Note: Can An INTJ Personality Type Feel "Lonely"?

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: Do you, as an INTJ personality type, ever feel lonely? What is your secret to being very selective when it comes to choosing your close friends?

📝 Answer: Sometimes I do feel lonesome when there are certain topics I wish to discuss, ideas I'm willing to share, dreams which I'd like to have interpreted, questions that need to be asked, some doubts to be clarified, news I want to analyze or stuff I could rant about but realize there's no individual yet who can be counted as genuinely trustworthy, who isn't preoccupied with a multitude of responsibilities, and who won't misunderstand what I'm trying to convey. Alhamdulillah what I usually do when there's an urge to chat with somebody is I say some Du'as (supplicate to Allah the All-Knowing) or find comfort in reading some pages from the Noble Qur'an while hoping to attain rewards for every letter that's recited. Other times I read some articles or books, research online, listen to Islamic lectures including recorded Friday sermons / Jumuah Khutbahs on YouTube and browse around websites which promote self-confidence and self-development as a Muslim. 

From the reasons why I am rather choosy when it comes to building friendships and maintaining contact: 

1] I don't want to waste time, money, feelings, energy and words on those who pretend to be whom they aren't and who may secretly despise me in any way. To ensure their overall well-being and safety, lambs in general wouldn't mingle with wolves nor would birds build their nests nearby snakes. 

2] It doesn't make sense for a dedicated Muslim, who aims to be closer to Allah the Most Loving, to connect with people whose bad manners and negative influence act as obstacles to attaining Allah's Love. Skilled mountaineers would avoid climbing on feeble rocks and slippery surfaces to prevent falling. Nothing valuable can be gained from staying connected with individuals who are incapable of granting support, assistance and commitment. 

3] Being affiliated with the wrong circle of friends can lead to trouble in this fleeting world and the next. The less you socialize with toxic people, the farther you are from unnecessary stress, flattering those who are unworthy of your compliments, and collecting people's sins through futile gossiping.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56 

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