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May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Saturday, December 31, 2022

Tips: Five Things To Avoid When Dealing With Bullies

๐Ÿ’ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

๐Ÿ“ Five things to avoid doing towards insecure or inwardly unhappy individuals who try to bully you to distract themselves from their miseries (Do not do these to sad bullies, as much as possible): 
1] Do not instruct or dare them to take their own lives. Do not do something so terrible that could cause them to feel suicidal nor say awful things to them such as "Obnoxious people like you are from the reasons why earth is currently an unpleasant place to live on. Why not do at least one productive act in your lifetime and kill yourself?" or "the entire universe would be at peace if you didn't exist. Your negative presence and despicable personality are absolutely meaningless. Kill yourself, please." 
Suicide and murder are major sins which we Muslims should avoid for Allah's sake. Only Allah the Almighty has every right to end the life of His servants anytime He chooses. 
2] Do not invent obvious lies against those bullies, even if they have lied about you several times. Spreading untruths or false rumors could eventually result in trouble, if not sooner or later in this world then perhaps in the next life. Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala knows best. 
❎ For example: If you say something like "Alicia Weirdoshaun only said those nasty nonsense as a strange coping mechanism to deal with being frequently neglected by both of her financially struggling parents who never went to high school, and she intensely despises how they're both jobless.", one or both of her parents may feel bitter towards you and some kind of feud occurs which could have been avoided.
3] Do not alter anything about yourself to appear "likeable" or "valuable" to those self-loathing bullies. Once you discover that a group of miserable trolls and clowns actually dislike you, relentlessly unfriend them and gladly disconnect from them for Allah's sake online and offline. True happiness can't be achieved by building feeble connections with fakes, pretenders and snakes. If most or all of the members of a childish clique act like useless twigs and/or dangerous leeches, unapologetically walk away. 
4] Do not copy them in their tomfoolery and absurdity. Do not turn into a bully nor become more tyrannical or troublesome than them, unless you're willing to face the bad consequences of misbehaving and confirming you're not contented with who you are.
A confused person acting disrespectful towards you, indicating their dissatisfaction with their insecurities or distressful conditions, isn't an invitation to participate in their lousy pity-party. Be a lot better than them by ignoring their nonsensical insults, and differ from their idiocy.
5] Do not stalk any of their social media posts nor thoroughly analyze any of their comments. Since those bullies have already proven to you that they can no longer be trusted, confidently refrain from giving weight to any of their unreliable statements and messages. Regard them as complete strangers whom you aren't interested in connecting with, almost in the same way you completely bypass products at grocery stores which you believe aren't essential or worthwhile for you. 
✅ Suggested ways to deal with bullies: 
1] Inform trusted loved ones and/or older adults about the bullying, without letting the bullies know. 
2] Say lots of Adhkaar and Du'a. Continue asking for guidance and help from Allah the Most Powerful while maintaining strong connection with Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 
3] Avoid befriending toxic individuals as much as possible and refuse to be negatively affected by their irrational acts. 
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๐Ÿ“– Ali Ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318
Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
๐Ÿ“– Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever kills himself with a piece of iron, his piece of iron in his hand will be thrust into his stomach in the fire of Hell forever and ever. Whoever drinks poison and kills himself, he will consume it in the fire of Hell forever and ever. Whoever throws himself off a mountain and kills himself, he will tumble into the fire of Hell forever and ever."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5442, Sahih Muslim 109
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
๐Ÿ“– Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
๐Ÿ“– Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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