Tips: Some Advice From An INTJ Personality Type On Not Caring About How People Perceive You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: What is your secret to not caring at all about how most people see you? How is it possible that you continue doing certain things without worrying about people's opinions? 

📝 Answer: 1] Patiently persist in living life only to please and worship our Creator Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala Who has full control over everything and everybody. Why should you care about appearing likable 24/7 to all of Allah's servants when many of them struggle to respect themselves? 

2] Understand that you shouldn't feel afraid of or overly worried about how people view you, as they themselves also have their own set of fears, trials and worries, while all human beings are accountable for what they voluntarily choose to do. 

3] Believe that when some individuals wrongfully accuse you of doing something which you're against or they misjudge you in some ways, it's because they're obviously ignorant of what you actually do when they are not properly observing or their intense jealousy of you provokes them to deny that you're capable of doing the right thing. 

4] What goes around comes around. Allah's Justice always prevails if not sooner or later in this world then surely some time on the Day of Judgment. Anybody who purposely tries to make your circumstances difficult will 

Inn-sha-Allah witness the consequences of their intentional actions. Frequently plotting against those who sincerely strive to be closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala can be a double-edged sword. 

5] Consistently remind yourself of your actual goals, purpose and mission in this world. The more you adamantly support the reasons behind what you do sincerely for Allah's sake, the less you become easily influenced by how other fellow slaves perceive you. 

~•~

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever seeks Allah's Pleasure by the displeasure of the people, Allah will suffice him against the people. Whoever seeks the pleasure of the people by displeasing Allah, Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will leave him to the patronage of the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2414

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-please-only-allah.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/poem-find-peace-in-allahs-love-not.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/note-on-how-to-attain-patience-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-what-it-means-to-be-steadfast-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-while-we-can-invite-people-to.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-tenacious-you-are-according-to-your-personality-type/

Poem: Deluded Narcissists, Don't Flatter Yourselves - I Am Not Jealous Of You And Your Lies.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ If I could send a note to deluded narcissists 

Who embellish their stories with obvious tales and fibs, 

Expecting me to envy their tangled narratives, 

I'd say "Please, don't inflate your pride with your false guesses. 

I don't wish to be you. Quit assuming I'm "jealous". 

~•~

Alhamdulillah. With Allah's gifts I'm contented. 

I don't compare myself to those who are impious, 

Insecure, discourteous, prone to feeling jealous 

Of others or who truly can never be trusted. 

Why should I envy fakes and actors with foul motives?

~•~

Please, your lies don't impress me. They're just ridiculous. 

I smile when hearing you brag to remain courteous, 

Nodding now and then like an empathic teacher does 

When presumptuous students boast about their projects, 

Desperate for praise even if they could be pathetic.

~•~

Narcissists tend to lie a lot to seem impressive, 

And they want to know you're "jealous" so their depressive 

Moods can dissipate when their ego gets inflated. 

If I were jealous, I'd indulge in childish gossip, 

Acting like a bully who's tactless and oppressive. 

~•~

Jealousy is a feeling I don't wish to possess, 

Specially if it shows that one is discontented

With the gifts which Allah the Most Wise chooses to give. 

Fully content with my spouse whom Allah selected, 

I'm not one bit jealous of any actor's marriage."

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of arrogance (atom's weight of kibr) in his heart will enter Paradise." A man said, “But a man likes to have nice clothes and nice shoes.” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance (kibr) is to disregard (or reject) the truth and to look down on the people."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah as a truthful person. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5743 

Sahih Muslim 2607

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-nine-signs-of-actual-narcissists.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/05/note-self-respect-vs-actual-narcissism.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/04/tips-some-advice-on-how-to-deal-with.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/06/tips-five-things-we-must-not-expect.html 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/communication-success/201608/8-common-narcissist-lies

Tips: Advice On How Not To Regret Your Choice To Disconnect From Toxic People

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📑 Three tips to not feeling regretful at all with your decision to quit trying to maintain friendship with certain individuals who are (ex-friends) too toxic for you: 

1] Firmly believe that Allah the Almighty always has complete control over everybody and everything. If Allah the Most Wise wanted you to connect with some people, He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala would've allowed the connection to develop so it continues even until your reunion in Jannah Paradise. There's no use in insisting to remain as "close buddies" with those whom Allah the All-Seeing knows aren't actually wholesome for you. 

2] Recall the very reason why you decided to discontinue being interested in building a connection with that former "friend". The quality of your lifestyle and strength of your faith/Imaan may be negatively impacted by frequently socializing with untruthful, gossipy and untrustworthy individuals. 

3] Remind yourself of how you're already contented with Allah's Love and that you don't require any of His servants' approval to thrive in both worlds. Appreciate the select few whom you genuinely care about for Allah's sake such as your dear parents, spouse, siblings, half siblings or foster siblings and at least two cousins from your relatives who don't misjudge nor feel jealous of you at all etc.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-checklist-to-find-out-if-someone.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-toxic-friendships-which-we-cease.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-advice-to-deal-with-loneliness-or.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/07/note-five-reasons-to-be-carefully.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/note-five-signs-indicating-it-is.html 

Note: Five Reasons Why Some People Are Easier To Talk To Than Others

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Five possible reasons why you gravitate to certain individuals much more than with others and why it's not too difficult for you to have meaningful or long conversations with them: 

1] You have so many things and qualities in common, while you mutually don't feel envious of each other at all. 

✅ For instance you're both okay with polygyny, both of your parents passed away, you both resided in Saudi Arabia for several years, you are both the eldest of your siblings or you're an only child, you both enjoy researching about psychology and self-development, or you both can speak Arabic fluently etc. 

2] There are numerous aspects about them which you admire for Allah's sake, and likewise there's something about you which they find admirable or agreeable. 

✅ Example: You like how they're trustworthy and honest, while they respect your courage in accepting your husband's decision to stay married to more than one wife. Or you're amazed by their enthusiasm to generously share Islamic reminders and authentic knowledge regularly, while your carefulness with the way you utilize social media is one fact they love about you. 

3] You can sense that they refrain from purposely trying to make you jealous, insecure or uneasy, just as they are already at ease around you. They're not intimidated by you just as you're not threatened by their vibes in any way. 

4] They show willingness to become more acquainted with you for Allah's sake, while you're also willing to develop and maintain the connection. 

Two Muslims can Inn-sha-Allah connect well if both of them believe that networking and strengthening the link can bring them closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

5] Allah the Most Wise is the One Who destined your souls to actually feel comfortable around each other. 

You and some individuals can never "click" or amicably get along, even if you were colleagues or next-door neighbors, if establishing a strong bond with them isn't part of Allah's Qadr. 

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are like conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109 

Sahih Muslim 2638 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/note-some-factors-which-could-prevent.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-how-to-tell-if-somebodys-vibes-are.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-how-can-you-tell-if-persons-vibes.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/note-differences-between-people-who.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/tips-five-reasons-why-were-uninterested.html 

Poem: Tired Of Jealous People Treating You Rudely? Feel Sorry For Them. They're Actually Unhappy.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Letter to comfort Muslims who are often bullied 

Or treated rudely by those guilty of jealousy: 

Know that those who are blessed with faith and inner beauty

Don't roam around earth to bully and spread misery. 

Whoso treats you badly is jealous or unhappy. 

~•~

Maybe envy disturbs them because you look pretty; 

And knowing you're much prettier spoils their self-esteem. 

Or they're single while you're married, or your bravery

Seen in accepting your husband's choice to remarry 

Makes them feel insecure or emotionally weak. 

~•~

Or they're envious because to several countries

You've traveled, or Allah enriched you with piety 

And guidance to do more good deeds with sincerity. 

Or Allah granted you from your loving family 

Some relatives who advise you when necessary. 

~•~

Or those jealous people, they envy you intensely, 

Because the way you deal with others confidently

Causes them to doubt their self-worth and abilities. 

Or you strive to keep it real, while they're untrustworthy. 

Your honesty makes them feel inferior morally.

~•~

Most likely the fact that they envy you immensely

Is the reason why they treat you disrespectfully. 

Feel sorry for them. Perhaps Allah the Almighty

Doesn't love them enough to bless them with inner peace 

And true contentment with Allah's gifts dispersed wisely.

~•~

From the problems of the jealous: Persistent worry, 

Inability to relax because you clearly

Surpass, outshine and transcend them in ways aplenty, 

And constant urge to stalk your online posts spitefully - 

Bad energy from spite is too heavy to carry.

~•~

Tired of toxic people treating you obnoxiously? 

Let their discourtesy testify that jealousy 

Triggers them to misbehave to soothe despondency. 

While some envy your trust in Allah the Almighty, 

Others can't stand seeing you satisfied inwardly.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do not envy one another, do not outbid each other, do not hate one another, do not turn away from each other, and do not outsell each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers. The Muslim is the brother of another Muslim. He does not wrong him, nor humiliate him, nor look down upon him. Righteousness is here," and he Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam pointed to his chest three times. The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is enough evil for a man to look down upon his Muslim brother. The entirety of the Muslim is sacred to another Muslim: his life, his wealth, and his reputation."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2564

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it erases good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-thank-allah-for-blessings-he-chose.html 

https://www.salafisounds.com/ten-evil-consequences-of-envy-jealousy-by-abu-khadeejah-abdul-wahid/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/04/poem-take-it-as-compliment-when-jealous.html 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/03/tips-nine-likely-reasons-why-some.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-advice-on-how-to-deal-with-people.html  

Note: Seven Things Which A Lot Of INTJs Don't Care About In General

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Seven things which you as an INTJ may not care about at all: 

1] Whether everybody whom you've been acquainted with genuinely likes you or not. 

2] Someone's ethnicity and their birthplace, and, if they're married, the nationality of their spouse. 

3] How affluent a person is and the kind of material possessions they own (but you may be concerned about the actual source of their earnings). 

4] What people claim, assume and gossip about you. 

5] How individuals whom you don't really care for actually feel about you - if they're attracted to you, if they are intimidated by you, annoyed by you, weirded out by you, anxious or sad because of you, or understandably jealous of you - as long as you firmly believe that you're not oppressing anybody on purpose. 

6] An individual's height and other qualities which they couldn't modify or select before they were born. 

7] Receiving invitations to gatherings in which a large number of the attendees are unrelatable or proficient gossipers. 

~•~

📖 Ali Ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/07/note-why-lot-of-intjs-are-not-very.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/tips-what-many-intj-personality-types.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/note-how-most-intj-personality-types.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-indifferent-you-appear-based-on-your-personality-type/

Poem: Loving My Dear Husband For Allah's Sake Enables Me To Wait Patiently

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Love letter from each wife to her spouse, who can relate 

And she knows what it's like to not see him on some days, 

Whether she's a co-wife or her man works far away, 

Or his heavy workload causes his frequent delays: 

"Dear husband, my dear friend, whom I love for Allah's sake... 

~•~

If every time my mouth moved to mention your sweet name 

While saying Du'a a flower would bloom, night or day, 

I'd be surrounded by gardens, petals and bouquets, 

Picturing the pollens affirming my love ain't fake 

As tears, while supplicating, often stream down my face.

~•~

Though I can't hear your voice each night and day, I can state 

And confess I don't get bored of pronouncing your name 

When I talk to Allah about you and when I pray 

Without you nearby yet with my escalating faith. 

Loving you for Allah brings more inner strength than aches.

~•~

If I could take control of how we communicate

And if between us there were no barriers nor breaks, 

No outsiders to disrupt our convos, no constraints, 

I'd speak with you longer, to your words I'd closely pay 

Attention, and take lessons from stories you narrate.

~•~

Then again this life's a test. Accept what Allah gave - 

A special love story in which spouses can't always

Stay together physically but still they can pray 

For each other frequently till they reach Jannah's Gates. 

Loving you for Allah alleviates every wait."

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātīḥ 5/2125 

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No Muslim servant supplicates for his brother behind his back but that the angel says: 'And for you the same.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2732

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://abukhadeejah.com/characteristics-of-a-righteous-wife-in-light-of-the-quran-and-sunnah-part-1/

💚

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/poem-i-love-my-husband-for-allahs-sake.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-mindset-of-loyal-and-patient-wife.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-tips-to-cope-with-ldr-and-how-to_7.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/note-when-pious-wife-loves-her-husband.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/poem-always-love-your-husband-even-if.html 

Links: Wisdom Islamic School Student Handbook PDF Document

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📔 Wisdom Islamic School Student Handbook SY 2022-2023: 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1HtClby-5Dqj1UanJp1n33rWknLaahL4W/view?usp=drivesdk

Tips: Avoid These Things Which Could Drain / Deplete Your Energy

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Five things which could drain or deplete your energy - avoid them for Allah's sake as much as possible: 

1] Forcing yourself to be liked by certain individuals because you wrongly assume that their approval can uplift your current mood or upraise your reputation. ❌ 

💎 Solution: Be more concerned about how our Creator Allah the Almighty sees us and don't be affected at all by His servants' animosity and criticism. ✅ 

2] Spitefully stalking timelines and accounts of social media users who mostly upload content which make you feel jealous or unsatisfied with the blessings that Allah the Most Wise chose to grant you. ❌ 

💎 Solution: If a person is incapable of inspiring you to become a better human and more productive Muslim in any way, then you absolutely have the right to ignore their toxic posts and focus on seeking authentic Islamic knowledge from more trustworthy sources. ✅

3] Collecting negative news, frequently paying attention to people quarrel, and absorbing complainers' or fault-finders' debilitating energies regularly. ❌ 

💎 Solution: Confidently refuse to take part in aimless debates, know when to walk away from the urge to always prove that you're right, and be cleverly selective regarding the sort of information you assimilate offline and online. ✅ 

4] Nosily listening to rumors and partaking in nonsensical gossip. ❌ 

💎 Solution: Instead of misusing the hearing and speaking abilities which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala gave you, use them wisely to attain rewards and more of Allah's Love by saying lots of Dhikr, listening to comforting recitations of the Noble Qur'an and calmly reciting from the Mushaf for Allah's sake as often as you can. ✅ 

5] Constantly expecting everybody on earth to treat you well just because you put effort into maintaining good manners. ❌ 

💎 Solution: Just because you don't eat lions and tigers doesn't mean they will never devour you. Not everyone on this planet was educated about the significance of basic etiquettes and you'd likely be mistreated by those who are envious or awfully insecure. Thank Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for not making you as miserable as they are, view them as reminders of how not to behave, and recall that even Allah's Prophets 'alaihim as-salaam also encountered difficult characters occasionally to be rewarded for their Sabr and Du'as ✅

~•~

📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience and it is good for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2999

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever relieves the hardship of a believer in this world, Allah will relieve his hardship on the Day of Resurrection. Whoever helps ease one in difficulty, Allah will make it easy for him in this world and the Hereafter. Whoever conceals the faults of a Muslim, Allah will conceal his faults in this world and the Hereafter. Allah helps the servant as long as he helps his brother (or sister in Islam). Whoever travels a path in search of knowledge, Allah will make easy for him a path to Paradise. People do not gather in the Houses of Allah, reciting the Book of Allah and studying It together, but that tranquility will descend upon them, mercy will cover them, angels will surround them, and Allah will mention them to those near Him. Whoever is slow to good deeds will not be hastened by his lineage."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2699

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/05/tips-some-signs-that-allah-almighty.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/tips-five-types-of-people-we-can-avoid.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/poem-from-self-care-is-to-choose.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/tips-eleven-actions-that-can-with.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-how-to-achieve-happiness-as-muslim.html 

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Note: Seven Signs You're Confident And Your Confidence May Intimidate Those Who Are Insecure

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📑 Seven signs you're actually confident and your confidence intimidates those who are insecure: 

1] You only desire Allah's Love, and you don't chase people's approval. As long as you firmly believe that your choice to do something pleases Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala (such as praying in a workplace or wearing the niqab), what critics claim about you can't demotivate you nor cause you to feel doubtful. 

2] You're very picky regarding the kind of individuals whom you befriend and willingly socialize with. Without being judgemental of people's outward appearance, you choose to spend quality time with well-mannered Muslims who inspire your good character to develop and your faith Imaan to strengthen.

3] You don't care nor attempt to modify your unique personality if some individuals perceive you as "weird", "boring", "annoying", "toxic" or "lonely". You understand that their own opinions and perceptions of you cannot define your reality. 

4] You're not afraid to ask questions when searching for solutions and clarity. 

5] When loved ones, colleagues or strangers share some of their joyful moments with you, you're capable of listening to them express joy and gratitude without feeling triggered by jealousy. 

6] A lot of times, with Allah's Will and Guidance, you are able to stubbornly ignore invitations to debate or you can prevent arguments from escalating when necessary. You don't oblige yourself to be the champion of every single dispute, particularly if the individuals who disagree with you are from your family tree. 

7] You never wait for any human being to remind you of your true purpose in life, your actual worth, and your commendable qualities. As long as you strive to serve Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, contentedly you don't demand people's constant validation to feel complete. 

~•~

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever seeks Allah's Pleasure by the displeasure of the people, Allah will suffice him against the people. Whoever seeks the pleasure of the people by displeasing Allah, Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will leave him to the patronage of the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2414

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-your-trust-in-allah-and-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/05/tips-nine-things-which-people-with.html  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/tips-3-qualities-which-make-you-seem.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/03/tips-eleven-tips-to-become-more.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/note-signs-you-are-self-confident.html 

Tips: 5 Probable Reasons Why shaytan Feels Delighted When Muslim Couples Divorce And 5 Things To Avoid Discussing With Your Dear Spouse

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five probable reasons why shaytan feels so satisfied when Muslim spouses divorce: 

1] The divorce occurred because the wife or husband (or both) felt too proud and egotistical to forgive the other spouse. Actual arrogance / kibr which prevents you from willingly forgiving a Muslim who asked you for forgiveness is from the despicable characteristics of shaytan. 

2] Easily letting go of your spouse without carefully thinking of the negative consequences of divorce could indicate that you didn't genuinely love them for Allah's sake. You probably wanted them for their money, their impressive standing in society, or you wrongfully assumed that staying attached to your husband (instead of maintaining a strong connection with Allah the Almighty) is supposed to keep you happy. Expecting your husband to treat you as if you're a lot more important than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala gratifies shaytan immensely. 

3] Destroying the beautiful bond which Allah the Most Loving destined through finalizing divorce may show that you didn't trust Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala enough to firmly believe that He has full control over everything, that He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala can grant solutions to your problems at the most ideal timing, or that He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala can reward you in both worlds for striving to maintain exceptional patience.

4] Quickly agreeing to divorce one another because you both weren't determined, sincere and creative enough to think of the ways to solve your marital issues could imply that you prefer instant enjoyment of the delusional pleasures of this fleeting dunya to patiently waiting for eternal bliss in Jannah Paradise. 

5] A lot of children who grow up in broken families may develop certain personality disorders or go through severe depression particularly if they frequently compare themselves to kids whose parents are still together. shaytan and his allies may feel delighted whenever they see Muslims dispute and when several Muslim communities weaken due to divorces sadly increasing in number. 

✅ Five things to refrain from discussing with your husband, to preserve your marriage: 

1] Don't talk to him about your sinful / ignorant past. Mentioning to him about the wrongdoings which you used to do could spoil his good perception of you. 

2] Don't remind him of his past mistakes and sins which he sincerely repented from. Encouraging him to recall unpleasant incidents could trigger futile arguments. 

3] As much as possible, don't backbite about anybody in his presence because he may get the feeling that you also prattle to others about him obnoxiously when he's not around. 

4] Don't describe to him the beauty or attractive qualities of your female cousins, friends, neighbors, classmates and colleagues, unless you want him to ask you in the future if it's okay he can take that woman whom you keep describing to him as another legal wife. 

5] Don't criticize any of your husband's relatives so that he doesn't get all defensive, unless you are truly concerned about them and you wish your husband to advise his loved ones for their well-being or to give you advice on how to deal with them.

~•~

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/poem-divorce-may-lead-to-regret-if-you.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-five-signs-that-you-are-very-much.html  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-three-tips-to-preserve-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-seven-reasons-why-divorce-is-more.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-demerits-of-divorce.html 

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Poem: "Loneliness" Isn't Valid Reason To Befriend Anyone And Everyone

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 From time to time the cursed shaytan, our archenemy, 

May suggest that you need new friends as you seem "lonely". 

"Loneliness" must not let you befriend anybody. 

Don't build connections with people just because they speak

Your dialect. Don't put your trust in each soul you meet. 

~•~

Not every person you pass by at work, in the streets, 

And online deserves your attention and energy. 

Many are motivated by foul ego and greed, 

Most are driven to mistreat when triggered by envy, 

And all humans have the freewill to misuse their speech.

~•~

To succeed in both worlds, choose your close friends carefully. 

Wasting your time and money on the wrong company, 

Conversing with gossipers and liars aimlessly, 

And acting like besties with those who are secretly

Jealous of you can breed misery eventually.

~•~

Wolves, with Allah's Will, can thrive without distraught donkeys, 

And to survive in the wild it's not necessary

For each lion to connect with malicious monkeys, 

For elephants to mingle with crocodiles freely, 

And for eagles to glide around pesky flies or bees.

~•~

We don't require lots of friendships to live peacefully. 

Allah the Almighty didn't create us to be 

Enslaved by people's wants and embrace everybody. 

Live to please Allah despite some critics' enmity. 

Shun those who can't inspire us to rise in piety.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are like conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109 

Sahih Muslim 2638 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Three things follow a deceased person (to the person's grave). Two of them return and one remains. His family, his wealth, and his deeds follow him. His family and wealth return, but his deeds remain (with the dead in their graves)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6149 

Sahih Muslim 2960

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good scent. As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-types-of-toxic-friends-we-must.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/only-true-friends-and-righteous-companions-will-benefit-you/ 

Note: On INTJs And Trust Issues

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: As a Muslimah whose MBTI personality type is INTJ, how do you deal with individuals whom you can't trust? What are some signs indicating that a certain person is untrustworthy? 

📝 Answer: When it comes to some individuals whom I don't really trust, I: 

1] Don't bother stalking any of their social media accounts nor oblige myself to stay updated with their personal lives. 

2] Intentionally refrain from asking them for any advice and consultation even if I know they're a lot older than me or they have the potential to offer constructive feedback. 

3] Find it difficult to have worthwhile, deep and meaningful conversations with them, so I seldom prolong dialogues when they're around, and won't initiate chatting with them online unless it's absolutely necessary. 

4] Don't bother showing them my actual emotions and sharing with them some of my dreams. I'd rather ask a complete stranger about their standpoint of a dream I've had than begrudgingly listen to the probable lies of someone who already proved they're not at all trustworthy. 

❎ What to look out for to determine if somebody is unreliable: 

1] They've acted in ways that confirm they are actually envious of you, such as treating you disrespectfully and purposely excluding you from gatherings frequently. 

2] They knowingly lied to you or wasted your time on purpose more than twice. 

3] They're not very responsive or a lot of your messages were left on "seen" mode by them. 

4] When you're obviously in a good mood, they're resentfully silent. When they notice that you committed a mistake, they eagerly throw in mockery, complaints and criticism. 

5] The words "cooperative", "supportive", "inspiring", "understanding" and "loyal" aren't suitable to describe them at all.

~•~

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: I was riding behind the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam when he said to me, "Young man, I will teach you some words. Be mindful of Allah and He will protect you. Be mindful of Allah and you will find Him before you. If you ask, ask from Allah. If you seek help, seek help from Allah. Know that if the nations were to gather together to benefit you, they will not benefit you unless Allah has decreed it for you. And if the nations gathered together to harm you, they will not harm you unless Allah has decreed it for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2516

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/note-how-most-intj-personality-types.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/06/note-signs-indicating-that-intj-feels.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/note-busy-intjs-vs-avoidant-intjs.html 

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Note: Thirteen Lessons Learned From Around 16 Years And More Of Marriage (Alhamdulillah)

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 13 Lessons learned on loving your spouse, from around 16 years of being married (Alhamdulillah):

1) Getting married isn't the main source of happiness. Your joy, inner peace and contentment should be found in sincerely obeying Allah the Almighty. Regardless of what your marital status is (married, single, widowed, separated), you can never be happy if you don't have Islam, faith/Imaan and Taqwa / piety.

2) Genuinely loving your husband for Allah's sake, with actual sincerity / Ikhlaas and patience / Sabr, can help you go through any trial, challenge and difficulty in marriage life. By stubbornly remaining loyal to your destined soulmate for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, you have the ability 

Inn-sha-Allah to continue loving him patiently as his faithful wife despite the different kinds of struggles which you both go through once in a while.

3) Instead of feeling easily hurt when he doesn't return your calls or answer your text messages instantly, be brave enough to forgive, understand him and accept the likelihood of him being so busy, or realize maybe he didn't reply because he had no load that time to send text messages, or his other wife (who could be insecure and awfully envious of you) is trying to disrupt your communication if you're in polygyny. Earn abundant rewards by practicing patience for Allah's sake rather than demanding for divorce unreasonably.

4) Be grateful for even the smallest acts of kindness and gestures of love from your husband, whether it's found in him feeding you with his own right hand while eating together, drinking from the glass you drank from, enjoying the dishes you cook for him while refraining from inconsiderately criticizing your cooking, letting you lovingly massage him, and showing enthusiasm or willingness to pay close attention when you inform him how your day went or you wish to share some insightful lessons.

5) It's not always that you get to sleep and spend time with your husband. There will be moments when he has to travel to another city or country for several days or months, so you anxiously miss him. Missing someone's presence is clear evidence that you really care about them.

6) Don't expect everything to be ideal or flawless in marriage. Expect instances when your husband makes a mistake, hurts your feelings or cancels appointments. Acknowledge the truth that your spouse is human. Consider every disappointment as an opportunity to develop your strength in accepting Allah's Qadr/Destiny with rewarding patience.

7) Being patient with your husband doesn't indicate you're weak or you are settling for less than what you actually deserve, but you're in actuality strong enough to not let your ego take control over your actions and you don't allow temporary examinations to keep you upset.

8) It's not a necessity for every Muslim couple to be exactly alike and perfectly compatible for them to get along with each other. In some marriages, the husband is more religious than his wife, whereas in other love journeys, the pious wife has a beautiful chance to inspire her husband to become more righteous for Allah's sake with admirable perseverance.

9) The number of kids that Muslim couples have together do not measure the quality of their love life. It is possible for a man and woman to remain married without bringing up any children. Their infertility is a test from Allah the Most Merciful, to examine their level of patience and contentment or acceptance of Allah's Decree. Not having offsprings may be their chance to earn more of Allah's Love by showing interest in taking good care of orphans or those who are deprived of the affection of responsible parents.

10) It is absolutely normal for husbands and wives to argue with one another now and then. Instead of asking for divorce after an argument, find the courage to be the first to forgive, the first to apologize, the first to reconcile and try to sympathize with how your husband is different. If he stubbornly insists on committing an obvious wrongdoing though, such as smoking or gambling, don't be too quick to abandon him. Pray to Allah that He guides your husband and include your spouse in your frequent supplications.

11) Your marriage life is a blessing and gift from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala if it leads you and your spouse to Jannah Paradise, protects you from haraam/forbidden relationships, and trains you to give preference to pleasing Allah over surrendering to shameful desires.

12) In some cases there can be a possibility for a wife to feel attracted to someone other than her husband, or for a man to admire other women who are not his wife/wives. This is another type of test from Allah the Most Forgiving. You are not accountable for whatever thoughts or feelings you have, as long as you try your best to ensure you don't put those inappropriate urges into intentional actions. Strengthen your connection with Allah the Almighty, patiently persist in disciplining your nafs, and courageously lower your gaze as a striving Muslim.

13) Once in a while you may feel slightly jealous of other people's marriages, especially if the sort of friends you hang out with tend to frequently brag about how their love lives seem "perfect". Rather than doubting the quality of your own marriage or feeling discontented, confidently be happy for them, encourage them to stay loyal for Allah's sake, and appreciate the love journey that Allah the Most Loving wisely selected for you. What works for you may not work out for others, and what goes well with others' love lives may not be suitable for your love journey. Since Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala created His servants with unique roles and abilities, not everybody goes through life's trials similarly. 

There are various ways of reaching the peak of a mountain, either by traditional mountain-climbing or mountaineering, ascending a flight of stairs if a stairway has been constructed, riding a cable car if there is one, flying with a helicopter, or even just imagining you've already reached the top of the mountain. 

Avoid comparing the chapters of your marriage life to others' romance. Do your best for Allah's sake to be a pleasant wife to your husband until you reunite in Jannah Paradise where profound bliss and perfection can be enjoyed for eternity.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibban 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

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Poem: Dunya Isn't Everlasting. Prepare For The Meeting With Allah The Almighty.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Contemplate and reflect on how many people died 

Unexpectedly, most of whom wished for longer lives. 

How many passed away before trying marriage life, 

Before completing their studies, or while still a child?

~•~

How many women were widowed while they never tried 

Making love or traveling with their spouse far and wide?

How many took their last breath whilst in their beds at night, 

And news of their sudden death brought loved ones much surprise?

~•~

How many friends got into arguments due to pride, 

Unaware that one of them after some days would die?

How many relatives went without formal goodbyes,

With wills they did not write and huge fortune left behind?

~•~

How many tourists were excited for some fun times 

Only to be taken by Allah during their flight?

How many died in car accidents, physical fights, 

Earthquakes, floods, or by lightning, with Allah's Will and Might?

~•~

Note to self, and dear human: Death can come anytime. 

So prepare yourself to meet Allah each day and night, 

With good deeds for Allah and trusting Him as you strive 

To do sincere Tawbah before your destined demise.

~•~

Don't wait for clear warnings or for old age to arrive 

To be inspired to pack your luggage for the next life. 

Delete your selfies, albums of songs, indecent files, 

And have the guts to detach from forbidden desires.

~•~

For Allah's sake purify your heart. Keep this in mind: 

"I've forgiven all Muslims, even those I dislike."

Day and night say Dhikr, and Surah Al-Mulk recite.

Please Allah to be from those who smile when death arrives.

~•~

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Take advantage of five before five: Your youth before your old age, your health before your illness, your riches before your poverty, your free time before your work, and your life before your death."

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 9575

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There is a chapter in the Qur'an, not but thirty verses (Surah Al-Mulk), which will argue on behalf of its companion until he enters Paradise. It is the chapter: 'Blessed is He (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is the Dominion.'" (The Noble Qur'an 67:1)

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Awsat 3667

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When the human being dies, (the rewards of) his deeds come to an end except for three: Ongoing charity, beneficial knowledge (taught or left behind), or a righteous child who prays for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1631

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Be in this world as if you were a stranger or a traveler along a path."

Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma would say, “If you make it to the evening, do not wait for the morning. If you make it to the morning, do not wait for the evening. Take from your health for your sickness, and from your life for your death.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6053

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-if-you-knew-exactly-when-youd-die.html 

Note: How Some INTJs View Some ISFPs, ESFPs And INFPs

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: As an INTJ personality type, which three of the 16 MBTI personality types do you find most challenging to get along with often, and why? What would you typically do if you were willing to befriend them for Allah's sake as you share similar goals and interests?

📝 Answer: I usually clash with many ISFPs, ESFPs and INFPs, unless they're a family member. When it comes to my relatives, I try my best to maintain good connection with them regardless of their MBTI personality type. 

What I hate about the following types from what I've observed: 

ISFPs - when they make wrong choices or act impulsively without carefully thinking about the consequences of their actions, and when they're unable to discern or acknowledge the long-term benefits of doing something because they are more concerned about how they feel in the present moment. 

ESFPs - when several of them indulge in childish gossiping and childishly make fun of how others appear or dress, and when they'd do whatever they can to obtain something they desperately want regardless of seeming selfish, greedy or irrational.

INFPs - when a lot of them are overly sensitive and expect you to babysit their fluctuating feelings or spoil them with affection when they've forgotten about the multiple instances in which they proved to be very unreliable. 

❎ From my turn-offs: Stubbornness in remaining ignorant, unwillingness to correct one's mistakes, persistence in doing illogical acts in spite of the outcomes, deliberate dishonesty, cowardice, injustice, arrogantly deriding other humans while denying that you too have plentiful imperfections, pointless gossip and unreliability. 

✅ If I'm actually interested in connecting with an ISFP, ESFP or INFP, I'd: 

1] Ask them more questions about themselves to be better acquainted and go out of my way to show that I care about them for Allah's sake. 

2] Instantly defend them in their absence and presence when naysayers mention their name negatively. 

3] Prolong meaningful conversations with them online and offline, and know when to give them space. 

4] Advise them gently one-on-one instead of brashly criticizing them in front of an audience or intentionally ignoring their mistakes due to disinterest in their self-improvement. 

5] Train myself to be more understanding or tolerant of the things they do which I oppose, or frequently supplicate that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala grants them more guidance. 

⚠️ Note: Inability to get along peacefully with certain personality types is not an excuse to resort to bullying and behaving oppressively. If you can't connect with a particular individual, simply minimize unnecessary interactions with them for Allah's sake as much as possible to preserve your overall well-being.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

https://abukhadeejah.com/minor-and-major-hypocrisy-and-the-hypocrites-by-al-barbahaaree-explanation-of-al-fawzaan/ 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-how-most-intj-personality-types.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/note-how-most-intj-personality-types.html 

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