Note: Some Advice On How To Deal With Being Treated Disrespectfully

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ How to deal with being treated disrespectfully... 

🔹 ...by someone who's a complete stranger and who may possibly not interact with you again in the future (such as unfriendly salespeople, insolent waiters, rude customers, bad-tempered staff, and grumpy taxi drivers etc.): 

1➡️ Cleverly analyze why they may be acting that way and have the strength to practice empathy. Maybe they're in a bad mood because: 

1✨ ...that's their last day / night at work and they're anxious concerning how to cope with unemployment. 

2✨ ...they haven't eaten anything for several hours and their hunger is what's triggering their irritability. 

3✨ ...they've just had a fight or argument with somebody whom they thought could be trusted. 

4.✨ ...they came back from a barber shop and they despise their awful haircut which is unfixable. 

5✨ ...they're brokenhearted, someone they admire rejected them and they loathe being single. 

6✨ ...they tried asking their employer or manager for a raise and instantly their request was denied. 

7✨ ...they haven't slept well in a long time, and their grumpiness is due to feeling groggy. 

8✨ ...a number of their loved ones are not giving them the respect which they demand, so they take out their frustration on strangers to soothe their emotional wounds. 

9✨ ...they generally dislike themselves and the job they accepted reluctantly. Their self-loathing is what leads them to treat other humans ungraciously.

2➡️ Thank Allah the Almighty that you're not the insecure individual who is emphasizing their lack of confidence by acting like a bully to others. It is more unfortunate and deplorable to be in that person's wretched circumstance (as they could be struggling with misery inwardly or they're being mistreated by somebody else which compels them to act obnoxiously) than to be the one on the receiving end of lousy conduct. 

3➡️ Since you understand what it feels like to be treated disrespectfully, be motivated to maintain good character, as much as possible, with every soul whom Allah the Most Wise destines you'd meet. 

🔹 ...if the disrespectful person is a family member, acquaintance or colleague whom you see frequently: 

1✨ Stay patient with them for Allah's sake, particularly if you can figure out what's causing them to act inappropriately. 

Are they missing somebody? Did they skip a meal? Do they need to take a nap to feel more energized? Have you forgotten something which they requested you to do? What if they misbehaved out of compulsion and someone else commanded them to treat you rudely due to that outsider's insecurities and immaturity? Are they actually depressed? Perhaps they can't stand being jealous of you?

2✨ Minimize unnecessary interactions and meaningless conversations with people who are knowingly toxic or disrespectful. Don't bother checking their posts and comments on social media either.

3✨ Instead of wanting to retaliate and verbally get back at those who've been unpleasant, confidently believe that Allah the Most Wise will deal with them justly at the most ideal timing, and conduct yourself as the more emotionally mature adult, as though you're a calm kindergarten teacher attempting to sympathize with a little child throwing a tantrum. While we can't always change or influence how people choose to behave, we have the freedom to cautiously select who from Allah's servants deserve our actual care, attention and reactions.

~•~ 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and purposely committing oppression / injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 

By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:

"The supplications of three persons are never turned away (rejected): A fasting person until he breaks his fast, a just ruler, and the supplication of the oppressed which is raised by Allah above the clouds, the gates of Paradise are opened for it, and Allah the Almighty says: 'By My Might and Majesty, I will help you in due time.'"

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3598 Grade: Sahih

Umar Ibn Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu said:

"Beware of the supplication of the oppressed (Du'a against the oppressive person), for the supplication of the oppressed is answered."

Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa 1890 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-three-reasons-why-allah-sometimes.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-ways-to-react-to-peoples-rudeness.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-three-tips-on-how-not-to-be-overly.html 

Tips: Nine Things Which People With A Strong Personality Are Not Afraid To Do

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Nine things which you're not afraid to do when Allah the Almighty blesses you with a strong personality (true confidence):

1] When you have a strong personality, you're not afraid of standing out from a crowd or behaving differently from the majority of people, as long as you firmly believe that whatever you're doing is something which Allah the Most Wise and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam love. 

2] When you have a strong personality, you're not afraid of speaking up and correcting a person's misinformation or misinterpretation which could mislead others. 

3] When you have a strong personality, you're not afraid to disappoint people and decline requests which you're incapable of doing, whether you refuse to comply because you've got other tasks to prioritize or doing that favor would conflict with your values. 

4] When you have a strong personality, you're not afraid to verbally defend a Muslim who's the subject of some lousy gossip and rumors, or if you can't say anything in their defense, without hesitation you are not afraid to walk away from the toxic discussion. 

5] When you have a strong personality, you're not afraid of saying sorry and sincerely apologizing to individuals whom you have knowingly or unintentionally mistreated. 

6] When you have a strong personality, you're not afraid of looking weird, seeming strange to others and getting laughed at for doing something which not everybody can readily approve of. 

7] When you have a strong personality, you're not afraid of making mistakes and encountering failures, as you always trust Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala Who knows what's best for you, and you're willing to learn from any mistake you commit. 

8] When you have a strong personality, you're not afraid of giving something a second and third try after failing in the first attempt. If it doesn't work out again, you're not afraid of canceling it or conducting different plans to reach the same goal. 

9] When you have a strong personality, you're not afraid of solitude and appearing "lonely" if you decide to quit trying to be close friends with individuals who are untrustworthy or whose vibes are not good for you.

~•~ 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Help your brother, whether he is an oppressor or is being oppressed." It was said, “O Messenger of Allah, we help the oppressed, but how do we help an oppressor?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "By seizing his hand (by preventing the oppressor from oppressing)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2312 

Sahih Muslim 2584

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/note-on-being-one-of-allahs-allies.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-on-fearing-only-allah-almighty.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/tips-signs-of-females-with-very-weak.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/03/tips-eleven-tips-to-become-more.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-eleven-signs-of-people-with-strong.html 

https://youtu.be/UH2Xbg1C-SU

Tips: Some Signs That Allah The Almighty Blessed You With Inner Peace

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Some signs that Allah the Almighty has blessed you with inner peace and serenity (you don't have anxiety): 

1] Listening to songs and music as a hobby is something you don't do anymore. You prefer to attain peace by frequently reading from the Noble Qur'an and listening to soothing Qur'an recitations. 

2] You regularly say Dhikr, including the morning and evening Adhkaar, and increase saying Istighfaar whenever you can. 

3] You know that your heart is free from unreasonable grudges and the urge to carry out revenge on another Muslim. If there's someone whose unreliability and bad attributes cause you to dislike them for Allah's sake, you simply avoid stalking their posts online and minimize unnecessary interactions with them instead of indulging in lousy gossip. 

4] You're incapable of getting offended and disappointed easily, aware that every human being whom Allah the Most Wise wants you to interact with is liable to forgetting, misconstruing and committing mistakes once in a while, and not everybody is fortunate to have been educated about good manners. 

5] You're confident enough to refrain from overreacting emotionally when some individuals forgot or refuse to invite you to attend a social event or gathering, as you strongly believe that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala already destined the places where you're meant to visit and already chose for you the kind of people whom you can feel comfortable around and whose values won't conflict with your goals. 

6] Being nosy or intrusive, obsessively browsing around profiles of strangers who can't inspire you to become a better Muslim, and trying to catch up with vloggers who upload content which can't provide any significant value to your faith/Imaan are not from your usual habits. The less you nosily interfere with the personal issues of people while your interference causes more stress than benefit, the more inner peace you enjoy. 

7] You're unable to feel envious of others, or if ever you're sightly triggered by envy, you are tough enough to resist acting upon negative feelings of jealousy. Jealous individuals are more likely distressed and anxious than Muslims who patiently accept Allah's Wisdom in distributing His tests and blessings to whomever He Wills. 

8] You willingly let go of past misunderstandings and don't make it a rule to win every single debate or argument. You know when to speak up and when it's wiser to remain silent. 

9] FOMO (fear of missing out) doesn't affect you negatively. If some relatives, mutual friends or colleagues go on a trip without you, you don't act insecure nor scold them regarding why they didn't include you. Reflectively you analyze the possible reasons behind their choice to exclude you this time, either due to lack of budget or assumption that you're too busy to participate, and with rewarding Sabr accept Allah's Qadr in not decreeing that you'd accompany them. 

~•~ 

📖 Ali Ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience and it is good for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2999

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://abukhadeejah.com/finding-the-sweetness-of-iman-delights-of-worship/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-inner-strength-with-taqwa-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/tips-seven-things-to-avoid-to-achieve.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-three-signs-of-people-who-are.html 

Tips: Advice On How Not To Care About How People Perceive You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Five things to recall, to not care about people's opinions of you: 

1] Allah the Almighty Who created us has complete control over everything and everybody. Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala is the Only One Whom we must strive to please; we weren't designed to behave like slaves to His servants. 

2] Why should we care about how people perceive us when they themselves aren't entirely flawless and infallible? It doesn't make sense if a bunch of pencils laugh at an unsharpened pencil while they're either too short to grasp, they're broken or they're similarly blunt.  

3] A lot of the individuals who find it easy to criticize you may act hypercritical to distract themselves from their own problems and insecurities. Don't allow somebody's misery to disturb your inner peace. 

4] Just as you have the freedom to make judgments about people, according to their treatment of you or how you truly feel around them, others have a right to evaluate you based on their current circumstances and past experiences. Ultimately the way they view you says more about them than your true identity and reality. 

5] Most of the people on earth are not genuinely confident or actually happy from within. Those who are insecure with themselves or who feel as though they're lacking something which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala granted you have a tendency to magnify your faults so their emotional wounds are soothed. As long as you're doing what you believe can bring you closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, don't bother adjusting or altering yourself to appease a fellow servant.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/tips-trust-allah-and-never-be-affected.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-on-how-not-to-be-affected-by.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-dont-let-critics-decelerate-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-three-tips-on-how-not-to-be-overly.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/tips-how-most-intjs-would-respond-to.html 

Tips: Checklist To Determine If Your Husband Truly Deserves You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Checklist to determine if your spouse is worth loving and keeping for Allah's sake, patiently remain as your husband's loyal and patient wife if you end up checking most of these, whether you are in polygyny, LDR (long-distance relationship) or a monogamous marriage: 

1🔹 From the very beginning, you sincerely agreed to marry your husband for the sake of Allah the Almighty, eager to complete the other half of your Deen. You accepted your husband's marriage proposal not for his wealth or status but to accompany him on a loving journey to Jannah Paradise. [    ] 

2🔹 The first time you made actual eye contact with your husband, you felt shy or bashful, with your awkwardness or nervousness indicating that you really felt attracted to him. [    ] 

3🔹 Overall you strongly believe that your husband is a good man, despite his faults and imperfections. [    ] 

4🔹 Your husband, with Allah's Will and Mercy, was able to teach you at least one valuable lesson which other individuals aren't capable of teaching. Or you acknowledge that ever since you married your husband for Allah's sake, Alhamdulillah, you've become a better Muslim. [    ] 

5🔹 At least three of your husband's relatives, regardless of how old they are, harmoniously get along with you. [    ] 

6🔹 You truthfully respect your husband's current occupation and/or you admire how your hard-working husband tries his best to earn only halal income. [    ] 

7🔹 You can imagine feeling remorseful if ever you asked for a divorce. You'd rather strive to maintain patience, for Allah's sake, with your husband than occasionally pass by a non-mahram whose face reminds you of all the wonderful moments you've enjoyed together. [    ] 

8🔹 Other couples' love stories can't make you feel jealous at all. Instead of feeling envious, noticing another wife thriving in her marriage inspires you to be even more loyal to your husband for Allah's sake. [    ] 

9🔹 You're willing to relocate with your husband or work as his secretary or assistant if necessary. [    ] 

10🔹 Chatting with your husband online and face to face is enjoyable, informative and beneficial, not boring or too toxic. [    ] 

11🔹 You can visualize wanting a second wedding with your husband if ever you had to temporarily split up. You understand that it's possible to remarry your soulmate twice if Allah the Most Wise decrees it. [    ] 

12🔹 You and your husband have at least three common goals, qualities or interests. [    ] 

13🔹 You remember that you prayed two Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaarah before agreeing to marry your husband for Allah's sake. [    ] 

14🔹 Earnestly you hope and look forward to seeing your husband become more successful as a dedicated Muslim, with Allah's Will, at the most ideal timing. [    ] 

15🔹 It's easy for you to defend your husband and think of reasonable excuses to back him up whenever critics criticize him. [    ] 

16🔹 Numerous times you've shed tears while mentioning your husband's name in loving Du'as. [    ] 

17🔹 The fact that you can afford to let your husband remarry or be employed in a different city is one of the countless evidences of how much you truly love your soulmate for Allah's sake. [    ]

~•~ 

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-love-your-husband-for-allah-dont.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-if-my-husband-wanted-divorce-id.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-why-i-despise-divorce-even-though.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/note-dont-be-too-quick-to-ask-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-three-tips-to-preserve-your.html 

Links: Three E-Books (Summary And Two PDF Documents Of More Than 100 Selected Poems)

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗂️ Da'wah According To The Noble Qur'an And Sunnah Of The Beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. (Summary - PDF not for sale) 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1TxcfC6YawDkCh94m-4swRJk7jYbnhFlX/view?usp=drivesdk

📁 Just Sharing Islam (1st ebook of 103 selected Islamic poems - PDF not for sale) 

 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1U012hrM67qh3IFgEx8QYo4XtByA29YT8/view?usp=drivesdk

📂 Journeying Back To Jannah (2nd ebook of 135 selected Islamic poems - PDF not for sale) 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1TxjFxF8gey4ZtjG_WZqjBrpRNpm3lJcL/view?usp=drivesdk 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever travels a path in search of (beneficial and authentic) knowledge, Allah will make easy for him a path to Paradise."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2699

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Poem: What It Means To Have Patience As Your Dear Husband's Loyal Friend And Wife

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 If you ask me, "As your husband's loyal, grateful wife, 

What does it mean to have patience? Does patience imply 

Tolerating abuse from someone who sometimes lies, 

Condoning injustice, denying a woman's rights, 

Acting as if you're fine while you hide your frequent cries?" 

~•~

That's not the kind of patience which wise wives must apply. 

Patience for Allah inspires me to know that this life 

Is brief, not everlasting, so trials which arise 

To purify souls before entry to Paradise 

Become manageable. Grief can gradually subside. 

~•~

Patience for Allah's sake, as your husband's pious wife, 

Helps you become stronger emotionally when pride 

And lousy whispers from shaytan try to jeopardize 

The link you have with your spouse, as your soulmate's tough wife. 

It's part of being human to err once in a while. 

~•~

You're like a hopeful teacher who knows from deep inside, 

With Allah's Mercy, students' faults can be rectified. 

Spoil your husband with empathy. Give him lots of time 

To learn from your good example and heartfelt advice. 

Patiently check his progress. Pray for him day and night.

~•~

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: When the verse was revealed, "And those who hoard gold and silver," (Surah At-Tawbah 9:34), some of the companions said, “This was revealed about gold and silver. Were it only revealed that we may know which wealth is best to take.” The Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help him in his faith."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “And a believing wife to help one of you in matters of the Hereafter.”

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some people from the Ansaar asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and he gave them. Then they asked for charity again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them. Then they asked again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them until all he had was gone. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I had anything, I would not withhold it. Whoever refrains from asking others, then Allah will make him content. Whoever would be independent, then Allah will make him independent. Whoever would be patient, then Allah will make him patient. There is no gift that is better and more comprehensive than patience."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6105

Sahih Muslim 1053

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

 

 

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https://abukhadeejah.com/characteristics-of-a-righteous-wife-in-light-of-the-quran-and-sunnah-part-1/

Tips: Quiz You Can Take To Determine If Somebody Is A Friend Or Acquaintance

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Some questions to ask yourself regarding a person to determine if they're a true friend, toxic friend (aka "frenemy") or just an acquaintance:

1➡️ How long have you been acquainted with this individual? 

A] They've been in the same city for a long time but only recently we've started talking to each other. Or less than two years. 

B] Only for a few months but it seems as they already regard me as a "friend" even though I still don't know enough details about them. Or I've been acquainted with them for more than three years but I'd say we're not really close. 

C] Alhamdulillah we've been connected for more than five years and I'm hoping our friendship continues even until we both reach Jannah Paradise.

2➡️ How often do you chat online or check up on them? 

A] Only if I need to ask questions or give instructions, and our conversations are usually very brief or formal. 

B] I feel as though I'm mostly the one taking the initiative to start a conversation with them and sometimes I can sense that our dialogues are unpleasantly awkward or "artificial". 

C] Every other day or at least once every two months. True friends don't require to conversate every single day and night to maintain the connection. 

3➡️ Have you ever invited them to accompany you for shopping or join you to attend some social events? 

A] Not yet. 

B] Once or twice, but I stopped inviting them when I realized their vibes don't mesh with mine. Or yes, a number of times, but they frequently rejected my invites. 

C] Several times, yes, and Alhamdulillah we try to meet up whenever we're both not busy, which seldom happens but it's okay, I believe we are still friends even if we can't see each other 24/7.

4➡️ How would you feel if you knew that they'd be attending a certain conference or large gathering? 

A] Nothing really. Their presence and absence don't impact me in any way. 

B] Slightly anxious, worried or disappointed. 

C] Even more excited and motivated to attend because your good friend is attending. 

5➡️ If their residence was just a few steps away from yours, how often would you pay visits? 

A] Probably rarely or only on special occasions. 

B] I'd prefer to keep my distance since they're a negative influence and I don't trust them. Or only if they insisted that I visit and I would go feeling reluctant. 

C] Whenever I feel like visiting them for Allah's sake and when I'm sure they're not preoccupied with other tasks so I won't cause disturbance. 

6➡️ Were there moments when you felt upset with them but later decided to forgive their mistakes from within? 

A] I don't know them well enough yet to feel emotionally connected. 

B] They've done some things online and offline which bothered me oftentimes but I'm trying my best to patiently understand them. 

C] Yes, while misunderstandings occur sometimes, eventually we forgive each other for Allah's sake and don't want pride/kibr/ego to get in the way of a worthwhile connection. 

7➡️ Tell the truth. Do you feel at least one percent jealous of them? 

A] Why would I feel envious of a complete stranger? I barely know them. 

B] Not "jealous" but more like annoyed or disgusted by their desperate attempts at making me feel "jealous", with their occasional brags and lame efforts to show off. 

C] I wouldn't state that I envy them. I admire their noble traits and achievements for Allah's sake. Seeing them happy makes me feel calm, not jealous or insecure in any way. 

8➡️ Can you count all the times when they've proven to you that they're sincerely helpful and supportive? 

A] I hardly communicate with them online and face to face. I don't bother following their status updates, so I can't describe them in the first place. 

B] Maybe less than five? In some instances though I feel that their act of kindness comes with a selfish agenda.

C] The number of times when they've been kind and caring are too many to list. Or I already consider them as part of my small circle of carefully selected friends. There's no need to keep count of what they did and couldn't do once I regard friendship with a Muslimah as worth keeping for Allah's sake. 

9➡️ How do you typically feel when you're about to check their latest posts on social media? 

A] I don't follow their status updates. I'm not really interested in what they have to say.  

B] From time to time I'd feel a bit anxious, worried that they may have posted a passive-aggressive status update about me or somebody else indirectly. 

C] Enthusiastic and eager to learn what I can benefit from their Islamic reminders for Allah's sake, or excited to respond to some of their newest posts to maintain our connection for Allah's sake. 

10➡️ Which of these adjectives most accurately suit them? 

A] Uncommunicative, aloof, unrelatable, distracted, or mysterious. 

B] Gossipy, dictatorial, cringeworthy, narcissistic, or unpredictable. 

C] Inspiring, comforting, generous, dependable, or easygoing. 

If your overall result, when referring to this person, is mostly: 

A's 🔲 they are just an acquaintance. 

B's ❌ they could be a toxic friend or enemy pretending to be on your team. Avoid socializing unnecessarily with them, as much as possible, to protect your faith/Imaan and emotional well-being.

C's ✅ they have a lot of the qualities which make an individual deserving of your trust, support and empathy for Allah's sake. A considerable amount of patience, sincere intention behind willingness to network, and ongoing forgiveness are necessary to ensure that a connection goes on until your reunion 

Inn-sha-Allah in Jannah Paradise.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/12/tips-ways-to-tell-if-your-friend-or.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/03/tips-red-signs-of-toxic-friendships-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-checklist-to-find-out-if-someone.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/note-good-righteous-friends-vs-toxic.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/05/tips-some-ways-to-determine-if-person.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/only-true-friends-and-righteous-companions-will-benefit-you/

Note: Three Things Which Actually Sad People Do. Avoid These If You Are Truly Happy From Within.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Three things which are common among individuals who are actually unhappy despite pretending to be cheerful, being popular on social media, cracking jokes frequently or living luxurious lifestyles: 

1] Instead of living to please our Creator Allah the Almighty, people who are unhappy from within strive to satisfy Allah's slaves. Constantly being a people-pleaser is one of the shortcuts to depression. 

➡️ TikTokers and YouTubers who eagerly compete with others to gain more likes, followers and views may not be truly contented from inside.

2] Wasting most of one's lifetime nosily and jealously spying on others' lives, watching vlogs of strangers who can't inspire them to become better humans, or obsessively stalking accounts of users who post negative content regularly or who don't want anything to do with the nosy stalkers. 

➡️ People who are actually happy on the inside focus on their own blessings and progress instead of constantly comparing themselves to others. 

3] Trying to survive life without a noble purpose and aim, aimlessly browsing around social media for long periods, and carrying out acts of worship not to serve Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala sincerely but as a custom. 

➡️ A lot of those who committed suicide, a major sin in Islam which we must avoid, may have taken their own lives because they lost the attachment to temporary things and people or they couldn't achieve specific goals which contradict the real reason why we human beings were created. 

Don't attach yourself to Allah's servants. Stay connected to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala Who never dies and with Allah's Mercy you'll always be grateful, at peace and contented, aspiring to remain on the right way to Jannah Paradise where we can enjoy everlasting bliss.

~•~

📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience and it is good for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2999

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Mus'ad Ibn Sa'eed RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The servant will continue to face trials until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398 

Grade: Sahih 

📖 Fadalah Ibn 'Ubayd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Blessed is one who is guided to Islam, whose livelihood is sufficient, and who is contented."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2349

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/tips-nine-things-to-avoid-for-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-from-things-which-truly-happy.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-three-signs-of-people-who-are.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/tips-seven-things-to-avoid-to-achieve.html 

https://youtu.be/0otBW7Xd-_4

https://www.al-albany.com/audios/content/3917/%D8%B4%D8%B1%D8%AD-%D8%A3%D8%AD%D8%A7%D8%AF%D9%8A%D8%AB-%D9%85%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AA%D8%B1%D8%BA%D9%8A%D8%A8-%D9%88%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AA%D8%B1%D9%87%D9%8A%D8%A8-%D9%84%D9%84%D9%85%D9%86%D8%B0%D8%B1%D9%8A-%D9%85%D9%86-%D9%83%D8%AA%D8%A7%D8%A8-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AA%D9%88%D8%A8%D8%A9-%D9%88%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B2%D9%87%D8%AF-%D9%82%D8%A7%D9%84-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%85%D8%B5%D9%86%D9%81-%D8%B1%D8%AD%D9%85%D9%87-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%84%D9%87 

Note: Flow Chart To Assist You In Deciding If You Should Or Shouldn't Attend A Social Event (Especially If You're An Introvert)

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Seven signs that you're actually an introvert even if you seem outspoken in some social gatherings: 

1] You don't easily get disappointed when an appointment or outing is cancelled. Staying in, browsing the web, reading informative articles, taking quality naps, and spending time with your family or cats indoors sound more appealing than unwillingly socializing. 

2] You'd rather read a book, discover new information online, and use your cellphone for one hour than spend more than thirty minutes aimlessly talking to strangers whom you're not eager to befriend. 

3] Usually in a gathering, meeting or conference, you're one of the first ones to leave once the purpose of assembling has been accomplished. 

4] Even in the comfort of your own home, when attending a webinar or group video call, you hesitate to turn on your webcam. If keeping it on is mandatory during the online class or lecture, you reluctantly switch it on with a mask and the lights off in the background or while the camera lens is directed towards the ceiling, wall or any object besides your uninterested face. 

5] You generally write and type more than you speak. If you have an interesting idea, opinion or discovery to share, writing several paragraphs about it is much easier than expounding it vocally with one sentence or a few phrases being sufficient.

6] While you've behaved awkwardly in a lot of social settings, gradually you have learned to embrace your quirkiness and awkwardness. 

7] As a Muslim, you wouldn't describe yourself as "lonely" but reclusive and independent while always trusting Allah the Almighty and believing that there are noble angels nearby recording your actions and statements, as well as jinns whom you can do Da'wah to indirectly. 

✅ Some strengths of being an introvert: 

1) More time to reflect and focus on improving yourself. Less chances to gossip about others with toxic people. 

2) Confidently accepting it when somebody forgot to invite you. Not making it a big deal when you've been rejected or excluded. 

3) Enjoying inner joy, peace and tranquility when solitude comes with opportunities to spend more time with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala instead of absorbing people's lies, deceitful flattery, unreasonable bragging, misleading rumors, demotivating complaints, fake news and insignificant discussions which oppose your values. 

~•~

📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer who mixes with the people and endures their harm with patience has a greater reward than one who does not mix with the people nor endures their harm with patience."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 22588

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ahmed Shakir 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/poem-not-lonely-since-allah-is-with-me.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-whats-it-like-being-muslim.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-to-socialize-and-be-friendly-or.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/note-when-to-have-shyness.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/note-tips-on-how-extroverts-and.html 

Poem: Some Tips To Completely Move On From Broken Friendships

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Some advice to those who have finally decided 

To quit building friendship with somebody who's toxic, 

Who took their kindness for granted, failed to acknowledge 

The importance of staying honest, and they acted 

Distant, unwilling to connect with a good purpose: 

~•~

Don't scold yourself. All the gifts you gave aren't wasted. 

Allah is the Most Just. Have hope you'll be rewarded 

For wanting to please Allah by being generous 

And for your patience with souls who often get jealous 

Of you so they act mean and unappreciative.

~•~

Don't feel stupid for trusting those who can't be trusted. 

View broken friendships as lessons which help you admit 

Not all of Allah's slaves deserve your companionship, 

And not all of Allah's servants are blessed with courage 

To reciprocate efforts or drive away conflict.

~•~

You were kind, and still are. And you were being tested. 

From such tests emerge stronger, wiser and more cautious, 

More sagacious around those whom you'll encounter next, 

More aware of the tricks of obnoxious narcissists, 

And with less expectations so you won't get upset.

~•~

Former "friends" who fled without explaining what they did 

Are like dead leaves in thick forests. No need for unrest 

And sadness over situations that can't be fixed. 

It's their loss, really. They miss out on long fellowship, 

While you gain inner peace knowing they're no longer missed.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109, Sahih Muslim 2638

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase 'if only' opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/note-when-to-allow-toxic-friends-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-how-to-move-on-from-broken.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-signs-of-intj-door-slam-or-you.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/poem-its-okay-to-detach-from-false.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-dont-worry-about-ones-that-got-away.html  

Note: Can An INTJ Be Friendly?

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📜 Question: As a Muslim whose MBTI personality type is INTJ, how friendly are you?

📝 Answer: I would say "selectively" friendly. Generally I'm polite with people, Muslims and non-Muslims, as long as an individual didn't do anything which proved that they're untrustworthy and too toxic to talk to. 

I could describe myself as "kind" in the sense that:  

1] ...If I have a lot of something which I know others would enjoy, I'd be willing to share some of it without wanting anything specific in return. 

2] ...If a person and I both want the same thing, say an item at a store or opportunity at work, I'd let them have it if I believe that they're much more deserving of it than I am. 

3] ...If I noticed that somebody, loved one or stranger, fell or slipped on the ground, I'd ask them "are you okay?" or hopefully minimize the embarrassment by saying something like "Oops! Careful!" or "the same thing happened to me before" instead of obnoxiously laughing at them. If I'm in a hurry and too busy to interact with them, I'd walk forward even faster and behave as if I didn't notice their fall so they wouldn't feel uncomfortable due to somebody staring. 

4] ...If I'm at a social event with some family or acquaintances, and a guest nearby doesn't have anybody at all to chat with, I'd probably strike up a conversation if I sense they won't get bothered by me asking several questions, with an aim to become acquainted with them. 

5] ...After dining at a restaurant or residence of a relative or friend, I'd do what I can to tidy up and arrange some of the dishes if doing so distracts me from unwillingly participating in futile gossip and aimless conversations. 

6] ...Now and then I'd greet another Muslim of the same gender with "salaam alaikum", unless they appear too distracted or too busy to respond. 

7] ...Sometimes I would go out of my way to defend another human if they require backup and assistance. 

I may often look "unfriendly" or "unapproachable" to some individuals if: 

1] ...I'm too engrossed in trying to complete a task that I'd avoid chatting unnecessarily online and offline. Some may assume that I'm deliberately ignoring them when that's not the case.

2] ...I've lost interest in wanting to befriend a particular individual after realizing how untruthful and unreliable they are. Interviewing them further about themselves and their goals in life would be pointless since a lot of their statements consist of blatant lies. 

3] ...If I believe that having dialogues with so-and-so is meaningless and there are other more worthwhile activities to focus on than have lengthy discussions with someone who can't inspire me to become a better Muslim. 

❎ From the actions which many INTJs refuse to do: 

1] Concealing the truth and sugarcoating a statement to spare people's feelings, when frank feedback is essential to achieve a goal. 

2] Giving insincere compliments to those whom they don't really gravitate towards. 

3] Consistently distributing freebies and souvenirs after arriving from a trip to all of the individuals whom they're familiar with. 

4] Spending a large amount of money on buying gifts for those whom they don't regard as actual friends. 

5] Cancelling assignments or postponing projects to casually socialize with people whose values evidently oppose theirs.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe. The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is friendly, for there is no goodness in one who is neither friendly, nor befriended."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 8945

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Arna'ut 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-five-signs-youre-muslim-empath-who.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-definition-of-kindness.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/poem-what-is-good-character.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-what-it-means-to-be-mature.html 

~•~

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-friendly-you-are-according-to-your-personality-type/ 

https://personalitygrowth.com/intj-empathy-how-well-the-intj-empathizes-with-others/

~•~

📝 To discover what your MBTI type is, you're welcome to take these tests:

https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

https://www.truity.com/test/type-finder-personality-test-new

http://www.michaelcaloz.com/personality/ 

Links: PDF Documents (From Allah's Names And Attributes. Morning And Evening Adhkaar) Compiled By Abu Talhah Dawud Burbank

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

Two PDF documents compiled by Abu Talhah Dawud Burbank (May Allah the Almighty have mercy on him and his wife, accept their good deeds and make them among the people of Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.)

📁 PDF document - From the Names and Attributes of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala: 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1M_G6cexDqjRxCkcy21PuCPvfEKJPHj-4/view?usp=drivesdk

~•~

🗂️ PDF document - Morning and evening Adhkaar: 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1MZLfmPXVwWTFROxUeQ4bXiMMRCQZ-Axo/view?usp=drivesdk

Tips: Some Advice On How To Deal With Feeling Rejected, Excluded And Left Out

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Some tips on how to deal with occasionally feeling excluded, rejected and left out: 

➡️ Example: When you're one of the few who were uninvited to attend a social event, when some acquaintances get up from their seats as soon as you sit next to them, when members of a group chat seem to be unresponsive to your messages yet they're communicative with one another, when some peers make it clear that they don't feel comfortable with you joining in their discussions, and when some toxic "friends" are pulling an "ignoring you" prank to see how you'd react or check if you're tough enough to join their "special" circle etc. 

✅ How to deal: 

1] Cleverly analyze the motives and current circumstances of those people who are going out of their way to make you feel left out. Are they rejecting you on purpose? Are they so insecure that they feel the need to get back at you for not inviting them to an outing which you enjoyed some time ago? Or do they assume that they'd be disturbing you by inviting you because you've rejected their invitations in the past and such sensitive persons don't want to go through another unpleasant round of being disappointed? 

If some individuals are deliberately excluding you from their gatherings, confidently respect their decision to not welcome you, knowing that we can't force any human being to like us if we're obviously too different, and have enough self-respect to walk away from places where you're mistreated. If they actually forgot to invite you, especially if there were so many loved ones and guests whom they had to prioritize or financial struggles prevented them from being able to contact all those whom they're acquainted with, then have the courage to let them know that while you're happy they had a good time, you'd appreciate it if they invite you in the future to participate in any (halal / lawful) joyous occasion. Or simply accept the fact, with rewarding patience, that it's not from Allah's Qadr / Destiny for you to attend such gatherings. Why worry too much about things which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala didn't and doesn't destine? 

2] Recall at least one instance when you purposely didn't allow a particular individual or number of individuals to join you for an activity. There must've been a valid reason behind your choice to not include them. Expert mountaineers wouldn't be okay with toddlers and newbies accompanying them for mountaineering, particularly if the latter are not properly equipped nor trained to climb tall mountains. Females who aren't strong enough to be in a polygynous marriage would do whatever they can to avoid befriending women who are fine with polygyny, each of them fearing that her spouse may remarry if he notices them being buddies with somebody who's not the only legal wife of her husband. 

When you're fully aware of the real reason why some people treat you in confounding ways, you'd be less prone to having your feelings hurt because you know that if you had their emotional immaturity, problems or inferiority complex issues, you'd probably act dismissive and rude to others in the same way they acted discourteous towards you. 

3] Keep yourself busy with more worthwhile, productive and beneficial deeds. If you're in a large hall where all the attendees besides yourself have groups of individuals to talk to and all cliques appear to be uninterested in what you can offer, confidently remain contented and grateful that at least you still have Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala Who always listens to you, and actually do something meaningful to distract yourself from self-pity. Read some verses from a Qur'an application on your android phone, enhance your faith/Imaan by reading more Ahadith / authentic sayings of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, or browse around some useful articles and PDF documents you've downloaded, or watch some Islamic and educational videos until it's time to leave the social event, or say Dhikr and Du'a while patiently waiting for the next task. 

Never entertain negative thoughts about yourself just because some unhappy souls want you to be as miserable as they are through excluding you from their cliques. Visualize being a lion that refuses to doubt its value just because a swarm of flies and mosquitoes didn't send it an invitation to take part in their assignment of flying around garbage.

~•~

📖 'Abdullah Ibn Mas'ood RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When you are three persons sitting together, then no two of you should hold secret counsel excluding the third person until you are with some other people too, for that would grieve him." 

Reference: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6290

In-book reference: Book 79, Hadith 62

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 8, Book 74, Hadith 305 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe. The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-when-youre-contented-with-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/tips-on-dealing-with-adult-bullying.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-five-signs-of-emotionally.html 

Hadith: Glad Tidings To The Strangers Among The Minority Who Strive To Obey Allah The Almighty And His Noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Islam began as something strange and it will return to being strange, so Tooba (or glad tidings) to the strangers."

Source: Sahih Muslim 145

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: A man said to the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam him, “What is Tooba (The Noble Qur'an 13:29)?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is a tree in Paradise as wide as a hundred years of travel. The clothes of the people of Paradise will come from its leaves."

Source: Sahih Ibn Ḥibbān 7573

Grade: Sahih li ghayrihi according to Al-Albani

https://youtu.be/MAIjrWP53NU

Tips: Some Ways To Determine If A Person Is Just Pretending To Be Your Friend While In Reality They Despise You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Five signs that a person is just pretending to be your friend while in reality they despise you, to avoid wasting time, money and gifts on them: 

1] At least three years have passed since you've been acquainted and so far they have never invited you to a social event they were going to. 

2] More than thrice they have left your messages on "seen" mode as if they don't care enough to continue meaningful conversations or they're uninterested in building any connection with you. 

3] Most of the time when you ask them for advice they'd respond with "I don't know what to say", "well, that's your problem; you fix it", "can't think of a solution", "no comment" or "that's so sad. I'm glad I'm not you." 

4] A lot of times they look at you with an indifferent or annoyed glare, looking you up and down as if whatever message you need to convey doesn't deserve their attention yet ironically they expect you to listen attentively whenever they're talking. Interactions with them are mostly one-sided. 

5] When you're in a good mood and feeling confident, they perceive you as "annoying" or "arrogant". When you request for some assistance or words of encouragement, they regard you as "too needy" or "troublesome". When you've been absent from social media for several days or you didn't promptly answer the messages they've sent, they act distant or pridefully give you the silent treatment, instead of making effort to understand your situation. All in all they seem to enjoy manipulating and mishandling your emotions, so you don't feel at ease when you're near them. 

✅ How to deal with those who act friendly yet they don't truly like you from within: 

🔹Treat them as mere strangers. Apply good manners both in their presence (behave cordially) and absence (avoid backbiting). 

🔹Never trust them with your secrets, valuables and any information which they could misuse for gossiping. 

🔹 Abstain from checking their social media accounts and don't bother thoroughly reading their comments on the posts of mutual friends. If they're not willing to befriend you sincerely for Allah's sake while their vibes are more toxic than motivating, never go out of your way to analyze their unsubstantial opinions nor make sense of the fabricated stories they love narrating. 

🔹 View them as examples to avoid imitating. If they've treated you disrespectfully in the past, don't be rude and disrespectful to others. If they have been dishonest with you before, remain truthful and reliable.

🔹 Patiently accept Allah's Qadr/Decree that He didn't destine those souls to network with you. Sometimes when Allah the Most Wise allows you to emotionally disconnect from certain individuals, it's meant to protect your faith/Imaan and overall well-being from untrustworthy people with bad intentions. 

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-when-youre-contented-with-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-toxic-friendships-which-we-cease.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-red-flags-of-toxic-friends-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-signs-of-toxic-people-to-avoid-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-avoiding-wrong-kind-of-friendships.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/note-good-righteous-friends-vs-toxic.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/note-five-signs-indicating-it-is.html 

Links: PDF document English translation of the book "devil's deceptions" by Imam Ibn Al-Jawzi

📔 PDF document "devil's deceptions" in English language by Imam Ibn Al-Jawzi رحمه الله (to gain knowledge for Allah's sake, not for sale)

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1M13kz3ERlrH3g88AP0b8A1VhARLYq-lI/view?usp=drivesdk

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://darpdfs.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/The-Devil%25E2%2580%2599s-Deceptions-Im%25C4%2581m-Ibn-al-Jawzi.pdf&ved=2ahUKEwj0_9mDt-T3AhWljdgFHSEmDpkQFnoECAUQAQ&usg=AOvVaw0aFcFoOSQUmMGTw8jfQM5O

Tips: Eleven Signs Of Insecure And Jealous Co-Wives

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Eleven signs that indicate your co-wife feels really envious of you: 

1] She frequently mentions the husband whom you both love for Allah's sake as "my husband" ("zawjee") instead of "our husband" ("zawjunaa"). 

2] You can sense that she doesn't like it when her child/children would mingle with your child/children. 

3] You've noticed her scowling or spitefully rolling her eyes numerous times before and/or after having a conversation with her. 

4] She regularly excludes you from the gatherings and events which she organizes. Inviting you to join her for shopping or outings is something she seldom does. 

5] She can be obnoxiously passive-aggressive. If she agreed to do a task which you politely requested her to do, most of the time she doesn't fulfill her promise or she does it improperly on purpose. 

6] Whenever you share some good news with her, she flagrantly frowns, acts unimpressed or conveys certain info to imply she's still a lot better than you. 

7] If you manage a halal business, online and offline she seems enthusiastically supportive of other females who run the same kind of businesses as yours while she is unwilling to show you any support. 

8] Due to her intense feelings of jealousy, she is unable to laugh at your jokes yet she readily giggles when you make a mistake. 

9] You can feel her overly competitive vibes, and her competitiveness is more emotionally draining than inspiring. For instance, if she discovered that you and your husband went to a particular place, instantly she'd insist on going there too even though it's not something she'd typically enjoy. 

10] You're not "Facebook friends" yet she probably manages another account which she uses for stalking your status updates and scrutinizing your moves on social media, or she has you on her list of "Facebook friends" but she is rarely responsive to your posts. 

11] Oftentimes she "clumsily" elbows you or shoves you when walking by without apologizing, treating you rudely often to relieve aggravating feelings of jealousy. 

🟢 How to deal with a jealous co-wife:

A] Try to do what you can to befriend her for Allah's sake by gradually being nicer to her and letting her know that you're not a threat to this marriage. Aspire to help one another become better Muslims together with the husband whom you both love for Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Remind each other that your actual enemy is shaytan who likely rejoices whenever the love in Muslim families is disrupted.

Or 

B] Cleverly keep your distance while maintaining basic courtesy, to protect yourself from her negative traits, yet be willing to develop your sisterhood in Islam if it is clear that she has decided to quit feeling insecure around you.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it erases good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Envy consumes good deeds just as fire burns wood. Charity (Sadaqah) extinguishes sinful deeds just as water extinguishes fire. Prayer is the light of the believer and fasting is his shield from the Hellfire."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4210

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Ibn Asakir 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith (Imaan) and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/note-mindset-of-ideal-muslim-wife-who.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/tips-its-hard-to-feel-jealous-when.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-to-those-not-strong-enough-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/tips-seven-things-to-tell-yourself-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/tips-types-of-wives-you-may-encounter.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/note-tips-for-co-wives-in-polygyny.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/note-husbands-must-treat-their-wives.html