๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐ Five types of secrets which you should never confess to any human friend or acquaintance, and it is wiser to keep such worries between you and Allah the Almighty while saying Du'a:
1] Your feelings of attraction, whether intense or ambivalent, for somebody of the opposite or same gender.
๐ซ Why confiding to your friend about this would be a bad idea: They could start distancing themselves from you to avoid fitna, or if the attraction is mutual you could gradually slip into the major sin of zina (fornication / adultery), or they could use it as hot topic for gossip.
2] Strange dreams which some individuals could easily ridicule or joke about.
๐ซ Why it's generally safer to never narrate your lucid dreams and visions to other humans: They could misinterpret the meanings behind those dreams, a lot of which are blessings from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala if you have a strong connection with Him, and those people may give you wrong advice regarding what you described, or if they're jealous of you in general they could plot against you to prevent you from reaching your goals.
3] Atrocious acts you did to others or an inappropriate decision you've made concerning another Muslim, or anybody, behind their back.
๐ซ Why your past wrongs done against others don't need to be confessed to them: Besides the fact you're a Muslim while they are not priests, some of them may change how they perceive you as soon as you disclose all the bad things you did to them or said about them previously. To protect your friendship for Allah's sake, seek Allah's Forgiveness consistently, include your friends in your loving Du'as and perform kind actions occasionally to compensate for how you misbehaved formerly.
4] Your struggles with depression or specific personality disorders while your intent is not to seek advice but solely to complain without finding solutions to problems.
๐ซ Why constantly expecting people to show you empathy while forgetting the fact that Allah the Most Loving hears and listens to you all the time isn't from good manners of a striving patient Muslim: Apart from inconsiderately acting as if you're the only person on earth with loads of obligations and puzzles to solve, such selfish behavior is almost as unreasonable, disrespectful, and illogical as a bunch of distraught students beseeching other schoolmates for tips when their teacher very clearly instructed that if they have any questions or require assistance they can directly consult him/her anytime.
5] Your interest or eagerness to marry your friend's spouse.
๐ซ Why loudly expressing your willingness to share your friend's husband could spoil your friendship: She could feel less safe and secure in your presence the moment you divulge such sensitive information, or even if she's fine with polygyny she may realize that you're not somebody whom she can count on at all, because instead of lowering your gaze here you are checking out the man whom she married for Allah's sake. If you're unable to stop yourself from purposely staring at what you're not supposed to stare at, how do you expect her to trust you with even more serious issues?
Patience with the frustration of staying quiet about private matters, but your well-being and faith/Imaan stay safe, is better and more manageable than struggling to be patient with the bad outcomes of confessing your secrets which were spread due to impatience.
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๐ Mu'adh Ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, you will continue to be safe as long as you remain silent. If you speak, it will be recorded for you or against you."
Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 16591
Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi according to Al-Albani
๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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