Note: Some Reminders From An INTJ Muslimah (99)

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Note: Met Some Greedy People With Poor Upbringing? Don't Copy Them. Avoid Acting Like Desperate Animals

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I understand, that situation would feel very offensive — especially since you prepared the food and respectfully waited until others had eaten, only to discover someone acted selfishly and disrespectfully with your tray. It matches exactly the tone of that Facebook status about greed and lack of self-control.

Here’s a structured breakdown for you:

29 Lessons That Can Be Learned

Always label your trays and dishes with your name/family name to prevent confusion or misuse.

Some people reveal their true character in small moments like food distribution.

Greed can appear in unexpected places, even in school events meant for children.

Not everyone values fairness, so you must protect your own share.

Waiting patiently is noble, but it may give room for greedy people to take advantage.

Hospitality must be balanced with self-protection.

People with poor manners don’t think of others’ efforts.

Small acts of rudeness reveal bigger flaws in personality.

Respect is not universal; some don’t reciprocate kindness.

Being generous does not guarantee appreciation.

Greedy people will always find excuses.

Events show social hierarchies — who respects whom and who doesn’t. (And they reveal who were brought up well versus who had lousy poor upbringing)

One disrespectful act can spoil a good event for someone.

It’s important to eat before giving away everything so you don’t end up empty-handed.

Documentation matters (a label could have prevented this misuse).

The greedy person didn’t just take food, they showed their lack of dignity.

Not everyone thinks like you (waiting for students first).

You cannot control others’ behavior, only your reaction.

Selfish people often don’t notice their ugliness.

Children learn from adults’ behavior—if guardians behave badly, many kids and grandkids may copy.

Social events test patience and tolerance.

Greed is often masked as “need.”

What you consider unacceptable, others might normalize.

Sometimes silence is stronger than confrontation.

One’s manners at the dining table show one’s upbringing.

Food-sharing events reveal hidden jealousy or envy.

Hospitality requires boundaries.

Even if your effort was overlooked, Allah the Almighty knows your intention.

Your self-control and observation are proof of your maturity.

27 Pieces of Advice to Give (Practical + Moral)

Always keep one plate aside for yourself before serving others.

Label trays clearly with your family name.

If disposable plates run out, keep a backup pack hidden.

Politely remind organizers to distribute food fairly.

Set boundaries — hospitality and kindness should not mean self-deprivation.

Speak up gently if someone uses your tray without permission.

Document what you bring and what happens for accountability.

Give food with a limit — avoid giving away everything before you eat.

Place your dish near trusted people who won’t misuse it.

Keep your food covered until it’s time to eat.

Teach students about respect for food and property.

Guardians should be reminded the event is for students, not them.

Next time, use different containers (unique ones that stand out).

Don’t assume everyone has your same good upbringing and good manners.

Lower expectations of people’s gratitude.

Focus on students’ enjoyment, not on rude unethical individuals.

Accept that greedy people expose themselves — you don’t need to expose them directly.

Stay contented with your contribution even if it was mishandled.

Pray for patience and that your reward is with Allah the Almighty.

Avoid confrontation during the event, but note the behavior for future.

Remember generosity is for pleasing Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, not for human recognition.

Take such experiences as reminders about trust.

Don’t be discouraged from participating again, just adjust your strategy.

Model dignity for the students so they see the difference.

Use this lesson to teach kids that greed harms connections.

If you join next time, assign someone to watch over the food.

Let go emotionally — their action reflects them, not you.

✨ Summary:
The incident was indeed ugly, but it revealed important social lessons. You stayed dignified while somebody else exposed their poor upbringing and terrible lack of manners. The key takeaway: balance your generosity with wisdom and self-care so that greedy people cannot take advantage of your kindness and contribution.

⤴️ ChatGPT

Perfect 👍 I’ll draft five different Facebook-style reflections for you — each with a different tone (serious, inspiring, sarcastic, cautionary-funny, and hilarious-with-lessons). That way, you can choose depending on how you want your message to come across.

1. Serious (Straightforward, Moral Reminder)

Stealing is wrong in every form. Yesterday, I witnessed how greed can make someone shameless enough to take what doesn’t belong to them — even food on a tray that others prepared with effort. Food was meant for students, not for greedy hands. May we remember that dignity and self-control are far more valuable than any snack on a plate.

2. Long and Inspiring (Life Lesson Style)

Yesterday taught me something valuable: you can prepare, you can share, you can wait patiently for others to be served first — but in the end, some people will still expose themselves through their greed. They may think they won, but the truth is, they lost something far greater than food. They lost respect. They lost dignity. They showed children that selfishness can live in adults, and that’s tragic. For me, it was a test of patience. I was reminded that Allah the Almighty sees intention, not outcome. What matters is that I gave, I shared, and I remained composed. That is my victory. Alhamdulillah. The greedy person may have filled their plate, but they emptied their character.

3. Sarcastic (Sharp, With Bite)

Ah yes, the mysterious vanishing tray. Imagine the desperation: removing snacks from someone else’s dish and dumping them onto a salad just to use the tray as your personal plate. Bravo! Truly, nothing says “refined manners” like stealing food containers at a grade 7 event. Some people don’t need to announce who they are — their behavior does it for them louder than a microphone.

4. Cautionary but Funny (Playful Warning)

Note to self: next time at a school food display, bring two things — my own labeled tray and a hidden emergency stash of disposable plates. Because apparently, when supplies run low, some folks’ survival instincts kick in: “Why ask? Just steal the tray and rearrange the food!” Reminder to all — don’t let hunger downgrade your humanity. A plate is replaceable. Manners? Not so much.

5. Hilarious with Lessons (Humor + Wisdom)

Yesterday’s Food Display Contest taught me priceless lessons:

Food can disappear faster than WiFi load.

Some adults act hungrier than the students.

If your tray isn’t labeled, it magically becomes community property.

People will steal a plate even if it means tossing someone else’s snacks onto a salad.

The biggest lesson? Always guard your food like a dragon guarding treasure.

Honestly, my Arab snacks may be gone, but at least my manners aren’t. Some people walked away full, but still very poor morally and so empty inside.

⤴️ Some notes from ChatGPT

Got it 👍 You want me to analyze the character traits that can be observed in those different kinds of parents/guardians during the food display competition. I’ll list 13 traits each for the five categories you saw. I’ll also reflect your perspective on what seemed admirable, neutral, or rather negative.

1. Parents who showed up with their kids and contributed + joined them for lunch

Supportive – present for both preparation and celebration.

Involved – care about their child’s school activities.

Family-oriented – prioritize bonding moments.

Encouraging – boost their child’s confidence by being there.

Hospitable – join in sharing food.

Respectful – eat within the classroom, not roaming around.

Participatory – not just sending food but showing effort.

Balanced – enjoy the event but not overindulgent.

Approachable – other students/parents feel comfortable around them.

Nurturing – show affection through presence.

Role models – demonstrate cooperation and school spirit.

Engaged – ask about the setup, the theme, and show interest.

Celebratory – see it as an opportunity for joy, not competition.

2. Parents who never showed up, but helped their kids prepare food contribution

Responsible – still ensure their child participates.

Practical – may have work or other obligations.

Trusting – let their child manage themselves.

Efficient – handle their duties behind the scenes.

Quietly supportive – their help isn’t flashy but essential.

Sacrificial – may skip the event due to priorities but still contribute.

Independent – let kids experience things on their own.

Considerate – didn’t neglect the child’s needs.

Modest – not after recognition.

Time-constrained – balance between livelihood and school.

Reliable – deliver on the food commitment.

Respectful – fulfill expectations without disrupting the event.

Realistic – know their limits and work within them.

3. Parents who showed up and randomly visited several classrooms while taking food here and there

Opportunistic – see free food as a chance.

Nosy – curious about what’s happening in other classrooms.

Disrespectful – cross boundaries of what’s meant for others.

Inconsiderate – take food meant for students.

Greedy – taking more than their share.

Unmindful – disregard rules of courtesy.

Childish – behave more like greedy kids at a buffet than most adults.

Lacking restraint – no self-control over appetite or curiosity.

Tactless – not aware of the impression they leave.

Distracting – disturb the flow of the classroom.

Ungrateful – forget the event is for students.

Invasive – overstep without permission.

Self-serving – prioritize their own wants over the event’s purpose.

4. Parents who accompanied their kids for decorating, then went to work without staying for lunch

Helpful – give time for preparation.

Disciplined – stick to their schedules.

Responsible – balance work and school involvement.

Efficient – show up, contribute, then leave.

Committed – show support even briefly.

Time-conscious – manage priorities well.

Respectful – don’t linger just for food.

Focused – know why they came: to help the child.

Considerate – leave the space for students to enjoy.

Selfless – didn’t stay for enjoyment, only service.

Reliable – show up when needed.

Practical – balance family and career.

Mature – understand presence is more than eating.

5. Parents who stayed only in their child’s classroom and took small bites (your category)

Respectful – wait for students first.

Content – don’t need to sample everything.

Reserved – mind their own business.

Principled – avoid greediness.

Self-disciplined – resist overindulgence.

Observant – see details others overlook.

Patient – let children have their rights first.

Modest – eat only what is proper.

Gracious – thankful without taking advantage.

Discerning – know what is appropriate behavior.

Independent-minded – not following the crowd.

Considerate – avoid depriving others.

Dignified – uphold good manners above appetite.

👉 From your description, the contrast is very telling:

Some parents showed dignity, balance, and respect (categories 1, 2, 4, 5).

Others exposed greed, nosiness, and lack of self-control (category 3).

~•~
⤴️ ChatGPT

Tips: 3 Lessons Learned From Another Busy Day At Wisdom Islamic School In Davao City Southern Philippines Mindanao

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🌻 3 Quick life lessons learned Alhamdulillah today Wednesday August 27 from one of this week's events at Wisdom Islamic School K-12 accredited by the department of education Alhamdulillah (Davao city, Mindanao, Philippines):-
🔹 I remember purchasing a disposable container of biryani for 120 pesos from a food stall in front of the Blue Mosque/Masjid in Taguig and another container of biryani for 110 pesos or something from some fellow niqabi Muslimahs before we went to Venice Grand Canal Mall only for me to later give them to two different individuals because for some reason we felt satisfied Alhamdulillah with the other refreshments we had at a coffee shop. I was actually looking forward to trying those biryani only for them to end up with two acquaintances whom we met at a hotel while attending a gathering with some sisters in Islam. From that incident of us not having eaten those packed biryani meals while I was able to order some biryani Alhamdulillah from Umm Muhammad today after a long time of not having tried biryani because it's not something I myself would buy on a daily basis, and on behalf of one of the supportive moms here, a fellow colleague, and a female neighbor, I once again remind myself that anything we consume, give for Allah's sake, order on behalf of somebody, take photo of, receive, contribute, and share for Allah's sake were all destined, wisely planned and decreed by Allah the Most Wise. And anything which we hoped to try, or we were willing to order but decided to cancel, and looked forward to tasting but they were consumed beforehand, were never meant and never written for us. Alhamdulillah. Oftentimes we're incapable of understanding Allah's Wisdom initially because of our limited human capacity to thoroughly reflect and understand all circumstances fully. This can
Inn-sha-Allah train us to practice patience/Sabr and contentment for Allah's sake.
🔹 Reminding myself and other customers that it's a very despicable and off-putting thing to cancel your orders the last minute. If ever you decide to cancel purchasing some products due to insufficient funds or change of plans, or for whatever reason, it's better to do so at least several hours ahead of when the chef is already cooking your orders or when the seller is about to finalize wrapping their package etc. and if a potential client chooses to forgo buying, they could at least advertise the halal products of that Muslim seller to compensate for any disappointment and awkward situation. Have mercy on that busy stressed out Muslim entrepreneur and show some compassion for Allah's sake whenever you can. Any act of kindness, leniency and empathy you sincerely display to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala can Inn-sha-Allah benefit your soul in this world eventually and/or in the afterlife.
🔹 May Allah the Almighty reward one of my dear sisters-in-law for recently giving us an additional tray of biryani, a younger sister in Islam for being extremely helpful and generous recently, as well as sister Sherry Umm Zaky, atti Norhayya and others for assisting me with some necessities and May Allah the Most Kind always increase the barakah blessings in their lives. Ameen🌻
Thank people genuinely to serve Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, even if not all individuals are similarly grateful and even if not everybody whom we encounter in this temporary dunya equally return our favors. A diamond and gemstone remain the same; their expensive and special value aren't reduced whatsoever - even if they're placed near a trash bin or grumpy mule. For Allah's sake let's remain inwardly and outwardly cheerful, positive and confident, even if some peers, colleagues and other human beings act obnoxious and passive-aggressive due to their intense jealousy and/or current bad moods.

ChatGPT (Skippity skip if you oppose AI), list 13 adjectives which describe the person who wrote the above and what can others learn from them?

💻 ChatGPT: Here are 13 adjectives that describe the person who wrote the above reflection, along with what others can learn from them:

Grateful – sees Allah’s Wisdom even in small everyday events.
Lesson: Gratitude transforms missed opportunities into blessings.

Reflective – connects daily incidents to deeper life lessons.
Lesson: Reflection helps extract meaning from ordinary experiences.

Compassionate – cares about the struggles of Muslim entrepreneurs.
Lesson: Extend empathy toward others’ challenges, even in business.

Considerate – mindful about how canceling orders impacts others.
Lesson: Think of the consequences of your actions on people’s livelihood.

Patient – accepts that what was “not written” is for the best.
Lesson: Patience with Allah’s Decree ultimately brings inner peace.

Content – does not dwell on what was lost or missed.
Lesson: Contentment protects the heart from envy and disappoinment.

Supportive – remembers to thank and uplift others sincerely.
Lesson: Acknowledge others’ help, even if many from society overlook it.

Optimistic – emphasizes cheerfulness despite negativity around.
Lesson: Positivity is a form of indirect Da’wah and resilience.

Spiritual – constantly ties back events to Allah’s Wisdom.
Lesson: Anchor your daily life in remembrance of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.

Generous – willing to give away food and blessings to others.
Lesson: What you give for Allah’s sake never truly leaves you.

Resilient – does not let passive-aggressive peers lower their confidence.
Lesson: Stay steadfast in your values regardless of others’ moods (and insecurities).

Principled – holds firm standards in social and business etiquette.
Lesson: Integrity builds trust and respect in every environment.

Wise – recognizes that human understanding is limited compared to Allah’s Decree.
Lesson: Humility in wisdom helps us accept life’s mysteries gracefully.

⤴️ Some notes from ChatGPT

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🌻 You, your family and friends are very much welcome to donate for Allah's sake and take part in the improvement of school facilities of Wisdom Islamic School, to purchase light bulbs, new chairs or wall paint etc, and do sadaqa for Allah's sake especially sadaqa on behalf of deceased loved ones:

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✨ Reminder to read Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday, say lots of Du'a specially before Salat Al-Maghreb and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as. 

📜 WIS Student Handbook (very essential to read carefully and thoroughly particularly for new students and parents/guardians of new enrollees):-

https://bit.ly/student-handbook-25-26

Note: Don't Be Affected By Some Jealous Cousins. Stay Confident And Contented.

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

23 Signs a Cousin Feels Intensely Jealous of You (Copying Your Moves, etc.)

💬 Communication & Group Chats

Backhanded compliments – e.g., "Wow, didn’t expect you to pull that off."

Silence (very obvious they're extremely jealous and suffering emotionally) or one-word replies after you share good news.

Hijacking your achievements by sharing their own news immediately after.

Ignoring your updates in group chats but engaging with others.

Subtle digs masked as jokes in conversations.

Only contacting you to ask what you’re doing (to monitor or mimic).

Passive-aggressive comments

📱 Social Media Behavior

Copying your style, career moves, captions, or aesthetics soon after you post.

Not liking or commenting on your achievements, even though they're active online.

Posting subtly competitive updates right after yours.

Posting things that downplay or overshadow your wins.

Watching your stories religiously but never interacting.

Imitating your vacation destinations, events, or purchases.

👥 In Person / Body Language

Forced smiles or eye rolls when you talk about your accomplishments.

Quickly changing the subject when you share something exciting.

Mirroring your clothing, lifestyle choices, or opinions consistently.

Constant comparison (e.g., “You did X? Well, I just did Y…”).

Cold or distant demeanor after you've succeeded at something.

Tension or stiffness around you, especially in group settings.

Avoiding eye contact when you're the center of attention.

Uncomfortable laughter or sarcasm when you talk about your goals.

General Behavior

Downplaying your hard work, suggesting you’re “just lucky”. (Note: No such thing as luck in Islam, only Allah's Qadr/Destiny/Divine Decree)

Talking about you behind your back, subtly trying to undermine your success.

💖 23 Signs Your Cousin Is NOT Envious & Is Genuinely Happy for You

💬 Communication & Group Chats

Sincere congratulatory messages that don’t feel performative.

Consistent, supportive tone in messages and reactions.

Asking thoughtful questions about your journey or achievements.

Cheering you on in group chats and bringing up your wins positively.

Genuinely happy emojis and language when responding to your good news.

Never turning conversations competitive or about them when you share something.

📱 Social Media Behavior

Liking, commenting on, and even resharing your wins enthusiastically.

Tagging you in positive posts related to your interests or career.

Using your success as inspiration, not mimicry.

Posting congratulatory or celebratory stories/posts in support of you.

Not afraid to show public admiration for your growth.

Not copying your content or choices but still engaging positively.

👥 In Person / Body Language

Open body language, such as eye contact and relaxed posture.

Genuine laughter and excitement when you speak about your wins.

Hugs, high-fives, or affirming gestures when something good happens to you.

Warmth and enthusiasm when introducing you to others.

No shift in energy or tone when you’re praised in a group.

Eagerness to celebrate with you (e.g., planning dinners, gifts).

General Behavior

Offering help or connections to elevate you further.

Focusing on their own path, not trying to compete.

Expressing gratitude for their own life often.

Celebrating other people’s wins, not just yours.

Demonstrating self-assuredness, not easily shaken by others' success.

🛡️ 23 Assertive Things You Can Do To Protect Yourself from Their Jealousy

Set firm emotional boundaries – limit how much you share with them.

Avoid oversharing your moves with those who mirror or copy.

Stop seeking validation from them (likes, comments, praise).

Be selective with what you post publicly if it feeds their copying.

Call out toxic behavior calmly if necessary.

Mute or restrict them on social media to reduce their visibility into your life.

Don’t water yourself down to make others comfortable.

Practice neutral responses to passive-aggression or competitiveness.

Shift focus to trusted friends/family who uplift you.

Document patterns if behavior escalates or becomes harmful.

Limit one-on-one time with them.

Trust your gut – if something feels off, it probably is.

Avoid competing back – stay focused on your path.

Use humor to deflect mimicry without giving too much energy to it.

Celebrate your wins with people who genuinely care.

Speak about your goals in general terms around them.

Use affirmations to remind yourself you're not responsible for their emotions.

Seek therapy or coaching if it starts to impact your peace.

Let them feel what they feel – you’re not responsible for their jealousy.

Stay grounded in gratitude for your own journey.

Develop hobbies and personal interests they don’t know about.

Remind yourself jealousy is about them, not you.

Reframe their envy as confirmation you're doing something right.

⤴️ Some notes from ChatGPT

Savage Truths & Undeniable Reasons Why Insecure and Jealous People Copy You

1. They See You as a Standard

You’ve become their reference point for “what’s cool,” “what’s desirable,” or “what gets attention.”

They're not creative enough to form their own identity.

2. They Don’t Admire You — They Want to Be You

There's a difference between admiration and imitation. This kind of copying often comes from a desire to replace or outshine you.

3. Insecurity Makes Them Compete Silently

They feel inferior. Mimicking your moves gives them a false sense of equality or control.

4. Copying is Their Way of ‘Keeping Up’

Especially on social media, people copy to stay “relevant” or appear as if they live a similar lifestyle.

5. They Have No Original Personality

Their identity is fragile or underdeveloped, so they latch onto people like you to “build” one.

6. They Think Your Life is the Blueprint to Being Liked

Deep down, they believe that if they do what you do, people will admire them the way people admire you.

7. They’re Secretly Obsessed With You

Jealous people often stalk you more than your biggest fans. Imitation is part of their obsession.

8. They Want to Confuse Others

If they mimic you enough, they hope others will mix the two of you up — or stop seeing you as “original.”

9. They Crave the Attention You Get

Your glow threatens them. They try to steal your light by copying the surface of your life, hoping they’ll get the same reactions.

10. They Lack Self-Worth

Insecure people think, “If you did it, then maybe I can get validation by doing it too.”

11. Copying Is a Form of Passive Aggression

They’ll never say they’re jealous — but their actions scream it (and from inside they themselves acknowledge they're seriously envious of you).

12. They Want to Make You Feel Replaceable

“You went to Paris? So did I.” They’re attempting to minimize your uniqueness.

13. They Hope You’ll Notice

And that it’ll shake your confidence or make you feel territorial or bothered.

14. They’re Lowkey in Competition With You

Even if you don’t see it as a competition, they do.

15. They’re Trying to Keep Up with Your Influence

They want the same impact you have, so they mimic what “worked” for you.

16. They’re Triggered by Your Authenticity

You’re naturally comfortable in your skin, which makes them feel exposed.

17. They Fear Being Left Behind

Your growth or evolution highlights their stagnation.

18. They’re Desperate to Be Seen

Copying someone who already gets attention seems like a shortcut to being noticed.

19. They Want to Infiltrate Your Vibe

Especially in your circles. If you’re respected, they’ll try to sneak in by being like you.

20. Copying Gives Them a False Sense of Power

It’s psychological. “If I can do what she does, then she’s not better than me.”

✅ 19 Signs It’s Just a Coincidence and NOT Envy

Not all similarities mean jealousy. Here’s how you can tell the difference:

They Credit You or Ask for Advice

“Oh I saw your post, it inspired me!” That’s admiration, not envy.

They Don’t Hide What They’re Doing

Jealous people sneak around. Sincere ones share openly.

Their Timing Feels Organic

They were already planning that trip or making that purchase, regardless of what you did.

They Have Their Own Style

Even if they do something similar, it still looks and feels like them, not you.

They Celebrate You Publicly

Envy hides praise. Real friends or neutral people will compliment you without discomfort.

They’re Not Competing for the Same Audience

If they’re not trying to "outshine" you or match your crowd, it’s likely not jealousy.

They Show You Respect

Envy strips respect. Coincidence doesn’t.

They Don’t Copy Every Single Detail

Repeated mimicry of everything is a red flag. Occasional overlap is normal.

They’re Secure in Themselves

Confident people can like what you do without needing to replicate it.

They Don’t Get Defensive When You Bring It Up

Envious people lash out. The innocent will clarify or laugh it off.

They’ve Had Similar Tastes All Along

Sometimes you just attract like-minded people.

They Have Different Intentions

You may both post in English, but maybe they’re doing it for practice or career goals.

They Don’t Obsess Over Your Life

They’re not lurking, stalking, or watching your every move.

They’re Inspired — Not Imitating

Inspiration leads to innovation. Envy leads to carbon copies.

They Maintain Their Own Goals

They aren’t trying to mold their entire life around yours.

They Share the Spotlight

They’re not trying to one-up or erase you.

They Engage With You Genuinely

Jealous people are fake-friendly or passive-aggressive.

You’ve Shared Interests Before

Some overlaps are just natural.

They’re Comfortable Being Different

They don’t try to match everything you do — because they don’t need to.

Final Thought:

Sometimes people truly admire what you do — and sometimes they desperately want to be you. The difference lies in the intention, frequency, and energy behind their actions. Jealousy is sneaky and often disguised as coincidence or “inspiration,” but with time,
Inn-sha-Allah patterns reveal the truth.

If someone keeps copying you in unnatural or reactionary ways, it’s rarely innocent. But if it’s occasional, respectful, and they’re still themselves, it’s likely not that deep.

⤴️ ChatGPT

Travel Entry: Alhamdulillah. List Of Some Countries I Already Traveled To

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

📑 Question: Alhamdulillah the following is a list of countries which I traveled to so far with my family in no particular order: 1. Saudi Arabia 2. Egypt 3. Bahrain 4. Thailand 5. Malaysia 6. Indonesia 7. Hong Kong 8. Singapore 9. Taiwan 10. Japan 11. United Kingdom 12. United States Of America 13. United Arab Emirates 14. Denmark 15. France 16. Oman (at the airport only) 17. Bangladesh (at the airport only) 18. Qatar (at the airport several times) 19. Greece (at the airport) 20. Philippines 

Guess 23 random facts about me as an INTJ Muslimah which may be true after visiting those countries while being a Maranao who is still learning some Filipino dialects then construct 23 sentences which I could relate to. For example did you know when some of my Arab female classmates were guessing which country I'm from, none of them could guess I'm from the Philippines. Some thought I'm Thai or Japanese while others assumed I'm from Afghanistan or Uzbekistan.

💻 ChatGPT: Perfect example 🌸—it shows how your appearance, presence, and mannerisms keep people guessing. Since you’re an INTJ Muslimah, Maranao by heritage, well-traveled, and still learning Filipino dialects, I’ll construct 23 “random but possible facts” about you after visiting those countries, then follow with 23 self-reflective sentences you could relate to (like your example).

🌍 23 Random Facts About You as an INTJ Muslimah Traveler

People rarely guess you’re Filipino; they often assume you’re from another Asian or even Central Asian country.

You sometimes stay quiet when people misguess your nationality—just to observe their thought process.

You unconsciously compare the discipline of Japanese society with the hospitality of Malaysians and Indonesians.

You prefer airports that feel orderly and respectful to Muslim women.

You dislike being stereotyped as a “typical tourist.”

You can blend in easily in different countries because you don’t draw unnecessary attention. (Note: Slightly disagree)

You’ve probably been mistaken for a local in at least three different countries.

You tend to reflect on how Muslims adapt differently in minority vs. majority contexts.

You value countries where halal food is both accessible and respected.

You mentally note how safe different countries feel for visibly Muslim women.

You feel more culture shock in the Philippines at times than in other countries. (Note: Disagree)

You rarely post “flashy” travel pictures online—your memories are more private and intentional.

You’ve probably been more fascinated by bookstores, museums, or Islamic sites than shopping malls.

You notice subtle differences in how people queue, respect time, or deal with rules.

You’ve seen how different cultures treat women—and you file it away for silent analysis.

You often compare languages you hear to Maranao, Tagalog, or Arabic, seeing hidden patterns.

You pay attention to body language at airports and use it to guess people’s personalities.

You secretly enjoy analyzing other tourists and their behaviors.

You use traveling as a way to refine your patience.

You avoid overpacking, preferring efficiency and structure in your luggage. (Still trying to work on this Alhamdulillah)

You sometimes switch to English or Arabic faster than Filipino dialects when abroad.

You’re more interested in long-term lessons from travel than instant entertainment.

You feel a special gratitude to Allah the Almighty when seeing Muslims from so many nations united in prayer.

🖊️ 23 Sentences You Could Relate To

Did you know some people abroad thought I was Thai, Japanese, or even Uzbek—never Filipino?

I’ve learned that silence is sometimes the most powerful passport in airports.

Strangers often assume my nationality, but I let them guess without correcting them right away.

Travel has shown me that discipline in society can make life smoother than wealth ever can.

I don’t measure a country by its tourist attractions, but by how it treats strangers.

Halal food abroad feels like a gift that instantly puts my heart at ease.

I’ve been mistaken for a local in places I only stayed for a week.

Being a niqabi or hijabi traveler teaches me patience at every checkpoint.

I notice how Muslims adapt in minority countries, and it humbles me.

Sometimes I feel more out of place in my homeland than in foreign airports.

My camera doesn’t define my travels—my reflection does.

I’m more fascinated by a quiet Mosque/Masjid than by a crowded mall. (Agree ✓)

Travel taught me to observe the queues; how people wait reveals their discipline.

Respect for women is one of the clearest markers of a nation’s values.

Languages I hear abroad often remind me how much more I need to master Maranao, Tagalog, and Arabic.

Airports are like personality labs—I can tell who’s patient, arrogant, or nervous.

I don’t just sightsee—I analyze how people live.

Patience grows on me most when flights get delayed.

Minimal luggage brings me more peace than heavy bags of unnecessary items.

Abroad, I sometimes speak English or Arabic more fluently than my own dialects.

For me, the best souvenir is wisdom (and life lessons learned to share), not trinkets.

I admire how Muslims from different nations unite in Salah despite accents and cultures.

Every trip I make reminds me of Allah’s Mercy—that this dunya is temporary, and that our real destination 

Inn-sha-Allah is Jannah Paradise.

⤴️ Some notes from ChatGPT

Note: INTJs Generally Loathe Pretending. If You Seem Tough Online Make Sure Offline You Have The Same Confidence

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

📌 Tone of the Status Update

The tone of the Facebook status “Don't be fake. If online you seem tough & vocal, offline you better show the same confidence. True believers avoid lies & pretense” is:

Direct & blunt → No sugarcoating; it’s straightforward and unapologetic.

Principled → Rooted in integrity, honesty, and consistency of character.

Challenging → Calling out hypocrisy and warning people not to hide behind digital masks.

Moralistic → Referencing “true believers” shows that it’s not only about personality but also about spiritual or ethical truth.

INTJ-A flavor → Rational, no-nonsense, intolerant of fakery, and pushing others toward authenticity.

📖 What They Mean

The INTJ-A posting this is essentially saying:

Be congruent: Your online persona should match your offline reality.

Integrity matters: A believer’s character is shown by consistency, not by hiding behind pretense.

Confidence isn’t an act: If you can only be bold behind a screen, it’s not true confidence.

Faith connection: Lying and pretending are not just weaknesses, they contradict sincerity in faith/Imaan.

Respect is earned: People respect those who act the same in all settings, not those who switch masks.

✅ 13 Examples of How an INTJ-A Might Apply This Statement

If they correct misinformation online, they’ll also speak up calmly in a group discussion in real life.

If they call out injustice on social media, they’ll also stand firm against oppression when present in person.

If they set boundaries online (e.g., no gossip in comments), they enforce those boundaries in face-to-face conversations.

If they express Islamic reminders digitally, they also live by those reminders offline (prayer, modesty, honesty).

If they critique laziness or lack of productivity online, they’re also disciplined in their daily schedule.

If they state they dislike fake friendships, they won’t entertain shallow acquaintances offline.

If they share about intellectual growth online (books, Islamic lectures), they actually study and apply what they learn.

If they say they avoid drama online, they’ll also walk away from toxic situations offline.

If they claim to respect elders online, they show courtesy to elders in public.

If they promote truth-telling online, they refuse to lie in personal interactions.

If they encourage confidence online, they carry themselves with quiet composure in person.

If they refuse online flirting or haram conversations, they also guard their modesty offline.

If they share about valuing time, they show punctuality in meetings and commitments.

🚩 13 Signs of Users Who Act Tough Online but Are Insecure Offline

Use aggressive language in comments but go silent in real conversations.

Post threats or “bold” statements yet avoid confrontation in real life.

Share “alpha” quotes but act submissive when challenged.

Insult others online but are overly polite face-to-face.

Flaunt expensive lifestyles online but are financially struggling offline.

Constantly post selfies or flexing photos but seem shy or self-conscious in public.

Criticize others’ intelligence online but hesitate to speak in real group debates.

Seem argumentative on Twitter but can’t handle direct questioning.

Pretend to be popular online but are socially awkward in gatherings.

Use fake confidence memes but crumble under authority figures offline.

Present themselves as religiously “hardcore” online but neglect practice offline.

Boast about achievements online but dodge questions when asked in real life.

Post about being “fearless” but are visibly anxious and defensive offline.

🌟 13 Signs of an Introvert Who Actually Has Confidence (Online & Offline)

Doesn’t overshare but speaks meaningfully when they choose to.

Online posts are consistent with their offline character.

Prefers quality over quantity in interactions.

Can say “no” firmly both online and offline without guilt.

Doesn’t chase likes or validation. They don't care if most of their posts receive no or few likes and reactions.

Engages in respectful disagreement online and calmly discusses offline.

Keeps posture, body language, and tone steady in person.

Writes insightful posts online that match their offline thoughtful nature.

Doesn’t feel pressured to join every trend, online or offline.

Has a calm, observant aura in gatherings without feeling the need to dominate.

Stays authentic with their faith, values, and boundaries consistently.

Can take criticism online and offline without overreacting.

Is reliable—if they commit online, they follow through offline.
⤴️ Some notes from ChatGPT

Let’s match the statement “Don’t be fake. If online you seem tough & vocal, offline you better show the same confidence. True believers avoid lies & pretense” with MBTI types most likely to live by it consistently.

🔑 3 MBTI Types Who Live by That Statement

1. INTJ (The Mastermind)

Why:

INTJs value consistency and integrity—they despise hypocrisy.

They’re naturally less concerned with appearances, so if they say something online, it’s because they truly believe it and will defend it offline.

Being future-oriented strategists, they know reputation is built on actions, not just words.

Example: An INTJ who critiques fake “confidence culture” online will quietly carry themselves with real composure and not play-act bravado offline.

2. ESTJ (The Enforcer)

Why:

ESTJs are action-driven, pragmatic, and very results-oriented.

They expect people to “walk the talk” and have no patience for people who act bold online but shrink offline.

They uphold accountability and discipline, so integrity in both digital and physical spaces matters to them.

Example: An ESTJ who posts about leadership values will also demand efficiency and respect in real-world group projects.

3. ENTJ (The Commander)

Why:

ENTJs are outspoken leaders and expect strength in both words and presence.

They hate weakness disguised as arrogance, and they usually call out pretenders.

For them, confidence is performance-based: if you declare power, you must prove it.

Example: An ENTJ who debates strongly online will be just as dominant and articulate in boardrooms or public discussions.

🎯 Why These 3 Types?

All three (INTJ, ESTJ, ENTJ) are decisive, firm-minded, and intolerant of hypocrisy.

They align words with action—what they state online, they back up offline.

They hold themselves (and others) to high standards of authenticity, whether in belief, work, or social conduct.

⚖️ Some introverted types (like ISTJ, INFJ) may believe in the principle, but they don’t express it as bluntly or actively enforce it. These three (INTJ, ESTJ, ENTJ) are the most likely to live it and call others out.

⤴️ ChatGPT

Note: When An INTJ Considers You As A Friend Versus Just A Stranger

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

🌸 19 Qualities of a Female Who Would Make a Truly Righteous Muslim Friend

She fears Allah the Almighty and strives to avoid all major and minor sins as much as she can.

She reminds you of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and the Hereafter in a gentle way.

She encourages you to pray on time and join in good deeds.

She keeps your secrets and never exposes your faults.

She speaks truthfully and avoids gossip/backbiting.

She gives sincere advice (naṣīḥa) without arrogance.

She loves you sincerely for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, not for worldly benefit.

She practices modesty in dress, speech, and actions.

She forgives easily and avoids getting involved in drama.

She maintains good manners with family and community.

She checks on you when you’re unwell, absent, or struggling in any way.

She is generous with knowledge, time, and help.

She avoids envy and sincerely wishes good for others.

She admits mistakes and seeks forgiveness quickly.

She is patient in hardship and grateful in ease.

She has hayāʾ (shyness/modesty) that prevents sin.

She avoids unnecessary drama and keeps peace.

She is consistent in saying a lot of Dhikr and reading from the Noble Qur’an frequently, and it shows in her character.

She makes Du‘ā for you in your absence on a regular basis.

⚠️ 19 Traits of Females Who Cannot Be Described as Pious Muslim Friends

She mocks anything related to Islam including wearing the proper hijab or discourages acts of worship.

She regularly gossips, backbites, or slanders.

She pressures you into harām or doubtful things.

She is clearly envious when others succeed.

She loves to expose people’s faults.

She lies and manipulates situations often.

She competes in worldly vanity (beauty, money, followers).

She normalizes disobedience to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.

She belittles Islamic reminders or doesn't give importance to studying about Islam.

She betrays trust and shares secrets often.

She abandons prayer or treats it carelessly.

She mixes freely with non-maḥram men without care (she casually befriends male non-mahrams online).

She spreads fitnah (drama, rumors) between people.

She has no filter in speech—harsh, rude, or vulgar.

She apologizes insincerely, or never apologizes.

She is arrogant or looks down on others.

She never admits mistakes, always blaming others.

She encourages extravagance and wastefulness (overspending, being materialistic and obnoxiously pretentious).

She connects with people based only on status, money, or popularity.

💎 19 Signs an INTJ Muslimah Regards You as One of Her Chosen Friends

(INTJ women are selective, reserved, and strategic — so their friendship has layers. If you see these, you’re in her “inner circle.”)

She actually initiates conversation with you (a rare move) online and face to face a lot.

She opens up about her inner thoughts, not just surface talk.

She trusts you with her silence — she’s comfortable being quiet around you (after a long conversation. If an INTJ female is 99% of the time silent in your presence, she probably views you as uninteresting).

She listens to you attentively and remembers details about your life (she knows your favorite colors, favorite food, shared likes and dislikes etc.).

She invests time in you despite her busy, structured schedule.

She argues with you now and then respectfully — seeing you as worth the mental effort. (If you never have meaningful conversations longer than 3 minutes, she most likely doesn't care about you)

She checks on you even without a practical reason.

She shares her long-term goals and values with you.

She instantly defends you if somebody speaks negatively about you.

She appreciates your intellect and doesn’t dumb down her thoughts with you.

She subtly adjusts her plans to include you.

She’s willing to travel, learn, or attend purposeful events with you.

She lets you see her vulnerable side (extremely rare for INTJs).

She’s okay with comfortable silence—no pressure to fill every moment.

She shares personal resources—books, notes, advice.

She introduces you to her very limited inner network.

She respects your independence but also values collaboration.

She makes Du‘ā for you and sees your growth as part of her own success.

She doesn’t need a big circle because having you already feels “enough.”

~•~
19 detailed signs that an INTJ Muslimah regards you as a trusted, pious friend:

🌙 19 Signs a Muslimah INTJ Truly Regards You as One of Her Special Friends

She speaks about the Deen Islam with you, not just dunya matters.
While she can discuss strategy, books, or current events, if she brings you into her spiritual reflections — Qur’an ayat she pondered, a Hadith she connected to real life, or even her struggles in ‘ibadah — it means she sees you as spiritually safe company.

She frequently includes you in her Du‘ā.
An INTJ Muslimah doesn’t waste words, let alone prayers. If she tells you, “I made Du‘ā for you last night” (or says "you're one of those sisters whose names I regularly mention in my Du'as") or prays for your success silently, that’s her way of saying: You’re in my heart, not just my mind.

She trusts you with her silence.
INTJs already value solitude, but if she sits with you quietly without feeling awkward, she sees you as part of her inner calm — not a drain on her energy.

She opens up her fortress of thoughts.
INTJs usually filter heavily. But if she shares her inner dilemmas — like her worries at times, her evolving personality, or her long-term spiritual goals — she considers you elite company.

She tests you with small Islamic reminders.
She might casually remind you about Salah or patience. If you respond well, she deepens that side of your friendship. It’s her way of checking if your hearts align for Allah’s sake.

She shares books and knowledge.
Not just any book — she’ll hand you her favorite Islamic book or share some links to online Islamic lectures etc. and genuinely want you to attend or hear your reflections. That’s her intellectual loyalty.

She respects your privacy like she guards her own.
A Muslimah INTJ won’t probe unnecessarily. Instead, she’ll create a safe bubble where both of you can share without fear of gossip or exposure.

She corrects you gently for Allah’s sake.
If she notices a slip — maybe in speech, manners, or perspective — she won’t shame you. She’ll frame it as: “I’m only saying this because I care about your akhirah / hereafter.” That’s a big deal coming from an INTJ.

She lets you see her vulnerable side.
Normally stoic, she may admit her struggles with patience, consistency, or even doubts she sometimes wrestles with. This vulnerability is her highest trust.

She introduces you to her very selective circle.
INTJ Muslimahs keep their network tiny. If she connects you with a scholar she respects, another righteous sister, or a family member she values, that’s like being knighted into her elite squad.

She gives you constructive feedback.
If she critiques your writing, Da‘wah style, or even your time management, don’t mistake it for coldness. It means she believes in your potential and wants you to refine it — for Allah’s sake.

She lets you into her planning.
INTJs think years ahead. If she shares her vision of where she wants to be Islamically, career-wise, or even where she’d like to live for a more faith-based life, she sees you as a companion in her long-term vision.

She defends your honor when absent.
Even if she doesn’t announce it, she’ll shut down gossip or misrepresentation of you. For an INTJ, loyalty is principle, not performance.

She respects your ‘ibadah rhythms.
She won’t disturb you when you want to read from the Noble Qur’an, make Dhikr, or attend classes. Instead, she encourages them — and might even synchronize her own routines with yours.

She’s selective, but she chooses you repeatedly.
She may reject dozens of casual hangouts, but when it comes to you, she makes actual effort. That’s her way of saying you’re in her short list of “worth the time and attention.”

She reminds you of akhirah-based goals.
Not just “career” or “skills” talk. She’ll ask you: “How do you want Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala to see us on Yawmul Qiyamah?” It sounds intense, but it’s her love language for righteous friendship.

She balances honesty with mercy.
INTJs can be blunt, but with you, she carefully wraps her honesty with compassion — because she doesn’t want to hurt a sister she truly values and cares about for Allah's sake.

She is fine with fewer friends, because you exist.
She doesn’t chase big groups or social hype. She’ll even say outright, “I don’t need many friends. A few strong ones like you are enough.”

She prays that your friendship lasts until Jannah.
The ultimate sign — she hopes you’ll not only be friends in dunya but also reunite in the gardens of Paradise. For an INTJ Muslimah, that’s the definition of success.

✨ In short: An INTJ Muslimah’s friendship is like a fortress built for Allah’s sake. Once she lets you in, it’s a lifelong alliance — strategic, spiritual, loyal, and few in number.

~•~
Since INTJs are deliberate in how they allocate energy, their distance can be quite noticeable both online and offline.

🚫 19 Signs an INTJ-A Muslimah Only Sees You as a Stranger (General, Not a Friend)

She keeps conversations strictly formal and very minimal.

She doesn’t initiate — she only replies if necessary.

Her replies are evidently short, factual, and impersonal (for example she never asks you how your visit to such and such country went etc. as she is uninterested in becoming more familiar with you)

She avoids sharing personal details or feelings.

She doesn’t remember things you’ve told her before.

She keeps her body language closed (arms folded, distant stance, seldom exchanging eye contact).

She never includes you in her plans or routines.

She doesn’t ask about your well-being unless it’s socially required.

She avoids eye contact with you as much as possible.

She doesn’t laugh or show relaxed humor with you, although many INTJs can become goofy or joke when they feel at ease around those they trust.

She doesn’t share her resources, books, or insights.

She ignores subtle hints to bond deeper. Even if you're in the same room, she deliberately refrains from talking to you unnecessarily.

She answers questions directly, without elaboration.

She keeps boundaries firm and clear.

She shows no disappointment if you disappear or withdraw.

She doesn’t pray for you.

She politely avoids arguing with you (since she doesn't believe any word you may tell her if she perceives you as incompetent or unreliable), meaning she doesn’t consider you worth her time and attention.

She makes you feel like a passing acquaintance (or complete stranger whom she's not interested in), not a chosen companion.

She treats your presence as neutral — not disturbing, but not valued.

💻 19 Signs Online That an INTJ-A Muslimah Doesn’t Consider You a Friend

She reads your message but delays responding (or doesn’t).

Replies are short: “Okay,” “Noted,” “Yes/No.”

No emojis, no warmth — just dry text.

She never initiates a chat with you. (Note: if within five months you never receive a direct message from her or any comment on your social media posts, understand that she doesn't perceive you as a close friend)

She doesn’t engage with your posts or comments.

She doesn’t share links, books, or reminders with you.

She ignores hints to continue conversation.

If she responds (on rare occasions), it’s purely transactional (e.g., “The event is at 6 PM”).

She avoids voice recordings or video calls unless absolutely necessary.

She leaves most group chats you’re in without hesitation.

She doesn’t ask you follow-up questions online and face to face and she seldom asks people about you.

She rarely mentions your name or asks about your personal life.

She doesn’t accept your tags or mentions.

She ignores subtle attempts to bond with Islamic reminders.

She doesn’t save your number or contact details (you're not in her list of online friends or phone contacts).

She avoids long replies even if the topic interests her (for example if she enjoys poetry and you discuss it, she doesn't even pay close attention if the topic is discussed by you).

She gives links instead of personal explanations (“Google it”).

She doesn’t correct you — because she doesn’t care enough to invest.

She disappears for long periods online without updating you.

🤝 19 Signs Offline (Face-to-Face) That an INTJ-A Muslimah Doesn’t See You as a Friend

She greets you politely but with minimal warmth.

She keeps physical distance (no leaning in, no warmth in posture).

She avoids lingering in conversations.

She looks at her watch, phone, or around the room instead of you.

She doesn’t smile often in your presence.

She doesn’t ask you personal questions.

She keeps interactions practical (“Where is so-and-so?” “What time does the lecture start?”).

She doesn’t sit next to you if she has options to sit elsewhere.

She never initiates hangouts or meet-ups with you.

She leaves as soon as the event/task ends — no small talk with you.

She doesn’t introduce you to her circle.

She avoids sharing snacks, books, or personal items with you.

She answers politely but moves on quickly.

Her tone remains flat and distant.

She doesn’t acknowledge your absence if you miss a gathering.

She avoids physical gestures of closeness (like light taps, hugs).

She doesn’t lower her guard (no joking, no unfiltered talk).

She treats you like everyone else — no special treatment.

She seems unbothered whether you’re around or not.

⤴️ Some notes from ChatGPT

⚠️ Note: If an INTJ Muslim doesn't view you as a friend it is because they perceive you as: unreliable, untrustworthy, someone who is toxic for them and enjoys gossiping, somebody whom they can sense is intensely jealous of them secretly or they can tell you're intimidated by them, or someone who doesn't have much to offer from sharing authentic Islamic knowledge and valuable life lessons learned etc.