Tips: Five Things To Avoid When Dealing With Bullies

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Five things to avoid doing towards insecure or inwardly unhappy individuals who try to bully you to distract themselves from their miseries (Do not do these to sad bullies, as much as possible): 

1] Do not instruct or dare them to take their own lives. Do not do something so terrible that could cause them to feel suicidal nor say awful things to them such as "Obnoxious people like you are from the reasons why earth is currently an unpleasant place to live on. Why not do at least one productive act in your lifetime and kill yourself?" or "the entire universe would be at peace if you didn't exist. Your negative presence and despicable personality are absolutely meaningless. Kill yourself, please." 

Suicide and murder are major sins which we Muslims should avoid for Allah's sake. Only Allah the Almighty has every right to end the life of His servants anytime He chooses. 

2] Do not invent obvious lies against those bullies, even if they have lied about you several times. Spreading untruths or false rumors could eventually result in trouble, if not sooner or later in this world then perhaps in the next life. Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala knows best. 

❎ For example: If you say something like "Alicia Weirdoshaun only said those nasty nonsense as a strange coping mechanism to deal with being frequently neglected by both of her financially struggling parents who never went to high school, and she intensely despises how they're both jobless.", one or both of her parents may feel bitter towards you and some kind of feud occurs which could have been avoided.

3] Do not alter anything about yourself to appear "likeable" or "valuable" to those self-loathing bullies. Once you discover that a group of miserable trolls and clowns actually dislike you, relentlessly unfriend them and gladly disconnect from them for Allah's sake online and offline. True happiness can't be achieved by building feeble connections with fakes, pretenders and snakes. If most or all of the members of a childish clique act like useless twigs and/or dangerous leeches, unapologetically walk away. 

4] Do not copy them in their tomfoolery and absurdity. Do not turn into a bully nor become more tyrannical or troublesome than them, unless you're willing to face the bad consequences of misbehaving and confirming you're not contented with who you are.

A confused person acting disrespectful towards you, indicating their dissatisfaction with their insecurities or distressful conditions, isn't an invitation to participate in their lousy pity-party. Be a lot better than them by ignoring their nonsensical insults, and differ from their idiocy.

5] Do not stalk any of their social media posts nor thoroughly analyze any of their comments. Since those bullies have already proven to you that they can no longer be trusted, confidently refrain from giving weight to any of their unreliable statements and messages. Regard them as complete strangers whom you aren't interested in connecting with, almost in the same way you completely bypass products at grocery stores which you believe aren't essential or worthwhile for you. 

✅ Suggested ways to deal with bullies: 

1] Inform trusted loved ones and/or older adults about the bullying, without letting the bullies know. 

2] Say lots of Adhkaar and Du'a. Continue asking for guidance and help from Allah the Most Powerful while maintaining strong connection with Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

3] Avoid befriending toxic individuals as much as possible and refuse to be negatively affected by their irrational acts. 

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📖 Ali Ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever kills himself with a piece of iron, his piece of iron in his hand will be thrust into his stomach in the fire of Hell forever and ever. Whoever drinks poison and kills himself, he will consume it in the fire of Hell forever and ever. Whoever throws himself off a mountain and kills himself, he will tumble into the fire of Hell forever and ever."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5442, Sahih Muslim 109

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/08/tips-what-you-can-do-when-youre-being.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/03/note-intjs-bullying-and-some-tips-on.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-dont-let-critics-decelerate-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/08/tips-what-grown-up-bullies-often-do-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-signs-of-immature-adults-what-it.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-indifferent-you-appear-based-on-your-personality-type/

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-you-handle-bullying-based-on-your-personality-type/

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Note: Some Signs That An INTJ Perceives You As A Friend Or Potential Friend

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Some signs that an INTJ personality type regards you as a friend or potential friend: 

1🔹 If you haven't seen each other for several years or days, they intentionally prolong conversations with you and try to ask you as many questions as they can think of about yourself to be updated with your current circumstances and because they genuinely care about your overall well-being. 

➡️ Questions like: "Where in Saudi Arabia did you stay? What other places have you visited? Who did you meet? What have you learned from your vacation? Why did you reject your ex-husband when he asked for a second chance? You're allowed to remarry him twice, you know." etc. 

2🔹 They regularly check out your social media posts even if they may not virtually react to them always. 

Example, while chatting with you through text messaging or face to face, an INTJ may say something like "I noticed from your recent posts that you established a halaal restaurant near such-and-such area. Tell me all about it so I can support you ASAP." or "Yesterday you posted about a particular item that I know my husband would be interested in purchasing. Is it still for sale?" 

3🔹 They quickly and easily stick up for you (defend your name) if they overhear anybody saying some unpleasant things about you, whether you're around the corner or absent. 

➡️ For example: "Don't say that. If she was a gold-digger, she'd recklessly overspend on branded clothes, spoil herself with unreasonably expensive cosmetics, and frequently demand her husband to increase her allowance. She truly loves him for who he is, not for his income ." 

4🔹 If you arrived from travel or they missed you, they go out of their way to offer a big hug or initiate an enthusiastic handshake instead of abruptly glancing at you with an apathetic glimpse that says "oh, it's you. Good morning and goodbye." 

5🔹 They eagerly ask you for your advice or frank opinions on many matters which concern them. 

➡️ Example: "What kind of edibles did you avoid to get so slim within a few months?", "What other tips can you share to cope with your husband's fourth marriage?", "MashaAllah. How did you become so well-off when you started your business with selling munchkin balls in your teens?" and "Recently I had a really weird dream. You and so-and-so were in it. Can I share it with you right now, then you give me your best interpretation?" 

If an INTJ so far has never requested you for advice, hugged you more than twice, backed up for you whenever critics would backbite, or discussed random topics with you numerous times and inquired about your likes and dislikes etc. or invited you to attend an Islamic lecture more than just one time, then to them you're probably another stranger, which is still fine. You too have a right to wisely select who from Allah's servants can embark with you on your journey to Jannah Paradise. 

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are troops collected together. They come close upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Al-Nawawi said, “When bodies meet in the world, they come together or differ according to how they were created. The righteous will incline to the righteous, and the evil will incline to the evil.”

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-friendship-with-intjs-what-are.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/tips-intjs-when-they-like-you-in.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/07/note-why-lot-of-intjs-are-not-very.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/tips-intj-acquaintance-vs-intj-friend.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/08/tips-intj-courtesy-vs-companionship.html 

➡️ To discover what your MBTI type is, you're welcome to take these tests:

https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

https://www.truity.com/test/type-finder-personality-test-new 

http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp 

http://www.michaelcaloz.com/personality/

https://www.personalityassessor.com/personality-types/

Tips: Advice On How To Deal With Removal From Some Chat Groups Like A Boss

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📑 Five thoughts to reflect on to deal with removal from online forums or chat groups like a boss, to not feel affected when some users delete you as a "participant" and "member": 

1] Alhamdulillah for so many years I've been capable of thriving without them. Why should I worry at all if these individuals who are too different from me don't want me around them? I'm not a clingy leech nor adhesive item.

2] Whether they deleted me on purpose or mistakenly, I can 

Inn-sha-Allah contentedly benefit and learn from other communities, websites and content which are way more deserving of my time and attention. If a chat group goes bye-bye, there are still tons of resources and alternatives which we can learn from. 

3] I totally understand how if I were the host or administrator of a chat group, I would delete users whom I perceive are acting inappropriately, being obnoxiously idle, or going against group harmony. It's their right to cancel my "membership" if my presence mostly worsens their inward misery. I don't intend to be a troublemaker and bully. 

4] I like to think of insecure individuals who deliberately go out of their way to exclude you every so often as "jealous" - justifiably envious of how Allah the Almighty blessed you with several gifts and blessings which He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala didn't grant them. For instance, they envy how you're dedicated, loyal to your spouse and/or creative while they are ethically below average or unproductive, or they struggled with lousy upbringing while your beloved parents are loving and well-educated. 

5] It's not a crisis if some individuals can't welcome you to a group or gathering. You'd probably do the same thing to somebody whose language is incomprehensible to you or whose actions seem uncomfortably confusing. 

Maintaining a strong or special connection with Allah the Most Wise is a lot more meaningful and rewarding than wanting approval from His imperfect servants. 

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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-your-trust-in-allah-and-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/06/tips-nine-signs-that-you-are-thick.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/12/tips-why-many-intjs-seldom-feel.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/11/tips-advice-from-intj-on-how-to-not_25.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/07/tips-seven-secrets-to-not-feeling.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-each-personality-type-handles-drama/

Note: My Response To "How Do You Choose Your Close Friends?"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: Regardless of your MBTI personality type, how do you choose your friends, or when would you consider somebody as a "good friend"? 

📝 Answer: As an introvert (INTJ) I generally don't walk around actively or desperately searching for friends. I believe that it's possible

Inn-sha-Allah to thrive in both worlds without numerous long-lasting friendships, particularly if not every individual whom you're destined to meet can be regarded as completely honest and reliable. I also don't wait nor yearn for anybody to interact with me several times until they reach the point when we both consider each other as "friends". 

Alhamdulillah I'd say that while I have a lot of acquaintances of various tribes and nationalities, only a small number of them are individuals whose personal lives I genuinely care about for Allah's sake and out of that select few there could be less than a handful whom I'd regard as actual friends even if they probably perceive me as merely an acquaintance. 

How do I select my friends? Definitely not at random and not according to similarity. Just because someone is around my age, wears the niqaab when outdoors, can speak English fluently, was born in Saudi Arabia like I was or they enjoy writing poetry occasionally, it doesn't mean that I'll automatically become enthusiastic about befriending them, as if my main mission in life is to gather as many clones or carbon copies as I can to form some kind of battalion. 

What I'd usually do if I must categorize people is I would disqualify a person from being a "potential friend" once they've done any of these: 

1] if they deliberately lied to me more than once. 

2] if they caused me to waste time doing something pointless, absurd or unproductive more than once. And if they ignorantly insist that I indulge in bid'ah or polytheistic acts.

3] if they're boring conversationalists online and offline, if they don't know how to have deep conversations, if you feel as though you're tediously interviewing or investigating them whenever you attempt to have a meaningful dialogue. 

4] if I overheard them cowardly backbiting about me or criticizing any of my loved ones, especially my dear husband. 

5] if we've known each other's names for more than five years but so far neither of us have taken the initiative to spend time together outdoors at least twice. 

6] if they regularly show signs of nervousness or discomfort whenever they speak with me, as though they're guilty of something and trying to conceal it. 

7] if they have a tendency to act overly emotional and passive-aggressive, if they've complained to any of my relatives about me instead of discussing the problem with me directly - I'd regard the snitch as someone whom I can't trust anymore because any information I try to share with them could be misconstrued. 

I'd consider someone as a friend if: 

1] I openly make effort to support their halal business or hobbies whenever I can online and/or offline. 

2] I don't feel bored asking them questions about themselves and their interests etc. 

3] I oftentimes go out of my way to visit them (at least once a year), send them a message (at least once every three months or so) or ask for their advice. 

Trying to maintain connection with lots of people can drain your energy if you're an introvert. So don't be surprised if some introverts aren't very likable or approachable, specifically if amassing fans or supporters isn't one of our primary goals.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56

https://abukhadeejah.com/only-true-friends-and-righteous-companions-will-benefit-you/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-choosiness-of-most-intjs-when-it.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/note-can-intj-personality-type-feel.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/07/note-five-benefits-of-being-socially.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/07/note-five-reasons-to-be-carefully.html 

https://www.psychologyjunkie.com/2018/10/19/5-steps-to-making-friends-with-an-intj/

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Note: Survey - Random Questions On Love And Marriage

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 •[ Marriage life survey ]• 

1] How old were you and your husband when you both married? 

🔹 I was 20 years old while my husband was 28. 

2] In three ways how are you and your husband so different? 

🔹 My MBTI personality type is INTJ while his is ESFJ. Alhamdulillah I was born in Saudi Arabia while he grew up in Southern Philippines. While I enjoy desserts, he prefers salty edibles. 

3] Mention three aspects that make you and your husband nearly similar to each other? 

🔹 We both aren't fans of corn (mais). The jobs we wanted when we were still at school aren't precisely the occupations we have at the moment. If I'm not mistaken, my husband was initially interested in becoming a pilot but then after some time decided to be employed as a medical doctor. As for me, I aspired to major in psychology back then but Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala planned that I'd focus on studying more about Islam. Alhamdulillah my husband and I similarly enjoy helping others out whenever we're given the chance to assist and advise. 

4] What is one funny or interesting thing you can't forget about your wedding?

🔹 There wasn't any wedding cake as we wanted to keep the joyful occasion closer to the Sunnah of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. I remember my husband trying to feed me pancit bihon (noodles) while I felt awkward as I wasn't accustomed to being fed by another adult. 

5] Who did your makeup on your wedding day? 

🔹 A Visayan I think beautician who was hired to apply cosmetics on the brides (it was a mass wedding, with three grooms and three brides). Since I didn't want to look clownish, I later on erased half of the heavy makeup which she applied. 

6] After marrying each other for Allah's sake as a number of years have passed by, how are you and your husband different from when you were single? 

🔹 Alhamdulillah, with Allah's Will, my husband played a huge role in inspiring me to quit feeling insecure about my weight and body image. Through him Alhamdulillah I've learned to be more confident, understanding of people with special needs, and appreciative of actual inner beauty. I've seen him gradually progress as well Alhamdulillah, for instance he reads from the Noble Qur'an more often than before, avoids staring at non-mahram females as much as he can, and he doesn't wear neck chains anymore. 

7] What advice can you briefly give to Muslim wives and husbands to ensure that their marriages can thrive in both worlds? 

🔹 Always do everything sincerely for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala with dedicated patience / sabr and consistent gratitude / shukr. Understand that perfection and complete happiness can only be found in Jannah Paradise. Include your spouse in your Du'as regularly and remind yourself that you married a human being, so don't be surprised if some of his actions upset you occasionally. True love for Allah's sake doesn't give up that easily. Instead of comparing your soulmate's development to other individuals, contentedly concentrate on the countless blessings of your unique love story.

~•~ 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "O young men, if you are able to support a wife, get married. Verily, it lowers the gaze and guards chastity. Whoever is not able to do so, he must fast as it will restrain his passions (desires)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1806 

Sahih Muslim 1400

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)."

[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]

Riyad As-Salihin 286

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-why-i-dont-get-tired-of-loving-my.html 

📖 Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I have left you with two matters which will never lead you astray, as long as you hold to them: The Book of Allah (The Qur'an) and the Sunnah of His Prophet (Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam)."

Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1661

Grade: Sahih (Authentic)

📚 Some of the English-speaking Salafi/Sunni speakers who call towards the Qur'an and Sunnah of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. Try to research and listen to their lectures on YouTube attentively:

Abbas Abu Yahya

Abdul Hakeem Mitchell

Abdulillah Lahmami

Abu Adam Jameel Finch

Abu Hafsa Kashiff Khan

Abu Hakeem Bilal Davis

Abu Humayd Saalim

Abu Idrees

Abu Iyaad Amjad Rafiq

Abu Khadeejah Abdul Wahid

Abul Hasan Malik

Abu Muadh Taqweem Aslam

Abu Muhammad Al Maghribi

Abu Talha Dawud Burbank

Abu Uways

Anas Waters

Anwar Wright

Hamza Abdur Razzaq

Hassan Somali

Moosaa Richardson

Mustafa George

Raha Batts

Rasheed Barbee

Rayaan Barker

Sa'eed Rhana

Umar Quinn

Uways at-Taweel

🧾 List of Arabic-speaking scholars of today whose Islamic lectures we can benefit from:

- Imām Abdul-Aziz Ibn Bāz

- Imām Muhammad Nasiruddin al-Albani

- Imām Muhammad Ibn 'Uthaymīn

- Imām Muqbil bin Hādī Al-Wādi'i

- Imām Ahmad An-Najmī 

- Shaykh Sāleh Al-Fawzan

- Shaykh Hassan ibn 'Abdul-Wahhāb Marzooq Al-Bannā

- Shaykh Sālih Al-Luhaydān

- Shaykh 'Abdul-Muhsin Al-'Abbād

- Shaykh Rabi' ibn Hādī Al-Madkhalī

- Shaykh 'Ubayd Al-Jābiri

- Mufti Shaykh 'Abdul-'Azīz Āl-ush-Shaykh

- Shaykh Sālih Āl-ush-Shaykh

- Shaykh 'Abdullāh Al-Bukhari

https://www.youtube.com/user/sharhussunnah/videos 

www.YouTube.com/infowishes

https://www.slideshare.net/mobile/JustSharingIslam/dawah-according-to-the-quran-and-the-prophets-sunnahtradition-by-dr-norlain-khadija-dindang-mababaya

https://www.scribd.com/document/463363415/Dawah-According-to-the-Quran-and-Sunnah-Mababaya-Dr-Norlain-Dindang-PDFDrive-com-1

📜 Free e-books of some of my Islamic poems which you can download and print:

https://www.scribd.com/document/463360531/Free-eBook-Journeying-Back-to-Jannah-135-Poems-by-Sister-Mariam-Mababaya-2020-May

https://www.slideshare.net/mobile/JustSharingIslam/just-sharing-islam-free-ebook-of-103-islamic-poems-written-by-sister-mariam-mababaya

🗂️ Da'wah According To The Noble Qur'an And Sunnah Of The Beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. (Summary - PDF not for sale)

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1TxcfC6YawDkCh94m-4swRJk7jYbnhFlX/view?usp=drivesdk

📁 Just Sharing Islam (1st ebook of 103 selected Islamic poems - PDF not for sale)

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1U012hrM67qh3IFgEx8QYo4XtByA29YT8/view?usp=drivesdk

📂 Journeying Back To Jannah (2nd ebook of 135 selected Islamic poems - PDF not for sale)

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1TxjFxF8gey4ZtjG_WZqjBrpRNpm3lJcL/view?usp=drivesdk 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever travels a path in search of (beneficial and authentic) knowledge, Allah will make easy for him a path to Paradise."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2699

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

✅Note: Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday, Surah Al-Mulk each day and night, and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.

Note: From The Signs That A Muslim Husband And Wife Love Each Other For Allah's Sake Truly

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Allah the Almighty knows best. Seven signs that a Muslim husband actually loves his wife for Allah's sake even if they can't always be intimate or close to each other as often as they would like: 

1] He tries his best to regularly read her messages and answer her calls despite being busy or tired, even if many of his responses are delayed at times. 

2] He patiently listens to her whenever they have a chance to discuss matters face to face and offers whatever tips or words of reassurance that he can provide when she asks for his advice. 

3] He encourages his wife to have the strength to forgive others for Allah's sake and to be at peace with her parents, siblings and relatives instead of coercing her to go against her own family.

4] On a regular basis he mentions his wife in many of his prayers and supplications, beseeching Allah the Almighty to preserve her faith Imaan and well-being.

5] He is contented with his wife's beauty and body size or at least he doesn't keep arrogantly nagging her on striving to look "flawless". 

6] He allows her to massage, poke and tease him playfully from time to time. 

7] If ever he knowingly upsets or offends his wife, he goes out of his way to straightforwardly apologize or does something compassionate to compensate for his mistake.

✅ Seven signs that a Muslim wife sincerely loves her husband for Allah's sake even if they can't always be intimate or beside each other as often as they would like: 

1] She strives to avoid all of the means which could result in fitna and adultery, including making sure that none of the users on her Facebook "friends lists" is a male non-mahram. 

2] She ensures that she never acts like a flirt to anybody besides her dear husband, controlling her gaze whenever she can and refusing to stare at non-mahrams online and offline.

3] She does what she can to educate her husband more about Islam and the correct 'Aqeedah, occasionally sending several useful links to Islamic articles or lectures which her husband can benefit from. 

4] On a regular basis she mentions her husband in many of her prayers and supplications, beseeching Allah the Almighty to preserve his faith Imaan and well-being. 

5] She isn't a gold-digger at all. Whatever amount of allowance she receives from her husband is okay for her as long as she believes that his earnings are halal / lawful. 

6] She readily gives him gifts, edibles or items she hopes her husband would appreciate without wanting anything in particular in return. If ever she feels that she is unable to completely meet her husband's needs and permissible wants, for Allah's sake she lets him know that she is fine with him being married to up to four legal wives, while reminding him of the importance of treating his multiple spouses with wisdom and justice to the best of his ability. 

7] She encourages him to do more good deeds which can lead to Jannah Paradise including praying with the congregation in the Masjid (specially Salat Al-Fajr and Salat Al-Jumuah), performing Hajj pilgrimage, doing charity frequently, training their children to become better Muslims and maintaining harmonious connection with their relatives etc.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "I was shown the Hellfire and (found) that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 29

In-book reference: Book 2, Hadith 22

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 1, Book 2, Hadith 29 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://abukhadeejah.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/Righteous-Wife-P1-WEB-7.3-Print-Complete.pdf

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/note-my-brief-love-story-and-why-i-dont.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/note-checklist-to-determine-if-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-three-signs-that-your-marriage-is.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/05/tips-checklist-to-determine-if-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/note-checklist-to-determine-how-loyal.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/08/tips-some-advice-to-each-muslim-wife.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-good-intentions-in-marrying-can.html 

Tips: How We Should Treat shaytan And his demonic allies

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Suggested ways to treat our archenemy shaytan and his demonic allies, including those who act as obstacles to our goals: 

1] Occasionally educate yourself about them for Allah's sake through reliable sources. Understand well their motives. Be aware of all their tactics and schemes. 

2] Refuse to be influenced by them in any way. Do not instantly believe or take too seriously most of what they do and claim. 

3] Do not wish to be like them. Do not imitate their negative and unpleasant traits. They don't deserve to be admired. You're a lot better than them because of your faith Imaan and special connection with Allah the Almighty. 

4] Do the exact opposite of what they want or expect you to do. Disobey their instructions if their orders entail disobedience to our Creator Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Stubbornly ignore enemies' commands and suggestions to carry out anything that is evidently immoral or unreasonable.

5] Avoid their bad presence as much as you can online and offline. Do not pay attention to any of their social media posts, comments and videos etc. especially if your attentiveness to their nonsense only inflates their contemptible egos. Refrain from befriending them without being naive of their foul intentions.

6] As much as possible resist the urge to compliment them. Do not display signs of granting approval to their actions unless giving them some flattering words is your technique of deluding or confusing them. 

7] Never trust them. Sworn enemies and potential foes must never be trusted.

8] Warn your loved ones against opponents whenever you can. 

9] Increase your Du'as to Allah the Most Powerful, asking Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for more guidance and protection from shaytan's evil plots. 

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”

Source: ‘Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/tips-when-to-say-morning-and-evening.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-how-to-deal-with-people-who-hate-us.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/03/tips-red-signs-of-toxic-friendships-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/03/poem-oppose-shaytan-and-dont-do-what-he.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-dont-listen-to-your-heart-where.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/20-ways-to-avoid-the-places-conduct-and-plots-of-shaytan-ruqyah-series-1/

Note: How Most INTJs Deal With Gossipers Who Act Friendly - Grant Them Avoidance And Indifference

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Question: As a Muslimah whose MBTI personality type is INTJ, one of the most unemotional types, how would you treat individuals who generally act friendly towards you while you recall those instances when you overheard them cowardly gossiping about you?

📝 Answer: Whether the unpleasant statements which they mentioned about me carry some truth, for example "she's so annoying; always expressing her opinions", "you're right, she does stink", or "I absolutely hate how she makes me feel inferior" etc. (as they either envy my marriage, Alhamdulillah, or they're ignorant of the ruling of backbiting in Islam) or whatever they often discuss among themselves are nonsensical lies such as falsely assuming I'm a "tomboy (dyke)" or a "self-entitled dictator" etc. I would: 

1] Include them in a long list or category of individuals whom I can no longer trust or who are confirmed to be completely untrustworthy, so I keep my distance from them, as much as possible, almost in the same way as falcons would steer clear of flying around wolves and lions won't bother socializing with anacondas. 

2] Continue displaying basic good manners towards them while refraining from attempting to develop the connection due to their untrustworthiness and awful addiction to backbiting about others. 

3] Take most of their utterances and dubious info they share online with a grain of salt, aware that a lot of what they say could be nonsense and pretentious fabrications. If they promise or agree to do something, I wouldn't expect too much from them since they seem to be pros at being unreliable - in my opinion. 

4] Imagine them as one of those products at some grocery stores which I'm uninterested in purchasing because they're irrelevant to my lifestyle choices and/or they are mostly a bad influence. Disliking them for Allah's sake doesn't necessitate that I discard them whenever I come across them, no, specially if I'm not the one managing the store. I'd simply walk past them, visualizing them as distractions or obstacles which aren't beneficial to me at all. 

5] Regard them as examples of lousy behavior to avoid.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good or remain silent. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his neighbor. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his guest."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Let him not harm his neighbor.”

And in another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Let him uphold family ties.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5672, Sahih Muslim 47

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do you know who is the bankrupt?" They said, “The one without money or goods is bankrupt.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the bankrupt of my nation are those who come on the Day of Resurrection with prayers, fasting, and charity, but also with insults, slander (gossiping, spreading rumors, and backbiting), consuming wealth, shedding blood (committing murder), and beating others. The oppressed (those whom they unfairly mistreated) will each be given from his good deeds. If his (the oppressor's) good deeds run out before justice is fulfilled, then their sins will be cast upon him and he (the oppressor who treated them wrongly) will be thrown into Jahannam/Hell."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2581

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever wrongs his brother in his honor or anything else should resolve the matter today before it cannot be resolved with gold and silver coins. If he has good deeds to his credit, they will be taken from him according to the measure of his injustice. If he has no good deeds left, he will bear the evil deeds of the one he has oppressed."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2317

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-for-allahs-sake-avoid-and-unfollow.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-avoid-gossipers-for-allah-and-dont.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/06/note-minimize-pointless-conversations.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/poem-avoid-toxic-people-who-lie-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/poem-when-some-gossipbackbite-about-you.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/intj-gossip-how-the-intj-handles-gossip/

Note: Can Muslims Attend "Xmas" Parties?

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Some notes on how to interact well with non-Muslims, 

Whether they're non-Muslim relatives, colleagues, students, 

Neighbors, strangers, salespersons, or casual acquaintance: 

One: Treat them decently. Know they're Allah's creation. 

Use mercy and justice in your general dealings. 

~•~

Do your best to maintain good manners when they're present, 

And when they're absent, refrain from needless gossiping. 

With Muslims or non-Muslims, Allah is still watching, 

While nearby at all times, there are angels recording.

Abstain from all forms of injustice and oppression.

~•~

Two: If you like them, if they happen to be loved ones, 

If their well-mannered conduct invites admiration, 

Then do them a favor, show them the true religion, 

Share with them your knowledge of Islam and right guidance, 

And mention them in Du'as, pray that Allah guides them.

~•~

Recall the Sahabas (RadhiAllahu 'anhum). Most started as non-Muslims, 

Formerly they abhorred and showed fierce opposition 

To Allah's Messenger Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) and the Muslims, 

Until Allah the Most Kind saved them from misguidance, 

Enlightened them and promised them with Jannah's entrance.

~•~

Three: While treating non-Muslims with civilized treatment, 

Value your faith and don't stray from Islamic teachings. 

Don't partake in their festivals and celebrations, 

Because you're a Muslim, not because you're arrogant. 

True good character is also kind invitation.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The merciful will be shown mercy by the Most Merciful. Be merciful to those on the earth and the One (Allah) in the heavens will have mercy upon you."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1924

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

📖 Sahl Ibn Sa'd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "By Allah, that Allah guides a man through you is better for you than a herd of expensive red camels."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2847 

Sahih Muslim 2406

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever imitates a people is one of them."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4031

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Gabriel (Angel Jibreel 'alaihis salaam) did not stop advising me to treat neighbors well until I thought he would make them my heirs."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5669 

Sahih Muslim 2625

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Gabriel (Angel Jibreel 'alaihis salaam) kept advising me to be good to neighbors until I thought he would make them my heirs."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 3674

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/living-with-non-muslims-in-the-west-with-fine-conduct/

https://www.salafisounds.com/mannerisms-of-the-muslims-with-the-non-muslims-by-abu-khadeejah/

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Tips: 3 Dos And 3 Don'ts Regarding Individuals Who Are Incompatible With You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: At school there are a number of individuals whom I do not like at all because of how unreliable, irresponsible, uncooperative, dishonest and unmannerly they've proven to be. What can I do to cope with their negative presence? 

📝 Answer: Some tips on dealing with individuals who are incompatible with you, especially if they never sincerely apologized for several mistakes they did or they continue doing something which you regard as toxic:- 

✅ Three dos: 

1] Maintain basic good manners with them for Allah's sake, being cordial acquaintances only, not intending to form an actual connection.

☑️ For example: When they greet you with the salaam, confidently respond to their greeting with a polite smile. 

2] Be honest and truthful with them as much as you can, for Allah's sake. 

☑️ For instance: If they ask for your feedback concerning an outfit which they bought recently or they wish to know what your opinion is on a project they presented, and you genuinely think it's interesting or notable somehow, let them know the truth instead of imitating them in being untruthful. 

3] Unapologetically avoid them for Allah's sake online and offline to shield your emotional and religious well-being.

☑️ Refrain from sitting too near them whenever you can, and don't bother checking any of their status updates, YouTube channel, and/or Facebook page/s etc. which can't add a single value to your faith/Imaan. 

❌ Three don'ts:

🚫 1} As much as possible, do not backbite or gossip about individuals whom you can't stand, even if you assume that a joke or certain information could appease your ego. 

🚫 2} Do not intentionally exclude them from group activities or meetings which they are supposed to partake in. While it is understandable that you don't enjoy talking to them, probably due to language barrier or you've decided to not trust them anymore, your grudge mustn't cause you to act like an emotionally wounded, insecure and unhappy bully. 

🚫 3} As much as possible, do not go out of your way to inquire about their personal lives, particularly if they are known for frequently inventing lies. Don't force yourself to prolong conversations with strangers who make you feel uncomfortable.

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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell (pleasant scent). As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-stay-connected-to-allah-and-youll.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/tips-how-mature-adults-and-muslims.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/10/poem-advice-on-dealing-with-some-people.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-maintain-noble-manners-even-with.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/06/tips-some-advice-on-ignoring-toxic.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/only-true-friends-and-righteous-companions-will-benefit-you/

Note: Five Reasons Why Allah Lets Us Meet Troublesome Or Toxic People

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Five reasons why Allah the Most Wise lets us meet some individuals who are obnoxiously uncooperative, rude and disrespectful: 

1] To appreciate the few who are sincerely helpful, supportive and tactful. 

💎 For example: The more you encounter impolite customers or indifferent clients, the more you may feel grateful for those who are more considerate or kindhearted to you. If you have a number of relatives who are selfish or too busy to communicate with you, you find yourself appreciating the ones who try their best to maintain peaceful connection with you.

2] To train us to become more patient, so we can earn additional rewards whenever we strive to have patience for Allah's sake. 

3] To thank Allah the Almighty that we don't have the misery and gigantic load of insecurities which grouchy trolls and envious troublemakers do. 

✅ Confident people who are genuinely happy with themselves never act like troubled bullies. Don't be surprised if you witness disrespect from individuals overwhelmed by many unresolved problems or who are guilty of immense envy. 

4] To understand what it feels like to be treated unfairly, so we desist from behaving unjustly towards others. 

⚠️ Somebody scammed or stole something from you? You didn't like it? Avoid doing the same to others. 

5] To defend the oppressed or warn loved ones against those who are untrustworthy and lack good manners.

~•~

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is friendly, for there is no goodness in one who is neither friendly, nor befriended."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 8945

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Arna'ut

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-three-reasons-why-allah-sometimes.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/03/tips-nine-likely-reasons-why-some.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/note-differences-between-people-who.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-how-to-tell-if-somebodys-vibes-are.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/07/note-five-reasons-to-be-carefully.html 

🟩 Note: Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'a.

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Note: Encouragement To Say The Morning And Evening Adhkaar Regularly

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Suggested morning routine: 

1] Wake up at around 2:30 AM or 3:00 AM, saying the prescribed Du'a upon waking up, and say Istighfaar ("AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem") at least 100 times. 

2] Pray Salat At-Tahajjud / Qiyaam Al-Layl, at least two Sunnah Rak'ahs, and Salat Al-Witr if you didn't pray Witr after Salat Al-'Ishaa. 

3] Supplicate for at least ten to fifteen minutes, say Du'a and talk to Allah the Almighty while facing towards the Qiblah direction. 

4] If there are still several minutes left until the Adhaan of Fajr Salah, take a nap only if you can be sure that you won't oversleep or watch some beneficial videos and browse the net until it's time to pray Salat Al-Fajr. 

5] After praying the Fajr prayer, sit for a few minutes to say the morning Dhikr and Du'a, including: 

"AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem" 100 times,

"SubhanAllah wa Bihamdih" 100 times, 

And "laa ilaaha ilAllah Wahdahu laa shareekaLah LahulMulk wa LahulHamd wa Huwa 'alaa kulli shay-in Qadeer." 100 times. 

6] Read some Surahs from the Noble Qur'an including: 

Surah Al-Fatiha, Ayatul Kursi, the last two verses from Surah Al-Baqarah, Surah Yaseen, Surah Al-Waaqi'ah, Surah Al-Mulk, Surah Al-Kahf if it's Jumuah Friday, Surah Az-Zalzalah, Surah At-Takaathur, Surah Al-Kaafiroon, then three times Surah Al-Ikhlaas, Surah Al-Falaq and Surah An-Naas. 

Make it a habit, as much as possible, to read at least two pages from the Noble Qur'an every night and/or day for Allah's sake.

7] Have a nap after the morning Adhkaar or carry out some tasks (e.g. seeking authentic knowledge and listening to at least one Islamic lecture) and then pray Salat Ad-Duha anytime from after complete sunrise to around twenty minutes before Salat Adh-Dhuhr, at least two Sunnah Rak'ahs so your day can 

Inn-sha-Allah be filled with more barakah / blessings.

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever recites the ‘Verse of the Throne’ (Ayat Al-Kursi) after every prescribed (obligatory) prayer, there will be nothing standing between him and his entry into Paradise but death."

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 7406

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Take advantage of five before five: Your youth before your old age, your health before your illness, your riches before your poverty, your free time before your work, and your life before your death."

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 9575

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-benefits-of-praying-tahajjud.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-my-brief-story-on-how-i-started.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/hadith-virtues-of-praying-sunnah-salat.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-join-those-who-pray-tahajjud-often.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/five-authentic-modes-of-dhikr-after-the-salah/

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Note: Some Advice On How To Manage One's Emotions As Muslims

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

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الحمد لله.

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

الحمد لله رب العالمين 

والصلاة والسلام على أشرف المرسلين سيدنا محمد صل الله عليه و سلم وعلى آله وصحبه ومن تبعهم بإحسان إلى يوم الدين

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السلام عليكم و رحمة الله و بركاته

Dear sisters in Islam, 

The topic which I've chosen to discuss 

Inn-sha-Allah revolves around the importance of being aware of how to deal with different types of emotions as Muslims. 

If you have observed throughout the years, ever since Allah the Almighty gave you the ability to distinguish between right and wrong, and how to differentiate between one feeling and another, you would acknowledge the fact that most of the crimes which were committed in the past and present had something in common - a lot of the perpetuators and criminals did what they did because of failure to control their temporary emotions. Perhaps you discovered or were informed of some news concerning a woman who killed her husband's other legal wife and wondered how can a Muslim who prays to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and fasts during Ramadan be capable of committing the major sin of murder? 

Do you remember the story of the two sons of Prophet Adam 'alaihis salaam? Qaabeel قابيل or Cain 

And Haabeel هابيل or Abel in English language? 

One of the brothers murdered the other because of intense jealousy and anger regarding feeling unappreciated by their father Prophet Adam 'alaihis salaam. This case also reminds us of how the half brothers of Prophet Yusuf 'alaihis salaam felt compelled to do whatever they can to get rid of him. So the envy which they were unable to overcome provoked them to throw Prophet Yusuf 'alaihis salaam into a well despite his young age and to invent an atrocious lie to their father, Prophet Jacob, Ya'qoob 'alaihis salaam. If they were actually strong enough to control their jealous emotion, they probably wouldn't have been guilty of oppressing their younger half brother and lying to their aging father, particularly as "adults" or "grown men".

✅ In a Hadith narrated by An-Nu'man Ibn Bashir RadhiAllahu 'anhu: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Verily, in the body is a piece of flesh which, if sound, the whole body is sound, and if corrupt, the whole body is corrupt. Truly, it is the heart."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 52, Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi 

عن النعمان بن بشير رضي الله عنهما قال: سمعت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول: ((ألا وإن في الجسد مضغة إذا صلحت صلح الجسد كله، وإذا فسدت فسد الجسد كله، ألا وهي القلب))؛ متفق عليه[1].

This is a clear evidence that if we can 

Inn-sha-Allah succeed in controlling our emotions or if we, with Allah's Will and Guidance, know how to prevent our current feelings from clouding our judgment, our actions and decisions we strive to make can 

Inn-sha-Allah be sound and upright.

So how exactly can we manage our emotions before they can overwhelm us?

We can Inn-sha-Allah achieve that by carefully reflecting on the following questions, whenever we sense or feel a certain kind of emotion: 

📝📋

Question number 

1] What emotion am I feeling right now? 

- One of the first steps in managing your emotions is to have awareness, to recognize the kind of sentiment which you're currently feeling, and to confirm that you truly feel that way instead of denying it or lying to yourself from within. 

2] Why do I feel this way? 

This is where you can 

Inn-sha-Allah determine if whatever emotion you're currently feeling is justified or understandable. 

3] Will Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala be pleased with me if I act upon this temporary emotion? 

Or, what are the sins (wrongdoings, deeds that are haraam / forbidden) which this emotion can lead to if it is left uncontrolled, 

and will Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala love me more if I do them, even if I supposedly have "good intentions" or so-called "valid reasons" to do them? 

4] What can I do to keep myself distracted and far away from this negative emotion? 

5] Can I transform this negative emotion to something that is positive, rewarding and beneficial for my soul in this world and the next life? 

Or, would it be possible for me to gain rewards and receive more of Allah's Love if I train myself to have patience for Allah's sake with whatever I am feeling at the moment?

~•~

Let us now try to apply those five questions when dealing with five types of emotions which all of us human beings encounter on different occasions. 

🔲 The first emotion: 

Sadness or sorrow. 

If you ask yourself this question:

1) "What emotion am I feeling right now?" 

You could state, "I feel sad, unhappy or unsatisfied with this current situation... This unpleasant emotion causes me to feel uninspired, unmotivated or unable to focus on several tasks etc."

Then you ask yourself the second question: 

2) "Why do I feel this way?"

You could say, "I'm sad because a loved one died, we got into many arguments and I couldn't apologize to them before they passed away, 

Or I feel miserable because I didn't pass the board exam for the second time even though most of my nights were spent on studying and reviewing, 

Or I feel unhappy because the guy who made a marriage proposal and spoke to my father some weeks ago changed his decision and married my cousin instead."

The third question:

3] "Will Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala be pleased with me if I act upon this temporary emotion? 

Or, what are the sins (wrongdoings, deeds that are haraam / forbidden) which this emotion can lead to if it is left uncontrolled, 

and will Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala love me more if I do them, even if I supposedly have "good intentions" or so-called "valid reasons" to do them?" 

Sadness can often lead to the following sins, if it is not managed well: 

¶• Self-harm or intentionally inflicting injury on oneself as an unhealthy way of coping with feeling depressed. 

¶• Suicide or attempting to take one's own life while Only Allah the Almighty is the One Who causes death when He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala Wills.

¶• Loudly expressing grief or wailing and questioning Allah's Decree when the soul of somebody close returns to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.

The fourth question:

4] "What can I do to keep myself distracted and far away from this negative emotion?"

When I'm feeling sad, I could release the sadness in the form of crying to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and saying some heartfelt Du'a, praying at least two Sunnah Rak'ahs of Salat At-Tahajjud / Qiyaam Al-Layl when most individuals are asleep, or I could enjoy inner peace and soothe my soul by reading from the Noble Qur'an, with a beautiful tone, on a regular basis. 

The fifth question: 

5] "Can I transform this negative emotion to something that is positive, rewarding and beneficial for my soul in this world and the next life? 

Or, would it be possible for me to gain rewards and receive more of Allah's Love if I train myself to have patience for Allah's sake with whatever I am feeling at the moment?"

📖 According to a Hadith narrated by Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, not even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will expiate his sins by it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318

Sahih Muslim 2573

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim.

عنْ أَبي سَعيدٍ وأَبي هُرَيْرة رضيَ اللَّه عَنْهُمَا عن النَّبيِّ ﷺ قَالَ: مَا يُصِيبُ الْمُسْلِمَ مِنْ نَصَبٍ وَلاَ وَصَبٍ وَلاَ هَمٍّ وَلاَ حَزَن وَلاَ أَذًى وَلاَ غمٍّ، حتَّى الشَّوْكَةُ يُشَاكُها إِلاَّ كفَّر اللَّه بهَا مِنْ خطَايَاه متفقٌ عَلَيهِ.

And in another Hadith

📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah, Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of piety), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

سُئِلَ رسولُ اللهِ أيُّ الناسِ أشدُّ بلاءً قال الأنبياءُ ثم الأمثلُ فالأمثلُ يُبتَلى الناسُ على قدرِ دِينِهم فمن ثَخنَ دِينُه اشتدَّ بلاؤه ومن ضعُف دِينُه ضعُفَ بلاؤه وإنَّ الرجلَ لَيصيبُه البلاءُ حتى يمشيَ في الناسِ ما عليه خطيئةٌ

الراوي : سعد بن أبي وقاص | المحدث : الألباني | المصدر : صحيح الترغيب | الصفحة أو الرقم : 3402 | خلاصة حكم المحدث : صحيح

The temporary feeling of sadness can 

Inn-sha-Allah become manageable when you remind yourself that you're not the only person on earth who feels sad at times. All of Allah's Prophets 'alaihim as-salaam, including His beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, occasionally went through trials and challenging circumstances which triggered feelings of sorrow or distress. 

You're not the only one who feels sad sometimes. Plus, this world which we currently live in is not Jannah Paradise where delight and happiness are eternal. 

With this temporary feeling of sadness, 

I could Inn-sha-Allah look forward to atonement for my previous sins and be inspired to increase saying the Adhkaar including Istighfaar.

📖 Abdullah Ibn Busr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Blessed is he who finds many prayers for forgiveness (Istighfaar) in his record (account of deeds)."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 3818

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

عن عبد الله بن بسر - رضي الله عنه - قال: قال رسول الله - صلى الله عليه وسلم -: (طوبى لمن وجد في كتابه استغفاراً كثيراً) رواه ابن ماجه والنسائي والطبراني، ورواه البيهقي عن عائشة - رضي الله عنها - مرفوعاً.

I could also share some of my experiences with sadness and how I successfully tackled them, with guidance from Allah the Most Wise, to motivate other Muslimahs to stay resilient and patient for Allah's sake with the challenges they're going through at this time.

📖 Abu Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever guides someone to goodness will have a reward like the one who did it."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1893

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

عن أَبِي مسعودٍ عُقبَةَ بْن عمْرٍو الأَنْصَارِيِّ البدري رضي الله عنه قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّه ﷺ: مَنْ دَلَّ عَلَى خَيْرٍ فَلهُ مثلُ أَجْرِ فَاعِلِهِ. 

رواه مسلم.

~•~

🔲 The second emotion: 

Excessive fear or severe anxiety. 

If you ask yourself: 

1] "What emotion am I feeling right now?" 

You could say "I feel afraid to raise my hand because I fear that my classmates would laugh if the professor doesn't select me to answer the question, 

Or I dread receiving news that my husband remarries his former girlfriend who recently embraced Islam even though he promised that he would still keep me as his first wife, 

Or I'm scared of traveling to Saudi Arabia to perform Hajj even though my brother and uncles agreed to accompany me as my mahrams."

Question number two:

2] "Why do I feel this way?" 

You could respond with, "Maybe I am afraid for now because I haven't tried this activity before, 

Or I fear not being able to find my way back to the hotel from the Masjid if I lost the group that I'm traveling with and if I struggle to communicate with the locals, 

Or I feel terrified of speaking on that stage because I worry about the nightmare becoming a reality." 

Question number three: 

3] "What are the sins (wrongdoings, deeds that are haraam / forbidden) which this emotion can lead to if it is left uncontrolled, 

and will Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala love me more if I do them, even if I supposedly have "good intentions" or so-called "valid reasons" to do them?" 

Excessive fear and doubts could compel a woman to ask a sorcerer to carry out witchcraft or perform some so-called "love spell" on her husband so he remains "in love" with her and doesn't wish to remarry, 

Or a businessman to consult or seek assistance from several fortunetellers regarding the most ideal locations to establish his franchise or company.

Question number four:

4] What can I do to keep myself distracted and far away from this negative emotion? 

I could focus on trusting Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and fearing Him Only, instead of panicking about how Allah's servants perceive me, while reminding myself of the truth that Allah the All-Knowing العليم has full control over everybody and everything.

Question number five:

5] Can I transform this negative emotion to something that is positive, rewarding and beneficial for my soul in this world and the next life? 

Yes. Alhamdulillah the feeling of anxiousness or worry can be an incentive to say Du'a and increase one's efforts to beg Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for His Guidance and Protection, while recalling that nothing can occur in the universe unless Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala decrees it. 

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: I was riding behind the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam when he said to me, "Young man, I will teach you some words. Be mindful of Allah and He will protect you. Be mindful of Allah and you will find Him before you. If you ask, ask from Allah. If you seek help, seek help from Allah. Know that if the nations were to gather together to benefit you, they will not benefit you unless Allah has decreed it for you. And if the nations gathered together to harm you, they will not harm you unless Allah has decreed it for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2516

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

عن عبد الله بن عباس رضي الله عنهما قال: كنت خلف النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم يوماً فقال يا غلام، إني أعلمك كلمات: «احْفَظِ اللهَ يحفظْك، احفظ الله تَجِدْه تُجَاهَك، إذا سألت فاسأل الله، وإذا اسْتَعَنْتَ فاسْتَعِن بالله، واعلمْ أن الأمةَ لو اجتمعت على أن ينفعوك بشيء لم ينفعوك إلا بشيء قد كتبه الله لك، وإن اجتمعوا على أن يَضرُّوك بشيء لم يَضرُّوك إلا بشيء قد كتبه الله عليك، رفعت الأقلام وجفت الصحف». وفي رواية: «احفظ الله تَجِدْه أمامك، تَعرَّفْ إلى الله في الرَّخَاء يَعرِفْكَ في الشِّدة، واعلم أنَّ ما أخطأَكَ لم يَكُنْ ليُصِيبَكَ، وما أصَابَكَ لم يَكُنْ لِيُخْطِئَكَ، واعلم أن النصرَ مع الصبرِ، وأن الفرجَ مع الكَرْبِ، وأن مع العُسْرِ يُسْرًا».  

[صحيح] - [رواه الترمذي وأحمد بروايتيه]

~•~

🔲 The third emotion: 

Anger or fury. 

Question one:

1] Ask yourself: 

"What emotion am I feeling right now?"

You could answer, "I feel angry that this self-entitled coworker lied to me more than twice and my resentment resulted in me wanting to avoid her as much as possible, 

Or I feel aggravated that the products which I ordered through Shopee and Lazada arrived at the wrong destination for the seventh time, 

Or I am annoyed by how they expect me to always be on time during faculty meetings yet when it is time for Fajr Salah, I'm the one waking up a lot earlier than them most of the time." 

Those are some situations in which a person is likely to feel some anger. 

Question two:

2] "Why do I feel this way?"

You could say, "I feel bothered by that specific colleague because I was actually looking forward to considering them as one of my close friends and we could spend time together outdoors a lot, specially as neighbors, but their silly mistakes only proved that they can never be trusted."

Question three:

3] "Will Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala be pleased with me if I act upon this temporary emotion?" 

Your response can be: 

"If I could express my bitterness towards this untruthful and unreliable colleague, I would regularly rant about their stupidity on social media and maybe command them to "shut up, I despise you with a passion" every time they approach me for something, but behaving with such rudeness and lack of good manners could bring about Allah's Displeasure which I do not want. So what I would do is to remain formal and detached but somewhat polite." 

Question four:

4] "What can I do to keep myself distracted and far away from this negative emotion?" 

I could Inn-sha-Allah practice some of the anger management tips which I've learned and researched, including actively avoiding and staying as far away as I can from any individual or situation which could provoke annoyance, and if I must deal with some kind of frustration or unavoidable stressful moment, I can try to train myself to remain calm with patience and listen to some soothing Qur'an recitations while resting or about to take a nap. 

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said to us, "If one of you is angry while he is standing, let him sit down so his anger will leave him; otherwise, let him lie down."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4782

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

عَنْ أَبِي ذَرٍّ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُول اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ 

إِذَا غَضِبَ أَحَدُكُمْ وَهُوَ قَائِمٌ فَلْيَجْلِسْ فَإِنْ ذَهَبَ عَنْهُ الْغَضَبُ وَإِلَّا فَلْيَضْطَجِعْ

4782 سنن أبي داود كتاب الأدب باب ما يقال عند الغضب

4782 المحدث الألباني خلاصة حكم المحدث صحيح في صحيح أبي داود

Other ways of coping with angry emotions, as a Muslim, is to evaluate your values and search for the benefits and blessings in disguise behind the incidents which provoked anger. Maybe your anger is a proof that you actually care about what you believe is important to you. In the case of the untrustworthy colleague, your anger showed how much you value authenticity and honesty. It's okay to feel angry sometimes, especially if your fury is justified, but make sure, as much as possible, that your angry emotions do not lead to self-sabotage or devastating outcomes.

Question five:

5] Can I transform this negative emotion to something that is positive, rewarding and beneficial for my soul in this world and the next life? 

Yes. Whenever I feel angry, I could cool off by performing wudhu / ablution then pray two Sunnah Rak'ahs, as long as this voluntary prayer isn't done during sunrise or sunset. 

I could also allow my heart and soul to heal by reading some pages from the Noble Qur'an as often as I can, while aspiring to earn a multitude of hasanaat or rewards by reciting each letter with Tarteel and tranquility.

~•~

🔲 The fourth emotion: 

Envy or jealousy. 

Again, if you implement the five questions to reflect on, starting from... 

The first question: 

1] "What emotion am I feeling right now?" 

You could describe your current mood as "Feeling jealous every time a particular female flaunts or shows off online the romantic gestures which her husband does."

The second question:

2] "Why do I feel this way?" 

You could explain that you oftentimes get triggered by jealousy whenever you notice a Muslimah being vocal and loud about her appreciation for her spouse whom she gets to see daily because, even though you admit that you are more than contented with staying fiercely loyal to the man whom Allah the Most Wise chose as your other half and soulmate, you aren't really excited about having to miss him each time he isn't around.

The third question:

3] "What are the sins (wrongdoings, deeds that are haraam / forbidden) which this emotion can lead to if it is left uncontrolled, 

and will Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala love me more if I do them, even if I supposedly have "good intentions" or so-called "valid reasons" to do them?" 

Gossiping, backbiting, attempting to spoil the reputation or image of the envied individual and acting like an obnoxious bully towards them, or resorting to sorcery and black magic are some of the destructive acts which many females are guilty of when they are overwhelmed by jealousy. We must avoid these transgressions for Allah's sake, as Muslims, especially if we wish to retain our good deeds and join those believers whom Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala is pleased with.  

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever wrongs his brother in his honor or anything else should resolve the matter today before it cannot be resolved with gold and silver coins. If he has good deeds to his credit, they will be taken from him according to the measure of his injustice. If he has no good deeds left, he will bear the evil deeds of the one he has oppressed."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2317

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَنْ كَانَتْ لَهُ مَظْلَمَةٌ لِأَخِيهِ مِنْ عِرْضِهِ أَوْ شَيْءٍ فَلْيَتَحَلَّلْهُ مِنْهُ الْيَوْمَ قَبْلَ أَنْ لَا يَكُونَ دِينَارٌ وَلَا دِرْهَمٌ إِنْ كَانَ لَهُ عَمَلٌ صَالِحٌ أُخِذَ مِنْهُ بِقَدْرِ مَظْلَمَتِهِ وَإِنْ لَمْ تَكُنْ لَهُ حَسَنَاتٌ أُخِذَ مِنْ سَيِّئَاتِ صَاحِبِهِ فَحُمِلَ عَلَيْهِ

2317 صحيح البخاري كتاب المظالم باب من كانت له مظلمة عند الرجل فحللها له هل يبين مظلمته

The fourth question: 

4] "What can I do to keep myself distracted and far away from this negative emotion?"

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look at those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125

Sahih Muslim 2963

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه قال: قال رسولُ اللَّه ﷺ: انْظُرُوا إِلَى مَنْ هو أَسفَل مِنْكُمْ وَلا تَنْظُرُوا إِلَى مَنْ هُوَ فَوقَكُم؛ فهُوَ أَجْدَرُ أَن لا تَزْدَرُوا نعمةَ اللَّه عَلَيْكُمْ.

متفقٌ عَلَيْهِ، وهذا لفظ مسلمٍ. 

وفي رواية البخاري: إِذا نَظَر أَحَدُكُمْ إِلَى مَنْ فُضِّلَ عليهِ في المالِ وَالخَلْقِ فلْيَنْظُرْ إِلَى مَنْ هُوَ أَسْفَلُ مِنْهُ.

If ever I notice myself feeling slightly jealous of how a Muslimah seems overjoyed and grateful that she gets to spend more time with her spouse than I can enjoy quality time with my dear husband, I would remind myself of the countless blessings and gifts found in my own love journey and, Alhamdulillah, I would recall the hundreds of women around the world who are likewise very satisfied with their marriages but they don't get to meet up with their husband as frequently as I can with mine.

The fifth question: 

5] "Is it be possible for me to gain rewards and receive more of Allah's Love if I train myself to have patience for Allah's sake with whatever I am feeling at the moment?"

Yes, Inn-sha-Allah. 

Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala says in Surah Al-Muminoon (the believers)

سورة المؤمنون 

قال الله سبحانه و تعالى:

إِنِّي جَزَيْتُهُمُ الْيَوْمَ بِمَا صَبَرُوا أَنَّهُمْ هُمُ الْفَائِزُونَ (111)

"Today I (Allah the Almighty) have indeed rewarded them for their (patience) perseverance: they are certainly the victorious." 

...the winners, who have succeeded in passing Allah's tests with guidance from Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.

~•~

🔲 The fifth and last emotion which we can mention today is: 

Infatuation, fixation with or obsession over somebody who is unmarriageable. 

Question one:

1] "What emotion am I feeling right now?" 

Perhaps you could say that ever since you started seeing the admirable qualities of a particular individual, for example an ustadh or one of your neighbors, you began developing some strange feelings of attraction for them. You tend to think of their noteworthy characteristics or "cute face" a lot, so much so that whenever you go to the places which you both frequent, you wish to bump into them and hear their voice again. 

Question two:

2] "Why do I feel this way?"

The response to this could be: "I probably have a crush on this person because they make me feel good about myself, complimenting me whenever I answer a question correctly and inspiring me to pursue my dreams." 

Question three: 

3] "What are the sins (wrongdoings, deeds that are haraam / forbidden) which this emotion can lead to if it is left uncontrolled, 

and will Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala love me more if I do them, even if I supposedly have "good intentions" or so-called "valid reasons" to do them?"

Zina / fornication and adultery are the usual consequences of failing to control one's feelings of attraction towards somebody who is unattainable. 

There is also a possibility for same-sex attraction, homosexuality or bisexuality to take place if two individuals of the same gender can't resist their excessive liking or admiration for each other. 

These major sins must be avoided for Allah's sake, as Muslims who strive to uphold Allah's Laws and Legislations. 

Question four and five:

4] "What can I do to keep myself distracted and far away from this negative emotion? Can I transform this temporary feeling to something that is positive, rewarding and beneficial for my soul in this world and the next life?"

It is not a sin or crime to find another individual "attractive" or to feel "attracted" to them. What is wrong is to actually put zina into action, to go on dates with an illegitimate companion, "boyfriend" or "girlfriend", and to stare at their uploaded photos while fantasizing about them.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has pardoned my nation for what occurs within themselves, as long as they do not speak of it or act upon it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6287, Sahih Muslim 127

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه عن النبي محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: «إن الله تَجَاوَزَ عن أمتي ما حَدَّثَتْ به أَنْفُسَهَا، ما لم تَعْمَلْ أو تتكلم» قال قتادة: «إذا طَلَّقَ في نفسه فليس بشيء».  

[صحيح] - [متفق عليه]

🟢 Some tips on how to fully detach from those whom you have a crush on but can't marry:

1] Try the "out of sight, out of mind" tactic, so they can be forgotten. Avoid or minimize going to the areas at school, at work, in the city and online where you know they frequently go to. Unfriend or unfollow them on social media if doing so brings you closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, even if this choice may upset them.

Both of you can Inn-sha-Allah be rewarded for striving to maintain patience.

2] Lower your gaze whenever they are around and when quickly noticing pictures of themselves online. Don't keep staring at their faces, bodies and pictures no matter how much you may want to.

3] Recall their negative qualities that actually turn you off so you no longer find them attractive, or recount all the reasons why it's impossible for you to be romantically together.

4] People who wish to lose weight avoid excessive food even if they normally enjoy overeating whenever they like, yet they have the stamina to stay away from eating excessively in order to achieve their goal to become physically fit. If they can do that, just as you're able to resist eating and drinking while fasting, you too have the ability to detach from the urge to commit zina - a major sin. 

So that avoiding this so-called "crush" becomes easier or manageable, make sure that you are doing this sincerely to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Anything done for Allah's sake with Ikhlaas sincerity becomes worthwhile 

Inn-sha-Allah and achievable.

5] Constantly remind yourself of the consequences of acting upon sinful thoughts and inappropriate feelings. Imagine actually having done what you desire to do with the person you're crushing on behind closed doors and then instantly regretting your wrong decision in this world and the next.

6] Acknowledge the fact that daydreaming about being in an affair with your crush is irrational. If it's something that can never happen in real life, must never take place, or it is one of shaytan's tricks which eventually directs you to massive remorse, do not bother entertaining those nonsensical illusions.

7] Get married sincerely for Allah's sake to preserve your modesty and focus on loving the soul whom Allah the Most Wise selects as your spouse.

8] If you still can't forget those whom your heart regards as "irresistible" or "magnetic", admit that yes you like them a lot, while knowing what your boundaries and restrictions are. The similitude of avoiding what you desire is that of a diabetic who intentionally refrains from excess sugar and carbohydrates which they'd freely enjoy if they weren't struggling with diabetes. Although they relish sugary foods and carbs, they distance themselves from what can cause their health condition to decline. 

Respect yourself enough to leave what Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala has prohibited.

9] Do what you can to be prepared for death and look forward to being granted entry Inn-sha-Allah to Jannah Paradise, where all wishes and desires can be fulfilled.

10] Make sincere effort to fast Sunnah fasts regularly like on Yawm 'Arafah and every other Monday and Thursday. Fasting is another way to effectively discipline your soul, training your nafs to gain inner strength in avoiding what should be avoided.

11] Realize that if you genuinely love that particular soul whom you admire, wouldn't you want what is best for them? Getting into zina will only result in you two being exposed to humiliation in both worlds, so why jeopardize your faith/Imaan and dignity by pursuing what is clearly haraam/forbidden.

Staying patient for Allah's sake as you ignore those whom your heart desires or struggling with feeling heartbroken in dunya is better than fulfilling animalistic urges then eternally regretting.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه قال‏:‏ قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم‏:‏ ‏ "‏ المؤمن القوي خير وأحب إلى الله من المؤمن الضعيف وفي كل خير‏.‏ احرص على ما ينفعك، واستعن بالله ولا تعجز‏.‏ وإن أصابك شيء فلا تقل‏:‏ لو أني فعلت كان كذا وكذا، ولكن قل‏:‏ قدر الله، وما شاء فعل؛ فإن لو تفتح عمل الشيطان‏"‏ ‏(‏‏(‏ رواه مسلم‏)‏‏)‏‏.‏

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To recap (ree-caap), the five questions which you can ask yourself when dealing with any emotion are:

1] What emotion am I feeling right now? 

2] Why do I feel this way? A lot of emotions which are generated in the heart are actually suggestions from our archenemy shaytan who wants to mislead and divert us from our actual purpose in life.

3] Will Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala be pleased with me if I act upon this temporary emotion? 

Or, what are the sins (wrongdoings, deeds that are haraam / forbidden) which this emotion can lead to if it is left uncontrolled, 

and will Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala love me more if I do them, even if I supposedly have "good intentions" or so-called "valid reasons" to do them? 

4] What can I do to keep myself distracted and far away from this negative emotion? 

5] Can I transform this negative emotion to something that is positive, rewarding and beneficial for my soul in this world and the next life? 

Or, would it be possible for me to gain rewards and receive more of Allah's Love if I train myself to have patience for Allah's sake with whatever I am feeling at the moment?

💎 Three additional tips to succeed

Inn-sha-Allah in managing your heart and emotions:

1➡️ Never stop learning about our Deen (religion) and strive to ensure that our belief 'Aqeedah is correct by studying about Islam through the right sources. 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Whoever travels a path in search of knowledge, Allah will make easy for him a path to Paradise. People do not gather in the Houses of Allah, reciting the Book of Allah and studying It together, but that tranquility will descend upon them, mercy will cover them, angels will surround them, and Allah will mention them to those near Him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2699

Grade: Sahih

In another Hadith, and Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala knows best:

عَنْ أَبي الدَّرْداءِ، رضي الله عنه، قَال: سمِعْتُ رَسُول اللَّهِ ﷺ، يقولُ: منْ سَلَكَ طَريقًا يَبْتَغِي فِيهِ علْمًا سهَّل اللَّه لَه طَريقًا إِلَى الجنةِ، وَإنَّ الملائِكَةَ لَتَضَعُ أجْنِحَتَهَا لِطالب الْعِلْمِ رِضًا بِما يَصْنَعُ، وَإنَّ الْعالِم لَيَسْتَغْفِرُ لَهُ منْ في السَّمَواتِ ومنْ فِي الأرْضِ حتَّى الحِيتانُ في الماءِ، وفَضْلُ الْعَالِم عَلَى الْعابِدِ كَفَضْلِ الْقَمر عَلى سَائِرِ الْكَوَاكِبِ، وإنَّ الْعُلَماءَ وَرَثَةُ الأنْبِياءِ وإنَّ الأنْبِياءَ لَمْ يُورِّثُوا دِينَارًا وَلا دِرْهَمًا وإنَّما ورَّثُوا الْعِلْمَ، فَمنْ أَخَذَهُ أَخَذَ بِحظٍّ وَافِرٍ. رواهُ أَبُو داود والترمذيُّ.

2➡️ Choose your close friends very carefully. Do not associate yourself with individuals who could get you into trouble in this world and the afterlife.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

عن أبي هريرة -رضي الله عنه- أَن النبيَّ محمد -صَلّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وسَلَّم- قَالَ: «الرَّجُلُ عَلَى دِينِ خَلِيلِهِ، فَلْيَنْظُر أَحَدُكُم مَنْ يُخَالِل».

3➡️ Always, always, always purify your niyyah / intention before doing any deed, making sure that you do what you do and say what you say only to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and to be closer to Him.

Allah the Almighty says in Surah Saad 

سورة ص: 

قَالَ فَبِعِزَّتِكَ لَأُغْوِيَنَّهُمْ أَجْمَعِينَ (82)

إِلَّا عِبَادَكَ مِنْهُمُ الْمُخْلَصِينَ (83)

"shaytan / the devil, on one occasion, said to our Rabb and Creator Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala: By Your Might (or by Your Glory, Allah the Almighty), I shall mislead them all... except for your servants among them who are sincere 

(mukhliseen مخلصين)."

May Allah the Most Merciful make us among the sincere believers, accept our good deeds, and grant us more guidance to the righteous actions which lead to a beautiful entry to Jannatul Ferdaus with Allah's Mercy. Ameen. 

سُبْحَانَكَ اللَّهُمَّ وَبِحَمْدِكَ ، أَشْهَدُ أَنْ لا إِلَهَ إِلا أَنْتَ ، أَسْتَغْفِرُكَ وَأَتُوبُ إِلَيْكَ 

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السلام عليكم و رحمة الله و بركاته

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💎 Link to the article on how to deal with five types of emotions as Muslims:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1q2UKiDvujDdjyAp3LrKnoN8u0UQlO1wB/view?usp=drivesdk