the Almighty chose to give you, and always aim to improve as a Muslim.

3] Quit stalking the social media accounts of people who make you feel bad and who are unable to inspire you to become a better human. Forty-five minutes of reading from the Noble Qur'an or listening to an Islamic lecture is more rewarding than thirty minutes of browsing through  negative, demotivating and nonsensical status updates. 

4] Quit expecting every single person on earth to have the exact same manners and temperament as you. Just because somebody treated you badly does not signify you're a bad individual. How others treat you usually reflects their character, upbringing and current moods. 

5] Quit being nice to people mainly because you want them to thank you or so they can return your favors in the future. Do good deeds sincerely to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and you can't be disappointed. 

6] Quit making it a rule that every time you dine in a restaurant or halal cafe you must take pictures and upload them on social media to prove how wealthy you are. If someone's motive for uploading photos of food and beverages is not to supportively promote a Muslim's halal business, then the need to regularly flaunt what they ate and drank may indicate that the foodie or coffeeholic is awfully insecure. 

7] Quit assuming that if a person doesn't go out much to chill with loved ones or if the quality of their social skills is low from your viewpoint then automatically you can label them as "depressed" or "lonely". A lot of introverts are genuinely contented with not having a large circle because few or no close friends means preserving oneself from: taking part in artificial conversations, flattering narcissists whose acts are not praiseworthy, avoiding responsibilities towards individuals who envy you secretly, gossiping childishly, and wasting priceless minutes when a Muslim's time should be spent on more worthwhile duties.

~•~ 

📖 Ali Ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of a person's perfection in Islam is to leave what does not concern him."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-inner-strength-with-taqwa-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/note-tips-to-avoid-or-minimize-stress.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-three-signs-of-people-who-are.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-what-does-actual-happiness-look.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-five-tips-to-befriend-yourself-and.html 

Note: Good / Righteous Friends vs Toxic Friends

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

✅ Five signs indicating that a person is a righteous and good friend: 

1] You feel comfortable and at ease when you're with them, aware that they won't suddenly criticize you in front of others nor talk badly about you when you're not around. Judging people's appearances and pridefully laughing at their mistakes are things they avoid doing.

2] For Allah's sake they regularly share Islamic reminders on social media, advise gently when you require consolation, and correct you whenever you do something wrong. 

3] They motivate you to treat your parents respectfully, maintain family ties, and show genuine concern for your loved ones, instead of wanting all your attention to themselves like insecure and manipulative narcissists.

4] After talking to them online or face to face, you notice a significant increase in the level of your faith/Imaan, because the topics you often discuss actually energize you and bring you closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

5] You're incapable of feeling anxious before attempting to visit them and check their Facebook timelines, as you know that their actions, statements and postings are devoid of gossip and passive-aggressive behavior. You don't perceive them as a threat to your religious and emotional well-being. In fact, you look forward to learning from them as you can't get tired of their good vibes and positive influence. 

❎ Five indicators of toxic people who don't deserve our trust and friendship: 

1] You don't feel safe and secure when they're nearby, as if you can sense that they have the potential to offend you anytime or compel you to do something which you dislike. 

2] You've observed that even after a long time of being acquainted with their names, you still didn't learn anything valuable and inspirational from them. They seem to be more obsessed with pretentious selfies, consumerism and worldly matters than willing to put effort into seeking authentic knowledge of Islam through reliable sources.

3] You can tell that they despise one or some of your family members due to unreasonable reasons. Those who hold grudges against anybody from the individuals who are closely connected to you mustn't be trusted. 

4] After interacting with them personally and virtually, even for a few minutes, you feel emotionally worn out and unmotivated. Their words mostly consist of lies, rumors, gossip, mockery and complaints which trigger negative emotions.

5] Almost every time you're about to join a meeting with them or check their online posts, you feel agitated and uneasy, as though it is obvious that your soul's energy clashes with theirs.

~•~ 

📖 AbdurRahman ibn Ghanm RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best servants of Allah are those who remind you of Allah when they are seen. The worst servants of Allah are those who carry gossip, separating between loved ones and seeking misery for the innocent."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 17998

Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell. As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/tips-you-have-every-right-to-be-very.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-checklist-to-find-out-if-someone.html  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-distinguishing-traits-of-people.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-choosiness-of-most-intjs-when-it.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/only-true-friends-and-righteous-companions-will-benefit-you/

Tips: Ways To Tell If Your Grudge Is Due To Jealousy Or Being Too Different

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Some ways to tell if your grudge against another Muslim is due to jealousy or being unrelatable and too different: 

❎ If you hate a certain individual because their beliefs, attitude, personality, interests and goals are too "weird" or in conflict with yours, you would: 

1] Feel uninterested in wanting to build any connection with them, so thinking of interesting topics to discuss online and face to face or asking them personal questions can be difficult. 

2] Acknowledge the fact that their absence and presence have no significant impact on you. When they've been absent for several days, you don't miss them at all. Once they're around and easily reachable, you prefer to keep your distance and begrudgingly interact with them only when necessary. 

3] Avoid them for Allah's sake as much as possible (on social media and offline) because you can't gain anything valuable from being affiliated. Chatting with them feels artificial, time-consuming and pointless.

❌ If your hatred for some individuals actually stems from envy, you would: 

1] Act distant upon seeing them express gratitude to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for the blessings which He gave, and angrily scowl whenever you notice a smile on their face. 

2] Ardently focus on their negative qualities much more than their agreeable traits, annoyingly make a big deal out of their mistakes, and publicly criticize them whenever you can to spoil their image and name. 

3] Admit that you cringe with jealous animosity whenever you go through their online posts or hear their voice and laughter. 

4] Agree that you've become accustomed or addicted to gossiping and backbiting about them, to feel good about yourself and less inferior. 

5] Avoid actually spending quality time with them because you can't stand how most of the information they oftentimes share with you trigger uncomfortable feelings of jealousy. 

📑 Reminder to myself and others: While you're allowed to unfriend and unfollow anybody whose Facebook status updates make you feel uneasy, it's not okay to utilize social media as a virtual stage where you behave like a politician bashing other politicians to obtain the crowd's votes and sympathies. Before attempting to collect fans to hate on another Muslim through sinful backbiting, ask yourself "am I about to disseminate info which can 

Inn-sha-Allah motivate others to become more confident Muslims? Or should these complaints be left unsaid because shaytan and his allies find arguments between Muslims absurdly amusing?"

~•~ 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”

Source: ‘Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the most false of tales. Do not seek out faults, do not spy on each other, do not contend with each other, do not envy each other, do not hate each other, and do not turn away from each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5719

Sahih Muslim 2563

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith (Imaan) and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-always-purify-your-heart-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-dont-call-me-toxic-just-because.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-three-reasons-why-we-cannot-click.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/tips-three-types-of-grudges-and-how-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/note-five-reasons-why-we-cant-vibe-well.html 

Note: All Human Beings Go Through Challenges And Hardships

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Imagine yourself in these situations: 

1] After doing the groceries, you and another companion go in a taxi. Once you arrive at home, you realize that you forgot several shopping bags which you placed inside the vehicle's trunk (luggage compartment) and contacting the taxi driver is something impossible to do. 

2] For five consecutive nights you didn't have a proper sleep because you've been studying really hard to pass a board exam, which you failed in the previous year. On the day when the students are informed of their results, you don't see your name on the list of examinees who passed. Surprisingly, your friends who took their studies for granted were the ones who received the good news. 

3] You spent more than an hour cooking large amounts of spaghetti and other delicacies which you planned to bring to a long-awaited family reunion. On the way to the gathering, located in a remote village, while crossing a wooden bridge, all of the dishes you're carrying suddenly fall into the fast-flowing river when you lost your balance. 

4] As you're waiting for your flight in a crowded airport, you unknowingly switch packages with someone else who's traveling with a different airline. Upon arrival at your destination, you discover that the traveler unintentionally took your costly gifts and souvenirs, while you're wondering about what should be done with many boxes of toothpicks.

5] You're a bride who's about to marry the man of your dreams, who is simultaneously an Imaam, ustadh and engineer. Just before exiting the wedding venue with you, the groom's soul returns to Allah the Almighty, and you've become widowed on the same day you married. 

Whether you call it "bad trip", "bad luck" (Note: No such thing as luck and fortune in Islam.), "difficulty", "frustrating situation" or confirmation that your "life sucks", every human being inevitably goes through different forms of challenges, disappointments and trials. If everything on earth always went well according to all of the people's desires and wishes, and humans never felt sad or angry at all, then why would Jannah Paradise be created? 

This dunya (temporary world / life) is a platform of tests in which those who strive to be closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala occasionally go through a variety of examinations to be purified from the sins they've committed in the past and present. Allah the Most Wise does not give His servants particular tests except that He knows how every individual has what it takes to withstand and pass them. 

An effective teacher would examine you according to your level and competence. The more knowledge you've acquired on specific subjects and the more competent you are in a certain field, the more the levels of your tests would increase. 

✅ What to do when something upsetting occurs: 

1] Say "QaddarAllah wa maa shaa-a fa'al." meaning "Allah has decreed what He wills." and patiently accept that whatever occured or did not occur is part of Allah's Qadr/Decree. 

2] Look forward to receiving rewards from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for trying your best to maintain patience. 

3] Feel relieved that Inn-sha-Allah through every hardship some of your former sins get expiated. 

4] Confidently believe that if you're one of those believers whom Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves, oftentimes you're granted what you dislike and prevented from what you want to avoid fitna and excessive attachment to dunya. 

5] Remember that you're not the only individual in this universe with stress, worries and problems to solve. 

Even the best and most well-mannered of all humans, namely the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, went through various difficulties and tough times. 

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience and it is good for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2999

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/poem-taqwa-patience-and-trusting-allah.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-patience-for-allahs-sake-with.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/tips-what-to-do-during-times-of-fitna.html 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/29363/%D9%85%D8%B9%D9%86%D9%89-%D9%82%D9%88%D9%84%D9%87-%D8%AA%D8%B9%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%89-%D8%A7%D8%B5%D8%A8%D8%B1%D9%88%D8%A7-%D9%88%D8%B5%D8%A7%D8%A8%D8%B1%D9%88%D8%A7-%D9%88%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%A8%D8%B7%D9%88%D8%A7 

Poem: I Love My Husband For Allah's Sake, Whether My Spouse Is Near, Far, Around Or Away - LDR

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 On behalf of each Muslim wife who loves patiently 

Her husband for Allah's sake with utmost loyalty, 

While her soulmate is employed in another city, 

Or being a faithful co-wife is her destiny - 

Here's my response to critics who doubt our love story: 

~•~ 

The inability to see my husband daily 

And have him sleep beside me every night doesn't mean 

Our love isn't real. It's real. For Allah's sake truly 

We married. I'm his wife, even in polygyny,

While he's my other half, soulmate, friend, travel buddy. 

~•~ 

Our romance is unique, not suitable for the weak 

And insecure emotionally and morally. 

Long-distance marriages require lots of bravery, 

Boundless patience, and trust in Allah the Almighty. 

Staying loyal despite distance proves the love is real.

~•~ 

Loving a spouse who works abroad or who's frequently 

Absent when he's busy with responsibilities 

Is like the link between salt and pepper, seriously - 

They go together and reconcile eventually. 

Cringey? Corny? Maybe you're guilty of jealousy...

~•~ 

...Jealous you lack willpower to love devotedly, 

Empathy to understand him and admirably 

Refrain from mistrusting your sweetheart, especially 

When he's out often and not nearby physically, 

And true faith to accept Allah's Decree patiently.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic)

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-love-for-allahs-sake-and-marriage.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-love-your-husband-patiently-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-five-signs-that-youre-tough-wife.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-dear-muslim-wife-understand-that.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/poem-im-not-like-those-females-who.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-tips-to-cope-with-ldr-and-how-to_7.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-have-enough-patience-to-wait-for.html 

💚 

https://abukhadeejah.com/characteristics-of-a-righteous-wife-in-light-of-the-quran-and-sunnah-part-1/

Poem: Loyal Wives Avoid Suspecting That The Husband Is Cheating

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 To each wife who married for Allah's sake sincerely: 

Please note that just because your husband has recently 

Changed his hairstyle and started working out frequently 

Does not imply he's cheating on you with somebody. 

His choice to look good is likely so you'll be more pleased. 

~•~ 

Just because he cancels dates with you regularly, 

Claiming some projects came up and he's very busy, 

Does not mean he is having affairs with a colleague 

Nor does it indicate his loyalty isn't real.

Don't doubt him just because he wants his income increased.

~•~ 

Answering your text late isn't clear testimony 

To the possibility of him wanting to cheat 

On you because of boredom or unmet sexual needs. 

Some husbands may behave strangely due to sorcery, 

Stress, or they're coerced by jealous strangers to mistreat.

~•~ 

Your husband's a human. Forgive and respect him, please. 

When some of his acts upset you, don't immediately 

Suspect his feelings for you are shared with somebody. 

In case he is certainly flirting with a lady, 

Level up your love for Allah. Greet polygyny. 

~•~ 

Advise your soulmate. Remind him to: "Fear Allah, please. 

If you're serious about that lass, love her lawfully. 

Don't play with her emotions. Allah's Justice is Real. 

I'd rather stay as your wife and see you remarry 

Than let you commit zina and spoil our love story."

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-patiently-accepting-polygyny-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/note-my-brief-love-story-and-why-i-dont.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-tips-on-how-to-stay-in-love-with.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-ways-to-determine-if-wifes-love.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-avoid-unfairly-suspecting-that.html 

💚Note: Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.

https://abukhadeejah.com/characteristics-of-a-righteous-wife-in-light-of-the-quran-and-sunnah-part-1/

Note: Differences Between People Who Were Destined To Connect With You And Those Who Remain As Strangers

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Five differences between people whom you were destined by Allah the Most Wise to connect with and those who were chosen to remain as casual acquaintances or complete strangers: 

🔗 Signs of compatible souls who were destined to be in your circle: 

💠 1] Whether you're neighbors or they reside in another city, the very first time you met personally or discovered their account on social media, you felt eager and interested in getting to know more about them. 

2] While it's clear that you have a lot of things and qualities in common, you're unable to feel jealous of their joys and achievements because overall you share the same life mission. 

3] Even if you haven't seen each other in such a long time, when you do reunite, for instance in a social gathering or virtual meeting, your conversations flow smoothly and there are no awkward moments. 

4] You perceive them as wholesome, pleasant and inspiring. If they manage some Islamic blogs, podcast series, online forums, or a YouTube channel, you put effort into checking their contents and learning from them often. 

5] You actually miss their presence whenever you haven't heard from them within a significant number of days. If you notice that they didn't update their social media account in a long time or they took a break from chatting with you for a while, you wonder if there's something wrong or at least hope they're still okay. 

⚠️ Signs that a person was not destined to be your friend, so you mustn't worry about them leaving or acting distant: 

🔻 1] Regardless of where they stay on earth, you're adamantly uninterested in visiting them and building any form of connection. Stumbling upon their names a lot on social media can't inspire you to check out their profiles and postings. In your opinion, whatever they have to say lacks significance.

2] Since their vibes generally make you feel uncomfortable, slightly envious for some reason or insecure, you feel much more at ease when they're absent. 

3] It is usually difficult to think of interesting topics to discuss with them. You'd rather find peace in reciting from the Noble Qur'an, reading a book, or watching a documentary for one hour than begrudgingly chat with them for even fifteen minutes. 

4] You easily cringe at most of their actions or get upset and annoyed by the mistakes they do. 

5] A whole year of not visiting their Facebook timeline or not seeing them face to face would pass by and still you're incapable of missing them. If their presence fails to motivate you to become a better Muslim, their absence has absolutely no influence on your well-being.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim  

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-souls-who-connect-with-us-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-special-souls-whom-we-connect-with.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-three-reasons-why-our-vibes.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-its-okay-to-not-be-liked-by.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/note-five-reasons-why-we-cant-vibe-well.html 

Hadith: Virtues Of Fasting Sunnah Fasts And Reading From The Noble Qur'an Regularly

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever recites a letter from the Book of Allah (The Noble Qur'an), he will receive one good deed (in his record of deeds) as ten good deeds like it. I do not say that 'Alif Laam Meem' is one letter, but rather 'Alif' is a letter, 'Laam' is a letter, and 'Meem' is a letter."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2910

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fasting and the Qur'an will intercede for the servant on the Day of Resurrection. Fasting will say: 'O Lord, I prevented him from food and drink during the day, so let me intercede for him.' The Qur'an will say: 'O Lord, I prevented him from sleeping during the night, so let me intercede for him.' Thus, they will both intercede for him."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 6589

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ahmed Shakir

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The example of one who reads the Qur'an and memorizes It is that of one with the ‘righteous and noble scribes’ (The Noble Qur'an 80:15). The example of one who reads the Qur'an and is committed to It, although it is difficult for him, is that of one with a double reward."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 4653 

Sahih Muslim 798

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Sahl Ibn Sa'd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, there is a gate in Paradise called Ar-Rayyaan, through which only those who fasted will enter on the Day of Resurrection. No one else will enter it along with them. It will be said: 'Where are those who fasted, so that they may enter?' When the last of them enter, it will be closed and no one else will go through it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1797

Sahih Muslim 1152

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/11591/%D9%85%D8%B9%D9%86%D9%89-%D8%A7%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%82%D8%B1%D8%A7%D9%86-%D9%88%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B5%D9%8A%D8%A7%D9%85-%D9%8A%D8%B4%D9%81%D8%B9%D8%A7%D9%86

Note: Checklist To Determine How Loyal You Are To Your Husband

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Checklist to determine how loyal you are to your dear husband - if at least seven of these points describe you perfectly, then you are a loyal wife: 

1] You don't have "guy friends" and non-mahram males on your Facebook friends list. 

2] You know how to control your gaze and avoid unnecessarily staring at the faces and photos of non-mahram males. If occasionally you must glimpse at a male speaker or lecturer online and offline, you make sure that your glances are completely devoid of inappropriate feelings.

3] You try your best to refrain from chatting aimlessly with non-mahram males online and offline. 

4] Complimenting non-mahram guys for their looks is something you never do. Telling somebody they're "handsome" (or "gwapo") is restricted exclusively for your husband.

5] Whenever someone would directly or indirectly criticize your husband in any way, you're quick to defend your soulmate or quit building connections with his critics for Allah's sake. 

6] Noticing how other women's husbands seem to give them more gifts and attention than how your busy husband spends time with you doesn't make you feel jealous nor insecure. You're entirely contented with the man whom Allah the Most Wise chose for you. 

7] Adamantly you resist the urge to talk about your husband negatively to other individuals. If ever you mention an aspect about him which you dislike, specially when answering a question, you make sure that you immediately emphasize how you still deeply care about him for Allah's sake and how all his admirable traits outweigh his human mistakes. 

8] When some people behave inappropriately with you or act flirtatious, you cleverly deter their moves, become stubbornly distant towards them, and firmly decide to avoid stalking their accounts on social media. 

9] You've made a promise to yourself that if ever your husband asks for separation, you'd still want him back, obstinately reject all marriage proposals you receive from willing suitors, avoid or lessen interactions with anybody who assumes that "you deserve better", loyally maintain friendly ties with his loved ones and faithfully keep asking Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for his return until he requests for a second wedding even if waiting takes several years. 

10] For Allah's sake, you are consistently, courageously and patiently forgiving towards your husband. 

11] You're not one of those immodest females who regularly take selfies and upload their self-aggrandizing pictures online.

~•~ 

📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)".

[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]

Riyad As-Salihin 286

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-love-for-allahs-sake-and-marriage.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/note-undeniable-signs-that-man-married.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-some-advice-on-how-to-be-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-some-negative-qualities-of.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-it-takes-lots-of-strength-to-be.html  

https://abukhadeejah.com/characteristics-of-a-righteous-wife-in-light-of-the-quran-and-sunnah-part-1/ 

💚 From the noteworthy qualities of a righteous Muslim wife:

https://youtu.be/6RvNrnJ0MdU