Wednesday, August 10, 2022

Tips: INTJ "Courtesy" vs Companionship

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Five signs that a person whose MBTI personality type is INTJ only appears to be maintaining courtesy (especially to avoid drama), and they don't regard you as a close friend: 
1] They are reluctant to send you a "Facebook friend request" and don't bother stalking your status updates despite their awareness of the link to your online profile.
2] They remain unaffected if they notice you "unfriended" them, blocked their account, left a group chat or forum which they usually participate in, or excluded them from a gathering.
3] It is obvious that they ask other individuals more personal questions than when briefly interacting with you. If an INTJ already made a conclusion about you, for instance they realized that you're not reliable at all or they can sense that you feel so intimidated by them, they'd purposely desist from asking you random queries about yourself because they're uninterested in connecting with you on a much deeper level. 
4] All in all they're serious (aloof or emotionally detached) when you're around and they don't easily show you their goofy side. 
5] Although they're aware of where your room or residence is located, they haven't paid you a single visit within three or more months or they don't go out of their way to initiate meaningful conversations with you. 
✅ Five signs they actually like you for Allah's sake even though they seem distant most of the time: 
1] They regularly check your online posts or ask how you're doing even if it's done once a year. 
2] They make effort to pay regular visits to you, if they know where you reside, at least once every two or more months.  
3] When texting or chatting with you, a lot of their messages tend to be long as they enjoy communicating with you. 
4] They quickly defend you in your presence or absence when you're being treated or mentioned unfairly. 
5] They find many of your jokes funny and/or they're capable of patiently tolerating your dissimilarities.
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”
Source: 'Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 
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Tips: Some Questions Which You Can Ask Yourself Before You Say Yes To A Muslim's Marriage Proposal

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Some questions which you can ask yourself before deciding to accept a Muslim's marriage proposal, after or before praying Salat Al-Istikhaara: 
1] Is this guy really a Muslim and is he upon the correct 'Aqeedah / belief (Sunni / Salafi methodology)? Or at least is he willing to learn more about the truth Islam together with me? 
2] Does he show due respect to his mother and father? Can his parents describe him as a loving son? 
3] Without making it a rule that he must have a master's or doctorate degree, can you be certain that this guy already has a stable job and the income he earns is lawful? 
4] Can he promise to let you visit your family and loved ones whenever you'd like to spend time with them? Can he guarantee that he'll try his best to avoid becoming an overly jealous, insecure and mistrustful spouse? 
5] Is it known that he tries to pray the obligatory prayers in a Masjid as promptly and regularly as he can? Can some of his relatives confirm that he's not one of those ignorant males who deny the importance of praying? 
6] If Inn-sha-Allah in the future you wish to have at least one child with this man, is there a way to prove that he isn't sterile? 
7] If you prefer to not have any or many kids with this guy, can you both agree to never allow this issue (infertility or decision to not have children together) to become a problem for the two of you? 
8] Can he assure you that 
Inn-sha-Allah if ever he wishes to remarry he'd inform you in advance and refrain from keeping his other marriages confidential? 
9] If he is employed or studying in a different city, can you imagine yourself accepting his request to relocate with him while maintaining good connection with your other loved ones? 
10] Can you visualize yourself becoming a better, more contented and more enlightened Muslimah if you accept, for Allah's sake, the marriage proposal of this Muslim man? 
11] Are you sure that you're not marrying this guy mainly for his money, to no longer be under the care of your mother and/or father, or to emulate your friends who became wives early? Can you purify your intention concerning your willingness to marry this Muslim for Allah's sake and stay true to yourself, acknowledging that you're not marrying for self-interest?
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📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Yes." I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Her silence (not refusing nor complaining) is her consent (sign that she accepts the marriage proposal)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6547
Sahih Muslim 1420
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials (fitna/fitan) on the earth and the spread of corruption."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani