Sunday, August 27, 2023

Note: If you do at least 3 of these, you're an immature "adult"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Checklist to determine if you're emotionally immature (or insecure) and you seriously need to work on developing your good character - if you are guilty of at least three of these, you aren't a mature adult:
1. A lot of times whatever emotion you feel inside gets outwardly expressed in the form of morally inappropriate acts or negative statements. It's obvious that you let silly emotions control you most of the time. [   ] 
2. You're obnoxiously nosy, frequently spying on others' lives instead of minding your own business. Regularly stalking the online profiles of those whom you secretly envy or despise is one of your strange obsessions. [   ] 
3. You stupidly assume that it's alright to steal, scam and deceive others. [   ] 
4. Like an oversized bully whose gigantic ego gets hurt easily, one of the weird things you usually do is giving instructions to similarly ignorant or naive people to misbehave and mistreat others just so you can feel better about your discontented self (e.g. "when so-and-so arrives, pretend to ignore her. I want her to feel as awful as I did when she told me such and such. Don't answer her messages so she can feel how I felt when she chose to boycott my YouTube channel etc.". [   ] 
5. In many instances, particularly at several social events, you've displayed how terribly greedy and selfish you are. It would be an absolute lie to describe yourself as genuinely helpful, kind and generous. [   ] 
6. You always insist on being liked or admired by certain individuals. It's difficult for you to detach and move on from an indifferent person who clearly isn't willing to start any connection with you. [   ] 
7. Idiotically you believe that it's okay to invent lies just to inflate your gargantuan ego and make others feel "jealous". [   ] 
~•~
📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah (The Almighty) wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi
📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing is heavier upon the scale of a believer on the Day of Resurrection than his good character. Verily, Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) hates the vulgar and obscene person (prone to wicked conduct and vile speech such as knowingly telling lies, backbiting, spreading rumors)."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2002
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Verily, among the best of you are those with the best character."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3366
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi

Tips: Can an introvert wife stay contented with an extroverted husband? Of course

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: Is it possible for a wife to get along peacefully with her husband if she's an introvert while he's an extrovert? What do you usually do as an INTJ (1w9) to avoid conflict with your ESFJ (3w2) husband? 
📝 Answer: 1. Consistently remind yourself of the main purpose or multiple reasons why you willingly accepted your husband's marriage proposal in the beginning. If you truly love your spouse for Allah's sake, courageously forgiving him and maintaining steadfast patience (Sabr) with his shortcomings won't be challenging. 
2. Stubbornly recall all of your husband's admirable qualities as well as the numerous favors and loving gestures which he has undeniably shown you in the past and present (for example oftentimes feeding you with his right hand and generously sharing his meals with you even though you've got your own food, caring enough about you to provide sincere advice and correcting you whenever he notices you doing something wrong, attempting to make you laugh with his cute sense of humor every now and then etc.). 
3. For Allah's sake spend time together whenever you can through attending some family gatherings, particularly during Ramadan and Eid. Make it evident that you also care about his loved ones by frequently visiting them, at least once a month or every two months, and greeting them online when you're not busy. 
4. Let your husband know about your likes and dislikes, and familiarize yourself with what he prefers and what makes him uncomfortable. As his loyal and patient wife, refrain from unreasonably expecting him to be one hundred percent "perfect", and stay away from saying anything which could bring about pointless drama as much as possible.
5. As long as you both aren't doing what clearly displeases Allah the Almighty, genuinely be okay with letting him spend time with his friends and colleagues without interrogating him about every single one of his actions as if you can't trust him, just as you wouldn't want him to be the excessively jealous and insecure type of husband who prevents his wife from building meaningful connections.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e. her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090
In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'" 
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

Monday, August 21, 2023

Note: Showcase Any Of These 7 Bad Traits And I'd Gladly Avoid You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Seven things which if spotted in someone would inspire me (as an INTJ) to refrain from talking to them as much as possible (and never will I bother browsing around their social media posts) to preserve my faith / Imaan and overall well-being... if they: 
1. ...were caught gossiping about others more than twice or cowardly talking about me negatively. 
2. ...appear obviously nervous and uncomfortable around me numerous times as if they're more afraid of me than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem. 
3. ...display awful lack of manners while their evident disrespectful acts imply they're intensely envious of me. 
4. ...exhibit any form of enmity or animosity towards even one of my family members and relatives particularly if they question why my dear husband is deserving of my loyalty. 
5. ...are uninteresting, unreliable and ineffectual when it comes to communicating both online and face to face.
6. ...unreasonably expect me to be there for them "all the time" and to never say no to their requests. 
7. ...act passive-aggressive a lot, especially if they're older than me, and very often misconstrue many of my statements so much so that it's better to stay quiet if they're nearby when we are in the same venue than to initiate awkward conversations which could lead to unnecessary drama.

Allah the All-Knowing knows best. The souls whom Allah the Most Wise has destined for us to meet on earth are like books in a library which we can choose from before embarking on an important journey. We don't need too many reading materials for us to feel "fulfilled" and "complete" - just the right selection of few reliable books which we believe can 
Inn-sha-Allah cause our faith Imaan levels to increase. Gladly distance yourself from those with empty pages and meaningless content, and any writing that could negatively influence our self-esteem.
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah (The Almighty), hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782
Sahih Muslim 2998
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell (pleasant scent). As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

Monday, August 14, 2023

Poem: Advice To Female Students Who Sometimes Deal With Sad "Mean Girls"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Quick advice to female students and those in their teens
Who sometimes deal with jealous girls who love acting mean
Or corrupt bullies who often make them feel "unseen":
Don't be saddened by sad clowns. Don't wish to join their team
Of lousy actors who are unhappy from within.
~•~
Know that their silly efforts to spoil your self-esteem
Stem from their sorrow due to their insecurities
And extreme jealousy of your real inner beauty.
They resent how you're superior to them morally
And despise the fact they're destroyed emotionally -
~•~
Emotionally destroyed by their intense envy
Of how you surpass them in manners, integrity,
Sincerity in striving to please Allah Only,
In being blessed with parents who want you to succeed
In both worlds, and in behaving better gracefully.
~•~
They're like uncivilized baboons or disturbed monkeys
Desperate to steal food from picnickers. Ugly greed
Compels them to treat people so disrespectfully.
So greedy for your attention, they try to mistreat
You to appease their threatened ego and misery.
~•~
Wherever you go, these bullies suffer inwardly
From envious feelings because your maturity
And gracious character make them feel like tiny beasts
Clearly angry that you're better than them morally.
They're jealous, that's for sure - don't absorb their misery.
~•~
For Allah's sake ignore their bad acting and gladly
Avoid them online and offline when you must, and be
Fiercely indifferent to their lies and fakery.
Be like an independent queen walking past dry leaves
That can't affect your strong faith/Imaan and self-esteem.
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah (The Almighty), hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi
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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/poem-as-muslim-dont-be-rude-and-insecure.html
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-advice-to-patiently-deal-with.html
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/02/note-adult-bullies-and-mean-girls-dont.html
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/03/note-intjs-bullying-and-some-tips-on.html
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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-five-insecure-habits-that.html
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/09/poem-tired-of-jealous-people-treating.html
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Saturday, August 12, 2023

Poem: When You're Too Exhausted Emotionally To Leave Your Bed

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🗒️ During times when you feel too depressed to leave your bed, 
When you feel exhausted, overwhelmed by frequent stress, 
And you wish each slumber can help you get over it, 
Seek refuge with Allah from shaytan who rejoices 
In your sadness and expecting life to be "flawless". 
~•~
Allah the Most Wise designed dunya to be a test.  
So don't expect all exams to produce happiness. 
Real joy is enjoyed in Paradise where we can rest, 
Where the hearts won't get tempted, seduced and distracted
By shaytan who desires that we don't pass Allah's tests.
~•~
When you're sad, tell yourself: "it's temporary, a test, 
To teach you patience, check how strong your faith/Imaan is, 
And so your status in Jannah gets elevated. 
Don't aim to be "perfect".  Be glad you're trying your best. 
Know Allah's Mercy surpasses your mother's kindness. 
~•~
Don't be affected by strangers and jealous critics. 
Strive to please Only Allah Who made this world a test. 
Worship Allah and trust Him. Relax when you need rest 
From working to earn halal gains to pass Allah's tests. 
Read from the Qur'an often to stay motivated. 
~•~ 
Don't wait for people to uplift you and encourage
You to never quit. All souls on earth at times get stressed. 
Rely on Allah and don't be debilitated
By shaytan who wants you far away from true success. 
Defeat shaytan through Taqwa, don't do what he suggests."
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look to those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125 
Sahih Muslim 2963
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of righteousness), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318 
Sahih Muslim 2573
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

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Friday, August 11, 2023

Note: 11 Blessings Which A Muslim Man Earns When He Marries A Truly Righteous Muslim Wife

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📑 Eleven blessings which a Muslim man earns when he marries a Muslimah who strives to be pious for Allah's sake, while he prefers her strong connection with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala to her obsession with her outward appearance: 
1 ] Because she strives to fear Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, this Muslim who married her for Allah's sake is protected from her urge to gossip and speak badly about him whether in his presence or absence. In fact, whenever he's not around and some individuals talk about him negatively, this righteous wife quickly defends him like a passionate attorney defending a client or at least provides valid excuses for his shortcomings. 
2 ] If she believes that she is unable to fulfill all of her husband's rights and wants, she willingly allows him to be married to up to four wives, while frequently reminding him to treat his multiple spouses with fair treatment and wisdom. 
3 ] She is actually delighted and impressed, not insecure nor threatened with envy, when she observes how her husband treats his mother, sisters and aunts respectfully. She never insists on being the only female on earth who deserves his full attention. 
4 ] Since she is contented Alhamdulillah with the marriage and love story which Allah the Most Wise has designed and destined for her, she is incapable of feeling even an ounce of jealousy towards other married couples. She never compares her unique journey with anybody else's tests while she avoids stalking people's filtered photos and pretentious social media posts. 
5 ] She avoids being an illogical spendthrift and refrains from demanding her husband 24/7 to behave like an overworked moneymaking machine. 
6 ] She is readily forgiving, admirably patient and courageously lenient with her husband and his relatives for Allah's sake. 
7 ] As much as possible she doesn't keep irrational thoughts or unreasonable suspicions about her husband nor does she instantly accuse him of "cheating" when he behaves like a gentleman towards any female online and offline. 
8 ] She avoids stressing him out with too many demands and expectations particularly when she understands that her human husband requires some rest after a meeting or duty. 
9 ] For Allah's sake she tries her best to remain loyal to him and ensures that she doesn't communicate with non-mahram males unnecessarily. She lowers her gaze faithfully when she should and never compares her soulmate to any other living being. 
10 ] Regularly she mentions her husband's name in many of her loving Du'as and prayers, more so when praying Tahajjud Qiyaam Al-Layl. 
11 ] If her husband is blessed with a child or several kids from another legal wife (or wives), this righteous Muslim spouse makes sure that she treats them all well for Allah's sake and assists in educating them sincerely more about Islam with proper Islamic upbringing whenever she can.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman otherwise you will be a loser."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090
In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27
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Thursday, August 10, 2023

Tips: What I Think Of Ignorant People Who Laugh At The Niqaab

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
🗒️ Question: As a niqaabi / muntaqabah (Muslimah who wears the niqaab when outdoors or in the presence of non-mahram males) since you were around 12 years old back in Saudi Arabia, what do you think of ignorant people who laugh at you when you walk by them in the malls, parks, airport etc. while you're wearing all black niqab, hijab and abaaya or jilbab? 
📝 Answer: Alhamdulillah I usually completely ignore them as though I'm a lioness striding by a bunch of noisy hyenas or giggling chimpanzees and I want nothing to do with their nonsensical laughter concealing some emotional wounds and/or utter ignorance. I immediately assume: 
➡️ ...they have never traveled outside of this city or anywhere abroad including the Middle East, which could explain why they're tremendously ignorant about different cultures and customs. 
➡️ ...they probably don't have a single connection with a true Muslim who mentioned to them about Islamic dress code and modest clothing. For instance, Alhamdulillah, since I've already toured around Disneyland in California, Walt Disney World in Orlando Florida and Euro Disneyland in Paris France when I was around ten years old, I wouldn't be surprised nor would I find it "funny" if a parade of chubby mascots in vibrant costumes were marching by me, unlike somebody who doesn't even know what a mascot is they'd most likely feel "amused" or "weirded out" if they noticed a stranger dressed in an outfit which is not familiar to them at all.
➡️ ...there's a likelihood that they never went to an actual school, they're morally uneducated, or none of their parents was intelligent and responsible enough to teach them about maintaining good character and showing basic courtesy to various kinds of individuals.
➡️ ...they're actually depressed singletons who are so desperate to search for anything that they can consider "laughable", so they start laughing artificially with an intention of masking their internal misery or they are attempting to distract themselves temporarily from their sad circumstances and insecurities. 
➡️ ...some miserable outsiders instructed them to act as though they're laughing out loud just to check my reaction because they are conducting a prank or their silly efforts to disturb others' peace is their strange coping mechanism with their own self-loathing or emotional disturbance. 
When we do any deed sincerely to please Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, the mockery of Allah's servants can't affect us negatively.
~•~
📖 ‘Urwah reported: Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha said, “May Allah (The Almighty) have mercy on the foremost women of the Muhaajirun. When Allah revealed the verse, ‘Let them draw their cloaks over their bodies,’ (The Noble Qur'an 24:31) they cut their sheets and veiled themselves with them.”
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 4481
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

Wednesday, August 9, 2023

Tips: 11 Ways To Respond To A Nosy Person Asking You To Share A Secret

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Some tips from an INTJ-A (and INTJs are accordingly the most secretive and most mysterious of the 16 MBTI personality types) on how to remain secretive when someone nosy tries to ask you about some private information which you are not willing to disclose - you can respond by saying: 
1. "Allahu A'lam." "Allah the Almighty knows best." 
2. "Why do you feel the need to know? We're not even close." 
3. "If I tell you, it wouldn't be a secret anymore, now would it?" 
4. "It is none of your business. Why are you so nosy?" 
5. "It has absolutely nothing to do with you. So you shouldn't be curious." 
6. "Even if you tried to bribe me with a billion cash to reveal it, I refuse to disclose it. It's none of your business." 
7. "Why do you think I'd tell you about it that eagerly while we're not friends in the first place?" 
8. "Why are you so desperate to know about it? Are you authoring my biography without my knowledge? Or do you wish to use this info for gossip? Ever heard of respecting personal space?" 
9. "I can answer that question but I don't want to. Change topic please. Otherwise, I have something else that's more important to do, and it has nothing to do with you." 
10. "Maybe you can ask yourself that question? Because I don't have the proper response for it." 
11. Swiftly or abruptly excuse yourself from any conversation which makes you uneasy and let them know you're not interested in talking to them that casually until they agree to stop being nosy.
~•~
📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When Allah (The Almighty) gathers together the earlier and later generations on the Day of Resurrection, He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will raise a banner for every (betrayer) treacherous person. It will be announced that this is the treachery of this person, the son of this person."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5823
Sahih Muslim 1735
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever believes in Allah (The Almighty) and the Last Day, let him speak goodness or remain silent. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his neighbor. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his guest."
In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, “Let him not harm his neighbor.”
And in another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Let him uphold family ties.”
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5672
Sahih Muslim 47
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "May Allah have mercy on a person who spoke rightly and was rewarded, or who was silent and remained safe."
Source: Shu’b Al-Imān 4579
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani
📖 Mu'adh Ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, you will continue to be safe as long as you remain silent. If you speak, it will be recorded for you or against you."
Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 16591
Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi according to Al-Albani

Sunday, August 6, 2023

Tips: It's Not A Must To Be Part Of A Group/Clique To Feel "Fulfilled"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📑 Some advice from an INTJ-A on how to be perfectly okay with standing out instead of "fitting in" or not being part of a clique (group of close friends). Seven probable reasons why a group of individuals, whether at school, in your neighborhood or in the workplace, don't treat you as a friend or "one of them": 
1] If they're all narcissists who are insecure and intensely envious of you, they'd avoid you as much as they can because your good vibes, achievements and confidence make them feel very "inadequate" or "inferior".
2] It seems to them that you don't have a lot in common or they find you "unrelatable" and too "weird" or "too different". Patiently accept Allah's Qadr/Destiny and decision that your souls couldn't connect for a good reason. Know that your success in both worlds is never dependent on people's validation. 
3] All of them are not fluent or comfortable yet speaking in your main spoken language.
4] There's at least one shared quality which each of their group members has and it appears to them that you don't have such commonality. For instance, in my case, I believe I'm not close to a particular group because the females in this clique are all "balik Islam" or "Muslim reverts" and, if I'm not mistaken, they're terrified of the concept of polygyny and/or they fail to believe that in Islam you're allowed to marry your cousin. 
5] You didn't make enough effort to actually get to know them or they perceive you as "intimidating", "closed off" or "unapproachable". 
6] You may have done something in the past which offended many if not all of them and they're too cowardly to confront you about it. For Allah's sake, don't sacrifice your self-respect by altering your values to persuade them to "validate" you, particularly if they're the sort of people who act obviously toxic and passive-aggressive whenever they feel emotionally wounded. Refuse to associate yourself with anybody who's awfully insecure, egoistic and inauthentic.
7] They probably assume that you're too "busy" for them or they wrongly think you're "judgmental" so there's no point in inviting you to join them in their gatherings and outings if you'll just reject their invitations. Your faith Imaan and overall well-being are so much better off without witnessing the lousy actions of those engulfed in their insecurities and negative thinking. 
✅ Five advantages of not being part of their group: 
1] Safety and distance from their lies, nonsensical discussions and fake giggles. 
2] Protection from begrudgingly listening to their backbiting and partaking in their infantile gossip. 
3] More time and opportunities to focus on learning more about Islam and prioritizing those things which deserve your full attention. 
4] More chances to strengthen your connections for Allah's sake with your parents, siblings, loved ones, aunties, relatives etc. who aren't jealous of you and they truly deserve your affection. 
5] Not being connected to a group which could be guilty of committing certain sins and crimes that you strive to stay away from as a Muslim.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638 
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah (The Almighty), hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell (pleasant scent). As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."
Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56

Friday, August 4, 2023

Poem: To Every Muslim Husband - Avoid Mistreating Your Wife/Wives

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ To every Muslim male whom Allah granted a wife, 
Or whom Allah allowed to marry several times 
So this guy is tested with two, or three, or four wives, 
And whether he's blessed with many kids or just one child, 
Or being sterile is one of his trials in life:
~•~
If you truly love Allah and fear Him the Most Wise, 
You'd try your best to stay kind and fair with your dear wife, 
You'd be careful with your choice of words, avoid all lies, 
While you'd never oppress her due to ego and pride.
Your hurt emotions shouldn't make you neglect her rights.
~•~
Now if Allah tests you with loving more than one wife, 
And sincerely you aspire to pass all tests in life, 
Then strive, with manly humility, desire to thrive
In both worlds, and courage to do what you hope is right, 
To treat your wives fairly regarding expense and time.
~•~
You become more masculine when you defeat foul pride 
And refuse to overreact when problems arise. 
You're an overgrown bully if you let women cry, 
And you're not a real man if you wait for your wife/wives 
To always apologize when you argue sometimes.
~•~
You're more of a coward if you act like a spoiled child 
Expecting your wife to be "perfect" each day and night, 
Refusing to give those under your care their due rights 
When they commit something which your immense pride dislikes. 
Don't doubt Allah's Power to answer oppressed wives' cries.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I enjoin you to treat women well, for the woman was created from a rib and the most curved part of the rib is its highest point. If you try to straighten it, you will break it. If you leave it as it is, it will remain bent. Thus, I enjoin you to be good to the women."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3153
Sahih Muslim 1468
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abdullah Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader of the people is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects. A man is the guardian of his family and he is responsible for them. A woman is the guardian of her husband's home and his children, and she is responsible for them. The servant of a man is a guardian of the property of his master and he is responsible for it. No doubt, every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6719
Sahih Muslim 1829
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162
Grade: Sahih 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "If a man has two wives and he is not just between them, he will come on the Day of Resurrection with one of his sides collapsed (or crooked, uneven)."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1141, Grade: Sahih
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best of you are the best to their women."
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1978
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
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