๐ Signs you, as an INTJ, "door slammed" someone or
You've moved on from those with whom you're not friends anymore,
Not because of arrogance but you simply abhor
Toxic vibes, obvious lies, being purposely ignored
And mistreated by mean species that think you're a bore:
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One: If ever you look back to sweet things you both did,
You don't weep with nostalgia, can't shed tears with regret,
And you're unable to miss them, not even one bit,
When you recall reconnecting won't bring benefit,
As they seem narcissistic or they're unsupportive.
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Two: Though you have the chance to sign up for fake accounts
To stalk their Facebook timelines or posts they left around,
You don't bother stalking them and scrutinizing how
They're doing without you, if they're regretful or proud.
From visiting past nightmares yourself you disallow.
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Three: If some friends or colleagues mention their names to you,
You don't go, "I knew them. I miss what we used to do.
Tell them I said 'hi'. I wonder, do they miss me too?"
But you resolutely, with unconcerned attitude,
Choose to keep quiet about mistakes you must eschew.
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Four: If you woke up from a dream you want analyzed,
If there are special events you wish to organize,
If significant incidents gradually arise
And you like to seek advice from those whom you admire,
You don't refer to ex-friends, no contact nor invites.
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Five: In case you meet them one day, with Allah's Decree,
At a social event, while shopping, or in the streets,
You don't go out of your way to greet, "Did you miss me?"
But rather you exchange salaams out of courtesy,
Then proceed to detach from artificiality.
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As an INTJ who's no longer close to some,
You don't see them as enemies whom you plot against.
Mentioning them kindly in Du'as or discussions
And caring for their well-being are no longer done.
You're not arrogant. You're shielding yourself from their harms.
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๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782
Sahih Muslim 2998
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
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