💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🗒️ If a guy knowingly does at least two of these things, then it may be wiser for a Muslimah to reject his marriage proposal:
1] If it is obvious that he does not take his Salah seriously, and he frequently lacks the courage to take initiative to pray inside the Masjid, or if it is one of his bad habits to deliberately delay praying the obligatory prayers.
2] If it is clear that he has zero interest in learning more about Islam and he doesn't bother attending any Islamic lecture eagerly.
3] If he has publicly made fun of any Muslimah for her decision to wear the niqab or if he has previously joked about Muslim men who choose to keep their beards long.
4] If he is already married, with or without children, while he is currently jobless and obviously struggling financially. Your level of faith (Imaan) and patience (Sabr) should be extremely high if you're willing to stay married to this kind of man.
5] If he insists that you both "run away to a different city or village" and he wants an "elopement wedding" - that you marry him in secrecy, without the presence of your mother and/or father as well as other relatives.
6] If he confirms that many of his belongings are bought on credit while he owes several individuals a large amount of money, and this indebted guy wishes to give your mahr dowry later at an unspecified date
Inn-sha-Allah in the future.
7] If it is known that he had multiple divorces while his ex-wives complain about how he is generally unkind, unfair and consistently unavailable (physically and emotionally).
8] If he is intentionally disrespectful towards his mother and any of his sisters or other female relatives.
9] If there is established evidence of him struggling from being addicted to drugs or intoxicants, and he takes pride in his addiction (online and offline).
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone (a true Muslim) proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials on the earth and the spread of corruption."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Yes." I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Her silence (not resisting nor complaining) is her consent (evidence that she is okay with the marriage proposal)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6547
Sahih Muslim 1420
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
