Friday, November 17, 2023

Poem: Dear Husband, Even If I'm Not Perfect, Don't Divorce Me Please

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
💚 Dear husband, if at times you think "What's in it for me? 
What do I gain from staying married for many years
To one who's not impressive in her spousal duties, 
Who's busy when I'm free, and when she's free I'm busy, 
And she never complains if I've been gone for some weeks?"
~•~
Dear husband, the man whom Allah the Most Kind wisely 
Chose for me as my soulmate, other half and hubby, 
Seven benefits of staying married patiently, 
To me, one of your female cousins and first wifey: 
One: I love you for Allah's sake, truly, sincerely,
~•~
And by loving you for Allah, my faith has increased. 
Two: I'm not a gold-digger. Your job and your money
Are not what I'm after. I wish we'll together reach
Jannatul Ferdaus for striving to pass eagerly
Allah's tests in this world which were all temporary.
~•~
Three: I'm the type of wife who welcomes polygyny. 
Even if it seemed you like a co-wife more than me, 
I'd still love you for Allah's sake with fierce loyalty.
Four: Alhamdulillah, I can very easily
Talk and write about you through Du'as and poetry.
~•~
Five: If ever you got in trouble, I'd readily 
Defend you if I could like an earnest attorney. 
And if I were richer, more stable financially, 
I'd spend on you more, on your behalf do charity, 
And take part in paying your children's tuition fees.
~•~
Six: Although I may not be perceived as visibly
Appealing with hourglass figure, not fully "ideal", 
I find you handsome, and you're charismatic, to me. 
I can promise by Allah, on you I'd never cheat, 
And while I'm loyal, I'm okay with polygyny.
~•~
Seven: Nearly day and night I mention lovingly
Your name in a lot of prayers and before I sleep. 
Even if you were employed in another country, 
And even if we saw each other just once a year, 
I'd still love you for Allah's sake with fierce loyalty.
~•~
So don't divorce me, dear husband; don't divorce me please. 
If ever you feel bored, add another, don't delete, 
Since I believe that divorce brings more stress, misery 
And the sort of regret which greets you recurrently.
And to see you sad is something that would sadden me.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter (Jannah) Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibban 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Monday, November 13, 2023

Note: What's Your Stance On The Palestinian Issue?

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
🗒️ Question: What's your stance on the current dilemma in Jerusalem Palestine? Why are you so quiet and not protesting at all? Why are you not doing anything to alleviate the condition of the Palestinian Muslims?
📝 Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best. 
1. I am completely against the injustices and atrocities committed against any human being regardless of their religion. I don't agree with the violence done against the Palestinians whether Muslims or not (and this issue has been going on for so many years) just as I oppose what the oppressive Nazis did against the innocent civilian Jews before. 
2. Although I disapprove of what some non-Muslims have done against Palestinian Muslims, I personally don't agree with taking part in noisy protests and supposedly peaceful rallies nor do I advocate the idea of demeaning any country's flag or dissing specific nationalities. You can't hate on an entire nation or country simply because of the ignorant acts and idiocy of a number of miseducated individuals. 
3. Despite not liking the concept of protesting and waving flags of a particular country to display "solidarity" with those who've been suffering for a long time, Alhamdulillah I've been avoiding, since some years ago, certain products which I believe somehow contribute to aiding those groups of individuals who are directly or indirectly responsible for the injuries and casualties in Jerusalem Palestine. 
4. I think it's ironic that some individuals are very enthusiastic about wanting Palestine to be set free yet many of them on social media proudly flaunt how much money they've spent at Starbucks or they chant "free Palestine" while casually sipping on or gulping drinks from beverage companies which could be openly supportive of the oppressors responsible for the injuries and casualties of Palestinian Muslims. If you're wondering why I am okay with boycotting some branded products but I'm not one of those who are into conducting online protests and street demonstrations, consider the fact that if I were an environmentalist and was eager to play a part in preserving nature (while knowing that Only Allah The Almighty has full control over His creation and what He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala decrees to occur in the entire universe), I would abstain, as much as possible, from wasting money on items sold by retailers who intend to use a portion of their earnings to deliberately spoil the environment by any means available, and joining a crowd of protestors chanting "protect the environment" would not make any sense if they're doing that in front of uninhabited buildings and the only ones actually paying attention to their chants are a few jinns who probably don't care much about saving the environment.
5. I personally believe that Muslims and non-Muslims should be able to co-exist without getting into battles and squabbles through not meddling in each other's rights and boundaries. "For you is your religion, and for me my religion." We Muslims are not supposed to force anybody to accept Islam and likewise people of other religions must not compel us to do anything that contradicts Islamic values. 
6. If I were a millionaire or if I had the financial ability to do charity for Allah's sake, I would enthusiastically send medical supplies, clothes and other essentials to the affected civilians regardless of their religion. I remember several years ago Alhamdulillah my dear parents (Allah yarhamhuma. Ameen.) often filled up large boxes and cartons with packed foods and clothing etc. for some Palestinian, Chechen and/or Bosnian refugees in the past, sending them to Islamic organizations which were authorized or assigned to distribute charitable donations to the Muslim needy. If there's a project like that here in the Philippines and those collecting the donations are trustworthy Muslims who sincerely wish to alleviate the circumstances of other human beings, 
Inn-sha-Allah I'd be willing to contribute with what I can, but at the moment I am not in the position yet to do charity whenever I want to. If an infant is crying in a jam-packed airplane while his parents are asleep and they're wearing earphones, I can't walk all the way to their seat to comfort the baby, no matter how much I want to, while I'm seated between arguing passengers who refuse to stand up and the aisle is being blocked by some stewardesses nonchalantly distributing the in-flight meals. I can attempt to throw a bottle of milk to the baby if I had one, and if I know that the baby can miraculously catch flying objects, but then one of the travelers may grab it first and enjoy the drink themselves.
7. Alhamdulillah what I try to do more of is regularly including the Muslim Ummah and the oppressed Muslims in my prayers / Du'as / supplications particularly when praying Tahajjud / Qiyaam Al-Layl, and sometimes sharing some Islamic articles with others to raise awareness regarding what we Muslims can appropriately do (instead of going against any governor and enticing further violence with violence) when other Muslims are suffering from some people's unjust actions which 
Inn-sha-Allah will be asked about on the Day of Judgment.
~•~
📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience and it is good for him."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2999
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, not even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318
Sahih Muslim 2573
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut

Saturday, November 11, 2023

Poem: Of Course You Don't Need A Man To Feel Complete Or Whole

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📝 To Muslimahs who are single while they feel unsure 
About marrying a guy who could be immature, 
Who may be guilty of abuse, who's currently poor 
With a lot of debts, or his intentions are impure: 
Yes, you don't need a man to feel complete - that's for sure.
~•~
You don't need to marry a guy who's overly close 
To his mom who takes charge of him, his choices and clothes - 
Don't wed a guy who can't make decisions on his own 
And by absurd emotions you can see he's controlled. 
Say no to suitors whose manners and morals are low.
~•~
You don't require a man to feel complete - that's well known. 
But wouldn't it be nice to love a Muslim who's strong 
In faith Imaan while his friendship offers more comfort, 
And with him as your mahram you can explore the globe 
When Allah Wills, and your husband's presence reassures?
~•~
To ladies who are single while not one guy proposed, 
Whether they are in their late twenties or they're almost 
Forty - don't worry; it's not a crisis to feel "old" 
While being single. Don't trust every word that you're told. 
Perhaps Allah wants you to not marry any soul -
~•~
On earth, just as Allah decreed some trees to not grow 
And bear fruits or flowers, while there are birds in this world
Which can't fly. The fact they're flightless doesn't make them slow. 
Maybe, instead of marriage, by Allah you're endowed 
With countless other gifts that won't stop you from your goals.
~•~
Maybe if you were married, and Only Allah knows, 
You may lack the needed strength to cope well with divorce 
Or exposing your heart to frequent marital woes. 
So never doubt your worth if not one guy has proposed. 
Perhaps singlehood is safer for your Imaan's growth. 
~•~
While your marital status won't define you of course, 
Don't despise and don't dread the concept of marriage nor 
Loathe your mere existence if no one has yet proposed. 
Your tests / journeys to Jannah Allah already wrote. 
There's wisdom in Allah's Plans - He knows what keeps you whole.
~•~
📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Yes." I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Her silence (not refusing nor complaining) is her consent (sign that she accepts the marriage proposal)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6547
Sahih Muslim 1420
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials (fitna/fitan) on the earth and the spread of corruption."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

Poem: Eleven Things I Love About My Dear Husband

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
💚 Eleven things which I like and admire about him - 
The handsome man whom Allah the Most Wise has chosen 
To be my soulmate, other half and from my close friends: 
One:- I love that he lives for Allah, that he's Muslim. 
Two:- I love how with his mom he's got strong connection.
~•~
Three: I love his good efforts to care for his children, 
Ensuring that his kids receive proper upbringing 
And trying his best to support their education. 
Four: I love his voice whenever he's the Muadhdhin. 
Five: When he reads the Qur'an, his tone is amazing.
~•~
Six: I love how with his family he's kind, loving, 
So lenient, caring, forgiving and understanding. 
Seven: I love how he strives to stay safe when driving, 
That he's not a rude driver unlike immature men. 
Eight: I love his concern for his young and old patients.
~•~
Nine: I love his sense of humor, he's entertaining
And easygoing, able to make me laugh often. 
Ten: I love his courage, how he's not so demanding, 
And how I can never describe him as "arrogant".
Eleven: I love how I view him as a blessing - 
~•~
And gift from Allah the Most Kind to train my patience 
And contentment with the decree Allah has destined. 
Through my husband, Alhamdulillah, I've truly learned 
To be more patient with strangers, neighbors and loved ones, 
While awaiting his perfection in Jannah Heaven.
~•~ 
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The world is enjoyment and the best (lawful) enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband.”
Source: Sunan Al-Tirmidhi 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Tirmidhi 
Ali Al-Qari said, “That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala).”
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātīḥ 5/2125

Friday, November 10, 2023

Note: When You're Just A Stranger To An INTJ Don't Expect Long Talks With Them

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ-A personality type, what have you done or usually do when you believe that someone does not deserve to be a close friend but merely an acquaintance or another absolute and permanent stranger?
📝 Answer: Allahu A'lam. Alhamdulillah I've done at least one or more of the following when I have decided to discontinue trying to develop the connection and the person is just a casual acquaintance or neighbor: 
1. I unfriended them on Facebook for Allah's sake or if they deleted me from their list of "Facebook friends" I didn't bother asking them, despite being generally direct and straightforward, about their decision to delete because whatever claim or explanation they give is no longer of significance to me. 
2. I avoid checking their online profiles, reading their comments thoroughly and browsing around their uploads. So if they go on a trip to upload photos of themselves, desperately wanting me to "envy" what they post, they're simply wasting their time pretending to be all bubbly, uploading pictures and nonsense which I know aren't worthy of my attention. 
3. If ever I need advice or require valuable feedback about something important, they wouldn't even be considered as a dependable and trustworthy individual whom I can confide in. 
4. Even if I have some free time at a social event or workplace, I'd rather read from the Noble Qur'an, research more about Islam, use my cellphone, take a nap or look at a cat than initiate random conversations with an unreliable, clearly narcissistic or negative person. 
5. I'd knowingly refrain from sending them messages to thank them for "favors" or "gifts" given while it's typical for me to immediately express my appreciation for someone's kindness (if I'm aware of how to contact them) as soon as they do something helpful or generous. When it comes to family and relatives though, verbally thanking them face to face and regularly including them in my Du'as are sufficient in my opinion. 

Deliberately distancing myself from those whom I sense are not good for me and my faith/Imaan doesn't mean I'm "arrogant"; I don't want anything to do with artificial and badly brought up individuals who fail to inspire me to become a better Muslim and their bad vibes act as distracting obstacles to my goals.
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah (The Almighty), hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) has perfected the faith."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung from the same hole twice."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782
Sahih Muslim 2998
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Poem: I'm Not Jealous Of Your Obsession With Dunya And Material Greed

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
🗒️ To narcissists and egotists who assume wrongly 
That I "envy" their affluence and ability
To enjoy dining at fine restaurants frequently
And travel often to different cities/countries: 
I don't envy you. I'm not impressed by luxury.
~•~
You can tell me you own a yacht, traveled to Venice, 
Toured around Disneyland, became a wife at eighteen, 
Gave birth to triplets, have a twin, can speak Cantonese
Fluently as well as Urdu and some Portuguese, 
And still I won't feel envious. Don't suppose that, please.
~•~
You can claim you've got two mansions - in Spain and in Greece, 
Drive four cars - Ford, Lexus, Daewoo and Benz-Mercedes, 
Or restock your large wardrobes of branded clothes each week, 
And still I can't envy your possessions and money. 
I am not impressed by riches and material greed.
~•~
If you lack faith Imaan and kind personality, 
If pride in being "rich" makes you ugly inwardly, 
And if "selfish" describes you while you snub the needy, 
You'd be like a donkey wearing pearls and jewelry, 
Without purposeful goals, as deluded as can be.
~•~
Why would I wish to be like donkeys flaunting shiny
Gems and showy accessories while their disbelief 
And misconduct speak volumes about their misery?
They appear wealthy but they're sad in reality - 
Distressed they've attached themselves to things temporary.
~•~
Even if you can afford costly commodities, 
Or reside in spacious homes designed creatively, 
I wouldn't bring myself to make room for jealousy, 
Since envying others shows you doubt Allah's Decree, 
And contented Muslims don't get jealous easily.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a believing servant."
In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith (Imaan) are never combined in the heart of a servant."
Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look at those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125
Sahih Muslim 2963
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There is no envy but in two cases: A man whom Allah (The Most Wise) has given wealth and he spends it rightly (for Allah's sake), and a man whom Allah has given wisdom and he judges and teaches others with it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 73 
Sahih Muslim 816
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it devours good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti 

Wednesday, November 8, 2023

Poem: Why Cry Over Someone When The Friendship Never Did Exist

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 To those who are not my family and relatives, 
While they themselves witness they're experts at foul gossip 
And acting like they're kind while they're actually selfish, 
Often threatening to leave like a vain narcissist, 
And guessing I'll be upset when they "play hard to get": 
~•~
Trust me when I say this: When I call it quits, I quit - 
If you think I'll "cry over" the death of this "friendship", 
I'd respond "what friendship? Such bond never did exist. 
True friendship isn't built just through the exchange of gifts, 
But by sharing the same goals and staying supportive, 
~•~
By having meaningful convos with every visit, 
Ensuring that each other's faith and name are shielded, 
Protected from the toxic, negative and jealous, 
And by fighting ugly pride so both sides can forgive. 
Yes, while I forgive you, to me, you can't be trusted.
~•~
Now if I don't trust you, not even a single bit, 
By your acts and claims I'm not easily affected, 
And it won't surprise me when you break more promises - 
Because I'm used to it - the fact you can't be trusted, 
And whenever you act out, I know you're just jealous. 
~•~
Even if you drive a car, even if you're "so rich", 
And even if you "enjoy" lots of outings and trips 
With other similarly sensitive narcissists, 
I won't regret discontinuing this fake "friendship" 
Since your disconnection gives space to much better gifts - 
~•~
Special gifts from Allah, blessings countless and obvious 
In seeking and implementing Islamic knowledge, 
Far away from invented lies, nonsense and gossip. 
You're older than me and supposed to be mature yet 
If you stood near monkeys they'd seem more educated.
~•~
If your bad vibes mostly cause me to be distracted, 
And each time you're nearby I feel equally stupid, 
Ignorant, immature, childish or inauthentic, 
Then in your companionship I'm uninterested.
We don't talk much nowadays - that's the way I like it."
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah (The Almighty), hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782
Sahih Muslim 2998
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Sunday, November 5, 2023

Poem: When You're Satisfied With Allah's Love, You Won't Feel "Lonely" Easily

💐 In the Name of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ What's wrong with looking "lonely" if solitude implies
Sweet contentment with the Love of Allah the Most Wise,
While staying cautious with one's choice of friends day and night? 
To have no or only few friends shouldn't be a crime 
If it brings you more chances to strive for Paradise, 
~•~
If it means protection from people's gossip and lies, 
Distance from pretending to like those whom you despise 
Due to vast differences or past disputes online, 
And if having a few or no close friends signifies
More free time to study and learn Islam day and night.
~•~
Nothing wrong with appearing "lonely" if from inside 
You're contented with the Love of Allah the Most Wise, 
And through reading from the Qur'an you feel satisfied, 
With inner peace, away from false news, rumors and lies, 
Far from fake laughter, disgraceful pride and jealous eyes.
~•~
Few or no close human friends can also signify 
More opportunities to save money so at times 
You do charity rightly to please Allah Most Kind. 
Friends can influence you; they can inspire or misguide - 
Choose wisely those who won't distract you from Paradise.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those in solitude have raced ahead." They said, “O Messenger of Allah, who are those in solitude ('al-mufarridoon')?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are men and women who remember Allah a lot."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2676
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Three things follow a deceased person. Two of them return and one remains. His family, his wealth, and his deeds follow him (to the grave). His family and wealth return, but his deeds remain (with the person in the next life)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6149
Sahih Muslim 2960
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Nu'aym reported: Fudayl ibn ‘Iyad, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “If you mix with people, mix with those who have good character; it only invites to good. Do not mix with those who have bad character, for it only invites to evil.”
Source: Ḥilyat Al-Awliyā’ 11728

Friday, November 3, 2023

Tips: Sometimes Allah Prevents You From Befriending Certain Souls To Preserve Your Faith Imaan

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Five reasons why Allah the Most Wise may prevent you from establishing lengthy friendships with certain souls and why your distance from them is actually a blessing for you in both worlds: 
1. Allah the All-Seeing knows what kind of hearts those individuals have (they're possibly prone to extreme jealousy, irrational suspicion and vindictive narcissism etc.), and their awful motives significantly conflict with your good intentions. Associating with the wrong team or ignorant groups would only increase stress, pointless drama and problems.
2. Allah the Most Merciful may not want them (if they are similarly Muslims) to lose the rewards of their righteous deeds through frequently envying you and / or He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala is protecting you from witnessing their absurd attempts to make you feel as "envious" (and insecure) as they are. 
3. Allah the All-Knowing can foresee what sort of futile discussions or arguments you could get into if you chatted with them for longer periods than what is necessary (especially if the topics discussed involve politics, one's past, personality, dreams, current news, marriage, beliefs etc.). By making it seem impossible for you to become "close friends", Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala Who wants you to succeed in this world and the next may keep you apart to ensure the safety of your faith Imaan through maintaining your discretion and mystery. 
4. There are a lot more disadvantages and setbacks than benefits in befriending those people whose values, goals and interests could act as obvious obstacles to what you're sincerely striving for in this fleeting life. For instance, if you're trying to save some money so that 
Inn-sha-Allah in the future you, with a mahram, can perform Hajj / pilgrimage, you may find yourself regularly overspending and splurging on unnecessary items and spiritually unproductive outings if you recurrently waste precious minutes hanging out with a bunch of spendthrifts. 
5. Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala sees that you still have plenty of more important tasks, assignments and responsibilities to focus on instead of attempting to aimlessly socialize with individuals whose companionship, overall speech and presence won't benefit your soul at all. 

If you were entrusted to take care of an aquarium and had three fish tanks, you would do what you can to separate the goldfishes from the catfish and piranhas to prevent chaos, just as you wouldn't allow a stallion to mingle naively with starving wolves and pesky mosquitoes. 

So Alhamdulillah, thank Allah the Almighty for every moment when He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala distanced us from those souls whom He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala observes are a detriment for us.
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📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the (true and sincere) believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah (The Almighty) and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience (for Allah's sake) and it is good for him."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2999
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah (The Almighty) than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala), and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah (The Most Wise) has decreed what He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) Wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

Note: Questionnaire Regarding Marriage Life And Friendship With Your Dear Husband

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Questionnaire or survey regarding marriage life to sweetly reflect on your friendship with the man whom Allah the Most Wise has chosen as your other half and soulmate: 
1] What special quality does your husband have which makes him a wonderful friend to you? 
His cute sense of humor. Alhamdulillah, although I'm generally a very serious type of person who doesn't find most things amusing, my husband is amazing at joking and lightening the mood, so I often laugh easily when he's around. 
2] What is something remarkable about you which you believe makes you a good friend to your husband? 
My unwavering loyalty to him for Allah's sake Alhamdulillah. No matter how many times he's made a mistake or somehow disappointed me, I continue to forgive him and won't trust anybody who dislikes him or doubts his efforts to be an ideal family man and breadwinner.
3] What is a true fact about you two which not many people know about? 
Before I was born, there was a baby boy before me but with Allah's Will my older brother passed away in infancy. Similarly, there was a baby before my husband was born but the infant was returned to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. That's one of the interesting things which make me and my husband so alike - we're like special gifts to our parents from Allah the Most Wise.
4] List 3 to 5 things which you and your husband have done together which can be described as "fun" or "enjoyable". 
1. Riding a boat ride in Malaysia if I'm not mistaken and here in the Philippines, Alhamdulillah. 
2. Playing badminton together even though I'm not good at sports in general. 
3. Him watching some basketball matches on TV while I'd sit beside him reading a book or using my cellphone. 
4. Him frequently preparing our meals (before he got busy with work) while I'd help with washing the dishes and setting the table, since he's way better than me at cooking.
5. Praying together Alhamdulillah is always a pleasant moment, particularly when he's my Imaam and I get to listen to his fabulous Qur'an recitation voice. 
5] List 3 adjectives found in your husband which most individuals would agree are essential features of a true friend. 
Alhamdulillah I can describe my dear husband (ESFJ 3w2) as funny, understanding and caring, plus fatherly and charismatic with children.
6] List 3 to 5 things which you've done that show you're indeed a true friend to your beloved husband. 
1. Regularly buying him drinks, snacks and gifts without expecting anything in return.
2. Listening to him attentively whenever he speaks. Never disrespecting him or deliberately doing anything which I know could offend him as much as possible.
3. Mentioning his notable traits or deeds to others whenever there's an opportunity to do so. Speaking well of him so others view him in a good light. 
4. Forgiving him consistently and persistently for Allah's sake, not wanting ego to be much larger than the patience and love I keep and maintain for my dear husband. 
5. Immediately defending his name whenever someone jealous talks about him negatively or keeping my distance from those who display unreasonable enmity towards him evidently.
7] What is something which you wish your husband did more of to be a better friend? 
To be more communicative when responding to many of my text messages. He's not really into typing long text messages, unlike me when I'm comfortable around somebody. But I understand why he doesn't like typing lengthy messages because he's really busy most of the time as a medical doctor, and Alhamdulillah I've learned to patiently tolerate a lot of his delayed responses or very brief messages. 
I firmly believe that 
Inn-sha-Allah in Jannah Paradise my dear husband and I can have better conversations of higher quality. 
8] As your good friend, what are some valuable lessons, tips or advice which your husband has given or shared with you? 
1. To be more lenient and forgiving for Allah's sake with one's loved ones. 
2. To be more easy-going and not too uptight or strict. 
3. To appreciate and be grateful for Allah's sake for all blessings and gifts even if they appear small or simple, Alhamdulillah. 
9] As one of his best friends, what is one advice or sentence which you usually tell him? 
"For Allah's sake stay strong and always patient", also letting him know that I'll forever love him for Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala even if he considers remarrying again as I'm perfectly okay with him being married to up to four wives.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts the month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter (Jannah) Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibban 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife." 
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman otherwise you will be a loser."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090
In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27
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