Poem: Some Reminders From A Muslimah In Her Thirties To Those Who Are Younger

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Tips from a thirty-something to those in their twenties 

And young ones trying to survive in their teenage years:

Know our purpose in life - to worship Allah Only, 

To serve Allah despite being viewed by some as "weird".

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Three words that describe dunya: Tough, brief, temporary - 

This world isn't our resting place. Life's a test and dream -

Strive to pass Allah's tests with Sabr and piety,

And do what you can to join those destined to succeed.

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Avoid giving up, being spiritually asleep,

Easily distracted and emotionally weak,

By maintaining strong connection with Allah daily 

And being careful with the kind of knowledge you seek.

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Not only should you be cautious about what you read,

But be wise too in choosing close friends from those you meet.

Those who gossip and prove they're guilty of jealousy 

Should be replaced by the pious, helpful and sincere.

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When networking, recall "quality, not quantity".

One false friend is more dangerous than ten enemies.

Better lonesome yet loved by Allah than be deceived 

By toxic companions who disturb your soul's journey.

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Take note, you can never feel lonely when you believe

That Allah is always with us and Angels are near.

When you strengthen your faith and learn to have your doubts cleared,

Defeating fitna, with Allah's Will, can be achieved.

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Refuse to be controlled by five emotions: Envy,

Unjust anger, intense attraction that can mislead,

Vile pride, and grief that makes one forget Allah's Mercy.

Taqwa and trust in Allah can be effective shields.

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Three good qualities to cultivate: Sincerity,

Humility or contentment with Allah's Decree, 

And patience, not quitting in spite of difficulties -

Rising after every fall, willing to persevere.

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Speed up in doing good deeds, as time goes by quickly.

For the grand meeting with Allah try to be ready.

Remember three facts: Allah controls all. Death is real.

Islam and good deeds can save us, not friends nor money.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Take advantage of five before five: Your youth before your old age, your health before your illness, your riches before your poverty, your free time before your work, and your life before your death."

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 9575

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

https://abukhadeejah.com/how-do-i-cope-with-the-trials-suffering-and-hardships-in-my-life/

Links: PDF Document "My Advice To The Muslim Women" By Umm Abdullah Bint Sheikh Muqbil Bin Haadi Al-Waadi'ee

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📔 PDF document "My Advice To The Muslim Women" (to gain knowledge for Allah's sake, not for sale) English translation of the book نصيحتي للنساء  by Umm Abdullah bint sheikh Muqbil ibn Haadi Al-Waadi'ee May Allah the Almighty have mercy on them and accept their good deeds. Ameen. 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1feBv_2Z4KikBNeYyW-_66b13-64HQ38L/view?usp=drivesdk

📕 In English language: 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1fb_9fkE21kG02orPx9lHKfAc0Gp7KaHm/view?usp=drivesdk

Links: Suggested Telegram Channels For Muslim Females

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🇸🇦 Telegram channel in Arabic language:

https://t.me/alwad3ya

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↪️ Telegram channel in English language:

https://t.me/alwadeia

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📚 Umm Abdullah's blog: 

https://alwadei967.blogspot.com/

Tips: How To Deal With Envious Narcissists And Insecure Bullies When They Try To Make You Feel Left Out

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Three examples of situations in which cowardly passive-aggressive narcissists or jealous and insecure bullies would attempt to make you doubt your self-worth and exclude you, probably to soothe unpleasant feelings of envy or to childishly get back at you for something you did in the past which offended their pride: 

1] They directly invited you to a wedding or formal gathering, but when the day of the event arrives, you discover that you're not allowed to enter the venue because your name wasn't listed in the guest list. 

✅ How to deal: 

1🔹 For Allah's sake stay strong, calm and collected. Say some Adhkaar and Du'a to maintain your composure.

2🔹 Cleverly analyze the possible reasons behind the act and imagine yourself being the subject of a silly prank show or social experiment where shaytan and his delusional puppets are eager to watch you overreact irrationally. Avoid showing them the reaction which they want. 

3🔹 If you couldn't speak to any of the hosts personally so they can explain their side or grant you entry if there was an actual mistake in not including your name, calmly return to your residence, and with patience accept Allah's Qadr/Destiny, or try visiting another friend or more preferably some relatives whom you haven't visited in a while. 

4🔹 If the hosts failed to apologize to you for not including your name, let their awful conduct be a reminder to never trust them. As much as possible, abstain from dealing with them in the future, while maintaining basic good manners whenever you must communicate with one another. 

5🔹 Without an ounce of regret, gladly stop checking their Facebook posts and quit paying attention to the online content of anybody who fails to motivate you to become a better Muslim, to preserve your emotional and religious well-being. 

2] They invite you to participate in a feast but upon arriving at the hall or table, you realize that all the seats are taken and you can sense the ambience isn't very welcoming. 

✅ How to deal: 

1🔹 Confidently greet the group with cheerful vibes even if their energy is temporarily depressing. 

2🔹 Assertively pull out a chair from one of the nearby tables or neighboring rooms and choose the best place where you can be seated comfortably. If additional chairs are unavailable, you may sit on the floor or find a flat surface which you can take as a seat until one of the chairs is vacant, or ask the hosts politely for other ideas.

3🔹 Share a witty remark or ask some questions to do away with the awkward silence, such as "Why is everybody looking so sad? Did somebody die?" or "Were you expecting me to bring some special equipments to make my entrance more grand? Sorry for the letdown." or quietly continue doing your part at the event without being affected by how other fallible humans perceive you. 

3] They cancelled an appointment with you, claiming that they're so busy with several important tasks but after some time has passed, you're informed by someone or through their social media updates that they were just socializing with other individuals instead of agreeing to meet with you or allowing you to join them. 

✅ How to deal: 

1🔹 If you believe that they have a lot of admirable qualities and keeping them in your circle of trusted friends has impacted you positively in many ways, confidently respect their freewill to do what they think is most convenient for them and don't be too clingy nor too possessive. You can 

Inn-sha-Allah find another timing to schedule a meeting with them. True friends are continually forgiving, understanding, and patient with each other. 

2🔹 Whether you've been acquainted with them for only a number of days or you have known each other's names for a long time now, you have a right to dismiss them as a potential friend, and simply view them as a stranger. Unfollow their social media posts and want nothing to do with them, as much as possible, if there's no benefit in asking them why they acted obnoxiously. You can't force donkeys and chimpanzees to behave themselves if they're not accustomed to courtesy or they are exclusively "polite" to those with similar ideologies. 

3🔹 Let their lousy behavior and narcissistic acts inspire you to thank Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala that you're not like them at all in being so emotionally disturbed that one feels the need to upset others to relieve one's distress. 

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah the Almighty said: 'Whoever shows hostility (enmity) to a righteous friend of Mine, I have declared war against him. My servant does not grow closer to Me with anything more beloved to Me than the obligatory duties that I have imposed upon him. My servant continues to grow closer to Me with extra good works (nawaafil deeds like praying Tahajjud, Salat Ad-Duha, and fasting Sunnah fasts) until I love him. When I love him, I am his hearing with which he hears, his seeing with which he sees, his hand with which he strikes, and his foot with which he walks. Were he to ask something from Me, I would surely give it to him. Were he to ask Me for refuge, I would surely grant it to him. I do not hesitate to do anything as I hesitate to take the soul of the believer, for he hates death and I hate to disappoint him.'"

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6137

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/tips-jomo-joy-of-missing-out-on.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-three-tips-on-how-not-to-be-overly.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/05/tips-some-advice-on-how-to-deal-with.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-three-signs-of-people-who-are.html  

https://personalitygrowth.com/what-dealing-with-estrangement-does-to-you-based-on-your-personality-type/ 

📑 Note: Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.