Poem: What To Expect When You've Become Your Husband's First Wife

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 What to expect when you've become your husband's first wife - 

Advice to each Muslimah who sacrificed her pride 

And let her man remarry although most can't deny 

That polygyny isn't something all souls desire - 

Keep loving for Allah's sake so this bond stays worthwhile: 

~•~ 

Expect to see your soulmate less, since he must divide 

His time for each of his wives to ensure that his life 

Is filled with blessings while he strives to fulfill their rights. 

Since they're human beings, not all guys will do this right. 

If your husband seems unfair, advise him and remind.

~•~

If your allowance is reduced, please don't get surprised, 

Specially if you're wed to a not so wealthy guy. 

"If he's broke or indebted, then he's not qualified 

To have more than one wife in the first place!" please, don't whine. 

Be his faithful partner and stay patient by his side.

~•~ 

Support him for Allah. Pray for your spouse day and night. 

With Allah's Will, things can get better as days go by. 

Expect frequent fights or tournaments with your co-wives, 

Specially if they're jealous or insecure inside. 

The winner isn't the most spoiled, but most patient wife. 

~•~ 

Expect that staying firm won't be as easy as pie, 

Specially when shaytan won't quit tempting you with pride. 

To thrive in polygyny: Have patience day and night.

Stay connected to Allah. Put selfishness aside.

Take your co-wives as friends and teammates to Paradise.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)".

[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]

Riyad As-Salihin 286

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286 

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Tips: How To Tell If An INTJ Cares About You If Their Love Language Is Quality Time

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Some of the things which most INTJs do when they like you for Allah's sake, as a friend or loved one, while their love language is "quality time": 

1] Occasionally they ask you a lot of questions about yourself, your life, your past, current concerns and plans for the future, not in an interrogating manner but rather they are genuinely eager to be more well-acquainted.

2] At least once every three months or so, they make the first move in sending you a message online to curiously ask how you're doing, and they welcome chatting with you late at night or even when they're busy. 

3] If they need advice or frank feedback on an issue, they go out of their way to consult you, as they value your interesting opinions. 

4] Even if they're outdoors, at work, shopping, tired, or attending some social gathering, they try to answer your messages without delay, and their responses consist of more than one-word answers. 

5] From time to time they enthusiastically check your Facebook timeline or social media posts. Although they may not always react to each of your status updates, the fact that they visit your pages at least once a month shows that they care about what you have to say. 

6] If you're in the same room and they notice somebody making fun of you or attempting to embarrass you somehow, they quickly defend you, respond cleverly on your behalf, or do something to distract you from any feeling of embarrassment. 

7] They easily laugh at your jokes and find your sense of humor amusing. It's obvious that an INTJ dislikes you if they maintain a straight face or scowl when you're trying to be playful with them. 

📨 When the INTJ can't trust you anymore or they regard you as a complete stranger: 

1] They find it difficult to think of appropriate topics to discuss with you. So their style of interacting when you're around is mostly brief or businesslike. 

2] Since they're uncomfortable with your vibes, they don't give you as much eye contact as they do when they're talking to those who are close to them. 

3] Although they're aware of how you own a YouTube channel, Facebook page or website, they have zero interest in revisiting it after its initial discovery. 

4] They're generally reluctant to seek your advice or collect any information from you, not because they're shy or intimidated but they don't consider you as a dependable and trustworthy individual. If they had the opportunity to avoid you at all costs to preserve their well-being, they'd gladly do so. 

5] Their serious, straightforward and emotionally detached personality doesn't change even when you try to joke with them, although they're capable of inventing hilarious comments and acting goofy around a select few who matter to them. They're not being "arrogant" but authentic and true to themselves.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”

Source: ‘Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681 

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