Links: Selected Reminders From Some Islamic Channels On Telegram 1

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Tips: Negative Qualities Which Many Untrustworthy People Have In Common

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🗒️ Seven negative qualities which many untrustworthy people have in common: 

1] They deliberately neglect the obligatory prayers or they don't pray at all. If someone has the audacity to disobey Allah's Commands by choice, what makes you so sure that they'll always keep their word? 

2] When they borrow some money or items from you, it takes a lot of time for them to return what they agreed to give back or the item they borrowed is returned but not in its proper condition. Trustworthy Muslims try their best to clear all their debts as soon as they can, knowing that death can occur at any moment. 

3] They have an awful tendency to gossip about others without guilt. You can't trust anybody who allows their tongue and emotions to take control of them. 

4] They've told an obvious lie or disappointed you more than three times, and they didn't bother compensating or doing anything to make up for their misconduct. 

5] When they notice you in a good mood or you're doing a certain task well, they act aloof and quiet. As soon as they catch you making a mistake, they eagerly point out your flaws and go out of their way to criticize you in public. Somebody who is eager to embarrass you online and offline is a jealous person who can never be trusted. 

6] They enjoy getting into pointless debates and interfering in matters that have nothing to do with them. The more talkative and reckless a person is regarding issues which don't concern them, the more the opportunities for committing mistakes. You can't rely on an individual who doesn't make effort to be cautious and disciplined. 

7] They're bad at communicating. You've observed that they usually leave most of your messages on "seen" mode as if they're guilty of hiding some information from you or they don't know the right way to respond. Anyone who acts as if they're concealing something essential from you can't truly be trusted.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah as a truthful person. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5743 

Sahih Muslim 2607

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There are four signs that make someone a pure hypocrite and whoever has them has a characteristic of hypocrisy (nifaaq) until he abandons it: When he speaks, he lies; when he makes a covenant, he is treacherous; when he makes a promise, he breaks it; and when he argues, he is wicked (acts unjustly)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 34, Sahih Muslim 58

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Hurairah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Years of treachery (before the Day of Judgment) will come over the people in which liars are believed and the truthful ones are denied, the deceitful are trusted, and the trustworthy are considered traitors, and the disgraceful will deliver speeches." It was said, “Who are the disgraceful?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Ignorant men with authority over the common people."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4036

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-avoid-nifaaqhypocrisy.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/tips-three-reasons-why-most-people-cant.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-who-to-take-advice-from-and-whose.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-careful-of-hypocrites-who-claim-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/note-five-examples-of-business-scams-or.html 

Tips: Five Kinds Of People Whose "Advice" About Love And Marriage Life Don't Need To Be Taken

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Five kinds of people whose so-called advice regarding love and marriage life don't deserve to be taken: 

1] People who are obviously jealous of you and who'd hate to see you succeed or surpass them in any way.

2] Individuals who have never been married and haven't actually experienced what real love for Allah's sake feels like. 

3] Divorcees who try to advise you according to their own standards or ego, without considering what is truly best for you in both worlds. 

4] Obvious narcissists who believe in the importance of insecurely playing hard to get and who are incapable of understanding the virtues of loyalty, gratitude, contentment, patience, steadfastness, empathy and forgiveness. 

5] Those who lack Taqwa, who don't believe in Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, and who seem overly attached to this fleeting dunya. Someone who doesn't put effort into striving to be pious for Allah's sake may give you wrong "tips" which could prevent you from succeeding in this world and the afterlife.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090

In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'" 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/tips-five-types-of-people-we-can-avoid.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-who-to-take-advice-from-and-whose.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-advice-to-those-wives-struggling.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/poem-im-not-like-those-females-who.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/poem-opposing-what-shaytan-wants-is-why.html 

Poem: Dear Husband, Although I'm Not Perfect I Strive To Love You Perfectly For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Dear husband, the man whom Allah chose as my soulmate, 

Despite the fact I'm not perfect in numerous ways 

And I can't always stop myself from making mistakes, 

I'm perfectly grateful to be your wife, and I say 

This without lying that I love you for Allah's sake. 

~•~ 

Yes, beloved husband, I love you for Allah's sake 

Even though we're not passionate every night and day, 

I assure you I'm passionately loyal always, 

Talkative with very few, disciplined with my gaze, 

And defending you like lawyers fight to win a case. 

~•~ 

While I'm not fab with makeup nor have a flawless face, 

And though I'm not trained at maintaining an ideal weight, 

I try to look at least decent and for Allah's sake 

Your kindness more than your body I appreciate. 

To me, you're always handsome regardless of your age. 

~•~ 

Forgive me if I can't ensure I smell nice always, 

If to musk and lavenders my scent doesn't equate 

While I fail to do certain tasks with absolute grace. 

Nonetheless in spite of my flaws I sincerely pray 

That Allah blesses my loving you for Allah's sake. 

~•~ 

Dear husband, though I'm not perfect in so many ways, 

"I'm fine if you have four wives" I can faithfully state, 

Not coz I lack self-respect but I'd rather remain 

Married to the man whom Allah gave as my soulmate. 

Loving you for Allah is what makes you worth the wait.

~•~ 

📖 Abdullah Ibn 'Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A believing man does not despise a believing woman. If he finds something in her character which he dislikes, he will still be pleased by something else."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1469

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/note-love-your-husband-for-allah-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/note-when-pious-wife-loves-her-husband.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-it-takes-lots-of-strength-to-be.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-be-your-husbands-grateful-wife.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-some-negative-qualities-of.html 

Note: Some Factors Which Could Prevent Us From Connecting More Deeply With Some People

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 A few factors which could prevent you from wanting to form a friendship with some people: 

1] Jealousy: 

•° If they feel jealous of you for some reason, they may refuse to connect.

•° If some of their joys, capabilities or attributes cause you to be slightly envious, avoiding them may be more manageable than struggling with envy whenever they're around.

•° If you're both envious of each other, building a friendship can be a struggle.

2] Insecurities or lack of trust: 

•° If they are incapable of feeling safe and comfortable around you, if their presence makes you feel uncomfortable or insecure due to dissimilar goals and values which lead to conflict, or if you equally regard each other as unreliable, then it doesn't make sense to become allies. 

3] Expecting too much from them and refusing to forgive their past mistakes: 

•° If they perceive that you haven't done enough to be counted as an ideal friend, if you find them uninspiring or you still haven't forgiven them wholeheartedly, or if you mutually sense the "friendship" is one-sided, then both sides would eventually stop trying to become actual friends. 

Usually those with decent upbringing would refrain from associating with anybody who appears like a threat and who could influence them to do things they don't really wish to do. So when you wonder why certain friendships fail to last longer than you anticipated them to, realize that maybe jealous feelings got in the way of connecting, you were obviously incompatible, or simply Allah the Most Wise didn't allow you to remain in a connection which is harmful for your faith/Imaan and emotional well-being.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith (Imaan) and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/tips-five-reasons-why-were-uninterested.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-patience-with-those-who-hate-us.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-three-reasons-why-we-cannot-click.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-three-reasons-why-our-vibes.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-how-to-deal-with-people-who-hate-us.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-understand-that-not-everyone-on.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/note-reflection-on-why-we-gravitate-to.html 

Note: Benefits Of Praying Salat Al-Istikhaara

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Although it is not obligatory (waajib or fardh), praying Salat Al-Istikhaara and then seeking Allah’s Guidance before making an important choice has a positive impact on your heart once you’ve finalized your decision. You feel a lot more at ease and contented when you’ve prayed Salat Al-Istikharah than if you didn’t perform this rewarding Sunnah at all. The more you strive to adhere to the Sunnah (tradition) of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, the closer you get to Allah the Almighty and Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala never decrees anything evil for those believers whom He loves and guides.
Some instances when it is recommended to pray Salat Al-Istikhaara:
1] Before a man sends his marriage proposal and agrees to officially meet the parents or male mahrams of the woman whom he wishes to marry.
2] Before a woman says yes or no to the marriage proposal she receives.
3] Before deciding to relocate or move to a different city.
4] Before intending to quit one’s present job to search for a new profession.
5] Before agreeing to attend a social gathering or visit a friend at their residence.
6] Before selling an item and one feels unsure about giving it up for sale.
7] Before finally choosing to emotionally disconnect and distance oneself from certain individuals who have proven to be toxic, too incompatible and untrustworthy.
8] Before signing up for some courses or workshop or choosing to skip college and focus on early marriage.
9] Before making the final attempt at trying to reconcile with some former acquaintances.

What happens after you have prayed Salat Al-Istikhaara?
1] You feel relaxed after you have finalized your decision, whether it involved pursuing something you wanted or canceling a plan, aware that when you’re loved by Allah the Most Wise, He Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala only grants and allows what is best for you in this world and the Hereafter.
2] You don’t feel guilty, anxious, regretful, agitated or disappointed if something didn’t work out well due to what you’ve confidently decided to do for Allah’s sake.
3] You don’t feel doubtful, insecure or skeptical after the choice you’ve made even if many individuals try to convince you to change your decision.

How to pray Salat Al-Istikhaara:
1] Perform wudhu/ablution.
2] Fix your niyyah with the intention that you’re about to pray Sunnah Salat Al-Istikhaara consisting of two Rak’ahs similar to the two Sunnah Rak’ahs which we’re encouraged to pray before praying Salat Al-Fajr.
3] Recite Surah Al-Fatiha and then Surah Al-Kaafiroon in the first Rak’ah, then Surah Al-Fatiha followed by Surah Al-Ikhlaas in the second Rak’ah quietly (not audibly like in Fajr, Maghreb and ‘Ishaa prayers).
4] After the Tasleem, say the prescribed Du’a to be said after the Salat Al-Istikhaara preferably with your hands raised and facing towards the Qiblah direction.
5] Once you’ve completed saying the Istikhaara Du’a, carefully measure the pros and cons of the decision you’re about to make (to do or not to do something) then finally decide with absolute feelings of certainty, believing that the outcomes which follow your choice are all decreed by Allah the Most Loving and He Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala knows what is beneficial and suitable for you.

Allahu A’lam.
📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: I was riding behind the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam when he said to me, "Young man, I will teach you some words. Be mindful of Allah and He will protect you. Be mindful of Allah and you will find Him before you. If you ask, ask from Allah. If you seek help, seek help from Allah. Know that if the nations were to gather together to benefit you, they will not benefit you unless Allah has decreed it for you. And if the nations gathered together to harm you, they will not harm you unless Allah has decreed it for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2516

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

📖 Jabir Ibn Abdullah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “When one of you has a matter of concern (must make a decision), let him perform two cycles of prayer besides the obligatory prayers. Then, let him say, ‘O Allah, I seek guidance from Your knowledge and Power from Your Might, and I ask You from Your tremendous favor. Verily, You have Power and I do not have power, and You know and I do not know. You are the Knowing of the unseen. O Allah, if You know that this matter is good for my religion and my livelihood and my destiny, or if it is better for my present and latter needs, then decree it for me and make it easy for me and bless me in it. But if You know that this matter is evil for my religion and my livelihood and my destiny, or if it is worse for my present and latter needs, then divert it from me and keep me away from it, and destine what is good for me and then make me contented with it.‘ Then mention his need.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhārī 1166

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/note-no-i-dont-regret-marrying-my.html
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/poem-advice-for-muslim-wives-to-not.html
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Poem: Some Tips On How To Deal When People Make Fun Of You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Some tips on how to deal when some people laugh at you - 

When they mock your mistakes, call you "weirdo" or "buffoon", 

And return your attempts to learn with clear ridicule, 

So you don't feel offended by what they say or do, 

And so their mockery doesn't make you insecure: 

~•~ 

Understand that Prophet Nuh ('alaihis salaam) was also ridiculed. 

His dedication to build the ark caused critics to 

Regard him as "strange", unaware they're the ones who'll lose 

If they don't join him in accepting the obvious truth. 

Their pride and laughter kept them from believing what's true. 

~•~ 

Even the Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) went through ridicule, 

Encountered unbelievers who were uncouth and rude, 

And by many of his relatives wrongly accused, 

Yet his strong faith and trust in Allah inspired him to 

Persevere despite his enemies' verbal abuse.

~•~ 

Certain words in languages which are foreign to you 

May sound funny but by their speakers they are valued. 

Customs from other tribes may be readily eschewed 

If they conflict with your values or you're from those who 

Would require lots of time getting used to something new. 

~•~ 

Let the people laugh. As long as Allah is with you, 

Whatever Allah's servants accuse you of or do, 

On the Day of Judgment when Allah reveals the truth, 

They'll see who's at fault or wish they never laughed at you. 

Some people's laughter shows they're jealous and insecure.

~•~ 

📖 Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that he was harvesting toothsticks from an 'Arak tree and he had tiny shins. The wind blew and made him fall over, so some people laughed at him. The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "What are you laughing at?" They said, “O Prophet of Allah, at his tiny shins.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "By the One (Allah) in Whose Hand is my soul, they will both be heavier on the Scale than the mountain of Uhud."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 3981

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ahmed Shakir 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-live-to-please-only-allah-almighty.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-on-patience-with-peoples-mockery.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-advice-on-how-not-to-get-offended.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/tips-three-signs-that-youre-actually.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-what-insecure-people-do-and-tips.html 

Note: Signs That An INTJ Doesn't Regard You As A Friend

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Three obvious signs that a person with the INTJ personality type doesn't consider you as a friend: 

1] They intentionally refrain from asking you many questions. The more interested an INTJ is in developing a friendship or connection with you, the more they ask you, out of care and curiosity, about your concerns and personal life. The more they dislike you, the more indifferent, apathetic, unapproachable, serious and quiet they seem when you're around. 

2] While you may be neighbors or work in the same workplace, they go out of their way to avoid unnecessary interactions with you. If there's a requirement to approach you, they do their best to keep the conversation as concise as possible. 

3] They never check or go through any of your accounts on social media. When an INTJ is unwilling to connect with you, whatever you say online and offline doesn't matter to them. 

💬 Five things which would cause most INTJs to distance themselves from you: 

1] You've said or done something in the past which bothered them and you haven't properly apologized for that misunderstanding. 

2] You've displayed that you have the potential to cowardly gossip and criticize people behind their backs. 

3] They discovered that you've lied to them numerous times and you have proven to be very unreliable. 

4] They can sense that you're a greedy opportunist who selfishly cares a lot more about their own wants than others' needs. 

5] They realized that they can't learn anything valuable from you and your presence doesn't inspire them in any way.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”

Source: 'Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/poem-whats-it-like-being-muslim-and-intj.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/tips-eleven-signs-indicating-intj-cares.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-choosiness-of-most-intjs-when-it.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/tips-intjs-when-they-like-you-in.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/tips-intj-acquaintance-vs-intj-friend.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/note-busy-intjs-vs-avoidant-intjs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/note-how-most-intj-personality-types.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-long-you-hold-a-grudge-according-to-your-personality-type/

Tips: The Difference Between Self-Respect And Big Ego

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Five examples to clarify the differences between having self-respect (commendable) and struggling with a big ego (actual kibr / arrogance which we must avoid for Allah's sake): 

1🔹 When a salesperson, janitor or stranger calls you "sir" mistakenly if you're female or "ma'am" whether on purpose or unintentionally if you are male: 

❌ If you have an ego problem: You'd instantly snap, feeling intensely offended, and insult them in such a way they'll be too scared to make the same mistake when dealing with you, because you're "superior" while they're "nobody". 

✅ If you have self-respect: You'd calmly understand that they probably didn't mean it, and if they did, you would feel sorry for them, assuming they're likely struggling with some insecurities. This, awareness of their struggles and the rewards of patience, inspires you to forgive their mistake and confidently move on, refusing to partake in conflict which can negatively affect your overall well-being. 

2🔹 When a customer cuts in line and pushes your shopping cart to place theirs ahead of you: 

❌ If you have an ego problem: You'd argue with them without first carefully thinking about the consequences of participating in drama.

✅ If you have self-respect: You would courageously ask the person if they noticed the other shoppers already queuing before they arrived and request them to join the queue appropriately, or if you believe that a conversation with them won't change anything, you simply transfer to a different cashier's counter, uninterested in playing games with childish adults. 

3🔹 When a certain colleague or acquaintance whose vibes don't mesh with yours frequently brags about how awesome their life is whenever they find the opportunity to talk to you: 

❌ If you have an ego problem: You'd pridefully compete in boasting about your own joys and accomplishments, particularly on social media, with the sole intention of making them feel jealous and "inferior" then gossip about how much you can't stand them to your circle of confidants. 

✅ If you have self-respect: You'd maintain basic courtesy as you minimize unnecessary conversations with them because of how toxic they can be, and unfollow their posts on social media. From respecting yourself is to avoid paying attention to insecure individuals who can't inspire you to become a better Muslim, while ignoring content on the internet which trigger bad moods.

4🔹 When you discover that a group of persons whom you thought were your friends go on a trip without you for the third time: 

❌ If you have an ego problem: You'd angrily post passive-aggressive Facebook status updates about them, tag their names on public posts that are related to "fake friends" or temporary friendships, or go on an outing not with them but with another set of acquaintances then broadcast your instant payback to soothe your hurt pride, unaware that they didn't invite you because they genuinely assumed you were busy. 

✅ If you have self-respect: You'd approach some, if not all, of the members of the squad to inform them how you're interested in joining them on future outings so you can be included in their plans next time. Otherwise, you could regard them as mere acquaintances instead of friends without feeling bothered about their choice to exclude you, accepting the fact that Allah the Most Wise already destined who from His servants are meant to actually connect with you. 

5🔹 When a guest at a wedding takes the seat which you reserved and it was left unattended because you had to go to the restroom: 

❌ If you have an ego problem: You'd furiously command them to get up and give "your" chair back when there are other chairs available. 

✅ If you have self-respect: With calmness you'd look for a different chair or request a waiter at the venue to bring another one, uninterested in starting a petty fight all because of an inanimate object.

✖️ When you have a huge ego, a lot of your actions, such as your decision to discontinue communicating with a particular individual, are the result of acting irrationally upon negative emotions including anger, sadness and jealousy. 

✔️ When you are practicing self-respect, you strive for Allah's sake to ensure that your deeds are driven by logic, not fluctuating feelings, and your choices are based on what makes most sense to you in compliance with your values. Self-respect is not something to be ashamed of when it motivates you to do what Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam love.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah but that Allah raises his status."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2588

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed (or atom) of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise." Someone said, "But a man loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance means rejecting the truth and looking down on the people."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of faith in his heart will enter Hellfire."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/poem-i-am-just-one-of-allahs-servants.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/poem-be-humble-all-humans-are-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-nine-signs-of-actual-narcissists.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-what-real-arrogance-is-and-what-it.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-actual-narcissists-vs-actually.html 

Tips: Three Reasons Why Most People Can't Be Described As Trustworthy

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Three reasons why most people can't be trusted, which is why Allah the Almighty is the Only One Whom we can truly trust: 

1] Most people, when insecure or discontented with Allah's Qadr / Destiny, tend to envy others' accomplishments, joys and blessings. A person who feels jealous of you in any way can never be relied on because they don't want you to succeed in life or surpass them at something which they themselves are trying to attain. 

2] Most humans have the potential to be greedy opportunists and selfish narcissists. You can never rely on somebody who cares more about their ego, desires and pride than people's needs and rights. Don't be surprised if an acquaintance breaks a promise, tells lies or disappoints you one day if they assume that doing so is advantageous to them in the long run.

3] All human beings occasionally forget and make mistakes. The less profitable you appear to certain individuals, the more likely they are to take you for granted. Lower your expectations when it comes to dealing with those who have proven to be dishonest so you don't easily get disappointed. 

✅ Five qualities of trustworthy souls and they are very few: 

1] It is obvious that they strive to maintain Taqwa while they fear only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

2] They try their best to be careful with their words, and if ever they said or did anything which upset someone, they have the courage to sincerely apologize for their wrongs. 

3] When borrowing money and items from others, they make sure that they return what they borrowed in their proper condition and as punctually as they can. 

4] Even if they're oftentimes in a bad mood, they strive to maintain good character, answering salaams responsibly, meeting people with a cheerful demeanor, and refraining from acting unfairly despite how they feel. 

5] They aim to do good only to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, not for deceitful motives and personal gain. They're not the kind of people who overreact and sulk when you don't reciprocate their kindness immediately.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah as a truthful person. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5743 

Sahih Muslim 2607

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There are four signs that make someone a pure hypocrite and whoever has them has a characteristic of hypocrisy (nifaaq) until he abandons it: When he speaks, he lies; when he makes a covenant, he is treacherous; when he makes a promise, he breaks it; and when he argues, he is wicked (acts unjustly)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 34, Sahih Muslim 58

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Hurairah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Years of treachery (before the Day of Judgment) will come over the people in which liars are believed and the truthful ones are denied, the deceitful are trusted, and the trustworthy are considered traitors, and the disgraceful will deliver speeches." It was said, “Who are the disgraceful?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Ignorant men with authority over the common people."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4036

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-trust-allah-with-your-secrets-not.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-dont-be-surprised-if-most-of.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-distinguishing-traits-of-people.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-three-reasons-why-you-cant-trust.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/poem-dont-be-from-two-faced-hypocrites.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/note-signs-of-trustworthy-people.html 

Poem: Do Everything Just To Please Allah And Your Efforts Won't Be Wasted

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Do good deeds just for Allah, and you won't regret it. 

Work hard to reach Jannah, and efforts are not wasted. 

To those who often feel "underappreciated", 

"Undervalued" or "underrated", take note of this: 

We're here to serve Allah, not slaves whom He created.

~•~

If sometimes in your workplace you try your very best 

To do a job well done only to get unnoticed 

By your employers who when you thrive remain quiet 

And when errors are made, they turn into loud critics, 

Stay patient for Allah Who sees all good deeds you did.

~•~ 

Know that oftentimes people who fail to encourage 

Others to do whatever they can to gain success 

Would refuse to support you as they're sadly jealous. 

Don't be affected by the acts of the envious. 

Let their envy inspire you to be tougher instead.

~•~

Acknowledge the truth that not all of Allah's Prophets ('alaihim as-salaam) 

Were loved and supported by all of their relatives. 

Even from your own clan you may encounter hatred 

And attempts to ensure your goals are not accomplished. 

Continue doing good for Allah without regret.

~•~

'Tis better to earn Allah's Love along with some stress 

Than aimlessly rest while sins are being recorded, 

And more noble than being frequently applauded 

By "fans" is hoping your patience will be rewarded. 

Live to please Allah, so your striving isn't wasted.

~•~

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has recorded good and evil deeds and He made them clear. Whoever intends to perform a good deed but does not do it, Allah will record it as a complete good deed. If he intends to do it and does so, Allah the Almighty will record it as ten good deeds, up to seven hundred times as much or even more. If he intends to do an evil deed and does not do it, Allah will record for him one complete good deed. If he does it, Allah will record for him as one evil deed."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6126 

Sahih Muslim 131

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318 

Sahih Muslim 2573

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of piety), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/poem-importance-of-doing-good-deeds-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-good-deeds-must-be-done-sincerely.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-solve-problems-in-life-through-dua.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/tips-things-that-lead-to-self-sabotage.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-dont-allow-some-peoples-envy-and.html 

Tips: 3 Qualities Which Make You Seem Intimidating And 3 Types Of People Who May Feel Intimidated By You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Three positive qualities which make you seem very "intimidating" and "unapproachable" by certain people: 

1] Your trust in Allah the Almighty, your strong faith / Imaan and confidence (not insecure arrogance) inspire you to be resilient, to take the initiative when necessary and to not quit instantly. 

2] It is obvious that you are incredibly selective and cautious regarding your choice of close friends. With Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala guiding you, you're not afraid to stand out and you don't oblige others to cheer for you constantly. 

3] Comparing yourself to other individuals and acting upon toxic feelings of jealousy due to inferiority complex are some of the things you refuse to do stubbornly. 

❎ What kind of person would hesitate to connect with you, as they find you intimidating? 

1] The one with low self-esteem, who feels inadequate (not good enough) around you and gets jealous easily. 

2] An untruthful person with a bad agenda, who seeks to manipulate people and take advantage of their kindness. Apparently they lost interest in getting to know you better once they've discovered that you have the guts to speak up, the potential to expose their lies, and the integrity to unapologetically detach from those who are dishonest.

3] A selfish narcissist who goes out of their way to anxiously avoid you since they don't want you stealing any of their joys or limelight.

~•~ 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe. The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-on-fearing-only-allah-almighty.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-three-signs-that-youre-confident.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-some-words-to-tell-yourself-to.html 

Tips: Suggested Morning Routine

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Suggested morning routine: 

1] Wake up at around 2:30 AM or 3:00 AM, saying the prescribed Du'a upon waking up, and say Istighfaar ("AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem") at least 100 times. 

2] Pray Salat At-Tahajjud / Qiyaam Al-Layl, at least two Sunnah Rak'ahs, and Salat Al-Witr if you didn't pray Witr after Salat Al-'Ishaa. 

3] Supplicate for at least ten to fifteen minutes, say Du'a and talk to Allah the Almighty while facing towards the Qiblah direction. 

4] If there are still several minutes left until the Adhaan of Fajr Salah, take a nap only if you can be sure that you won't oversleep or watch some beneficial videos and browse the net until it's time to pray Salat Al-Fajr. 

5] After praying the Fajr prayer, sit for a few minutes to say the morning Dhikr and Du'a, including: 

"AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem" 100 times,

"SubhanAllah wa Bihamdih" 100 times, 

And "laa ilaaha ilAllah Wahdahu laa shareekaLah LahulMulk wa LahulHamd wa Huwa 'alaa kulli shay-in Qadeer." 100 times. 

6] Read some Surahs from the Noble Qur'an including: 

Surah Al-Fatiha, Ayatul Kursi, the last two verses from Surah Al-Baqarah, Surah Yaseen, Surah Al-Waaqi'ah, Surah Al-Mulk, Surah Al-Kahf if it's Jumuah Friday, Surah Az-Zalzalah, Surah At-Takaathur, Surah Al-Kaafiroon, then three times Surah Al-Ikhlaas, Surah Al-Falaq and Surah An-Naas. 

Make it a habit, as much as possible, to read at least two pages from the Noble Qur'an every night and/or day for Allah's sake.

7] Have a nap after the morning Adhkaar or carry out some tasks (e.g. seeking authentic knowledge and listening to at least one Islamic lecture) and then pray Salat Ad-Duha anytime from after complete sunrise to around twenty minutes before Salat Adh-Dhuhr, at least two Sunnah Rak'ahs so your day can 

Inn-sha-Allah be filled with more barakah / blessings.

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever recites the ‘Verse of the Throne’ (Ayat Al-Kursi) after every prescribed (obligatory) prayer, there will be nothing standing between him and his entry into Paradise but death."

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 7406

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Take advantage of five before five: Your youth before your old age, your health before your illness, your riches before your poverty, your free time before your work, and your life before your death."

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 9575

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-benefits-of-praying-tahajjud.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-my-brief-story-on-how-i-started.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/hadith-virtues-of-praying-sunnah-salat.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-join-those-who-pray-tahajjud-often.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/five-authentic-modes-of-dhikr-after-the-salah/

Poem: The Effect Of Loving My Husband For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 The love I have for my spouse isn't ordinary, 

Not the same as the one shown in romantic movies 

Where the protagonists act in a way that's unreal 

And they teach you that marriage is meant to flawlessly 

Keep you happy like joy is the only mood to feel. 

~•~

Striving to love my husband for Allah's sake truly 

Has caused my faith/Imaan levels to vastly increase. 

With Allah's Will, I've learned to accept Allah's Decree, 

Check the bright side or merits of each difficulty, 

And maintain patience because the feelings are sincere. 

~•~

Patiently loving my husband for Allah's sake leads 

Me to value his well-being more than his money, 

His connection with Allah more than time spent with me, 

And his delight whenever he wants to remarry 

If I have defects when it comes to intimacy. 

~•~

Loving my other half solely for Allah's sake means 

I'll try my best with help from Allah the Almighty 

To take good care of my husband like we're in one team, 

Praying for him and coaching him regarding our Deen, 

And still being his wife if ever he remarries. 

~•~

The impact of loving him for Allah's sake revealed 

That the more you love your spouse for Allah sincerely, 

The more you can forgive him while polygyny seems 

Feasible, and though his frequent absence brings unease, 

Wanting him in Jannah makes tough loyalty easy.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-love-for-allahs-sake-and-marriage.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-love-your-husband-truly-for-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-why-i-dont-get-tired-of-loving-my.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/note-undeniable-signs-that-man-married.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-nine-clear-signs-that-muslim-wifes.html 

Tips: What To Do During Times Of Fitna As A Muslim

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Seven things to do during times of fitna: 

1] Strengthen your connection with Allah the Almighty and increase your faith/Imaan levels by seeking authentic knowledge of Islam regularly and implementing what you learn sincerely. 

2] Maintain Taqwa and do more good deeds which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves, such as praying Tahajjud / Qiyaam Al-Layl and Salat Ad-Duha, while striving to avoid the actions which Allah and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam warned against. 

3] Continue to say Du'a and Dhikr as often as you can, specially lots of Tawbah and Istighfaar (asking for Allah's Forgiveness and saying "AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem"). 

4] Ensure that you attain Islamic knowledge from reliable sources. Stay away from bid'ah, extremism and anything which could lead to fitna directly and indirectly. 

5] Know when to speak (online and offline) or share ideas with wisdom and when it's safer to keep certain thoughts to yourself to remain safe and silent. 

6] Don't feel bad about being strictly selective and cautious regarding your choice of close friends. Loneliness or feeling like an outcast in society while still being loved by Allah the Most Loving is better than wasting energy socializing with untrustworthy companions who are a bad influence on your overall well-being. 

7] Always make sure that any information you intentionally absorb on the internet won't affect your faith/Imaan and personality in a negative way. Not everything you read, come across and watch must be taken at face value. If you can sense that something isn't right about a particular individual, content or webpage, then it may be wiser to distance from them for Allah's sake until you witness valid proofs that they are reliably in accordance with what Allah and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam love.

Allah the Almighty knows best.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Soon (some time before the day of Judgment) the best property of a Muslim will be a flock of sheep which he takes to the top of a mountain, or in the valleys of rainfall, fleeing with his religion from tribulations."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 19

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: We were gathered around the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam while he mentioned tribulations (fitna/fitan), saying, "If you see that people have disordered their commitments, diminished their trusts, and are as jumbled as this," and he interlaced his fingers. I stood to come near him and I said, “How should I act if that happens?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Stay in your house, control your tongue, accept what you know is good, reject what you know is evil, take care of your affairs specifically and abandon the affairs of the common people."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4343

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Miqdad Ibn Al-Aswad RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Verily, the blessed person is one kept away from trials (tribulations / fitan). Verily, the blessed person is one kept away from trials. Verily, the blessed person is one kept away from trials. How good is one who is afflicted but bears it patiently!" 

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4263, Grade: Sahih

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/poem-taqwa-patience-and-trusting-allah.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-when-you-can-show-anger-for-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-when-to-interfere-or-enjoin-good.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/Fitnah-Coping-With-The-Trials-Of-Our-Times-2021-3.0.pdf

Note: Checklist To Determine If Your Husband Is Actually Your Friend And Soulmate

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Eleven questions to ask yourself to feel certain that you have indeed married your soulmate for Allah's sake: 

1] When you look back on the first actual conversations with your husband, can you wholeheartedly smile as you recall his cute efforts to be romantic or flirtatious with you? 

2] Can you mention at least three instances when he has been helpful, kind and compassionate to you? 

3] Do you miss his comforting hugs and loving presence whenever he is absent? 

4] If you had the option to choose between staying over at a resort with some close friends for one week and moving to the city where your husband is employed, would you select the latter as long as you're granted consent to visit your family whenever you like? 

5] If you're incapable of completely satisfying your husband, can you be strong enough to stay married while he loves another woman as his legal second wife, because you'd rather keep loving him faithfully while you're in a polygynous marriage than have him disappear from your life? 

6] Whenever his responses to your calls and messages are delayed, are you able to understand his side and still forgive him for Allah's sake with astounding patience? 

7] Whenever you encounter or notice supposedly happy couples, instead of feeling jealous, do you instantly thank Allah the Almighty for bestowing upon you the unique love story which He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala destined for you and your husband? 

8] Does loving your husband sincerely for Allah's sake beautifully inspire you to become a better, wiser, more mature, more patient and understanding Muslimah? 

9] Do you love it whenever your husband leads you in prayer and every time you hear an Imam reciting some verses from the Noble Qur'an you're usually reminded of your husband's amazingly soothing voice? Or if ever your husband asked for divorce, can you imagine rejecting all marriage proposals from interested suitors while patiently waiting for another wedding from your ex-husband, aware that divorcees in Islam can remarry twice?

10] Although you can't always meet your husband or go on halal dates with him, are you capable of staying fiercely loyal to him, avoiding "emotional affairs" and anything which could lead to fitna, even when he hasn't been around for a long time? 

11] Is it true that you've cried or shed tears many times while mentioning your husband's name in heartfelt Du'as, praying that Allah the Most Merciful protects him, guides him and enables him to pass Allah's tests so you can both succeed, with Allah's Will, in making it to Jannah Paradise? 

Allah the Almighty knows best. If you've answered "yes" to at least seven of the above questions, then it's likely true that your husband is your soulmate whom you should never quit on. Don't let the shaytan who envies your joy feel smug about his attempts to disrupt your obvious blessing.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-five-signs-that-your-husband-is.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/12/poem-what-is-it-like-to-love-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-while-not-every-woman-gets-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-three-tips-to-stay-contented-with.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-dismiss-shaytans-whispers-as-he.html 

Note: Avoid Envy/Jealousy.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Envy is what made the brothers of Prophet Yusuf 'alaihis salaam want to get rid of him even though he never really did anything wrong to them. It is also what caused shaytan to be cast out of Jannah Heaven when he refused to obey Allah's Command to bow down to Prophet Adam 'alaihis salaam. Jealousy is what makes a professor want to fail an intelligent and hardworking student. Additionally it is the reason why many women who lack self-esteem enjoy gossiping about those whom they're secretly jealous of.

If you're doing a good deed sincerely for Allah's sake, someone who envies your efforts and choice to never give up would falsely accuse you of ulterior motives. If you regularly share knowledge, enjoin right and forbid wrong, display enthusiasm in promoting your halal business, or you're kind to others, a person who hates you out of obnoxious jealousy may assume you're just pretending to be "all that", being self-centered or you're desperate to be admired by everyone you encounter. Don't allow your eagerness to gain Allah's Love be affected by such toxic people who can't recognize your positive qualities, who magnify your errors, and keep stalking your social media accounts to count only the negative factors about you. Instead patiently maintain good manners with them, while minimizing unnecessary interactions, and be grateful to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala that you don't have their envious attitude which stems from being discontent with Allah's Qadr, being ungrateful for the unique gifts that Allah already gave, and feeling insecure.

📖 'Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it devours good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

https://www.salafisounds.com/10-evil-consequences-of-envy-jealousy-by-abu-khadeejah/

Tips: Advice From An INTJ Wife To Avoid Adultery And Emotional Affairs

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ personality type, what would you do if ever you found yourself feeling attracted to somebody who isn't your husband? What tips can you offer to shut down or subdue unwanted feelings of attraction? 

📝 Answer: 1] Alhamdulillah as my husband's loyal wife, if ever I found myself catching feelings of attraction to someone whom I can't marry, since I'm contentedly married to the man whom Allah the Most Wise has chosen as my soulmate, I'd frequently recall my husband's best qualities along with the main purpose of why I accepted his marriage proposal to be distracted from the person whom shaytan wants me to notice. 

2] I'd control my gaze, avoid staring at them for too long, and purposely minimize unnecessary interactions with the individuals whom I may find attractive. The more you interact with your so-called "crush" and prolong frequent conversations, the more your heart tends to cling itself to them. Fighting the urge to strengthen the emotional connection while minimizing pointless talks with them for Allah's sake to preserve your chastity can be rewarding and achievable with stubborn patience.

3] I remind myself regularly of all the unpleasant features or negative aspects about the person whom shaytan wants me to notice, so that the irrational feelings of attraction can, with Allah's Will, subside eventually. 

4] Occasionally, specially when fasting Sunnah fasts or praying Tahajjud, I'd beg Allah the Almighty to keep my heart far away from anything which He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala dislikes, and also pray that whoever I'm "crushing on" will remain forever satisfied with their own spouse, or if they're single I'd ask Allah the Most Loving to grant them their own halal love story at the most ideal timing and hope they enjoy their own blessed marriage life, contented with Allah's Qadr/Decree. 

5] The more I remember how death can occur anytime and how awful the consequences of zina (fornication / adultery) are in reality, the easier it gets to emotionally disconnect from those whom my nafs may desire unlawfully. 

6] Whenever I must talk to an individual who seems attractive or attracted mutually, once in a while I'd say something to distract them from me such as "Please tell your wife I said salaam", "salaam to your wife", and "one day 

Inn-sha-Allah you too can have a soulmate". 

7] Listening to Islamic lectures, particularly concerning Taqwa, the characteristics of the true believers, and warnings against zina (fornication / adultery) is also an effective strategy to deter shaytan's plots and completely feel uninterested in pursuing a haraam relationship with somebody who isn't lawful for you.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has pardoned my nation for their bad thoughts within themselves as long as they do not speak of them nor act upon them."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6287

Sahih Muslim 127

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, you will never leave anything for the sake of Allah the Almighty but that Allah will replace it with something better."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 22565

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Sahl Ibn Sa'd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever guarantees (the chastity of) what is between his jaws and what is between his legs, I can guarantee for him Paradise."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

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Hadith: Aim To Be Among The Special Seventy Thousand

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "My Lord (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) has promised me that seventy thousand from my nation will enter Paradise without reckoning or punishment. 

Along with every thousand are seventy thousand more, and three more immeasurable groups of His choosing."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2437

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/20063/%D8%B5%D9%81%D8%A7%D8%AA-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B3%D8%A8%D8%B9%D9%8A%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%81%D8%A7-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B0%D9%8A%D9%86-%D9%8A%D8%AF%D8%AE%D9%84%D9%88%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AC%D9%86%D8%A9-%D8%A8%D8%BA%D9%8A%D8%B1-%D8%AD%D8%B3%D8%A7%D8%A8 

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Poem: It's Your Right To Choose Your Close Friends Carefully

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 I have a choice to be friends with this neighbor whose name 

Starts with the letter "R" but I choose to stay away 

From her as the vibes she gives off makes me feel unsafe, 

As I recall the rudeness she formerly displayed 

And how she seems immature despite her older age.

~•~ 

I have a choice to befriend this other neighbor "A", 

Pay visits to her and her kids every other day, 

And discuss deep topics but I choose to stay away, 

As more than twice she upset me in different ways. 

I'd rather chat with ducks than scan a dishonest face. 

~•~

I've a choice as well to connect with this soul whose name 

Begins with "G", supposedly, but without dismay 

I decide to avoid her gladly for Allah's sake, 

As her expertise in gossip, mocking without shame, 

And likely envy of my blessings generate hate.

~•~ 

There are many others to whom I gleefully wave 

Goodbye after useful lessons they unwisely gave - 

To not be like them in how they childishly behave, 

To not emulate their urges to lie and betray,

And to value joy in avoiding those who are fake.

~•~ 

As a Muslim it's your right to cleverly evade 

Connecting with toxic people who keep you away 

From Allah the Almighty and reaching Jannah's Gates. 

Also don't affiliate with those whose actions make 

You doubt yourself. You don't want to lose track of your aims.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782

Sahih Muslim 2998

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

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