بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Tuesday, June 27, 2023

Note: 7 Takbeeraat in the first Rak'ah and 5 in the second Rak'ah during the Eid prayer

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 


☑️ Reminder regarding the Eid prayer:
🔲 7 Takbeeraat in the first Rak'ah
🔲 5 Takbeeraat in the second Rak'ah (each person praying must recite Surah Al-Fatiha in every Rak'ah then listen to the Imaam reciting the next Ayaat)

❌ Avoid talking unnecessarily and browsing around your phone when the Khutbah after the Eid prayers is ongoing.

💎 Continue saying as many Adhkaar and Du'a as you can during the days of Tashreeq especially:
"Allahu Akbar. Allahu Akbar. 
Allahu Akbar. 
Laa ilaaha ilAllah. 
Allahu Akbar. Allahu Akbar. 
Wa LillaahilHamd."

🗒️


Monday, June 26, 2023

Note: Reminder To Increase Du'a And Adhkaar On Yawm 'Arafah


✅ Reminder to say lots of Du'a and Adhkaar on Yawm 'Arafah the 9th of Dhul-Hijjah, June 27 Tuesday, especially: 

Laa ilaaha ilAllah, Wahdahu laa shareeka Lah, Lahul Mulk, wa Lahul Hamd, wa Huwa 'ala kulli shai-in Qadeer.

📖 'Amr Ibn Shu'ayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best supplication (Du'a) is that which is made on the day of Arafat (Yawm 'Arafah). The best of it is what was said by myself and the prophets before me: 'There is no God but Allah alone, without any partners, unto Him belong the dominion and all praise and He has power over all things.' (Laa ilaaha ilAllah Wahdahu laa shareeka Lah. LahulMulk wa LahulHamd wa Huwa 'alaa kulli shay-in Qadeer.)"

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3585

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani 

📖 'Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There is no day upon which Allah frees more of His servants from the Hellfire than the day of 'Arafah. He (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) draws near and then He boasts of them to the angels, saying: 'What do these servants want?'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 1348

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was asked about fasting the day of Arafat (Yawm 'Arafah, the 9th of Dhul-Hijjah) and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It will expiate the sins of the previous and upcoming year." Then, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was asked about fasting the day of Ashura (10th of Muharram) and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It will expiate the sins of the past year."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1162

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://abukhadeejah.com/the-fasting-day-of-arafah-falls-on-a-jumuah-can-i-fast-on-friday-without-fasting-the-day-before-ibn-baz-and-ibn-qudamah/ 

Note: An INTJ's Opinion About Most ISFJs

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ-A personality type, what do you like and dislike about ISFJs? How can you tell or sense that the MBTI personality type of a person is probably ISFJ? 
How do you deal with ISFJ loved ones as an INTJ?
📝 Answer: 🔸What I like or admire about some ISFJs: 
•¶ . Their ability to organize many things neatly.
•¶ . Their willingness to cooperate and prove their loyalty when they truly feel connected to a group.
•¶ . Their aversion to injustice and preferential treatment (if they're not insecure).
❎ What I dislike about several ISFJs: 
¶• . How a number of them could be easily prone to believing in rumors and partaking in futile gossip.
¶• . How they can be extremely sensitive or appear very shy yet ironically act like it's okay to indulge in backbiting now and then.
📑 Some signs indicating that a person is probably an ISFJ: 
•|° Stereotypically they are organized in general and enjoy keeping their surroundings tidy.
•|° A lot of them tend to speak slowly, making sure that almost every word they enunciate is entirely understandable. They can struggle at times comprehending fast talkers.
•|° They are typically good at recalling certain situations which occurred in the past and remembering details.
•|° They can be obnoxiously gossipy and cowardly passive-aggressive when they're envious of you or intimidated by your assertiveness.
•|° Many of them are comfortable with sticking to tried-and-true methods or making decisions based on whatever has worked previously instead of taking risks to achieve efficiency.
✅ What I'd usually do as an INTJ when I care about some ISFJs or regard them as potential friends instead of mere strangers: 
1] Instantly defend them when some individuals are irrationally criticizing them or inventing lame jokes at their expense. 
2] Lovingly mention their names in my Du'as, whether or not I let them know that I supplicate for their well-being often. 
3] Return their favors or reciprocate their acts of kindness as early as possible if I have the means to do so.
4] Ask for their advice or feedback when necessary. 
5] Prolong conversations with them online and offline, and sometimes inquire them about themselves to gradually become more acquainted rather than perceiving them according to my own assumptions.
6] Occasionally support their halal businesses or hobby if they have one. 
7] Directly approach them and advise them gently if I noticed they committed an error, instead of allowing them to sabotage themselves through ignorance or continuity of carrying out the same mistakes. 
~•~
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 
💎 To discover what your MBTI type is, you're welcome to take these tests:

Sunday, June 25, 2023

Links: PDF Document On The Salafi Salafee Methodology



📂 Islamic PDF document on "brief explanation regarding the Salafi / Salafee Methodology" (some info about the correct 'Aqeedah belief in accordance with the Noble Qur'an and the Sunnah of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) booklet prepared by brother in Islam Imaam Muhammad ibn Naasirud-Deen Al-Albaanee. May Allah the Most Merciful have mercy on him, accept his good deeds and make him among the people of Jannatul Ferdaus with Allah's Mercy. Ameen. 
(as sadaqa jaariyah, not for sale):

Saturday, June 24, 2023

Tips: Seven Questions You Can Ask Yourself To Check If Someone's Too Toxic

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Seven questions to ask yourself to determine if a person is too toxic for you and they are not worthy of being regarded as a good friend - if you answer yes to at least four of these, then it is better to avoid socializing with them for Allah's sake as much as possible: 
1] Do you feel so much better and more relaxed when they're absent from work/school or when you haven't seen them for several days because their presence mostly generates very negative energy? 
2] After talking to them online and offline, do you usually sense some negative emotions as if you can tell they're deliberately doing whatever they can to make you feel "jealous", "demotivated" or "unsafe" in any way? 
3] Would you describe a lot of your conversations with them online and face to face as "unpleasantly awkward", "uninspiring", "emotionally draining" "artificial" or "obviously fake"?
4] Is it true that one of the aspects which you intensely despise about them is their awful tendency to start gossip or spread rumors? Or did it ever occur to you that they cowardly backbite about you with other gossipmongers when you're not around? 
5] Are they one of those users on social media whose posts you have unapologetically "unfollowed" or you were never interested in sending them a "friend request" or "add to contacts" since you know for sure that their status updates and content which they frequently share oppose your values? 
6] Would you legitimately describe them as "narcissistic", "selfish", "self-entitled", "unrelatable", "unreliable", "passive-aggressive" or "unsupportive"? Refrain from associating yourself with anybody who can't motivate you to attain your goals. 
7] Can you accurately state that you haven't learned a single valuable lesson from them and they are incapable of teaching you anything meaningful? 
It is wiser to go solo at times for Allah's sake than to waste time with someone who acts as an obstacle distracting you from your aims or they're a dangerous invitation to trying out avoidable drama and mistakes.
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell (pleasant scent). As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Ibn Hibban reported: Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "A righteous companion is better than solitude, and solitude is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."
Source: Rawḍat Al-‘Uqalā’ 56

Sunday, June 18, 2023

Note: Reminder To Say Lots Of Dhikr & Du'a During The First Days Of Dhul-Hijjah & To Fast Sunnah Fasting On Yawm 'Arafah


🌺 Allahu Akbar. Allahu Akbar. Allahu Akbar. 
Laa ilaaha ilAllah. 
Allahu Akbar. Allahu Akbar. 
Wa LillaahilHamd.
( say lots of Dhikr and Du'a as many times as you can during these special days of Dhul-Hijjah )

📑 Reminding those not performing Hajj this year to fast Sunnah fasting on Yawm 'Arafah 
Inn-sha-Allah on the day before Eid Al-Adha.

✓1st Dhul-Hijjah 1444H 🔹Monday June 19, 2023
~•~
2nd Dhul-Hijjah 1444H Tuesday June 20, 2023
~•~
3rd Dhul-Hijjah 1444H Wednesday June 21, 2023
~•~
✓4th Dhul-Hijjah 1444H 🔹Thursday June 22, 2023
~•~
5th Dhul-Hijjah 1444H Jumuah Friday June 23, 2023
~•~
6th Dhul-Hijjah 1444H Saturday June 24, 2023
~•~
7th Dhul-Hijjah 1444H Sunday June 25, 2023
~•~
✓8th Dhul-Hijjah 1444H 
🔹Monday June 26, 2023
~•~
√ 9th Dhul-Hijjah 1444H 
Tuesday June 27, 2023
💎(Yawm 'Arafah) √
~•~
10th Dhul-Hijjah 1444H Wednesday June 28, 2023
🌻 ('Eid Al-Adha)
~•~

11th, 12th and 13th of Dhul-Hijjah, Thursday June 29 and 30 Jumuah Friday, and Saturday July 1 (say lots of Du'a and Adhkaar on the days of Tashreeq especially "Laa ilaaha ilAllah Wahdahu Laa shareeka Lah, Lahul Mulk, wa Lahul Hamd, wa Huwa 'alaa kulli shay-in Qadeer" as many times as you can)

📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was asked about fasting the day of Arafat (Yawm 'Arafah) and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It will expiate the sins of the previous and upcoming year." Then, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was asked about fasting the day of Ashura (10th of Muharram) and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It will expiate the sins of the past year."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1162
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

Saturday, June 17, 2023

Poem: Dear Husband, Don't Get Tired Of Trying Your Best To Take Care Of Your Family For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Some words of encouragement to each Muslim husband, 
Whether he works abroad to obtain halal income 
Or the kind of profession he has prevents him from 
Properly relaxing or seeing his fam often, 
And whether he has one child, none or many children: 
~•~ 
Deeds you do for Allah aren't wasted. Keep striving. 
For each nap you sacrifice, moments when you're working, 
And for each tear that drops when loved ones aren't watching, 
With Allah's Will you earn rewards. Strive and stay patient. 
Allah loves those who try to pass His tests with patience. 
~•~
While Sabr isn't simple, not sweet for everyone, 
And by those weak in faith it's not readily welcome, 
Steadfastness and facing Allah's Plans with contentment 
Can bring pleasant outcomes as one's Imaan gets strengthened. 
Efforts to please Allah lead to joy everlasting.
~•~ 
Recall that life's a test. View marriage as a blessing.
Remind yourself there's no human without a problem. 
Imagine the route to Jannah as a high mountain 
Whose peak can't be reached if you lack strength and resilience.
Climbing becomes tiring if you can't maintain patience.
~•~
Thank Allah that He blessed you with an occupation, 
With guidance to the truth Islam and comprehension 
Of how the problems in this world aren't permanent. 
Allah's Prophets also ('alaihim as-salaam) had their own predicaments. 
Earth is for testing. In Jannah is true enjoyment.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, not even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318
Sahih Muslim 2573
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The most privileged people in the world among the people of the Hellfire will come on the Day of Resurrection to be dipped in the Hellfire, then it will be said: 'O son of Adam, did you see any good? Did you get any blessing?' He will say: 'No, by Allah, my Lord!' Then the most miserable people in the world among the people of Paradise will come on the Day of Resurrection to be dipped in Paradise, then it will be said: 'O son of Adam, did you see any hardship? Did you have any distress?' He will say: 'No, by Allah, my Lord! I did not once see hardship or distress.'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2807
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
📖 Abdullah Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader of the people is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects. A man is the guardian of his family and he is responsible for them. A woman is the guardian of her husband's home and his children, and she is responsible for them. The servant of a man is a guardian of the property of his master and he is responsible for it. No doubt, every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6719
Sahih Muslim 1829
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162
Grade: Sahih 

Wednesday, June 14, 2023

Note: Five Reasons Why Maintaining Friendship As Adults Can Be Tough At Times

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📝 Five reasons why maintaining friendship as adults can be challenging at times, why some adult friendships gradually dissipate: 
1] Very obvious differences in goals, interests and priorities. 
✅ For example: A woman whose husband works abroad is more likely to connect well with other wives who don't always get to see their husbands or who are similarly okay with polygyny, while she'd keep her distance from those whose presence could threaten her contentment with her marriage life whether directly or indirectly. 
2] Busyness with work and multiple projects or conflict in their schedules regarding available timings for chatting and meeting up etc. 
3] Each of them is also busy with trying her best to care for her husband, parents, child/children and families. 
4] If they are all introverts, they're probably waiting for each other or somebody to make the first move in organizing a meaningful gathering and sending out invitations.
5] They could all be equally struggling financially, so attempting to be the host of a memorable event or conducting a group outing may not be something they'd readily do on a regular basis if they're currently on a tight budget. 
✨ If you want a connection to last longer Inn-sha-Allah for Allah's sake: 
1. The intention and purpose of two friends connecting should be purely for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, not for selfish gain. 
2. Both friends must be extremely forgiving, understanding, caring, supportive and patient for Allah's sake with one another, regardless of how often they communicate face to face. 
3. None of them should be insecure and guilty of envy. Jealousy is a common reason why many potential friends drift away.
~•~ 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638 
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is a mirror to his faithful brother. He protects him against loss and defends him behind his back." 
Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, 'The believer is a mirror to his brother. If he sees something wrong in him, he should correct it.' 
Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 239 
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Ibn Hibban reported: Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "A righteous companion is better than solitude, and solitude is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."
Source: Rawḍat Al-‘Uqalā’ 56

Tuesday, June 13, 2023

Poem: Shame On You If You Guess I Get Jealous When I Don't

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Shame on them - those females older than thirty years old 
Who have a bad habit of acting morally low, 
Often maltreating those upon whom Allah bestows 
Gifts and blessings which they lack, while they haven't yet grown 
Out of their urge to bully like naughty ten-year-olds.
~•~
Shame on you, if you claim to be a "friend", while it's known 
That your envy entices you to diss to and fro 
All those who show they're "better" and disturb your ego. 
Real friends encourage each other and provide support, 
Not spoil others' joy because they themselves are not whole.
~•~
Shame on me if I doubt Allah's Wisdom, but I don't, 
If I question Allah's Way of designing this world
And His Choice to distribute certain favors untold. 
I don't doubt Allah's Justice; with certainty I know 
That some tests come in the form of scarcity or gold.
~•~
Shame on so-called "adults" who sometimes try to provoke
You to misbehave or feel upset through their foul words 
Or through revolting acts. They're so jealous that it hurts 
To see you surpassing them and improving yourself.
So they resort to gossip to tone down feeling worse.
~•~
Acting on jealousy is something true Muslims won't
Do, especially if our faith Imaan remains strong 
While we believe that Allah the Most Wise always knows 
Who from His slaves can benefit from what He bestows 
And who are better off not having what others own.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look to those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125 
Sahih Muslim 2963
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Envy consumes good deeds just as fire burns wood. Charity (Sadaqah) extinguishes sinful deeds just as water extinguishes fire. Prayer is the light of the believer and fasting is his shield from the Hellfire."
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4210
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Ibn Asakir 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a (true) believing servant."
In another narration, the noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith (Imaan) are never combined in the heart of a (true Muslim) servant."
Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Friday, June 9, 2023

Links: PDF Document The Excellence Of Tawheed



📂 Islamic PDF document booklet "The Excellence of Tawheed
from the statements of Ibn Al-Qayyim" compiled by brother in Islam Abbas Abu Yahya. May Allah the Most Merciful have mercy on them, accept their good deeds and make them among the people of Jannatul Ferdaus with Allah's Mercy. Ameen. 
(as sadaqa jaariyah, not for sale):

Thursday, June 8, 2023

Note: Five Tough Wives I'm Acquainted With And Some Reasons Why Some Muslimahs Are Okay With Polygyny

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Question: Are you personally acquainted with any Muslimah who is a loyal wife in a polygynous marriage? What do you think is the reason behind her admirable patience in being okay with her husband remarrying?
📝 Answer: Alhamdulillah, yes, and I'm one of those contented wives who has no problem at all with polygyny. Some of the wives who are in a polygynous marriage (MashaAllah) and I've spoken to them face to face often: 
1. One of my paternal cousins (of Maranao tribe). Allah the Almighty has blessed her at the moment with five or six children (?) and they're actually good friends with their older half-siblings. 
2. One of the supportive moms here at Wisdom Islamic School (also of Maranao tribe). She's blessed as well by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala with five children if I'm not mistaken. 
3. A Muslim revert who has stayed in Saudi Arabia for several years with her husband and many kids. I admire how she's capable of remaining amazingly patient with her husband loving his other legal wives while she manages her own halal businesses. 
4. Another Muslimah revert who's blessed by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala with three sons for now (I ask Allah the Most Loving to also grant her some cute daughters in the future. Ameen.). 
5. One of my childhood friends (half-Maranao half-Maguindanaon or Iranun if I'm not mistaken) whom I grew up with in eastern Saudi Arabia (Ad-Dammam and Al-Khobar). Allah the Most Kind has blessed her with five adorable girls while her co-wife (balik Islam / Muslim revert) also has three daughters. May Allah the Most Merciful bless them with at least one son at the most ideal timing. Ameen.

Why did I specify the tribes of some of those wives? Because polygyny is not common yet among Maranaos and other Filipino tribes. In fact, polygyny is a challenge which is difficult to accept by the majority of females worldwide due to most women being influenced by fluctuating emotions most of the time. 

The more a Muslimah trusts Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and believes in Allah's Justice while she is more inclined to make logical decisions instead of being consistently controlled by unreliable feelings, the easier it is for her, with Allah's Will, to maintain patience as a tough co-wife regardless of her ranking - whether she's the first wife, second, third or fourth.

✅ Some probable reasons why strong wives like these do not oppose what Allah the Most Wise has legislated and made permissible for Muslim men who are financially capable and strive to be responsible:
1. They're blessed by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala with wisdom and ability to understand the countless virtues of polygyny (ta'addud). 
2. They truly love their husband for Allah's sake since their love outweighs selfish ego and impatience. 
3. They don't want their child/children to be far away from their father nor struggle to make a choice between residing with their mom or dad. 
4. They want their status, station or level in Jannah Paradise to be elevated through patiently accepting more of Allah's Qadr/Decree in legislating Muslim men to be wed to at least four wives.
5. They're eager to observe an increase in the size of their Muslim family for Allah's sake and want their child/children to have half-siblings from the other wives/wife.
6. They wish their household to become more diverse by allowing the husband to be lawfully wed to other women of different tribes or nationalities. Polygyny being widespread in Muslim communities promotes harmony, peace and unity among various ethnic groups. Why would a Caucasian Muslim kid be discriminatory or display prejudice against people of color while he's good friends with his half-brothers and half-sisters who don't have the same skin tone? Why would a Tausug Muslim prevent his sister from marrying a new Muslim while their mother was a happy co-wife of three Muslimah reverts? Why would a father of Kagan tribe reject a Maranao's marriage proposal to his willing daughter while he was a younger half-sibling of Maranao half-sisters who cared for him by financing his education like he was their very own brother?
7. They know with absolute certainty that this dunya is temporary while actual and everlasting joy can be fully enjoyed in Jannah Paradise.
8. It could be that a wife who is fine with her husband remarrying wishes to have a female confidant as she doesn't have a sister or close friend, so she hopes to develop a sisterly connection with her co-wives, with Allah's Will, if her husband's other wives show willingness in connecting likewise.
9. They'd rather stay married and be rewarded by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for their steadfast patience/Sabr than to be divorced and having "entertained" shaytan who loves it whenever Muslims disunite.
~•~
📖 Ibn Hibbaan narrated that Abu Hurairah RadhiAllahu 'anhu said that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "If a woman prays her five daily prayers, fasts her month (Ramadan), guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: ‘Enter Paradise from whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.’"
Classed as Sahih by Al-Albaani in Saheeh Al-Jaami’ no. 660 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Tirmidhi 
Ali Al-Qari said, “That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala).”
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātīḥ 5/2125
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

Sunday, June 4, 2023

Tips: Advice From An INTJ On How To Deal With Grownup Bullies Eager To Make You Feel "Left Out"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ-A personality type, how would you deal with a group of acquaintances or colleagues who frequently do whatever they can to make you feel "isolated" or "left out"?
📝 Answer: Allahu A'lam. I would: 
1] Firstly analyze their actual motives and try to understand the probable reasons behind their strange acts. Are they trying to make me feel "lonely" because once upon a time, in the past, they were the ones who got hurt when I couldn't invite them to several outings or gatherings, and now they're acting cowardly passive-aggressive to get back at me for offending them unintentionally? Or are they just being themselves and have no clue that I'm willing to participate in their discussions and they'd likely welcome me if I show genuine interest in participating? 
If they're a bunch of jealous girls or strangers attempting to demotivate me through being obnoxious, why would any decent person with the slightest amount of self-respect wish to associate with such types of insecure individuals? And if they are unaware that I'm readily available to converse with them, I could make the first move if none of them can be described as "toxic", "selfish", "narcissistic", "envious" and "inauthentic".
2] Remember the special few souls whom Allah the Almighty decreed that I'd peacefully connect with and sincerely love for His sake, also appreciating the memorable moments I've had with them - including my dear parents, husband, child/children and siblings.
3] Avoid stalking the social media posts and accounts of all those individuals acting irrationally aloof and unfriendly. Whether they gravitate to me or not, what truly matters is that I'm hopefully one of those steadfast believers whom Allah the Most Loving loves while I strive to maintain polite manners with everybody as much as possible, avoiding oppression and injustice, since I know for sure that I am not an unhappy oversized bully who's desperate to distress others to dispel one's insecurities and despondency.
4] Thank Allah the Most Wise that He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala didn't make me as miserable as those grown-up yet immature bullies are. One would have to be extremely sorrowful, consistently despising oneself and so unsatisfied with one's lack of inner beauty, that they'd go to extremes to upset those whom they undeniably envy in order to alleviate their sadness triggered by being morally incompetent and ignorant.
5] Remind myself of any generous deed which some of those individuals previously did or recall some of their commendable qualities to lessen the probability of developing unjustified negative emotions against other Muslims who have the same enemy as I do - namely shaytan who gets entertained seeing Muslim communities dispute and Muslim females oppressing other Muslimahs due to despicable envy, an ugly sentiment which the abominable devil himself failed to suppress regarding the Prophet Adam 'alaihis salaam.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The Mufarridun (those who like to isolate themselves) have gone ahead (in gaining rewards)." He was asked, "Who are the Mufarridun?" He SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "Those men and women who remember Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) much."
[Sahih Muslim]
Arabic/English book reference: Book 16, Hadith 1436 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are troops collected together. They come close upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Friday, June 2, 2023

Poem: What To Expect When Many Insecure Females Envy You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

✅  Some things to expect when lots of females envy you, 
As you're skilled at doing worthwhile tasks which they can't do, 
Because you're prettier than them while they're insecure, 
Or you're married and they're single, or you're a wife who 
Is fine with her spouse staying wed to four, three or two, 
~•~
Or your strong faith and trust in Allah causes them to 
Feel somewhat "inferior" so they strive to malign you, 
Unaware that Allah is the One Who granted you 
Those gifts as tests and to examine their Imaan too - 
They're not doing well if they remain jealous of you...
~•~
Here's what to expect when many females envy you: 
Jealous females treating you in a way that is rude, 
Inventing rumors about you, trying to exclude
You from their outings so their self-hatred gets reduced, 
They wish to see you sad so their hurt ego is soothed.
~•~
Expect envious females with low confidence to 
Frequently ignore your salaams, stubbornly refuse 
To show kindness to one whose good qualities seduce
Them to feeling as though they're more useless than proud mules, 
And make you feel "unseen", evincing ingratitude.
~•~
Expect loads of eye-rolling from souls who envy you, 
Spiteful giggles and ridicule from the insecure, 
Exclusion from gatherings often done by those who 
Find your inner beauty threatening so they're forced to 
Mistreat you since your self-esteem makes them insecure.
~•~
When treated with disrespect from those who envy you, 
Don't doubt your self-worth. Instead, have patience, gratitude
And contentment with the blessings which Allah gave you. 
Be contented we're not like them - disturbed, insecure
And ugly on the inside with manners immature.
~•~
They're unhappy really, emotionally abused 
By their own jealousy and sins in oppressing you. 
Await Allah's Justice. Know that Judgment Day is true. 
And believe, with certainty, acknowledge that for sure 
Most people won't envy one who's idle, plain and poor.
~•~
📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: I was riding behind the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam when he said to me, "Young man, I will teach you some words. Be mindful of Allah and He (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will protect you. Be mindful of Allah and you will find Him (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) before you. If you ask, ask from Allah. If you seek help, seek help from Allah. Know that if the nations were to gather together to benefit you, they will not benefit you unless Allah has decreed it for you. And if the nations gathered together to harm you, they will not harm you unless Allah has decreed it for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2516
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala), and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Thursday, June 1, 2023

Note: How Some INTJs Would Deal With A Frequent Liar Or Scammer

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: As a Muslimah whose MBTI personality type is INTJ, how would you deal with an acquaintance who has lied to you numerous times, particularly when it comes to business and some amateur sellers are so unreliable or irrational with the pricing of their products?
📝 Answer: Allahu A'lam. If I made a clear agreement with an acquaintance regarding buying some of her products at an agreed-upon price then on the day when they're about to dispatch the items they suddenly increased the price, specifically if the last-minute increase has nothing to do with delivery, I would: 
1] Unapologetically cancel the order just as they decided to alter an aspect of their dealing.
2] Still maintain proper manners with the seller but only this time become more visibly distant and uninterested in developing any deep connection with them, since they've already shown their true colors and idiotically confirmed they shouldn't be trusted at all.
3] Avoid entrusting them with my personal belongings and secrets as well as properties of loved ones. 
4] Patiently understand that since they're frequent liars, they can never be trusted in the future, so almost all of their claims and opinions would be taken with a grain of salt. I won't take their statements about themselves and others seriously because one can't be entirely certain if they are being truthful or foolishly inventing additional lies to pacify their jealous ego or alleviate their insecurities. So if they make up something like "our wedding took place in Shangri-La while we both said the Shahaada in Sri Lanka" I'd think to myself "yeah, whatever, act all you want - I don't believe you, clown."
5] Gladly avoid stalking their social media accounts and pages, and not bother endorsing their amateurish business to anyone. Why support liars and scammers if you're somebody who, for Allah's sake, values loyalty and integrity?
~•~
📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) as a truthful person. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5743 
Sahih Muslim 2607
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Khuzaymah Ibn Thabit RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of the supplication of the oppressed, for it is carried above the clouds. Allah the Almighty says: 'By My Might and Majesty, I will help you in due time.'"
Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 3630
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abdullah Ibn 'Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There are four signs that make someone a pure hypocrite and whoever has them has a characteristic of hypocrisy until he abandons it: When he speaks, he lies; when he makes a covenant, he is treacherous; when he makes a promise, he breaks it; and when he argues, he is wicked."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 34, Sahih Muslim 58
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever has three traits is a hypocrite, even if he fasts, prays, goes to Hajj and Umrah, and claims to be a Muslim. When he speaks, he lies. When he promises, he breaks it. When he is trusted, he betrays it."
Source: Musnad Abī Ya’lá 4039
Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung from the same hole twice."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782
Sahih Muslim 2998
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim