Saturday, March 4, 2023

Tips: My Advice On How To Stay Patient With One's Husband For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
💌 Seven tips on how to maintain astounding patience with your husband / soulmate for Allah's sake: 
1] Frequently recall the main reason why you willingly accepted your husband's marriage proposal in the beginning - you married him sincerely to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and you want him to join you in your blessed journey towards attaining Jannah's entrance. 
2] Regularly remind yourself of all the loving gestures, kind favors and romantic things which your zawj has done in the past and present. Appreciate your husband's notable qualities and focus on his positive characteristics instead of making it a big deal that he's precisely similar to you in being imperfect. 
3] Always and faithfully trust Allah the Almighty while believing that better times shall 
Inn-sha-Allah arise and, with Allah's Decree, your husband's conduct and faith/Imaan can improve gradually. 
4] Thank Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for wisely selecting this Muslim as your other half, spouse and soulmate. While many females worldwide have been wanting to receive at least one marriage proposal, you should be grateful Alhamdulillah that you're granted a husband who tries his best to care for his loved ones with the means and sustenance which Allah the Most Kind has destined for him. It is better to stay contentedly married for Allah's sake with a not so affluent spouse than to stupidly take pride in being single yet acting ignorant or flirtatious whenever some "attractive" non-mahrams are around.
5] Cleverly imagine the negative consequences of not staying patient with the man who Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala chose as your soulmate. Divorce is mostly a shortcut to dreadful remorse and guilt, especially if one's former husband still strives to be a better Muslim and it is evident that he is well-liked for his endearing personality. 
6] Adamantly believe that your husband actually loves you too for Allah's sake yet at times he may behave strangely due to excessive fatigue, temporary depression or being affected by someone's evil eye ('ayn) or an envious person's attempts to carry out black magic and sorcery, or some troublesome outsiders, such as jealous colleagues (who despise your blissful marriage life) or insecure co-wife, are the culprits behind the solvable problem. 
Fiercely remain loyal to your husband for Allah's sake and mention him lovingly in your supplications as often as you can. 
7] Anticipate more rewards from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and further elevation of your status
Inn-sha-Allah in Jannah Paradise whenever you train yourself to have patience with your husband for Allah's sake. 
Courageous and sincere efforts to be patient with Allah's slaves, to preserve your faith Imaan and strengthen your connection with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, particularly practicing Sabr with your soulmate, will not go to waste.
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📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some people from the Ansaar asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and he gave them. Then they asked for charity again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them. Then they asked again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them until all that he had was gone. The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I had anything, I would not withhold it. Whoever refrains from asking others, then Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will make him contented. Whoever would be independent, then Allah will make him independent. Whoever would be patient, then Allah will make him patient. There is no gift that is better and more comprehensive than patience."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6105
Sahih Muslim 1053
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Note: What This INTJ Wife Admires About Her Dear ESFJ Husband

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
💌 Nine noteworthy qualities which I truly admire about my dear husband whose MBTI personality type is ESFJ with enneagram 3w2: 
1] His efforts to become a better Muslim for Allah's sake every night and day, eager to frequently pray in the Masjid and recite several Ayaat / verses from the Noble Qur'an whenever he finds the beautiful opportunity to do so.
2] His steadfast care and concern for the well-being of his family and relatives. 
3] How he generally gives more importance to group harmony than acting selfishly, how he'd rather forgive from within and avoid conflict than constantly act like an argumentative and annoying git. 
4] How he's willing to offer some helpful tips when I ask him for advice and how he's remarkable at advising if he notices me doing something incorrectly or behaving inappropriately. 
5] How he's amazingly confident, charismatic and playful with infants and children. 
6] How much respect he shows to his mother, sisters and women in general, and how, unlike certain immature males with awfully low ambitions in life, he doesn't own a single fake profile to obnoxiously spy on and stalk female users online. 
7] His awesome culinary skills and how he's a much better chef than I am. 
8] How he encourages me to be more forgiving towards my brothers and loved ones, and how he inspires me to be more lenient and easygoing most of the time. 
9] His cute sense of humor and astounding ability to make me laugh even though I'm generally a serious type who doesn't giggle easily.
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📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim