๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐️ Five signs indicating that someone you know, in their late 20s, 30s, 40s etc. is an emotionally immature or childish "adult", so you shouldn't be negatively affected at all by their awful lack of manners due to their emotional instability or immaturity:-
1] In general, they're extremely selfish and self-entitled. They believe that it's okay for them to borrow items from people while others (who aren't liked by them) shouldn't feel free to request for anything.
2] They readily get involved in petty drama, frivolous arguments and silly gossip. When attending Islamic classes or during meaningful group discussions, they can't contribute valuable ideas to the conversation yet when it comes to whining about people's flaws, they're obnoxiously loud and excited to be entertained by ridiculous rumors.
3] They almost never learn from a lot of their mistakes or they stubbornly insist on doing annoying acts regardless of their negative impact on certain individuals, such as refusing to cooperate and responsibly conserve energy. Imagine a bunch of rowdy seven-year-olds playing around a library, instead of reading books, even after several adults have instructed them to quit being too noisy. The words "tactless", "ignorant", "uncooperative", "irresponsible" and "inconsiderate" describe them precisely.
4] They are unpleasantly nosy online and offline, incapable of minding their own business and respecting boundaries. They persist in nosily stalking users' accounts and spying on others' lives with envious resentment even if meddling in what doesn't concern them is more detrimental for them than useful.
5] They are shamelessly untruthful and unreliable, ready to invent nonsensical fibs as long as doing so is for their own benefit. They're so immature and unethical that they do not even feel ashamed of stealing food and utensils, like wild chimpanzees desperately snatching picnickers' belongings without even a single thank you, as if they've never been educated about the simple concept of asking permission prior to taking freebies or borrowing.
✅ Five characteristics of adults who are more emotionally mature:-
1] They try to be helpful and generous whenever they find the opportunity to assist and share.
2] They stay away from gossiping and pointless mockery as much as possible, aware that it's unreasonable to make fun of other human beings while they themselves are similarly imperfect.
3] They ensure that their actions do not bring about injustice, direct injury and intentional disturbance to any of Allah's creation, whether Muslim or non-Muslim.
4] With Allah's Will and Guidance, they know when to participate in an activity and when to keep their distance, when to speak up and when to remain silent, which situation deserves their full attention and when to ignore ignorance. If ever they commit an error, they strive to not do it again.
5] They refrain from deception, scamming, and being inaccurate whenever they can. Instead of acting like most animals in the jungle that mainly care about their greedy desires and pride, they take integrity seriously and absolutely despise telling lies.
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๐ Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah (the Almighty) wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi
๐ Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
๐ Abu Nu'aym reported: Fudayl Ibn 'Iyad, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “If you mix with people, mix with those who have good character; it only invites to good. Do not mix with those who have bad character, for it only invites to evil.”
Source: Ḥilyat Al-Awliyā’ 11728
