Just Sharing Islam // Notes, poetry etc.: Note: Never Expect Meaningful Friendships With Narcissists

Tuesday, May 23, 2023

Note: Never Expect Meaningful Friendships With Narcissists

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ If you have some real empathy and true self-respect,

Don't expect lasting friendships with actual narcissists

Most of whom may connect with you to take advantage

Of your kindness - selfishly they wish to benefit

From your willingness to assist them in their projects.

~•~

Once they have profited from you and they've accomplished

What they wanted, expect these conceited narcissists

To vanish amidst conversation. New messages

From you gradually stop receiving quick responses.

They tend to "ghost" those who provoke them to feel jealous.

~•~

Or maybe so-and-so left you as they were upset,

By one or some of your posts they got so offended.

They failed to reach out because they had zero courage

To hear the truth or witness your gifts get acknowledged.

Or the disconnect was due to them being distressed.

~•~

Regardless of why they decided to act quiet,

Recall you can't build real connection with narcissists

Who are typically selfish, obsessed with cosmetics,

And they would rather embellish their public image

Instead of seeking logic and collecting knowledge.

~•~

So if one day by some narcissists you get "ghosted",

Don't suspect your self-worth. Stay strong. Don't feel dejected.

Most shoppers reject anything that's too expensive.

Perhaps your frankness causes them to feel defective,

Or they've bad motives, and your faith must be well-guarded.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed (or atom) of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise." Someone said, "But a man loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes." The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance means rejecting the truth and looking down on the people."

In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of faith (Imaan) in his heart will enter Hellfire."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of arrogance (atom's weight of kibr) in his heart will enter Paradise." A man said, “But a man likes to have nice clothes and nice shoes.” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance (kibr) is to disregard (or reject) the truth and to look down on the people."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani