💌 Three prideful or egoistic moves done by many insecure women which could lead to divorce, marital abuse, and preventable misunderstandings:
1] Childishly playing hide and seek: When a wife tries to play hard to get, acts unavailable, and purposely ignores her husband's calls and messages to teach him a lesson for disappointing her until he tearfully begs for her attention and forgiveness. In a lot of cases, the more distant, arrogant, and obnoxiously stubborn a wife behaves, the more the husband loses respect for her so he considers divorcing or marrying again.
2] Frequently testing her husband's worth and ability to sacrifice his pride for her, as if he's her compliant student who's obliged to pass each one of her tests without a single mistake: For instance, when a woman assigns some of her supposedly supportive friends to flirt with him so they can report to her if he's loyal or not, and when she persistently commands him to carry out challenging tasks while threatening him saying something like, "if you really love me, you'd buy this. If you truly care, you'd purchase it with no questions asked. Let's go to that country for a vacation, but only if you love me.".
3] Insecurely comparing her unique marriage life to others' romantic journeys: The more a wife annoyingly whines to her husband with lousy complaints such as, "Why can't we be like them? They dine in classy buffet restaurants every Friday night.", "Darling, I wish you were as well-toned, muscular, and athletic as the husband of so-and-so. Ever considered weightlifting, jogging every morning, or working out in a gym at least twice a week?", and "Starting from now, whenever we attend social gatherings, can we wear the same color of outfits like those cute couples with matching clothes?".
The man whom Allah the Almighty has wisely selected for you as your soulmate and traveling partner to Jannah Paradise is unlike the other men. Don't insult his manhood and self-esteem by incessantly ordering him to copy other guys. The sweetness of bananas and durian isn't the same as the juiciness of watermelon and papayas, just as calmly sitting on cold marble floors in a brightly lit room feels so different from picnicking on soft sand under cloudy skies whilst listening to tranquil ocean waves.
Marriage is a gift, blessing, and trust from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala which must never be taken for granted. If a well-respected boss or instructor entrusted you with a journal in which you're expected to write some significant information until he gets it back, would you, with fierce loyalty and rewarding patience hold on to it till the item is returned to its original owner, or will you disrespectfully drop it, due to emotional instability, then later ask for a new notebook because you weren't creative, focused, or dedicated enough to try various solutions to fix whatever problems you encountered with the first one? If the journal begins attacking, verbally abusing, or anxiously running away from you, double-check yourself. Frankly self-evaluate to determine if you're the one who installed some strange equipments or did something totally unacceptable to it unknowingly, which activated the avoidable drama.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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