Tips: So Long As You've Reached The Age Of Puberty, Age Doesn't Matter When You First Marry

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 In 2006 my brother who was 18 years old that time married our first cousin who would turn 21 in that year's September. Before that there was an arrangement for him to marry his childhood friend, but Allah the Most Wise decreed that their marriage wouldn't take place and instead the girl would marry a Middle Eastern guy she'd meet in Malaysia who's around nine years older than she is. Alhamdulillah my brother and his wife are blessed with five children for now, while the girl who was previously engaged to my brother is blessed with one beautiful half-Saudi half-Filipino daughter at the moment.

Alhamdulillah I was 20 when I married my husband who was 28, and became his second wife when I was around 26 years old. From my husband's side, the mother of one of his brothers-in-law got married when she was 14 or so years old while her husband was in his early 20s. MashaAllah. From what I understand, they're blessed with ten kids. My mother-in-law also married when she was around 14 years old and Allah the Most Merciful blessed her and her late husband (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.) with twelve kids. 

A number of my students also married while still in their teens. The wife of one of them is older than him by several years and they're currently blessed with two sons. 

When I contemplate on how many Muslims have married at a young age, I recall how there are still a group of individuals around the globe who reached their forties and they're gladly contented with staying single. This reminded me of another childhood friend who married as a teenager then, if I'm not mistaken, in her twenties when she discovered that her ex-husband was interested in remarrying, she demanded for divorce. A person getting married at a young age does not guarantee that their marriage will last forever. Marriage doesn't equate to euphoria or complete happiness. It's basically another journey towards Jannah with its innumerable ups and downs, temporary trials and challenging puzzles to solve. 

The closer you are to Allah the Almighty, the more tests you may go through as a married Muslim, whether you're being temporarily tested with your husband's employment in a different city or country, with being infertile or not having as many kids as you liked, with polygyny, with some of your in-laws disputing with your family, with your husband's quick temper or jealously mistrusting attitude, with your spouse's current struggle with some Islamic rulings, or even with black magic or sorcery. 

For some Muslims, their decision to remain single while patiently waiting for their flawless spouse in Paradise may be more convenient for them if not having any spouse keeps their faith/Imaan strong and their overall well-being is a lot more stable than if they were in a complicated marriage which not everyone can handle patiently.

📋 1] Never compare your love story to another Muslim couple's romance. Watermelons, papayas, bananas, mangoes and apples are all sweet and enjoyable in their own way. 

2] Regardless of how old your husband is and the age you married him, what matters more is your actual niyyah/intention of marrying each other, aspiring to ensure that this loving bond leads to Allah's Love and Jannah's entry, while acknowledging from within that you're truly contented with Allah's Qadr/Destiny. 

3] Your marital status does not determine your true worth as a human being. What clearly distinguish Allah's servants from one another are their Taqwa, how close they are to Allah the Almighty and what kind of good deeds they consistently and sincerely do to succeed in both worlds.

~•~

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Marriage is part of my Sunnah. Whoever does not act upon my Sunnah is not part of me. Give each other in marriage, for I will boast of your great numbers before the nations. Whoever has the means, let him contract a marriage. Whoever does not have the means should fast, as fasting will discipline his impulses (desires)."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1846

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-my-brief-love-story-and-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/note-not-everyone-on-earth-has-same.html 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/25486/%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B3%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B4%D8%B1%D8%B9%D9%8A-%D9%84%D9%84%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%AC 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/14257/%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%AC-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%85%D8%A8%D9%83%D8%B1-%D9%88%D8%A8%D9%8A%D8%A7%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B3%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%85%D9%86%D8%A7%D8%B3%D8%A8-%D9%84%D9%84%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%AC 

Poem: Five Types Of Stares You May Receive Sometimes As A Niqabi / Muntaqaba

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five types of stares you may receive as a "niqabi"

Or "muntaqaba" who lives to serve Allah Only, 

Whether you're often stared at in some malls, in the streets, 

At work, or there are some critics in your family 

Who disagree with your choice to value modesty:

~•~

One -  the disgusted stare that declares "What a pity! 

It's a shame Muslim females are treated unfairly." 

React by dismissing their ignorance, fallacies, 

And disdain which displays their low self-esteem is real. 

Decline their invites to drama. Move on patiently.

~•~ 

Two - the worried stare that wishes to share sympathy, 

Wrongly guessing Muslimahs are under tyranny. 

Ease their worries with your confidence, being friendly 

Or clearly happy if they guess you're in misery,

And inwardly for their misbelief you feel sorry.

~•~

Three - the amused stare that follows jokes, hilarity, 

And remarks which show they're immature, massive babies 

Who've never traveled abroad or went to school really, 

Or their lousy upbringing with ill-bred families 

Or self-hate is why they deride strangers easily.

~•~ 

Four - the natural stare that comes with curiosity, 

Eagerness to decipher why your outfit is weird. 

Simply mind your business. Keep moving confidently. 

Let good manners reveal inner contentment and peace, 

As you courageously do Da'wah indirectly.

~•~ 

Five - the impressed stare that felt attracted instantly, 

The kind of look which says "I see you, please notice me", 

Amazed by your strong personality, bravery, 

Uniqueness, oddity, or sticking to your beliefs. 

Lower your gaze. Ensure your interactions are brief.

~•~

Even if scorned upon by "modern" society 

And laughed at sometimes by friends, neighbors or enemies, 

Muslimahs who strive to please Allah the Almighty 

Stay steadfast. Don't worry about people's mockery, 

As on Judgment Day they'll earn the rewards of their deeds.

~•~

📖 Abu Udhaynah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best of your women are loving, fertile, suitable, and comforting, if they fear Allah. The worst of your women unveil their beauty, take pride in their appearance, and they are hypocrites. None of them will enter Paradise except as rarely as you see a red-beaked crow."

Source: Al-Sunan Al-Kubrá 12480

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 'Urwah reported: Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha said, "May Allah have mercy on the foremost women of the Muhaajirun. When Allah revealed the verse, ‘Let them draw their cloaks over their bodies,’ (The Noble Qur'an 24:31) they cut their sheets and veiled themselves with them."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 4481

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-wear-niqab-for-allah-as-dutiful.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-my-brief-niqab-story-to-inspire.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/note-some-lessons-learned-from-wearing.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/note-signs-you-are-self-confident.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-advice-on-dealing-with-mockery-as.html 

Poem: Include The Muslim Ummah In Your Du'a

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 "Dear Allah, make him more eloquent and bless his speech, 

Guide him to speak truthfully and accept his good deeds.", 

"O' Allah, the Most Loving Who always hears and sees, 

Protect my loved ones and friends, grant them all that they need, 

And in their efforts to serve You please keep them sincere." 

~•~ 

"Dear Allah, from the Muslim Ummah who feel lonely 

Or stressed at times when they deal with life's difficulties, 

Provide them more guidance so in both worlds they succeed, 

Increase their love for learning Islam and right belief,

And give them insight, inner joy, contentment and peace." 

~•~

"O' Allah, those Muslims who got married recently, 

I pray that through their marriage they thrive in piety, 

That their journey is a blessing and they stay happy.", 

"Dear Allah, please heal so-and-so and give them relief, 

Bless this one's business and help them earn income with ease."

~•~ 

"O' Allah, the Most Kind Who knows all my wants and needs, 

Forgive those who gossiped about me, kindly release 

Them from vile qualities like suspicion and envy. 

I pray that Allah softens their hearts and they believe 

In the correct 'Aqeedah, far from bid'ah. Ameen."

~•~

It takes strong faith/Imaan, kindness and humility 

For a Muslim to mention others regularly 

In their Du'a/supplication with sincerity. 

When praying for other Muslims don't be miserly. 

Such invocations profit your soul similarly.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No supplication is quicker to be answered than a supplication on behalf of one absent (supplicating for other Muslims)."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1980

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Suyuti

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No Muslim servant supplicates for his brother behind his back but that the angel says: 'And for you the same.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2732

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/poem-what-it-means-to-love-for-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/poem-be-generous-enough-to-pray-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/tips-advice-on-how-to-deal-with-loved.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-warning-against-constantly-cursing.html 

Tips: Some Of The Benefits Of Understanding A Person's MBTI Type

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Imagine that you're staying in a retreat, resort or dormitory with several friends for one week, and you're sharing one kitchen. Just when you're about to wash your plate and spoon, you notice that the sink is full of unwashed dishes. While you decide to focus on washing only your utensils, others may not exactly behave like you. Some may:

1] Gladly wash the plate and spoon which they used along with the other dishes, wanting rewards for compassionately trying to make others' lives easy. 

2] Wash their utensils and only some of the unwashed dishes, so they earn rewards without getting too tired, while hoping somebody else can continue washing the rest. 

3] Quickly wash their utensils then angrily march around the building, commanding everyone to wash their own dishes next time because they're not their maid. 

4] Lazily leave their plate and spoon on the sink with the other unwashed plates, imagining how fabulous it would be if there were fairies or android robots who'd automatically keep the surroundings clean. 

5] Responsibly wash your utensils then place the unwashed dishes on top of each person's bed, everybody receiving a note stating (written in all caps and red marker), "Cleanliness is part of faith. Please tidy up your mess next time." 

6] Calmly wash your own plate and spoon, then patiently wait for the next group meeting when you can gently advise your friends to do the dishes as soon as they're done using them. That way, nobody has to suffer doing somebody else's work. 

7] Aggressively push all the unwashed dishes aside until they smash on the floor, and once you're done washing your utensils, you tell everybody who gathered in the kitchen to see what the loud noise was about, "that's what happens when zombies don't do their job." 

Since the temperament, attitude and personalities of people on earth are not entirely the same, it makes sense that we can't always get along peacefully with every individual whom Allah the Most Wise decreed us to meet. However, by having some understanding of somebody's MBTI personality type, we can adjust our behavior or choices if we're seriously interested in strengthening our relationship or friendship. 

🗂️ By understanding that a person is... 

• Introverted ( I ): We won't get offended if they request us to bring only a few companions to their small gathering or to avoid inviting individuals whom they don't know, and we shouldn't expect them to initiate conversations because aimlessly chatting about random topics is not an enjoyable activity for many introverts who'd rather read or browse the web in their homes. 

• Extroverted ( E ): We mustn't feel embarrassed if they're too chatty, playful or noisy in public, because that's how some extroverts naturally function, and their decision to invite others to your outing is meant to increase the enjoyment, not necessarily to consume the food that the hosts are offering.

🗂️ By understanding that a person is... 

• Sensing ( S ): We can be more careful about the way we answer their questions. Sensors generally prefer answers that are very specific, factual, and precise. The more details you give them the better. Since a lot of them get startled easily, from having strong senses of hearing, seeing, smelling and touching, we can be more cautious with the way we present ourselves when they're around (that is, if we care enough about how they perceive us).

• Intuitive ( N ): We can respond to their questions briefly or describe the overall meaning of an event or incident, purposely leaving out unimportant information. Many intuitives prefer looking at the big picture, the summary and main points of a discussion, concept or project, rather than fussing over every single detail. It shouldn't surprise us that sometimes they look distracted or oblivious when we're trying to catch their attention, because they're mentally someplace else contemplating about the future or preoccupied with analyzing. Don't feel insulted if you have to pronounce their names multiple times for them to notice you. 

🗂️ By understanding that a person is... 

• Feeling ( F ): We won't be surprised if they get hurt easily, overreact emotionally, and oftentimes make illogical decisions just to ensure that a situation is a win-win for everybody. With sensitive types, we can first compliment on their commendable qualities or express gratitude for the tasks they did well before attempting to criticize them, to maintain good relations.

• Thinking ( T ): We train ourselves to be more thick-skinned, resilient and open to negative feedback, whenever they attempt to evaluate us according to what they believe is rational, fair and logical. With thinkers who easily brush off insults and criticism, we can discuss issues without needing to sugarcoat things. In fact, for many of them, the more direct, real and transparent you are, the more they'd respect your authenticity and straightforwardness. 

🗂️ By understanding that a person is... 

• Perceiving ( P ): We won't have to worry too much about canceling or postponing plans with perceiving types because they're typically flexible, adaptable, relaxed, easygoing and spontaneous. Seeing how most perceivers dislike feeling restricted to rigid rules, repetitive routines, and fixed schedules, if you're eager to get along with a perceiving personality type, try to minimize being overly organized, perfectionistic and strict. 

• Judging ( J ): With judging (it doesn't mean "judgmental") personality types who are more comfortable with following a stable schedule, organizing, doing most things step by step, carefully planning and properly preparing, we can feel more at ease knowing we're dealing with individuals (as long as they're not sociopaths or narcissists) who'll try their best to fulfill a promise, accomplish a task and complete an assignment. While most perceiving types are likely to share mere suggestions or avoid bossing others around, many judging personality types welcome leadership roles and giving instructions. An INFP, for example, could be more successful babysitting two kids than if they were to be the head chef in a frequently crowded restaurant, and an ISFP may not enjoy working as a school supervisor just as much as an ESTJ or ENFJ would. 

Awareness of your MBTI personality type and others' MBTI can 

Inn-sha-Allah make it easier for you to identify who can work with you efficiently or patiently tolerate your quirks, and you become more aware of what you can do to strengthen a bond with another Muslim, including your spouse if you're married.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/poem-whats-it-like-being-muslim-and-intj.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-on-self-discovery-and-mbti.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-more-reflections-on-mbti-typing.html 

~•~

To discover what your MBTI type is, you're welcome to take these tests:

https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

https://www.truity.com/test/type-finder-personality-test-new

http://www.michaelcaloz.com/personality/

Tips: Advice On How To Deal With Loved Ones Who Can't Reach Out Or Communicate In A Regular Basis

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Seven possible reasons why some of your loved ones, friends, colleagues and neighbors can't always check up on you, so you won't feel insecure about where you stand in their lives: 

1] They may be busy at the moment with their work, school assignments, projects, business or meetings offline, so much so that it's difficult to grab the opportunity to ask how you're doing, because by the time they've completed a task, they're either too tired to initiate online conversations or they have other tasks to complete. 

2] They consider you very intimidating or you generally give off unapproachable vibes. Imagine yourself as a frightening dragon who lives in a gigantic tower that doesn't have a ladder nor staircase and your freakish abode is surrounded by tall brick walls overlapping a garden of thorny trees and prickly vines. It would take large amounts of courage or eagerness for some individuals to skillfully climb and reach out for a quick greeting. 

3] They currently struggle with severe shyness or social anxiety. Attempting to start a casual dialogue with anybody online and offline often makes them nervous or edgy. 

4] From observing your frequent updates and logins, they believe that you're already doing well and there's absolutely no need to inquire about your well-being. Maybe if you disconnected from social media for several weeks, they'd seem more concerned and try to contact to ensure you're okay. 

5] They probably feel that sending you a random message may be annoying for you, or they assume that your inbox contains numerous unanswered messages and they're refraining from messaging you so your stress doesn't escalate. It's their way of showing you they care by respecting your privacy and space. 

6] They don't regard you as close enough yet for them to chat with on a regular basis. Just as you'd rather sit beside a family member in an airplane than next to complete strangers, you'd find it artificial or uncomfortable to maintain small talk with a stranger whom you're not interested in, particularly if there's no significant purpose in regularly chatting.  

7] They're the kind of introverts who refuse to make the first move regarding social niceties. Visualize them as being feral cats that don't bother approaching humans unless the latter got something visibly valuable to offer them. They have a preference for keeping their distance and staying in their lane than getting out of their comfort zone to socialize unnecessarily. 

📋 How to deal with loved ones, including your spouse working in another city or country, who cannot check up on you as often as you'd like: 

• Practice tons of empathy and patience with them for Allah's sake. 

• Remember the wonderful moments and enjoyable times you've had together. 

• Frequently include each other in your loving Du'as, especially when praying Tahajjud, every Jumuah/Friday, and while fasting Sunnah fasts. 

• If direct communication with them is not easy, you can request some of their relatives or friends to forward your salaams to them. 

• With patient anticipation, pray that Allah the Most Merciful reunites you and your Muslim loved ones in Jannah Paradise where you can talk to each other for however long you desire.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the best people to Allah are those who are the first to greet with peace."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 5197

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "You will not enter Paradise until you have faith and you will not have faith until you love each other. Shall I show you something that, if you did, you would love each other? Spread peace (salaam) between yourselves."

Source: Sahih Muslim 54, Grade: Sahih 

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No Muslim servant supplicates for his brother behind his back but that the angel says: 'And for you the same.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2732

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-do-good-only-for-allah-and-you.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-with-or-without-many-friends-what.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-on-people-whom-i-cant-always-talk.html

Poem: On The Few Women Who Are Uninterested In Marriage

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 While some women are eager to get married early 

And others are pleased their marriage took place in their teens, 

In my life I know seven females personally 

Who are older than forty years old and seem to be 

Contented not requiring a man to be complete. 

~•~

From the reasons why some women choose to not marry, 

Regardless of how many proposals they received: 

They believe staying single lets them live more freely,

Far from marital stress and responsibilities, 

Or they're avoiding the challenge in polygyny...

~•~

...Or they sense they're not ready to raise a family, 

Or they like kids but won't be carriers of babies, 

The process of giving birth for them is not easy, 

Or they know they're incapable of feeling any 

Desire for men, and trying to love one feels phony. 

~•~

Whatever is the reason why some women perceive 

Marriage as just "optional" or "unnecessary", 

Recall that forced marriage in Islam is unseemly. 

None from her maternal and paternal family 

Can force a Muslimah to marry unwillingly.

~•~ 

Let each Muslim lady select her future hubby, 

And don't scold her if she prefers to wait patiently 

For her perfect spouse when she attains Jannah's entry. 

To those who are choosy regarding whom to marry: 

Marry for Allah. Be the wife that a good man needs.

~•~

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Marriage is part of my Sunnah. Whoever does not act upon my Sunnah is not part of me. Give each other in marriage, for I will boast of your great numbers before the nations. Whoever has the means, let him contract a marriage. Whoever does not have the means should fast, as fasting will restrain his impulses (desires)."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1846

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials on the earth and the spread of corruption."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Yes." I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Her silence is her consent."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6547

Sahih Muslim 1420

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/note-arranged-marriages-vs-forced.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-warning-to-fathers-brothers-and.html 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/3411/%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%B1%D9%81%D8%B6-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%85%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%A9-%D9%84%D9%84%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%AC-%D9%88%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%A7%D8%AC%D8%A8%D8%A7%D8%B1%D9%87%D8%A7-%D8%B9%D9%84%D9%8A%D9%87 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/12372/%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%A7%D9%85%D8%AA%D9%86%D8%A7%D8%B9-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%85%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%A9-%D8%B9%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%AC  

Poem: What Often Leads To Conflict Or Incompatibility

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 One of the reasons behind somebody's enmity 

And spite towards you despite not knowing you really, 

Is the fact you're both different, your goals don't smoothly 

Align with each other, and most of your qualities 

Clash which makes it easy for them to loathe and mistreat.

~•~

Perhaps they like to fit in with the majority, 

They dread to look weird, and seek to please society, 

While you strive to deserve the Love of Allah Only, 

You don't fear standing out, you prefer to be unique, 

And stick to your beliefs even if most disagree.

~•~ 

Maybe your inner beauty informs them they're ugly 

Inwardly if they carry unjust grudge or envy, 

While your trust in Allah and strong personality 

May remind them of their myriad insecurities. 

Their antipathy can't make their character pretty.

~•~ 

Probably your marriage, welcoming polygyny, 

And patience trigger guilt or shame they didn't succeed 

In some tasks previously, while your choice to patiently 

Persist in loving your husband for Allah bravely 

Offends them greatly, since they're weak emotionally.

~•~

Just as wolves and bears won't benefit from worms and bees, 

And a lion's presence could disturb the peace of sheep, 

We can't expect to get along with each soul we meet, 

Specially if our haters' hate stems from jealousy 

And countless differences lead to disharmony.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith (Imaan) and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Aslam Al-Habashi RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Umar Ibn Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "Let not your love be infatuation and let not your hatred be destruction." It was said, "How is this?" Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "When you love someone, you become infatuated (obsessed) like a child. When you hate someone, you want destruction for your companion (sister or brother in Islam)."

Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1322

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/tips-how-mature-adults-and-muslims.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-how-to-react-when-some-users.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-patience-with-those-who-hate-us.html 

Hadith: Warning Against Unjustly / Knowingly Stealing Others' Lands Or Properties

📖 Sa'eed Ibn Zayd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever wrongly seizes a plot of land (which is not their property), Allah will make him carry seven earths around his neck (in the next life or on the Day of Judgment)."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1610

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Salama RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: That there was a dispute between him and some people (about a piece of land). When he told 'Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha about it, she said, "O Abu Salama! Avoid taking the land unjustly, for the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever usurps (unjustly steals) even one span of the land of somebody, his neck will be encircled with it down the seven earths." 

Allah the Almighty knows best. 

Sahih Al-Bukhari 2453

In-book reference: Book 46, Hadith 14

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 3, Book 43, Hadith 633

Poem: The Differences Between Truly Loving A Muslim For Allah's Sake And Having A Temporary Crush

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Three main differences between love for Allah's sake 

And having a crush on someone whom you can't obtain, 

Some ways to distinguish between love that isn't fake 

And feelings of attraction that often go away 

When one discovers that one's crush doesn't feel the same: 

~•~ 

When it comes to crushes, you want to ensure always 

That you seem "perfect" in your looks, what you do and say. 

In contrast, when some love you truly for Allah's sake, 

They accept your flaws, help without forcing you to change, 

And your true self doesn't disgust them in any way. 

~•~

When around your crushes, your heart quickly palpitates, 

You get nervous or tense, while some body parts may shake. 

Contrary to that, when you love some for Allah's sake, 

You feel at peace in their presence, and when they're away 

You miss them and smile, praying you'll reunite someday.

~•~

When a crush does something hurtful, you can't concentrate, 

And when they've been absent, you're easy to irritate. 

On the other hand, when you love some for Allah's sake, 

You easily give them excuse, forgive their mistakes, 

And pardon their late replies, moodiness, and delays.

~•~ 

Having a crush on someone can take just a few days, 

And you forget them once another crush comes your way, 

Or infatuation dies when you're tired of heartbreaks. 

As for truly loving a Muslim for Allah's sake, 

Even after they've died, your love loyally remains.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: A man came to the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and he said, “O Messenger of Allah, what do you say about a man who loves a people but his deeds do not compare to theirs?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A person will be with those whom he loves."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5817 

Sahih Muslim 2641

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah will say on the Day of Resurrection: 'Where are those who love each other for the sake of My Glory? Today, I will shelter them in My shade on a day when there is no shade but Mine."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2566

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: A bedouin asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, “When is the Hour?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "What have you prepared for it?" The man said, “Love for Allah and His Messenger (Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam).” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You will be with those whom you love."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3688 

Sahih Muslim 2639

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-confession-on-few-good-souls-whom.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/poem-defeat-evil-desires-with-taqwa.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-tips-to-deal-with-unlawful-love.html  

Note: There Is Always Wisdom Behind Allah's Will To Prevent Or Take Something Or Someone From You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Oftentimes Allah the All-Knowing answers your Du'as not in the form of giving, bestowing and adding, but in taking something from you, removing someone from your circle of companions and preventing you from attaining certain things you assume are good for you when in reality they aren't. So when your job application was rejected, when that marriage proposal was not accepted, when those individuals whom you thought could be trustworthy friends became total strangers again, when you and some souls aren't close anymore, when you weren't able to pass an exam, when a project was cancelled, when you lost interest in a permissible activity, when you didn't make it to a particular event, when many have disappointed you so you can't confide in them like you used to, whatever it is that you lost or couldn't achieve may be a blessing in disguise. Maybe Allah is protecting you from the bad influence of someone, from possessing qualities that He dislikes like greed, miserliness and excessive pride, or He wants something ideally suitable for you which is more rewarding as it enhances patience and can lead you faster to the way to Jannah Paradise. Since we're humans with a limited capacity to perceive Allah's Wisdom and we don't have all the knowledge of what goes on around us, it's not right at all to question Him why things are the way they are and why we can't do everything that we like.

In the next life Inn-sha-Allah we can discover that Allah indeed shielded us from several unfortunate outcomes by not giving us all that we desired. 

~•~

📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience and it is good for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2999

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-allah-almighty-controls-all-things.html 

Poem: Confident Muslimahs Are Not Obsessed With Taking Selfies

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 It's a mistake to assume that self-assured ladies 

Are the ones who flaunt their beauty and upload selfies, 

When in reality posting selfies frequently 

Indicates narcissism, clearly low self-esteem, 

And eagerness to be loved through superficial means.

~•~

When you spot females flaunting their insecurities 

Through photos of themselves with filters, corny techniques, 

And fake eyelashes, don't be triggered by jealousy. 

Instead, feel pity and sorry that they have the need 

To seek people's approval by posing cheesily.

~•~

Behind each selfie may be a plea to "look at me, 

Though sad inside, I can smile. Please tell me I'm pretty. 

I put effort into modeling so you can see 

I have what it takes to act like a celebrity.

Without my fans' likes and comments I'd be incomplete."

~•~

Truly confident Muslimahs with inner beauty 

Don't impose on themselves to post cringeworthy selfies. 

They don't care about fitting in with lost crowds, firstly, 

And their prime goal in life is to please Allah Only, 

Through good deeds, a clean heart, and valuing modesty.

~•~

Women with strong faith/Imaan and personality, 

Who thrive by loving Allah more than anybody,  

And fulfilling their duties as Muslims patiently, 

Don't insult themselves by behaving indecently.

Selfie-addiction suits the unhappy inwardly.

~•~

📖 Abu Udhaynah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best of your women are loving, fertile, suitable, and comforting, if they fear Allah. The worst of your women unveil their beauty, take pride in their appearance, and they are hypocrites. None of them will enter Paradise except as rarely as you see a red-beaked crow."

Source: Al-Sunan Al-Kubrá 12480

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-nine-signs-of-actual-narcissists.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-five-insecure-habits-that.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-what-insecure-people-do-and-tips.html 

Poem: As Allah's Servants, Someday We Must Return To Him

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Even if we take precautions to flee from dying, 

Even if we tried to ensure our life is lengthened 

By eating healthily and exercising often, 

By resting, commuting safely, and quitting smoking, 

At some point in time, we'll die when our death is destined.

~•~

Even if global pandemic were non-existent, 

Even if on earth there weren't any sick patients, 

For as long as Allah made us and we're His servants, 

One day or night we'll return to Allah for certain, 

Hopefully we die after we've prayed or while praying.

~•~

Anybody can wish for a life that's long-lasting 

And try their best to increase their worldly achievements, 

Whilst ensuring they're in a secure environment, 

But if Allah destines that a soul returns to Him 

On such and such a date, none can pause Allah's timing.

~•~

Any soul can plan for their wedding, graduation, 

Job interview, studies, or long-awaited mansion, 

While frequently asking Allah to grant more blessings, 

But if Allah wants someone to die in an instant, 

Nobody can stop Allah's Qadr from occuring.

~•~

Even if daily news these days weren't frightening 

And if all living things felt safe in their surroundings, 

All of Allah's slaves undoubtedly have an ending. 

Nonetheless, each soul's landing place is not the same thing. 

Pray to Allah that we're from those whom He greets smiling.

~•~ 

Note: Reminder to recite Surah Al-Mulk once in the daytime and evening so 

Inn-sha-Allah we're protected from the grave's torment. 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There is a chapter in the Qur'an, not but thirty verses (Surah Al-Mulk), which will argue on behalf of its companion until he enters Paradise. It is the chapter: 'Blessed is He (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is the Dominion.'" (The Noble Qur'an 67:1)

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Awsat 3667

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

📖 'Abdullah Ibn 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Be in this world as if you were a stranger or a traveler along a path." 

Ibn 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma would say, “If you make it to the evening, do not wait for the morning. If you make it to the morning, do not wait for the evening. Take from your health for your sickness, and from your life for your death.” 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6053 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

📖 Ibn 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: A man said, "O Messenger of Allah, which of the believers is the best?" The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those with the best character." The man said, "Which of the believers is the wisest?" The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those who remember death often and have best prepared for it with good deeds; those are the wisest." 

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4259 

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-continue-striving-to-pass-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-do-your-best-to-be-ready-to-meet.html  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-wise-are-those-who-prepare.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-dont-be-afraid-of-dying-when-death.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-more-we-remember-death-regularly.html

Poem: Three Reasons Why A Loyal And Confident Wife Doesn't Need To Spy On Her Husband's Cellphone

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Three reasons why it's wrong to spy on your man's cellphone, 

Why it's unwise to inspect what he specially owns 

Even if the password to his phone's screen lock is known, 

Or when you're found using his gadget he never scolds, 

It's still wiser to respect him wherever he goes: 

~•~

Firstly - Frequently searching through his phone clearly shows 

That you can't trust him, as though he's not a grown adult. 

Snooping around his inbox when he just came from work, 

While he's asleep, in the bathroom, working or outdoors, 

Makes him feel much smaller than your distrust and ego.

~•~

Second - Monitoring his phone usage, what he knows, 

Who he communicates with and the places he'd go, 

Can waste your time, more so if he keeps other cellphones. 

Acting like a surveillance cam or agent also 

Increases stress when pointless curiosity grows.

~•~

Third - No need to surveil one's spouse when Muslims should know 

That Allah sees all the things which occur in this world, 

There are recording angels watching how souls perform, 

On Judgment Day Allah's Perfect Justice shall be shown, 

And lack of trust between spouses can bring forth divorce.

~•~

Believe in Allah and be smart enough to take note 

That loyal, tough and patient wives are so few on earth. 

By insecurely keeping track of your husband's phone, 

You're sending him signal that he can't be left alone, 

As you won't trust him, until he leaves you on your own.

~•~

📖 Mu'awiyah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, if you seek out the faults of people, you will corrupt them or nearly corrupt them."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4888

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Barzah Al-Aslami RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "O you who declare faith with their tongues but faith (Imaan) has not entered their hearts! Do not backbite the Muslims nor seek their faults. Whoever seeks their faults (searches for their mistakes or flaws through mischievous ways like spying), Allah will seek his faults. And if Allah seeks his faults, He will expose him even in the privacy of his own house."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4880

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Zayd Ibn Wahb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: A man was brought to Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu, and it was said, “This man was found with wine dripping from his beard!” Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, “Verily, we have been prohibited from spying, but if he (himself) shows it to us publicly we will seize him.”

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4890

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/poem-tips-on-how-to-respect-your-husband.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-five-mistakes-that-muslim-wife.html 

Poem: Some Negative Qualities Of Disloyal/Disrespectful Wives To Avoid

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five signs to watch out for to spot a disloyal wife, 

To detect a woman who's easily prone to pride 

And who acts like she loves her husband when deep inside 

She married him just for the cash that he can provide, 

Or for his job title so by many she's admired: 

~•~

One - Online and offline she befriends non-mahram guys, 

Chatting with this guy and other men in her spare time 

About random issues without guilt, and in her eyes 

It's "fine" to be chill and casual with people she likes, 

As hanging with males since high school is her usual style.

~•~ 

Two - To take a sip from where her spouse drank she dislikes. 

If she knows the parts where he ate from or took some bites 

From edibles she'd nibble at a different side 

Or rewash the utensils he used several times. 

Treat him like a lover, not dirt you're disgusted by.

~•~

Three - Domineering and disrespectful of his rights, 

She bosses him around and yells at him oftentimes, 

Tries to control his whereabouts, goals, likes and dislikes, 

And she threatens him with divorce whenever they'd fight, 

Asserting she can marry another anytime.

~•~

Four - Insincere in her love, untrustworthy and sly, 

Manipulative and self-serving a lot of times, 

This actress easily switches from kind to unkind 

When her husband can't fulfill demands although he's tired 

And struggling. The term "uncaring" befits bad wives.

~•~

Five - Scornfully she insists that he'd prioritize 

Pleasing her more than his mom and Allah the Most Wise. 

She's the type to frequently criticize and backbite 

About her in-laws, adding stress to her husband's life, 

Through frequent nagging, scolding, complaints, and spiteful vibes.

~•~

From the traits common among loyal and patient wives: 

They fear Allah most, love one's spouse for Allah, and strive 

To be gentle, to be respectful, to sympathize, 

Help one's zawj in what's right, and if he's unsatisfied,

They're willing to bravely share him with another wife.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/note-pious-wife-is-not-materialistic.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/poem-some-signs-that-good-wives-love.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-be-your-husbands-grateful-wife.html

Poem: Different Faces Of Depression

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Depression isn't only shown in sleeping a lot, 

For constant worry at night can cause one to stay up. 

Sorrow can make one lethargic or insomniac, 

Squandering one's lifetime on pointless games, excess naps, 

Sins that spoil one's soul with guilt, like addiction to drugs. 

~•~

Depression can be obvious, or concealed behind masks 

Of seemingly happy people who frequently laugh, 

Post selfies, record viral videos, upload cool vlogs, 

Gain fans daily on YouTube, Instagram and TikTok, 

While deep inside they feel empty, confused, sad and lost.

~•~

As long as they don't believe in Allah, our True God, 

While much of their lives are spent on fleeting joys and fraud, 

And they're guilty of injustice, hurting this and that, 

Materialists lack actual peace despite what they've got, 

More so if they're misguided and far from Allah's Love.

~•~

It's fine to cry sometimes, specially when life gets rough, 

Until sadness leads you to think of suicidal thoughts, 

To doubt Allah's Wisdom and assume He is "unjust", 

And you find yourself agreeing with shaytan's waswaas. 

Defeat shaytan's plots with Qur'an, Adhkaar and Du'as.

~•~

Don't label yourself as "depressed" due to wrongful acts 

Done by jealous souls or those who were badly brought up. 

Bad news surrounding you should inspire you to stay tough, 

To trust Allah and strive to see Him someday above 

In Jannah where there's lasting peace and hearts can relax.

~•~

📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of righteousness), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318 

Sahih Muslim 2573

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-what-you-can-do-as-muslim-when.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-what-to-avoid-in-order-to-be-happy.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-ways-to-deal-with-depression-as.html 

Poem: Beware Of shaytan's Plot To Delude Some Souls To Trying Out Homosexuality

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Allah's archenemy, the devil, will try his best 

To delude humankind to fail all of Allah's tests, 

To distort, ruin and twist what Allah created, 

And make earth a playground of sins and chaotic mess, 

To collect more playmates in Hell where he's bound to rest.

~•~

If shaytan notices that you're passing every test, 

That you're praying on time, wearing hijaab with courage, 

And you ditch zina because you're waiting for marriage, 

This crafty nemesis may try to get you tempted 

To commit what the misguided people of Lut ('alaihis salaam) did.

~•~

shaytan may persistently suggest that you'd notice 

Another Muslimah's pleasant features, attractive 

Qualities, or vibes until you become addicted 

To admiring them in a way that's more than needed, 

And two hearts that get attached may want to share a kiss.

~•~

shaytan may entice you with thoughts like, "you both know it, 

You're attracted to each other, stop denying it. 

Invite her to a place that's quiet and secluded. 

It's fine, touching each other won't lead to having kids. 

People will never find out. Allah always forgives."

~•~

When shaytan tries to distract you from truth and logic,

While playing with your feelings is one of his sly tricks, 

Beg for Allah's Help, so shaytan gets disappointed. 

Pray, "Dear Allah, I'm weak, please keep my faith protected," 

And with Sabr and Taqwa, strive to pass Allah's tests.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has pardoned my nation for what occurs within themselves (inappropriate thoughts, imaginations, or feelings), as long as they do not speak of it or act upon it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6287 

Sahih Muslim 127

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, what I fear most for my nation is the deed of the people of Lot / Prophet Lut 'alaihis salaam (i.e. homosexuality, zina between same genders)."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1374

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man should not look at the nakedness (private parts) of another man, and a woman should not look at the nakedness (private parts) of another woman. A man should not lie with another man under a single blanket, and a woman should not lie with another woman under a single blanket."

Source: Sahih Muslim 338

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/poem-on-prohibition-of-homosexuality.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/poem-know-your-fitrah-no-one-is-born-gay.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-three-reasons-why-taking-pride-in.html

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/lgbtq-homosexuality-gay-muslims-and-islam/

Poem: Journeying To Allah's Love

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Mercful

💌 This is my love story with Allah our Creator,

Ever since I was in the womb of my dear mother.

Allah is the Only One Whose Love I run after,

Always praying I meet Allah in Jannah up there.

~•~

My love for Allah is in looking forward to pray,

Leaving the comfort of sleep so I can supplicate,

Crying to Allah though I haven't seen yet His Face,

Finding peace with Allah every time I say His Names.

~•~

I cry in the morn when I miss our meetings at night,

Missing Qiyam Al-Layl which I pray once in a while.

There is relief knowing that Allah knows I was tired,

So I rise to pray Duha prayers after sunrise.

~•~

Allah's Love is shown when He grants trials that strengthen

And increase my Imaan so my soul isn't weakened.

Allah gifts me with difficulties that train patience

Which push me towards Allah's Love through supplications.

~•~

Allah's Love is also proven when He teaches me

About the Deen and how to accept His Destiny,

How to please Him through morals and sincere piety,

Preferring Jannah's bliss to what is temporary.

~•~

Being human often makes me slip yet I recall

My duty to Allah and how I'm accountable.

Thus with faith I rush to Allah the Most Merciful,

Begging Him to forgive me and enlighten my soul.

~•~

In this course of ups and downs, I long to reach the top,

Combating obstacles for Allah I can't give up.

So I go on serving till I see Allah above

In Jannah, for my Islam which I maintained with love.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah the Almighty said: 'Whoever shows hostility (enmity) to a righteous friend of Mine, I have declared war upon him. My servant does not grow closer to Me with anything more beloved to Me than the obligatory duties that I have imposed upon him. My servant continues to grow closer to Me with extra good works (nawaafil deeds like praying Tahajjud and fasting Sunnah fasts) until I love him. When I love him, I am his hearing with which he hears, his seeing with which he sees, his hand with which he strikes, and his foot with which he walks. Were he to ask something from Me, I would surely give it to him. Were he to ask Me for refuge, I would surely grant it to him. I do not hesitate to do anything as I hesitate to take the soul of the believer, for he hates death and I hate to disappoint him.'"

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6137

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-what-to-search-for-to-know-if.html

Poem: Dealing With Letdowns And Disappointments As Muslims

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Tips on how to deal with letdowns and disappointments, 

As Muslims who strive to accept what Allah destines, 

So when someone's acts disappoint you, you stay patient, 

You'd react with, "I had a feeling that would happen. 

I'm not surprised. We can't always trust Allah's servants."

~•~

Consider, when some people tell you they'll do something, 

Such as students who promise they'll send their assignments 

Or customers who agree on certain transactions, 

Recall that they're humans, with feelings, limitations, 

And above all, Allah controls all situations.

~•~

If Allah the Most Wise, All-Knowing and All-Seeing, 

Did not predestine a particular occurrence, 

Then regardless of efforts to ensure it happens, 

Through your friends' assistance and frequent supplications, 

Such event won't take place if it was never destined.

~•~

Let each annoyance train you to excel at patience, 

As you thrive, with Allah's Will, by gaining more wisdom, 

Increased awareness that you can't depend on humans, 

Specially those who were deprived of good upbringing. 

Liars inspire us to thank Allah we're not like them.

~•~

Also note that many delay their prayers often 

And most disregard Allah's Rights and Legislations, 

Yet Allah the Almighty stays True, Firm and Patient. 

Keep serving Allah, despite people's disappointments. 

In Jannah we'll see the rewards of persevering.

~•~

📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience and it is good for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2999

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/notewisdom-of-why-some-duas-arent.html 

Poem: Some Things To Consider Before You Indulge In Backbiting About Other Muslims

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Some things to consider before you wish to complain 

About somebody's traits, unintentional mistakes, 

Or unappealing attributes they clearly display, 

So you're not guilty of a sin which Allah forbade - 

Backbiting or verbally abusing Allah's slaves:

~•~

If you and some friends give someone a funny nickname, 

Or describe them in a way that they would really hate, 

What's your intention? To hurt them as you entertain 

Your ego and insecure fans? Or to motivate 

Others to oppose them to soothe your personal aches? 

~•~

If through your complaints you aim to decrease your self-hate, 

Or to demonstrate rage on something that can be changed, 

Then keep dismay to yourself so good deeds are retained,

Or confront those who mistreated, meet them face to face, 

And bravely clarify why they must quit their mistake.

~•~

There's no need to criticize how a person behaves, 

Looks, smells, sounds, or makes choices if complaining portrays 

Pride that provokes impatience or desire to bring shame 

To your foes, and whining doesn't push problems away.

~•~ 

Before bashing a Muslim, put yourself in their place, 

Would you approve if about you critics said the same? 

If dissing other Muslims doesn't eliminate 

Religious ignorance while it just keeps your pride safe, 

Then remain quiet, and ditch rumors for Allah's sake.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do you know who is the bankrupt?" They said, “The one without money or goods is bankrupt.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the bankrupt of my nation are those who come on the Day of Resurrection with prayers, fasting, and charity, but also with insults, slander (and backbiting), consuming wealth, shedding blood (unlawfully murdering), and beating others. The oppressed (the Muslims whom they treated with injustice) will each be given from his good deeds. If his good deeds run out before justice is fulfilled, then their sins will be cast upon him and he (the oppressor) will be thrown into Jahannam/Hell."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2581

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim's

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu reported that they mentioned a man in front of the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and they said, “He only eats if he is fed! He only moves if he is made to move!” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You have backbitten him." They said, “We only said what is true about him.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is enough sin to mention bad things about your brother."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If what you said about him were not true, you would have slandered him."

Source: Musnad ‘Abdullah ibn Al-Mubārak 2

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Mundhiri 

📖 AbdurRahman Ghanm RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best servants of Allah are those who remind you of Allah when they are seen. The worst servants of Allah and those who spread gossip, separating between loved ones, and causing misery to the innocent."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 17998

Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi according to Al-Arna’ut

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Note: Checklist To Determine If You Have Some Narcissistic Qualities

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Checklist to determine if you are a narcissist, who is mostly driven by pride / kibr and lacks ability to empathize with others: 

1 ] Whenever you enter a room that is occupied with some people, arrive at a crowded mall, or attend a social gathering, do you immediately expect a number of individuals to first greet you with a grandiose welcome, or compliment on your good looks or new outfit / haircut / accessory? Do you feel offended if you don't receive VIP (very important person) treatment?

2 ] If an entire day passes by without getting undivided attention from a specific person or loved one, would you feel empty because you're accustomed to receiving compliments and enjoy it when all eyes are on you? 

3 ] Do you feel overly confident and proud of your outward appearance, tall height, and fit figure? Do you get jealous, even slightly envious, when you discover that someone else online or offline appears more attractive than you? 

4 ] Was there an occasion when you distributed some items or gifts to the guests while purposely leaving a particular individual out because you personally despised the latter? Do you habitually go out of your way to let somebody know that you despise them, instead of maturely keeping unwarranted feelings to yourself? 

5 ] When it comes to choosing your close friends, do you chase those who seem to have abundant wealth or impressive status in society, so the connection benefits your selfish personal gain? If someone isn't as good-looking, healthy, or wealthy as you, do you dismiss their efforts in trying to be more acquainted? 

6 ] When an individual annoys you or embarrasses you in front of others, do you later spend a considerable amount of time plotting of ways to get even the next minute you see them, instead of analyzing the possible reasons for their misconduct? 

7 ] Is it challenging for you to say nice things about another individual on their looks, achievements, or skills, because you pridefully believe that you're way more superior, and nobody on earth can equal your awesomeness? 

8 ] Do you have a bad habit of interrupting people's conversations without sincerely apologizing or clarifying why you're in a hurry? 

9 ] Is it difficult or intimidating for you to apologize when you've made a mistake or tell someone that you love them? 

10 ] Do you often bring food to gatherings with reluctance and unwillingly give what you can share only to display that you're "generous", "caring" or "fabulous" at gift-giving? Were there times when you gave some people some freebies not due to genuine kindness but because you wanted the recipients to return your shady generosity?

11 ] Does gossiping, fault-finding, or laughing at others' flaws come to you naturally? Was there more than one incident when a person whom you disliked turned their back on you or walked away, and you made an offensive remark about them which caused your friends nearby to laugh or giggle?

Allah the Almighty knows best. If you answered "yes" to at least five of the above questions, then you may have some traits that are characteristic of narcissists. 

❌ 5 Things you can't do with narcissists:

1 ) You can't trust them at all, since they care more about themselves and their gigantic ego than you and your betterment. 

2 ) You can never tell them any secret, because they'll either make fun of you or utilize the info you shared with them as a hot topic for their immature gossip. 

3 ) You can't ask them for sincere advice, as seeing you progress or improve in any way adds misery to their life. 

4 ) You can't expect them to support or cheer for you when you're trying to start a project, pass an exam, or attain a certain goal. A narcissist loves to assume that they're always right, "flawless", more successful than you and they celebrate whenever they see you fall. 

5 ) You can't feel good around narcissists because every meeting with them is an invitation to compete in terms of worldly matters. You can sense your level of faith/Imaan becoming weaker each time they deliberately attempt to make you feel ashamed, incompetent or inferior. 

To protect your faith/Imaan and emotional well-being, avoid narcissists for Allah's sake or minimize unnecessary interactions with them. 

~•~

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of arrogance (atom's weight of kibr) in his heart will enter Paradise." A man said, “But a man likes to have nice clothes and nice shoes.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance is to disregard (or reject) the truth and to look down upon the people."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-nine-signs-of-actual-narcissists.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-what-it-means-to-be-actually.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-what-real-arrogance-is-and-what-it.html

https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-with-a-Narcissistic-Friend

Poem: What It Means To Boycott And Warning Against Boycotting Another Muslim

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Five scenarios to clarify what boycotting means, 

What prideful boycotting looks like while it's not esteemed, 

As it entails arrogance that disrupts harmony, 

Harms Muslim communities and divides families, 

As though pleasing Allah matters less than how one feels:

~•~

First scene - An 'adult' who moves out of her fam's abode, 

After some misunderstandings which haven't been solved. 

Many months pass by, and from her there's no text, no calls, 

And her own parents don't receive a salaam at all. 

When will she reconnect? When Allah retrieves her soul?

~•~

Second - When a Muslim who claims to appreciate 

Good manners and forgiving others for Allah's sake 

Decides to block your profile online so there's no way 

To check on them, send salaams, or explain your mistakes, 

And if you cross paths offline, they awkwardly escape.

~•~

Third - When you're asked to attend an ex-friend's funeral, 

And in traveling to their place there's no obstacle, 

Despite not being busy, you grant them refusal, 

No Du'a for the dead because pride makes you recall 

Your frequent quarrels or how your friendship had to fall.

~•~

Fourth - When you're in a conference, social gathering, 

Or wedding, and someone you once liked greets you smiling,

And instead of answering, you stare at them scowling, 

And so long as they're nearby, you choose to stay silent, 

Unaware acting sulky shows you're unconfident.

~•~

Fifth - When the person you're avoiding asks for advice, 

Financial support, or assistance of any kind, 

While you have the means or know how to kindly reply, 

You leave their messages on seen mode, or say goodbye 

By blocking them, and you refuse to apologize.

~•~

It's normal to argue with loved ones, once in a while, 

And feeling hurt makes it hard to look them in the eyes. 

After three days though, one must be brave enough to rise 

And say salaam to please Allah, and ditch lousy pride. 

If you can't reconcile, at least forgive from inside.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is not lawful for a Muslim to boycott his brother for more than three days. Whoever boycotts for more than three days and dies (upon that state of arrogantly boycotting), he will enter Hellfire."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4914

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Abu Ayyub RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is not lawful for a Muslim to boycott his brother for more than three nights, such that they meet each other and turn away from one another. The better of the two is the one who initiates the (salaam) greeting of peace."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5727

Sahih Muslim 2560

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do not hate each other, do not envy each other, do not turn away from each other, but rather be servants of Allah as brothers. It is not lawful for a Muslim to boycott his brother for more than three days."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5718

Sahih Muslim 2559

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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Poem: Some Of The Reasons Why Some Muslim Men Remarry

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Seven reasons why a Muslim man may remarry, 

Keeping the first wife while loving another lady, 

While he can afford, with financial ability, 

To try his best to care for multiple wives fairly:

~•~

One: The woman whom a married guy wants to marry 

May be someone whom he went on dates with formerly, 

When he was ignorant, back in university, 

Or in high school, and by marrying her lawfully, 

He protects himself from zina and adultery. 

~•~

Two: He's fatherly, likes kids, and wishes to increase 

The size of his family, or the first can't conceive 

More babies, or she's tested with infertility. 

Three: The woman happens to be one of his colleagues. 

By having her as his wife, he preserves chastity.

~•~

Four: With a wife from a different tribe or country, 

The man seeks to strengthen the Muslim community. 

By marrying from another nationality 

Or background, one plays a role in bringing harmony 

Among Muslims and tribalism too can decrease.

~•~

Five: To comply with the request of the first wifey, 

Who aims to ensure that her husband is not guilty 

Of zina when encountering fitna, specially 

If he works or studies in a faraway city, 

And her agreement proves that her love for him is real.

~•~

Six: He's the kind of guy who gets fed up easily, 

Gets bored with just one lover and fixed daily routine. 

You can't blame him if how he was brought up previously 

Taught him it's fine to be spoiled and meet needs instantly.

Wives of such kind of guys are trained to love patiently.

~•~

Seven: He manages branches in various cities. 

With a wife in each assigned place, he can guarantee, 

With Allah's Will, extra output and efficiency. 

As a Muslim servant, don't question Allah's Decree, 

And as your husband's wife, if you know your love is real, 

You'd never leave, even if your soulmate remarries.

~•~

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Marriage is part of my Sunnah. Whoever does not act upon my Sunnah is not part of me. Give each other in marriage, for I will boast of your great numbers before the nations. Whoever has the means, let him contract a marriage. Whoever does not have the means should fast, as fasting will restrain his impulses."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1846

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

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Poem: Some Advice To Each Muslimah Who's About To Be A Second Wife

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 To each lady who's about to be a second wife, 

Who agreed to a man's proposal as she admires 

How he strives to be righteous, responsible and kind, 

And though she sees that he's married, she knows from inside 

That having him as her spouse adds blessings to her life: 

~•~

Don't feel guilty of saying yes. No need to think twice 

If the man you'll marry already has a good wife, 

While you're aware that she's fine, as she humbly complies 

With Allah's Laws, and she confirms that's her husband's right 

To remarry and double the joys of marriage life. 

~•~

Before the Waleemah your intention purify. 

Eagerness to be closer to Allah should be why 

You're willing to welcome polygynous marriage life, 

Not to break families, force him to leave his first wife, 

Not to seize his wealth nor cause any marital strife.

~•~

Regard your husband's first wife as a friend who inspires 

You to keep loving your spouse, with patience day and night, 

Like readers sharing a book that's precious and worthwhile, 

And they're careful not to cause damage, tears at the sides, 

And if there are stains, both would fix or apologize.

~•~

Since you're wed to a human who errs once in a while, 

Remember to assist him, guide, remind and advise. 

Be strong enough to forgive each other, empathize, 

And encourage him to never neglect his first wife. 

Aspire to ensure your love life leads to Paradise.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "If a man has two wives and he is not just (fair) between them, he will come on the Day of Resurrection with one of his sides collapsed."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1141 

Grade: Sahih 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/poem-from-signs-of-pious-wives-is-they.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-confessions-of-wife-who-welcomes.html 

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Hadith: Warning Against Miserliness And Selfishness When You Have The Means To Share

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah (the Almighty) said: 'Spend in charity, O son of Adam, and I shall spend on you.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 993

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah but that Allah raises his status."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2588

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Two qualities are never combined in a (true) believer: Miserliness and bad character."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1962

Grade: Sahih li ghayrihi (Authentic due to external evidence) according to Al-Albani

Poem: The Mindset Of A Loyal And Patient Wife When Her Husband Can't Always Be Around

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 How the mindset of a brave and patient wife should be, 

When she loves her husband for Allah wholeheartedly, 

As she deals with her husband's absence so frequently, 

With him assigned in another city or country, 

Or she's one of his many wives, in polygyny: 

~•~

"I testify I agreed to this marriage purely 

For Allah, to raise a righteous Muslim family, 

To attain means that lead to more of Allah's Mercy, 

To preserve modesty, and help my soulmate achieve 

Entry to Jannah Paradise, bringing him with me.

~•~

I admit that in marriage there'll be difficulties. 

From the trials encountered is inability 

To spend quality time with one's hubby constantly, 

No matter how much you wish that you could always see 

Each other, there comes a point when his needs interfere.

~•~

Unlike most wives who are attached, clingy and whiney, 

I choose to cope with my husband's distance patiently. 

In that is inner strength, not emotionally weak, 

And I know that Allah watches over him every 

Second of each day and night, whilst he's up and asleep.

~•~

The fact that my friend and I are married legally, 

That he's my husband while I'm his wife, suffices me. 

No need for constant convos to prove our bond is real, 

When Jannah's joys surpass this world that's temporary. 

I await Jannah where love can last eternally."

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The most privileged people in the world among the people of the Hellfire will come on the Day of Resurrection to be dipped in the Hellfire, then it will be said: 'O son of Adam, did you see any good? Did you get any blessing?' He will say: 'No, by Allah, my Lord!' Then the most miserable people in the world among the people of Paradise will come on the Day of Resurrection to be dipped in Paradise, then it will be said: 'O son of Adam, did you see any hardship? Did you have any distress?' He will say: 'No, by Allah, my Lord! I did not once see hardship or distress.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2807

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Tips: Some Notes On The General Etiquettes Of Greeting With The Salaam

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📋 Some notes on the general etiquettes of greeting with the salaam: 

1] Initiating greeting with the salaam is a rewarding Sunnah. If you say the salaam upon entering a Masjid, lecture hall, room, office or classroom, 

you will Inn-sha-Allah receive rewards for saying salaam. If you choose to enter quietly without any salaam, there is no penalty or punishment.

2] Answering a Muslim's salaam is waajib/obligatory, since Allah the Almighty Himself commands the believers in Surah An-Nisaa that when we are greeted with the salaam, we should greet with a better greeting (say "wa 'alaikum as-salaam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh") or at least return it. 

3] It is closer to the Sunnah and tradition of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam for: The younger Muslim to first greet the older Muslim, the driver (in a vehicle) to first greet the person walking, the individual walking to first greet those who are already seated, and a small group to first greet a much larger group. This encourages a sense of humility, self-respect, and prevents one from treating others as though they are celebrities who feel entitled to be greeted first due to their social status.  

4] All actions are rewarded according to the doer's niyyah/intention. It is wiser to avoid greeting non-mahrams of the opposite gender if doing so regularly could lead to fitna or trigger gradual feelings of attraction. 

5] While it is encouraged to say the salaam upon entering a circle or meeting, it is more important, and from proper Islamic manners, to say the salaam again before one leaves the gathering instead of abruptly disappearing without notification. 

6] When some non-Muslims greet you with "as-salaamu 'alaikum", you may respond equally with "wa 'alaikum as-salaam". The response "wa 'alaikum" which the noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam told a number of Jews on one occasion was said to answer their statement "as-saam 'alaikum". If a non-Muslim tries to greet you in a passive-aggressive way, you may answer back with "wa 'alaikum" meaning "and upon you too". 

7] Don't feel offended if some individuals purposely ignore your salaam. There are Angels and Muslim jinn around you who may have answered your greeting, and 

Inn-sha-Allah you'll be rewarded for having the courage to initiate salaams. 

Allah the Almighty knows best.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the best people to Allah are those who are the first to greet with peace."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 5197

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When one of you arrives in a gathering, let him greet them with peace. When he intends to leave, let him depart with greetings of peace. The first greeting is not more worthy than the last."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 5208

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The rider should greet with peace those who are walking, those who are walking should greet those who are sitting, and a small group should greet a larger group."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5880 

Sahih Muslim 2160

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

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