بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Saturday, September 17, 2022

Note: Seven Signs You're Confident And Your Confidence May Intimidate Those Who Are Insecure

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📑 Seven signs you're actually confident and your confidence intimidates those who are insecure: 
1] You only desire Allah's Love, and you don't chase people's approval. As long as you firmly believe that your choice to do something pleases Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala (such as praying in a workplace or wearing the niqab), what critics claim about you can't demotivate you nor cause you to feel doubtful. 
2] You're very picky regarding the kind of individuals whom you befriend and willingly socialize with. Without being judgemental of people's outward appearance, you choose to spend quality time with well-mannered Muslims who inspire your good character to develop and your faith Imaan to strengthen.
3] You don't care nor attempt to modify your unique personality if some individuals perceive you as "weird", "boring", "annoying", "toxic" or "lonely". You understand that their own opinions and perceptions of you cannot define your reality. 
4] You're not afraid to ask questions when searching for solutions and clarity. 
5] When loved ones, colleagues or strangers share some of their joyful moments with you, you're capable of listening to them express joy and gratitude without feeling triggered by jealousy. 
6] A lot of times, with Allah's Will and Guidance, you are able to stubbornly ignore invitations to debate or you can prevent arguments from escalating when necessary. You don't oblige yourself to be the champion of every single dispute, particularly if the individuals who disagree with you are from your family tree. 
7] You never wait for any human being to remind you of your true purpose in life, your actual worth, and your commendable qualities. As long as you strive to serve Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, contentedly you don't demand people's constant validation to feel complete. 
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📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever seeks Allah's Pleasure by the displeasure of the people, Allah will suffice him against the people. Whoever seeks the pleasure of the people by displeasing Allah, Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will leave him to the patronage of the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2414
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

Tips: 5 Probable Reasons Why shaytan Feels Delighted When Muslim Couples Divorce And 5 Things To Avoid Discussing With Your Dear Spouse

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five probable reasons why shaytan feels so satisfied when Muslim spouses divorce: 
1] The divorce occurred because the wife or husband (or both) felt too proud and egotistical to forgive the other spouse. Actual arrogance / kibr which prevents you from willingly forgiving a Muslim who asked you for forgiveness is from the despicable characteristics of shaytan. 
2] Easily letting go of your spouse without carefully thinking of the negative consequences of divorce could indicate that you didn't genuinely love them for Allah's sake. You probably wanted them for their money, their impressive standing in society, or you wrongfully assumed that staying attached to your husband (instead of maintaining a strong connection with Allah the Almighty) is supposed to keep you happy. Expecting your husband to treat you as if you're a lot more important than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala gratifies shaytan immensely. 
3] Destroying the beautiful bond which Allah the Most Loving destined through finalizing divorce may show that you didn't trust Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala enough to firmly believe that He has full control over everything, that He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala can grant solutions to your problems at the most ideal timing, or that He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala can reward you in both worlds for striving to maintain exceptional patience.
4] Quickly agreeing to divorce one another because you both weren't determined, sincere and creative enough to think of the ways to solve your marital issues could imply that you prefer instant enjoyment of the delusional pleasures of this fleeting dunya to patiently waiting for eternal bliss in Jannah Paradise. 
5] A lot of children who grow up in broken families may develop certain personality disorders or go through severe depression particularly if they frequently compare themselves to kids whose parents are still together. shaytan and his allies may feel delighted whenever they see Muslims dispute and when several Muslim communities weaken due to divorces sadly increasing in number. 
✅ Five things to refrain from discussing with your husband, to preserve your marriage: 
1] Don't talk to him about your sinful / ignorant past. Mentioning to him about the wrongdoings which you used to do could spoil his good perception of you. 
2] Don't remind him of his past mistakes and sins which he sincerely repented from. Encouraging him to recall unpleasant incidents could trigger futile arguments. 
3] As much as possible, don't backbite about anybody in his presence because he may get the feeling that you also prattle to others about him obnoxiously when he's not around. 
4] Don't describe to him the beauty or attractive qualities of your female cousins, friends, neighbors, classmates and colleagues, unless you want him to ask you in the future if it's okay he can take that woman whom you keep describing to him as another legal wife. 
5] Don't criticize any of your husband's relatives so that he doesn't get all defensive, unless you are truly concerned about them and you wish your husband to advise his loved ones for their well-being or to give you advice on how to deal with them.
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📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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