Note: Patiently Understand And Empathize With Your Husband Before Instantly Misjudging Him

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Imagine three wives who are planning to ask for divorce carelessly without bothering to investigate the actual reasons behind the misunderstandings. The first wife is fed up with her husband's inability to answer her calls and messages for three months, unaware that he got into a car accident while on the way home and his corpse laying somewhere in the forest still hasn't been found by the locals. 

The second wife has been anxiously sending multiple emails to her busy husband working in a different city. She furiously complains to him about how she's tired of the way he has been unjustly ignoring her for days, not realizing that a female colleague at his workplace keeps trying to grab his attention and deleting his wife's messages, so she can selfishly interfere with their blessed marriage. 

The third wife plans to visit her mother in-law to declare that she must break up with her son who also works abroad, as he isn't doing a satisfactory job at financially supporting her and their kids. She is oblivious to the fact that her insecure co-wife nosily managed to get in between her and their husband regarding financial matters. So the money which their husband regularly sends via GCash or Western Union is actually being transmitted to the other wife's account. 

It's easy to quickly assume that your husband is guilty of neglecting you or disrespecting your rights, when in reality he's struggling with serious problems all the while. Oftentimes your husband's questionable conduct, misbehavior, or illogical decisions result from the negative impact of the evil eye ('ayn) perhaps during your wedding and he forgot to say some Adhkaar that time, or some jealous outsiders are desperately doing whatever they can to disrupt your love journey through corruption, unjust acts, or sorcery, black magic, and witchcraft. 

Whenever your husband does something wrong, lovingly make effort to analyze his actions, recall the memorable times you've enjoyed together, include him more often in your supplications, and stay grateful to Allah the Almighty for inspiring you to become a patient, loyal, and empathetic pious wife who isn't quick to invent unfair assumptions about other Muslims, particularly the man whom Allah the Most Wise chose as your soulmate or travel partner to Jannah Paradise. 

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-good-intentions-in-marrying-can.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-five-signs-that-your-husbands.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-three-clear-signs-that-you-married.html 

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/nine-ways-to-perform-ruqyah-on-yourself-for-ailments-evil-eye-jinn-magic-etc-ruqyah-series-2/

Note: Seven Differences Between INTJs and ISTJs

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Seven differences between INTJ personality types and ISTJs: 

1] When receiving information or discovering something new, INTJs usually analyze how that thing can impact or benefit them in the future. ISTJs would typically evaluate how it compares to familiar incidents, current beliefs, or situations which occured in the past. 

2] ISTJs are more detailed, present, and observant than INTJs. INTJs are often prone to ignoring or overlooking details which they think aren't important to them. 

3] A lot of ISTJs prefer to stick to rules, regulations, and traditions. They'd rather fit in with the crowd than unconventionally stand out. INTJs obstinately hold on to their values even if most of the people show disapproval. Being called "weird" or viewed as "the odd one out" is actually a compliment for them. 

4] Stereotypical ISTJs are willing to continue working and performing a challenging task despite not enjoying it, while INTJs can easily dismiss an assignment, cancel certain plans, and discontinue a project, if they conclude that there's no logical reason in continuing. 

5] ISTJs in general are more sociable and approachable than INTJs. Most INTJs struggle with trust issues and are stubbornly selective regarding who they socialize with. 

6] Generally ISTJs tend to talk slower than most INTJs, particularly if they're trying to discuss an important topic or issue in detail. INTJs are more likely to speak at a faster pace or as briefly as possible in order to be efficient, so they can move on to their next activity. 

7] A typical sign that an ISTJ appreciates their loved ones is in giving them tangible gifts or offering some kind of service. INTJ Muslims, on the other hand, when they care about you would offer frank advice to help you improve or spend quality time with you either listening to your problems as they search for solutions to solve them, or chatting with you enjoyably about what you can do to attain success in this world 

Inn-sha-Allah and the next.

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📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah as a truthful person. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhārī 5743 

Sahih Muslim 2607

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-whats-it-like-to-be-intj.html 

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https://www.idrlabs.com/cognitive-function/test.php 

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http://www.michaelcaloz.com/personality/ 

https://www.psychologyjunkie.com/2017/10/28/10-signs-might-introverted-intuitive/ 

https://www.onlinepersonalitytests.org/intj-vs-istj-the-difference-between-these-two-personality-types/  

Tips: Nine Signs That You And Some Souls Were Destined By Allah To Get Along With Each Other

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Nine signs that you and a person's soul peacefully align with each other, and there is potential for you to become close friends: 

1] The very first time you met or stumbled across their Facebook profile, you felt at ease, calm, relaxed, interested, or eager to know more about them.

2] You realize it's easy to be genuinely happy for them, and their joys, pleasant qualities, and achievements can't really trigger jealousy. 

3] Even if they reside in other city or their residence is far from yours, for some reason you can sense you're closely connected. Distance apart doesn't decrease your love for Allah's sake. 

4] You truthfully enjoy interacting with them online and offline, no matter how random your conversations get sometimes. They're the kind of friend whom you're willing to chat with for several hours at night. 

5] Awkward moments, uncomfortable silence, and tireless efforts to appear flawless don't occur between you two.

6] You feel safe around them. There's no requirement to impress them nor any need to ask a third party about what they said behind your back, as you can tell that they're not fans of backbiting and spreading false news. 

7] You rarely doubt or suspect your friendship, wondering if they truly deserve your trust and loyalty, since spending time with them inspires your level of faith/Imaan to increase. 

8] You're friendly and amicable with all of their family members. None of their relatives can compel you to back out of the association, as though Allah the Most Wise destined and planned your connection. 

9] You find yourself lovingly mentioning their names in your Du'a/supplications and prayers on a regular basis. The more you care about some Muslims on a deeper level, the more you talk to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala compassionately about them.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-what-often-leads-to-conflict-or.html 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/note-five-reasons-why-we-cant-vibe-well.html 

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