بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Monday, October 31, 2022

Note: 5 Traits Of Emotionally Draining Individuals And Some Energy Boosters

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Five qualities of emotionally draining individuals - if you recognize at least two of these in an individual, it is better to avoid them for Allah's sake or minimize unnecessary conversations, as much as possible, to protect your emotional well-being: 
1] They claim to despise gossip yet they indulge in backbiting frequently. 
2] They whine to you a lot, as though they expect you to miraculously solve their problems almost every time they irrationally complain about something or somebody. Ironically when it's your turn to ask for advice, they act uninterested or tell you that they don't know what to say. 
3] They go silent or become obnoxiously distant upon noticing you expressing any form of joy or gratitude, yet when you make a mistake they're quick to criticize and point out your errors in detail. 
4] Due to their gigantic load of insecurities and intense envy of you, they regularly one-up you or narrate random stories to suggest that they're a lot "better", more "successful" or more "experienced" than you. 
5] It is clear that they're not supportive of your goals and interests, which is why most if not all of your talks with them are awfully awkward, boring or unproductive. 
✅ When dealing with acquaintances, neighbors or colleagues who are emotionally draining: 
1] Unapologetically unfollow them on social media and quit reading the content they upload if you believe that doing so can strengthen your faith Imaan and keep you away from negative emotions (such as unwarranted jealousy, confusion, uncertainty etc.). 
2] Don't force yourself to continue chatting with them if there are other more important, meaningful and rewarding tasks to do than pretending to like someone who is too toxic for you. 
3] Intentionally refrain from asking them questions about their personal lives, so you don't need to tolerate their invented lies nor should you pay attention to those with bad intentions in attempting to connect with you. 
✨ Seven energy boosters: 
1] Reciting from the Noble Qur'an with a melodious voice and reflecting on Allah's Magnificent Words. 
2] Resting for some minutes or looking at Allah's beautiful creations in nature while saying some Du'a and Adhkaar (including lots of Istighfaar).
3] Reading some beneficial Islamic books and articles which are useful for self-development. 
4] Watching motivational videos or listening to some recorded Islamic lectures. 
5] Memorizing or familiarizing yourself with some authentic Ahadith (narrations and statements of the beloved Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam). 
6] Spending some moments with a pet or showing kindness to furry animals when you're not busy. 
7] Visiting some family members and relatives for Allah's sake when you have the opportunity. 
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase 'if only' opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Saturday, October 29, 2022

Note: Some Ways To Tell If You're A Sensor Or An Intuitive

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Strange ways to determine if you're a sensor or an intuitive: 
🔎 You are probably a sensing type if you:-
1] Find it a lot easier to concentrate on the present and easily see how various circumstances are connected to past events than visualizing what the future could or should be like. 
2] Are good at noticing even the slightest changes in people's appearance, weight or outfits etc. 
3] Can be very observant regarding how people sound, speak and conduct themselves. In most cases, you remember the color of clothing or footwear which a particular individual wore at a gathering, and repeating the exact statements which a person said is usually not a difficult thing for you to do. 
4] Would rather attend a culinary class or do some gardening than spend a whole hour and thirty minutes reading books concerning topics which don't seem interesting to you. 
5] Sometimes won't accept that a person's statements are factual until you're shown tangible proofs to support their validity. 
✨ You may be an intuitive if:-
1• Many times you were able, with Allah's Will and Guidance, to accurately guess that an individual would be absent from a meeting, cancel an agreement, or forgo doing something they promised, and their disappointing act failed to surprise you. 
2• Generally it takes a lot for you to feel startled, specifically when you're busy daydreaming, evaluating a situation or planning on what to do next. 
3• Reading between the lines and connecting the dots are simple endeavors for you to do. 
4• It can be challenging at times to remember exactly what an individual stated or for you to describe in detail what they were wearing on a specific instance. 
5• You are much more concerned about how your values and others' decisions impact your future than staying too fixated on the present moment, or since you're not always attentive, you tend to be often clumsy particularly if you are not familiar yet with an environment. 
🔎✅ From the advantages of having sensing types as friends or colleagues:- 
1] They can remind you about some important dates or matters which you may have forgotten about. 
2] They can be remarkable at swiftly rearranging, locating misplaced items, or spotting flaws when necessary. 
3] They can explain a story or clarify instructions in a more detailed format. 
✨✅ How intuitive types can be helpful as friends or colleagues:-
1] In general they are not very particular or judgmental regarding how you look on the outside. To them, it's what's inside that truly counts. 
2] Because they're imaginative and visionary, you can enjoy meaningful discussions which don't require gossiping about people. They'd rather discuss ideas, theories and solutions to problems than aimlessly rant about what occurred at such-and-such occasion and what they did with so-and-so etc. 
3] A lot of intuitive types offer more effective and reasonable advice than sensors when long-term goals are given more priority than current emotions and instant gratification. 
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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of the intuition of the believer. Verily, he sees with the Light of Allah." Then, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam recited the verse, “Verily, in that are signs for those of discernment.” (The Noble Qur'an 15:75)
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3127
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Haythami
Ibn Al-Qayyim (May Allah have mercy on him. Ameen.) said, “It is a light that Allah bestows in the heart of His servant, by which he distinguishes between truth and falsehood, advantage and disadvantage, the honest and the liar.”
Source: Madārij Al-Sālikīn 2/453 
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Links: PDF Book "Concise Commentary On The Book Of Tawheed" By Sheikh Saleh Al-Fawzaan



📚 Islamic PDF book translated to English language "Concise Commentary On The Book Of Tawhid" 
(As Sadaqah Jaariyah, not for sale) by sheikh Salih Al-Fawzaan (May Allah the Almighty accept his good deeds and make him among the people of Jannatul Ferdaus with Allah's Mercy. Ameen.): 


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Friday, October 28, 2022

Links: PDF Book "Advice Of Luqman To His Son" by sheikh Rabi' ibn Haadi Al-Madkhali



📚 Islamic PDF book "the Advice of Luqman the wise man to his son" 
(As Sadaqah Jaariyah, not for sale) by sheikh Rabi' ibn Haadi Al-Madkhali, original book translated by Dr Abdulilah Lahmami (May Allah the Almighty accept their good deeds and make them among the people of Jannatul Ferdaus with Allah's Mercy. Ameen.):

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Wednesday, October 26, 2022

Note: Checklist To Understand Why A Lot Of Females Feel Jealous Of You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
🗒️ Some things about you which could justify the jealousy of a number of females who treat you disrespectfully to pacify their insecurities (still their envy is unreasonable since Allah the Most Wise is the One Who granted you these): 
1] You were born in the city which they wish they were born in. 
2] Your mother and father are clearly more educated, knowledgeable, affluent, caring and/or supportive than their parents. 
3] Your parents did a better job than theirs in making sure that you learn about Islam and attain the right education. 
4] You can understand and speak in Arabic language much better than they can. 
5] They acknowledge the fact that you are more good-looking than they are. 
6] You married earlier than they did, or you're blessed with a spouse while they are single. 
7] Your good manners surpass theirs, and seeing you deal with others in general politely makes them feel incompetent. 
8] You have a skill or talent which they wish they had. 
9] They resent how you can effortlessly move on from awkward situations and conflict while they struggle a lot with low self-esteem. 
10] You traveled to more countries than they have, Alhamdulillah, or you've been to Makkah and Madinah while they haven't done the same yet. 
11] Your overall assertiveness, confidence and strong personality as well as the ability to control your emotions intimidate them a lot. 
12] All in all your life story, from their viewpoint, is evidently more interesting, fascinating and meaningful than theirs. 
13] Your empathy, resilience, determination to seek the truth, awe-inspiring patience in marriage, and enthusiasm to uplift others for Allah's sake signify that you're inwardly at peace while they despise their internal misery which triggers them to act obnoxiously.  
14] You're more aware of certain topics or issues than they are. Your eagerness to improve your knowledge makes them feel morally or intellectually inferior. 
15] They witness how your connection with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala seems stronger or a lot more rewarding than theirs currently.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it erases good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a believing servant."
In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."
Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani  
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Monday, October 24, 2022

Note: Some Tips On How To Deal When A Person Lies To You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: What would your usual reaction be if a person told you a lie and you can sense that they lied to you on purpose?
📝 Answer: If an individual approached me saying something like "You and your husband were thinking of recording some (so-called) Anasheed like a duet in the past, he'd play the guitar while you'd write the (so-called) Nasheed lyrics but then you both did Tawbah and cancelled that idea since you learned that listening to music is something we should abstain from as Muslims? Are you joking? I don't believe your husband can play any musical instrument, let alone you and him planning on doing any fun activity together - ever." or "From the cities you've traveled to were London, Paris, Hong Kong, Bangkok, Cairo, Copenhagen, Aalborg, Orlando and NYC back in the 90s, yes? But in your dreams or imagination only, I bet." or "Give me the amount of money you agreed to pay so you can receive the ticket, I didn't notice your name on the list." or anything to imply that they're being untruthful, sarcastic or they are falsely accusing me of lying, I would: 
1] Firstly imagine all of the probable reasons why they'd act that way and try to figure out their actual motives for acting obnoxiously. Are they being dishonest because they're truly ignorant of some info or are they attempting to play some sort of childish prank to get back at me for doing something which offended their feelings previously while I wasn't aware of their ego getting hurt that time? Or are they inventing ridiculous lies about me to feel better about their insecure selves, almost in the same way a fictional donkey would label a lion a "mule" or "chimpanzee" so it feels superior due to its ability to describe anything it considers as a threat in the way that would make it feel bigger somehow?  
2] Put some effort into empathizing or understanding the negative emotions (feeling jealous, intimidated, inferior, threatened, ignorant etc.) which provoked their urge to lie or conduct themselves badly. (So this specimen is inventing lies again because they can't stand the fact that I * mention something which they're undeniably envious of *? I see. That explains it. I'll take it as an emphasized confirmation to avoid connecting with them on a deeper level as they are clearly unreliable.)
3] Become more inspired to avoid imitating them in their untrustworthiness and lack of good morals. 
4] Become more cautious, reserved and quiet whenever I must interact with them in the future, since they've proven to be untrustworthy. 
5] Recall that even many of Allah's Prophets 'alaihim as-salaam, including the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam who warned us against falsehood, also dealt with some of the unbelievers' fallacies, derision and deceptions. Striving to be truthful for Allah's sake as much as possible doesn't guarantee that every soul on planet earth will likewise treat you with integrity 24/7. 
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📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah as a truthful person. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5743 
Sahih Muslim 2607
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abdullah Ibn 'Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There are four signs that make someone a pure hypocrite and whoever has them has a characteristic of hypocrisy until he abandons it: When he speaks, he lies; when he makes a covenant, he is treacherous; when he makes a promise, he breaks it; and when he argues, he is wicked."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 34, Sahih Muslim 58
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever has three traits is a hypocrite, even if he fasts, prays, goes to Hajj and Umrah, and claims to be a Muslim. When he speaks, he lies. When he promises, he breaks it. When he is trusted, he betrays it."
Source: Musnad Abī Ya’lá 4039
Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi according to Al-Albani


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Note: When Does An INTJ Consider Someone As A Friend

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: Regardless of your MBTI personality type, how do you choose your friends, or when would you consider somebody as a "good friend"? 
📝 Answer: As an introvert (INTJ) I generally don't walk around actively or desperately searching for friends. I believe that it's possible
Inn-sha-Allah to thrive in both worlds without numerous long-lasting friendships, particularly if not every individual whom you're destined to meet can be regarded as completely honest and reliable. I also don't wait nor yearn for anybody to interact with me several times until they reach the point when we both consider each other as "friends". 
Alhamdulillah I'd say that while I have a lot of acquaintances of various tribes and nationalities, only a small number of them are individuals whose personal lives I genuinely care about for Allah's sake and out of that select few there could be less than a handful whom I'd regard as actual friends even if they probably perceive me as merely an acquaintance. 
How do I select my friends? Definitely not at random and not according to similarity. Just because someone is around my age, wears the niqaab when outdoors, can speak English fluently, was born in Saudi Arabia like I was or they enjoy writing poetry occasionally, it doesn't mean that I'll automatically become enthusiastic about befriending them, as if my main mission in life is to gather as many clones or carbon copies as I can to form some kind of battalion. 
What I'd usually do if I must categorize people is I would disqualify a person from being a "potential friend" once they've done any of these: 
1] if they deliberately lied to me more than once. 
2] if they caused me to waste time doing something pointless, absurd or unproductive more than once. 
3] if they're boring conversationalists online and offline, if they don't know how to have deep conversations, if you feel as though you're tediously interviewing or investigating them whenever you attempt to have a meaningful dialogue. 
4] if I overheard them cowardly backbiting about me or criticizing any of my loved ones, especially my dear husband. 
5] if we've known each other's names for more than five years but so far neither of us have taken the initiative to spend time together outdoors at least twice. 
6] if they regularly show signs of nervousness or discomfort whenever they speak with me, as though they're guilty of something and trying to conceal it. 
7] if they have a tendency to act overly emotional and passive-aggressive, if they've complained to any of my relatives about me instead of discussing the problem with me directly - I'd regard the snitch as someone whom I can't trust anymore because any information I try to share with them could be misconstrued. 
I'd consider someone as a friend if: 
1] I openly make effort to support their halal business or hobbies whenever I can online and/or offline. 
2] I don't feel bored asking them questions about themselves and their interests etc. 
3] I oftentimes go out of my way to visit them (at least once a year), send them a message (at least once every three months or so) or ask for their advice. 
Trying to maintain connection with lots of people can drain your energy if you're an introvert. So don't be surprised if some introverts aren't very likable or approachable, specifically if amassing fans or supporters isn't one of our primary goals.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."
Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56
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Saturday, October 22, 2022

Note: Prayed Salat Al-Istikhaara Then Regretted Your Decision? Stay Patient. Don't Regret Your Marriage.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: If a Muslimah prayed two Sunnah Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaara before accepting the marriage proposal of a Muslim who seems likable to both of her parents, but then after some time of being together she discovered that her husband has a bad temper and another wife with kids, what is the point of praying Salat Al-Istikhaara if this woman starts feeling regretful about her decision? 
📝 Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best. 
This woman will Inn-sha-Allah receive rewards for striving to follow the Sunnah of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam in praying Salat Al-Istikhaara prior to making important choices. Praying Salat Al-Istikhaara does not mean that whatever you decide to pursue or forgo will always be followed by outcomes which are completely devoid of defects and trials. When you pray Salat Al-Istikhaara, you're asking Allah the Almighty for guidance and reassurance. As long as you are alive on this imperfect planet earth, you as well as every other human being will not be exempted from Allah's occasional tests and challenges to examine the strength of your faith Imaan and to check if you indeed deserve a special ranking in the afterlife. Even Allah's Prophets 'alaihim as-salaam went through various difficulties occasionally. 
Praying Salat Al-Istikhaara before enthusiastically or willingly agreeing to a Muslim's proposal does not guarantee a one hundred percent flawlessly "happy marriage life" but you're entrusting your affairs to Allah the Most Wise whilst hoping that you're making the most ideal choice which brings you closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and Jannah Paradise. 
Maybe Allah the All-Seeing wanted you to become this man's first or second wife so that you, with Allah's Will, can inspire your spouse to become a better Muslim, so that by striving to love your other half sincerely for Allah's sake you earn countless rewards for your steadfast patience, and eventually you're qualified to motivate other Muslim wives to likewise remain grateful and patient throughout marriage. 
Don't allow our archenemy shaytan to destroy the blessed connection which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala destined. Stop comparing your unique journey to other couples' love stories. The strategies which you can utilize to strengthen your marriage with your husband may not necessarily work out well for every other married individual. 
Ostriches and penguins can't be described as utter failures just because they are flightless birds. Nocturnal animals are not "useless" if they sleep a lot during daytime. Although a woman's husband may get irritated easily at times, she shouldn't deny the fact that he also has a lovable side and there are actually numerous aspects about him which she admires, such as his ambitiousness at work, physical strength and his eagerness to maintain strong ties with his relatives. 
By setting a good example 
Inn-sha-Allah, generously sharing her knowledge of Islam with her husband whenever he's available to listen, and regularly mentioning her husband's name in her loving prayers, gradually, little by little, she can observe some positive changes in her chosen soulmate. 
Your husband is Inn-sha-Allah an enormous blessing for you if through this marriage you've learned to become: 
1] More patient. 
2] More forgiving. 
3] More tolerant and understanding. 
4] More eager to strive for eternal joy in Jannah Paradise and less attached to this fleeting dunya. 
5] More aware of your actual purpose in life and less egoistic. 
6] More generous in many ways or less selfish through courageously accepting polygyny for Allah's sake. 
7] Motivated to inspire other Muslim wives to not give up on a marriage which can train us to love Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala much more than our nafs. 
Consistently remind yourself that 
Inn-sha-Allah the absolutely perfect version of your husband can be fully enjoyed in Jannah Paradise. 
~•~
📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of piety/righteousness), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe (challenging). If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
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Poem: Divorce Is Permissible But It's Despicable To Me

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
💌 While divorce for some females symbolizes "freedom" 
And "the best choice" to "escape" from a "loveless romance", 
I view it as a testament and confirmation
That an ex-wife's love wasn't real from the beginning. 
If it were true, she'd find solutions to stay with him.
~•~
While most regard divorce as the "correct decision" 
If the spouses can't deal with disputes, discontentment, 
And frequent absence, I see it as an evidence 
That they weren't determined enough to keep fighting
For their marriage and overall they lacked inner strength.
~•~
While divorce shows "courage" according to some women, 
To me it indicates cowardice and impatience, 
Selfishness in having too many expectations, 
Insincerity when defeated by distractions, 
And banality when unable to solve problems.
~•~
With the fact that divorce is lawful I've no problem. 
It's illogical though for a man and his woman 
To agree on breaking the beautiful connection,
Which Allah the Most Wise destined, for trivial reasons. 
Why disconnect a link when it's clearly a blessing?
~•~
Why follow the crowd that decides based on emotions? 
Why treat marriage like half-finished meals thrown by children
Who don't know the importance of proper consumption? 
If your spouse can get toxic, don't quickly discard them. 
Train them to improve and wait for their development.
~•~
Your husband ain't food that you can throw in the dustbin
When loving him can't be done to your satisfaction. 
He's a human, just like you, with flaws and shortcomings. 
Pass Allah's tests in marriage with lots of trust in Him 
And with the sort of patience that won't think of quitting. 
~•~
While divorce is viewed by some as the "right solution" 
To incompatibility and disappointments, 
I perceive it as a cowardly move or action 
Confirming that one's love wasn't really genuine. 
Links which lead to Allah shouldn't be quickly broken. 
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e. her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious (righteous Muslimah) woman (otherwise) you will be a loser." 
Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090
In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 
📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'" 
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim


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Wednesday, October 19, 2022

Tips: Always Trust Allah The Almighty And You Can Cope Better With Social Anxiety

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
💌 Five tips to cope better with social anxiety, 
Or social phobia, when you feel scared excessively 
Of socializing or being judged negatively, 
Feeling like people are always staring intently, 
Mostly unable to rest due to fears and worries:
~•~
One: As His servant, fear Only Allah Almighty 
Who controls all things, including Qadr/Destiny. 
Don't let your fear of people's judgment and enmity 
Stop you from serving Allah and striving to succeed. 
Concern with people's views mustn't become blasphemy.
~•~
Two: People care more about themselves generally. 
So while at times you wonder, "What do they think of me? 
Am I presentable? Did I behave decently?", 
Some question their choices or conduct similarly. 
Why impress humans who are not perfect entirely?
~•~
Three: Say the morning and evening Adhkaar frequently. 
A stable connection with Allah can guarantee 
Stronger levels of faith/Imaan, healthy self-esteem 
So you don't deem yourself unhappy or unworthy, 
And you seek Allah's Love, not fellow slaves' flattery.
~•~
Four: Understand if you cancel an activity, 
Like asking questions during class for more clarity 
Or correcting someone's mistake done innocently, 
All because of shyness, you miss out abundantly 
On the rewards of kindness and enjoining good deeds.
~•~
Five: Negative thoughts such as, "Shut up, you're nobody. 
Don't bother talking. You'll sound nervous, unclear and weird.
Keep pretending to be busy, so they won't come near." 
Stem from our enemy shaytan who wants us to fear 
Other creations to commit shirk indirectly.
~•~
Fear just Allah Who made us, grants guidance and can shield, 
Our Creator Allah Who owns all worlds, skies and seas. 
When you feel anxious around a strict boss, skilled colleagues, 
Or someone who displays more outstanding qualities, 
Calmly breathe and tell yourself, "Allah is Greater. HasbunAllah wa Ne'm Al-Wakeel.".
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase 'if only' opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever among you sees evil, let him change it with his hand (by stopping it physically). If he is unable to do so, then with his tongue (verbally, by warning or speaking against that wrongdoing). If he is unable to do so, then with his heart (by at least hating the sin instead of admiring the wrongdoers), and that is the weakest level of faith." 
Source: Sahih Muslim 49 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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Monday, October 17, 2022

Poem: What True Love Is And What Love Isn't

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
💌 True love, from my perspective, is felt for Allah's sake. 
It's to be contented with the man whom Allah gave 
As one's spouse, travel buddy to Jannah's lofty gates, 
And friend with whom one's secrets in most cases stay safe. 
Love doesn't need to be "give and take" each night and day. 
~•~
Love ain't "Do this for me; I'll do exactly the same." 
Or "Be what I expect you to be, do what I say,
And don't talk to females besides me or you shall pay.". 
True love is devoid of threats, precisely equal weights, 
And scrutiny of every word which one's soulmate states."
~•~
Love isn't "If your love is real, put it on display, 
Upload photos of us both enjoying fancy dates, 
And sweet feelings for each other frequently proclaim.". 
Love can be quiet, proven when your dear husband prays 
For you while you likewise lovingly mention his name.
~•~
Love doesn't cause you to be arrogant or ashamed.
When your husband errs, you quickly forgive his mistakes, 
Aware that he's human. For his progress you can wait. 
Genuine love, in my opinion, strengthens your faith 
And inspires you to love Allah much more than His slaves. 
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e. her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious (righteous Muslimah) woman (otherwise) you will be a loser." 
Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090
In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'" 
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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Sunday, October 16, 2022

Poem: Advice On Dealing With Some People Who Are Too Difficult To Like

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
📝 "What tips can you share regarding those whom you despise, 
While your dislike isn't just due to their lousy vibes, 
But you loathe them too since they've lied to you many times, 
Or you can't stand how they like to gossip and backbite, 
And being near them causes cheerful moods to decline?"
~•~
Visualize them as pesky flies. Each time they fly by, 
Depart from their vicinity, or when they're nearby 
Don't bother asking them questions on personal life, 
And never consider requesting for their advice. 
Lions do not require favors from insects to thrive. 
~•~
If you know their Facebook profiles, do not feel obliged
To check what they upload as most content could be lies 
Or they post snide insults aimed at you as deep inside 
They're jealous of you, and their envy can't be denied. 
Don't build connections with those on whom you can't rely. 
~•~
Avoiding toxic people doesn't imply foul pride, 
But you're shunning distractions, don't wish to be beguiled
Into committing wrongs which bar you from Paradise, 
And time is too precious to waste on what's not worthwhile - 
Time-wasters who leave you feeling "drained" or "uninspired".
~•~
If there are certain souls with whom you can't reconcile
As your differences are more vast than river Nile, 
Don't oppress yourself through bullying with undue spite. 
Maintain good manners like you were trained to be upright. 
Choose your close friends carefully without being unkind.
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”
Source: ‘Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681 
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger Of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said to me: "O young man, if you are able every morning and evening to remove any rancor (grudge) from your heart towards anyone, then do so." 
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2678
Grade: Hasan
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are like conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638

Saturday, October 15, 2022

Tips: Five Clear Signs That Your Husband Is Emotionally Mature

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
📑 Five clear signs that your husband is emotionally mature: 
1] For Allah's sake he strives to avoid conflict. As much as possible he stays away from aimless arguments and childishly quarreling with individuals who are a lot younger than him. 
2] He tries his best to treat Muslimahs well, including his wife/wives, mother and other female relatives. An "adult" male would be awfully immature and actually unmasculine if he frequently criticizes, disrespects and gets back at females, as he is obnoxiously oversensitive. Doing so would prove that his despicable ego is a lot more gigantic than his ability to have patience with women. 
3] He refrains from using social media for the wrong purposes, nosily stalking users' accounts with awful feelings of resentment, and spying on others' lives - aimlessly watching vlogs of actors who can't inspire him to become a wiser human being or obnoxiously interfering with matters which don't have a single thing to do with him. 
4] He has admirable capability to be gentle, funny, charismatic, empathic and lovingly playful with children, while he does what he can to educate his child/kids about good etiquettes. 
5] He is genuinely interested in becoming a better Muslim, ensuring that he prays in the Masjid for Allah's sake regularly while being receptive to reminders to seek and apply authentic Islamic knowledge with Ikhlaas / sincerity. 
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I enjoin you to treat women well, for the woman was created from a rib and the most curved part of the rib is its highest point. If you try to straighten it, you will break it. If you leave it as it is, it will remain bent. Thus, I enjoin you to be good to the women."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3153
Sahih Muslim 1468
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abdullah Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader of the people is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects. A man is the guardian of his family and he is responsible for them. A woman is the guardian of her husband's home and his children, and she is responsible for them. The servant of a man is a guardian of the property of his master and he is responsible for it. No doubt, every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6719
Sahih Muslim 1829
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162
Grade: Sahih 

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Thursday, October 13, 2022

Note: Polygyny / Polygamy vs Monogamy?

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 




💌 Which is better overall? Polygyny or monogamy? For a woman to be her husband's only wife? Or for her to courageously love her husband together with another woman (or other ladies) whom he married lawfully? 
A rose by itself smells delightful, but bring four roses together to form a bouquet or nicely place them in an ornamental vase, and the scent they emit would be stronger and more sublime. Nonetheless refrain from buying more roses if you're allergic to flowers and frequent exposure to their scent can cause your health to decline. 
A flashlight can be helpful if you're walking around a forest at night, but there's more guarantee that you can survive longer and it'd be easier to find your way around the dark if you carry four flashlights. Make sure you don't forget their batteries and each battery isn't expired.
A cup of coffee or tea is satisfactory with a small packet or cube of sugar, but if you have a sweet tooth, your drink would be more enjoyable when you increase the sweetness. It could be a problem though if you currently suffer from UTI or diabetes.
A carriage or wagon which is being pulled by one healthy horse isn't as fast and efficient as carriages being dragged by four strong horses, just as a tiny gift box or note with a loving message would soar into the skies much faster and higher if it is tied to four balloons rather than a single balloon of the same size. A candle on its own can provide minimal light to a room, but if you have four candles, each one to be placed in a corner, you'd be able to see your surroundings better. Avoid neglecting the candles so they don't set your curtains or wooden furniture on fire. 
✅ Polygyny is better than monogamy and becomes a blessing if: 
1] Polygyny works as a catalyst in strengthening the faith/Imaan, patience, and sense of responsibility of the husband and his wives. 
2] Through polygyny the man is capable of making good use of his additional wealth in earning more rewards by taking care of a widow and her child/kids or divorcee who finds it difficult to search for a pious spouse. 
3] The polygynous marriage can inspire harmony among Muslim communities and play a role in defeating racism or tribalistic tendencies when the man is gratefully married to wives from different regions or countries, while their multiracial children are all at peace with one another. 
❎ Polygyny is not advisable and can become a trial:
1] If it causes the faith/Imaan of a Muslim and any of his wives to weaken. 
2] If it makes the man behave in a way that is unjust, neglectful, and irresponsible to all or any of his wives. 
3] If the husband still has loads of debts to be paid and it is obvious that he is financially struggling or emotionally unstable. 
Before a man wishes to have a second, third, and fourth wife, it is recommended that he prays two Sunnah Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaara then measure the pros and cons of managing a large family so he doesn't struggle with regret in the future. 
Alhamdulillah, even though my late mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) frequently advised my late father (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.) to have a second wife, he openly rejected the idea of remarrying, and instead remained contented with having her as his only beloved wife in this temporary dunya. 
Not all women are tough enough to accept polygyny. Not all men act as "womanizers" who wish to take advantage of the permissibility of polygyny in Islam. 
Polygyny isn't obligatory. What's mandatory upon the man is to try his very best to love his wives for Allah's sake with as much wisdom, justice, and fairness as he can. 
~•~ 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

💚 Note: Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'a
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Tuesday, October 11, 2022

Links: PDF Book Imaam Ibnul Qayyim's Book Translated To English Language "The Keys To Happiness" [To Benefit For Allah's Sake, Not For Sale]





📚 Islamic PDF book "the keys to happiness" 
(As Sadaqah Jaariyah charity, not for sale) by Imaam Ibn Al-Qayyim, May Allah the Almighty have mercy on him. Ameen. 

[Translated to English language] 

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Note: Don't Bother Arguing With Liars Who Are Deluded By Their Lies

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: As an INTJ personality type, would you confront a person who clearly lied against you or complained to some individuals about you with some flagrant lies? Why or why not? 
📝 Answer: If I was informed that a certain individual invented some lies, big or small, serious or trivial, against me, I would regard them as a complete stranger who can never be trusted in the present and future, while likely assuming that they probably fabricated those awful untruths because they're understandably jealous - perhaps they are envious that I married much earlier than them Alhamdulillah, that I can understand a lot more words in Arabic language than they do Alhamdulillah, or they find my assertiveness very intimidating so they only want me to get into some sort of trouble. 
I wouldn't bother confronting them about the lie if I have no interest whatsoever in building any connection with them, specially if (with Allah's Will) I was able to sense from the beginning that the bad vibes they emitted came with questionable motives. A colleague who is regularly absent from meetings, who feels too afraid or insecure to make decent eye contact with you when communicating, and who proved to be absolutely unreliable so many times wouldn't surprise me one bit if I discovered they made up some false stories about me. 
Discussing issues with frequent liars and childish troublemakers is one of the things I'd strive to avoid for Allah's sake because they could misuse my own statements against me and make it seem as though I'm the one who instigated the whole ugly drama. 
What I would do after confirming that a person is untruthful, untrustworthy, and deluded by their nonsensical lies is to quit regarding them as a potential friend, to minimize unimportant conversations with them as much as possible, and to never ask for any advice from them or their opinion on anything... because you can't be sure if they're being real with you or simply acting, pretending and attempting to deceive you as well as themselves. 
✅ I may try to approach the person to correct the misinformation and solve the misunderstanding if: 
1] They're a family member and relative, while I know a way to reach out to them. 
2] We've been actual friends for more than five years or acquaintances who talk to each other a lot. 
3] They directly apologized to me and showed sufficient signs they can actually be counted on. 
~•~ 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole." 
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782 
Sahih Muslim 2998 
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Hurairah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Years of treachery (before the Day of Judgment) will come over the people in which liars are believed and the truthful ones are denied, the deceitful are trusted, and the trustworthy are considered traitors, and the disgraceful will deliver speeches." It was said, “Who are the disgraceful?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Ignorant men with authority over the common people."
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4036
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah as a truthful person. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhāri 5743 
Sahih Muslim 2607
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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