Note: The Choosiness Of Most INTJs When It Comes To Selecting Their Close Friends And Their Compatibility With Other MBTI Personality Types

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Why are most INTJ personality types very selective when it comes to choosing their close friends? 

1] Since INTJs are goal-oriented and enjoy solitude, they don't want unnecessary noise and incompatible outsiders getting in the way of their goals, research, and tasks to be accomplished. 

2] To them, it is pointless and actually hypocritical to pretend to be buddies with individuals whose values and interests clash with theirs. 

3] They don't want to waste time with lousy people who are likely to cause further trouble, drama, confusion, problems, and difficulties which they generally try to avoid.

🔹 Three things if you have them could inspire an INTJ to consider building a friendship with you: 

1] Being active, ambitious, and sincere in doing Da'wah. Generously sharing authentic Islamic knowledge, confidently enjoining what is right, and forbidding what's wrong, all for Allah's sake whenever you can. 

2] Enjoying reading about Islam and having a special connection with books, writing, poetry, libraries, and bookstores. 

3] Offering helpful services and managing successful halal businesses to the Muslim communities, or showing genuine care for the Muslim Ummah as a whole. 

🔹 Seven acts which turn off many INTJs, if you're guilty of at least two of these, they may treat you as another stranger whom they're not interested in being acquainted with on a personal level: 

1] Finding enjoyment in discussing people's flaws, childishly backbiting, and spreading false rumors or unverified news. 

2] Having the guts to criticize Muslims behind their backs online and offline yet when they're around, you cowardly remain silent. 

3] Impatiently ranting about negative issues in your life without attempting to solve them nor considering the advice given by an INTJ friend. 

4] Obnoxiously judging people according to their lifestyles, shallow ways of living, and socioeconomic status, or being insecurely materialistic, selfish, and narcissistic. 

5] Not having sufficient self-control and polite manners. Being too reckless, rude, and toxic to talk to. 

6] Regularly telling lies, breaking promises without apologizing or compensating, and proving multiple times that you're untrustworthy and unreliable. 

7] Unfairly assuming you know what our intentions are, claiming that we're "showing off", or making instant guesses about what we'll say or do next, when Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala knows the future completely.

🔹 Which types from the 16 personality types are most likely to: 

✅ Understand, closely resemble, and have a lot of shared qualities with the INTJ, if their overall goals are the same: 

ENTJs, other INTJs, INFJs, INTPs, ISTJs. 

☑️ Patiently tolerate their weirdness, slightly relate to, or sympathize with INTJs: 

ENFJs, ENFPs, INFPs, ENTPs, ISTPs.

➡️ Become potential friends if both sides can find reasons to respect each other: 

ESTJs, ESFJs, ESTPs.

↙️ Notice many differences with INTJs which trigger conflict, misunderstandings, and incompatibility. Maintaining long conversations with them can be difficult, unless they're a family member then they're tolerable. We INTJs try to care for our loved ones regardless of their MBTI type, as much as possible: 

ESFPs, ISFJs, ISFPs.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

~•~

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/poem-whats-it-like-being-muslim-and-intj.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-friendship-with-intjs-what-are.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-how-most-intj-personality-types.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/tips-eleven-signs-indicating-intj-cares.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/tips-intj-acquaintance-vs-intj-friend.html 

~•~

https://repeller.com/myers-briggs-compatibility-for-friends/ 

https://www.quora.com/Why-are-INTJs-so-picky-about-people 

🔹 To discover what your MBTI type is, you're welcome to take these tests:

https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

https://www.truity.com/test/type-finder-personality-test-new

http://www.michaelcaloz.com/personality/ 

Note: My Brief Love Story And Why I Don't Feel Any Remose Loving My Husband For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Not everyone has the same love story. I remember my dear mom (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) telling me how my father (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.) used to make many attempts to court her, like the typical romantic Maranao guy with classic bell-bottoms back in the 80s, but she would reject every one of his efforts to gain her attention until he had the courage to speak to her family to officially seek her hand in marriage. Alhamdulillah my parents got married, visited several countries around the world including the US and UK, networked with Da'ees like Bilal Philips and AbdurRahman Dimashqiah, wrote several Islamic books together which were published by Darussalam Bookstores, and although their very first son passed away before I was born Alhamdulillah they did an excellent job at raising me and my brothers with a strict but worthwhile upbringing. Before my mom died from cancer she requested my dad to remarry so their kids can have a stepmother. My father however chose to have her as his only wife until after some months it was Allah's Qadr that my dad passed away following her. I believe his medical complications were also due to severe sadness from being a widower.

I pray that Allah the Most Merciful reunites my dear parents in Jannatul Ferdaus and accepts all their good deeds with Allah's Mercy. Ameen.

My husband's mother from what I know got married when she was around 14 or 15 years old. Alhamdulillah she and her husband, who happens to be my uncle (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.) since I married my cousin, were able to have twelve children together Alhamdulillah, with one baby boy that passed away before my husband was born. 

My brother Ahmad since he was a baby was engaged to get married in the future to his childhood friend whom we'll nickname "A". A's mother and my mother gave birth at almost the same time in 1988 Dammam (northeastern Saudi Arabia). Because they were close friends, they promised they would let their babies (boy and girl) get married when they become adults. However since Allah's Plans always overtake His servants', that plan didn't take place. Thus my brother Ahmad got married to our paternal cousin who's around three years older than him. Alhamdulillah they currently have five adorable kids, whereas A is married to a Saudi guy whom she met in Malaysia and has one beautiful half-Saudi half-Filipino daughter at the moment.

My brother AbdurRahman, with Allah's Will, was the one who got married to his childhood friend Eemaan. They were never close though as little kids, but our families regularly attended the same gatherings back in Riyadh city. I pray that Allah the Most Loving blesses them with many pious Muslim children. Ameen.

My love journey is a complicated one, but Alhamdulillah every struggle comes with a set of lessons learned from whatever we experience. In my teens I received several marriage proposals, one coming from a religious Pakistani guy, one from a Filipino Muslim who was employed in Madinah at that time, one from a Filipino residing in USA, and another from a childhood friend whose name is like one of my brothers Abdul-Rahman. I rejected them all, claiming this one was too baby-faced, that one was too shy, this one was younger than me and I preferred an older guy. After some time my mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) with her motherly instincts thought I was having a haraam connection with one of my former best friends, but that wasn't the case, we just enjoyed talking to each other on the phone a lot. Because she was worried I might turn into a "lesbian" (no, I'm not gay, queer, or bisexual), which is probably why in her opinion I kept saying no to the marriage proposals I was getting, she and my dad finally got me arranged to marry my first cousin, a medical doctor. So Alhamdulillah in Shawwal 2006 I got married at age 20 to my cousin who was 28 then. Since I grew up in Saudi Arabia while he was raised in Mindanao, we saw each other like complete strangers in the beginning and Alhamdulillah we learned more about love along the way. When I was around 26 years old I became his first wife when he married this Visayan lady who's one year older than me. Alhamdulillah through this marriage I became more enthusiastic and supportive of polygyny after doing extensive research on its virtues and benefits.

Another brief love story I want to mention is that of a childhood friend who divorced her husband after having one daughter with him. Several years later they remarried and Alhamdulillah they're able to have more children. Another older acquaintance, a mother of one of our students here at Wisdom Islamic School, also divorced her husband at one point but after a number of years went by, they remarried and had more kids with Allah's Will.

Never compare your love journey to others' marriage lives, as our Qadr, capabilities and roles are not exactly the same. What makes a marriage blessed isn't the couple's large number of children nor how much money the head of the family makes, but what really adds blessings and barakah to your marital life is genuine love for Allah's sake. A marriage is a blessing from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala if it protects both wife and husband from getting into zina / forbidden relationships, and if it trains you to embrace patience / Sabr and gratitude / Shukr thereby completing the other half of your Deen and leading you to Jannah Paradise where the sincere believers can enjoy perfect and flawless love for eternity.

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas’ud RadhiAllahu anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said, "O young men, if you are able to support a wife, then get married. Verily, it restrains the eyes and guards chastity. Whoever is not able to do so, he must fast (Sunnah fasts) as it is a means of control."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1806 

Sahih Muslim 1400

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-authentic-love-for-allahs-sake.html  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-five-signs-that-youre-tough-wife.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-if-you-have-good-intentions-you.html

Poem: Love Your Husband Patiently For Allah's Sake And Know That You Married A Human Just Like You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Note to self, and reminder to loyal, grateful wives: 

The man who was selected by Allah the Most Wise 

As your soulmate and travel buddy to Paradise 

Has feelings too. While at times he can laugh, joke and smile, 

Oftentimes there will be moments when he needs to cry.

~•~

Your husband, a human, may shed tears when he sometimes 

Feels stressed by countless trials and challenges in life, 

When guilt engulfs him for not fulfilling his wife's rights, 

When he can't always meet the needs of his children/child, 

Or when he solves problems only for more to arise. 

~•~

Don't view him as a knight in shining armor who likes 

Rescuing damsels in distress every day and night, 

Without support like he symbolizes "perfect might". 

Stand by his side or comfort him whenever he's tired, 

And keep calm when tiredness ignites the urge to start fights.

~•~

Due to stress, he may speak angrily once in a while, 

Answer your messages after some days have gone by, 

And respond to you in ways you're tempted to describe 

Him as "bad-tempered", "moody", "too bossy" or "unkind". 

You'd tolerate his flaws if your love isn't a lie.

~•~ 

Even well-designed robots require charging sometimes. 

Don't be surprised if your spouse isn't himself at times. 

Guys also have feelings. Let your partner verbalize 

And show you, his wife, precisely how he feels inside.

Patience is a must-have to ensure blessed marriage life.

~•~ 

Your husband isn't abusive if he was beguiled, 

Badly influenced or affected by evil eyes, 

Advised by toxic friends or relatives who dislike 

Seeing you two thriving towards Jannah with delight, 

Or sorcery was carried out by foes from outside. 

~•~

When it seems as though he's struggling with nosy spies 

Who command him to treat you in a way that's not right, 

Win this battle by not doing what shaytan desires, 

Lovingly pray for your husband every day and night, 

And don't let pride stop you both from earning Paradise.

~•~

📖 Narrated Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: On Eid-ul-Fitr or Eid-ul-Adha, Allah's Messenger SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam went out to the Musalla. After finishing the prayer, he delivered the sermon and ordered the people to give alms (charity). He said, "O people! Give alms." Then he went towards the women and said. "O women! Give alms, for I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-Fire were you (women)." The women asked, "O Allah's Messenger! What is the reason for it?" He replied, "O women! You curse frequently, and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. O women, some of you can lead a cautious wise man astray." Then he left. And when he reached his house, Zainab, the wife of Ibn Mas`ud, came and asked permission to enter It was said, "O Allah's Messenger! It is Zainab." He asked, 'Which Zainab?" The reply was that she was the wife of Ibn Mas'ud. He said, "Yes, allow her to enter." And she was admitted. Then she said, "O Prophet of Allah! Today you ordered people to give alms and I had an ornament and intended to give it as alms, but Ibn Mas`ud said that he and his children deserved it more than anybody else." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "Ibn Mas`ud had spoken the truth. Your husband and your children had more right to it than anybody else."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 1462

In-book reference: Book 24, Hadith 65

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 24, Hadith 541 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)".

[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]

Riyad As-Salihin 286

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-authentic-love-for-allahs-sake.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-be-strong-wife-and-love-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-five-signs-that-youre-tough-wife.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-some-tips-to-be-your-husbands.html 

Tips: Three Common Mistakes Which Some Insecure Wives Do Which We Must Avoid

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Three prideful or egoistic moves done by many insecure women which could lead to divorce, marital abuse, and preventable misunderstandings: 

1] Childishly playing hide and seek: When a wife tries to play hard to get, acts unavailable, and purposely ignores her husband's calls and messages to teach him a lesson for disappointing her until he tearfully begs for her attention and forgiveness. In a lot of cases, the more distant, arrogant, and obnoxiously stubborn a wife behaves, the more the husband loses respect for her so he considers divorcing or marrying again. 

2] Frequently testing her husband's worth and ability to sacrifice his pride for her, as if he's her compliant student who's obliged to pass each one of her tests without a single mistake: For instance, when a woman assigns some of her supposedly supportive friends to flirt with him so they can report to her if he's loyal or not, and when she persistently commands him to carry out challenging tasks while threatening him saying something like, "if you really love me, you'd buy this. If you truly care, you'd purchase it with no questions asked. Let's go to that country for a vacation, but only if you love me.". 

3] Insecurely comparing her unique marriage life to others' romantic journeys: The more a wife annoyingly whines to her husband with lousy complaints such as, "Why can't we be like them? They dine in classy buffet restaurants every Friday night.", "Darling, I wish you were as well-toned, muscular, and athletic as the husband of so-and-so. Ever considered weightlifting, jogging every morning, or working out in a gym at least twice a week?", and "Starting from now, whenever we attend social gatherings, can we wear the same color of outfits like those cute couples with matching clothes?". 

The man whom Allah the Almighty has wisely selected for you as your soulmate and traveling partner to Jannah Paradise is unlike the other men. Don't insult his manhood and self-esteem by incessantly ordering him to copy other guys. The sweetness of bananas and durian isn't the same as the juiciness of watermelon and papayas, just as calmly sitting on cold marble floors in a brightly lit room feels so different from picnicking on soft sand under cloudy skies whilst listening to tranquil ocean waves. 

Marriage is a gift, blessing, and trust from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala which must never be taken for granted. If a well-respected boss or instructor entrusted you with a journal in which you're expected to write some significant information until he gets it back, would you, with fierce loyalty and rewarding patience hold on to it till the item is returned to its original owner, or will you disrespectfully drop it, due to emotional instability, then later ask for a new notebook because you weren't creative, focused, or dedicated enough to try various solutions to fix whatever problems you encountered with the first one? If the journal begins attacking, verbally abusing, or anxiously running away from you, double-check yourself. Frankly self-evaluate to determine if you're the one who installed some strange equipments or did something totally unacceptable to it unknowingly, which activated the avoidable drama.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'" 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-what-happens-when-allah-most-wise.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-seven-reasons-why-divorce-is-more.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-demerits-of-divorce.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-why-i-despise-divorce-even-though.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-so-you-divorced-you-can-remarry.html 

Tips: More Notes Regarding Doing Good Deeds On Behalf Of Muslims Who Passed Away

Note: Three Reasons Why You Can't Trust Most People And They're Not Wise Enough To Keep Your Secrets

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Three common reasons why most people can't be trusted to keep your secrets, and they feel the need to reveal the sensitive information you shared with them to others: 

1] They assume they're being helpful or interesting by revealing what you told them. If they're in a social setting, informing a group about your secret may make the gathering more entertaining. 

E.g. "Did you know that her husband used to be a varsity cheerleader back in his college days? Plus he used to beatbox, breakdance, and play the guitar. It's cool that he's an Imaam now." 

2] They are actually a jealous fake friend or two-faced frenemy. They want your overall name and image spoiled to better cope with their jealousy, inferiority complex, and insecurities. 

E.g. "So-and-so confided in me the other night about how she truthfully feels about you. She only married you not for true love but because you're American. She wants your green card, sweetheart. Why not divorce her so I'll be your only wife whose love isn't made up at all?"

3] They feel so proud of being one of your close friends that by having your secrets revealed to certain individuals, the latter would admire or envy your association. 

E.g. "She finally confessed to me that for three years she had weird feelings of attraction for you, and her aloofness was her coping mechanism to suppress them. See? My dreams did have meaning, Titser." 

~•~ 

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: I was riding behind the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam when he said to me, "Young man, I will teach you some words. Be mindful of Allah and He will protect you. Be mindful of Allah and you will find Him before you. If you ask, ask from Allah. If you seek help, seek help from Allah. Know that if the nations were to gather together to benefit you, they will not benefit you unless Allah has decreed it for you. And if the nations gathered together to harm you, they will not harm you unless Allah has decreed it for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2516

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When Allah gathers together the earlier and later generations on the Day of Resurrection, He will raise a banner for every (betrayer) treacherous person. It will be announced that this is the treachery of this person, the son of this person."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5823

Sahih Muslim 1735

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-trust-allah-with-your-secrets-not.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/poem-be-patient-enough-to-keep-secrets.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-five-advantages-of-not-having-any.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-learn-to-keep-secrets.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-questions-to-ask-yourself-before.html 

Poem: On The Topic Of Sexual Orientation And Labelling One's Sexuality

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 As a Muslim who strives to serve Allah the Most Wise, 

I don't label myself "lez", "pansexual", or "bi". 

While I don't buy labels, I know and I can't deny 

The fact that life's a test and shaytan with all his might 

Will do his best to divert humans from Paradise. 

~•~ 

While I don't call myself "lez", "pansexual", or "bi", 

I know that shaytan can play with hearts and he can try 

To entice a striving Muslimah to theorize 

That she has fallen in "love" with someone's loyal wife, 

When shaytan loves it when people spoil each other's lives. 

~•~

While I'm not officially "lez", "pansexual", or "bi", 

I understand that our foe shaytan may oftentimes 

Push us to ask ourselves, "these feelings are real, but why?"

When fixation with similar souls can't be denied.

Needless talks are then shunned, so fitna is minimized.

~•~ 

Just because I'm not "lesbian", "pansexual", or "bi" 

Doesn't mean it's perfectly fine, as much as I like, 

To stare at other females, with or without desire. 

I shall control my gaze, and look only when required, 

Since shaytan has his ways to make unwanted sparks fly. 

~•~ 

Zina ain't limited to lust between girls and guys, 

But it can also occur when some ladies admire 

Each other too much as though their hearts were magnetized. 

Shield yourself with Taqwa. Talk to Allah day and night. 

Love Allah more than anyone, to win every fight. 

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has pardoned my nation for what occurs within themselves (indecent thoughts, imaginations, or feelings), as long as they do not speak of it or act upon it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6287 

Sahih Muslim 127

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, what I fear most for my nation is the deed of the people of Lut / Prophet Lot  'alaihis salaam (i.e. homosexuality, zina between same genders)."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1374

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man should not look at the nakedness (private parts) of another man, and a woman should not look at the nakedness (private parts) of another woman. A man should not lie with another man under a single blanket, and a woman should not lie with another woman under a single blanket."

Source: Sahih Muslim 338

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/lgbtq-homosexuality-gay-muslims-and-islam/ 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-advice-on-how-to-react-rightly.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/poem-know-your-fitrah-no-one-is-born-gay.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/poem-on-prohibition-of-homosexuality.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/tips-on-dealing-with-fitna-of-same-sex.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-beware-of-shaytans-plot-to-delude.html 

Poem: What Zuhd / Asceticism Really Means

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 What does it mean to have Zuhd / asceticism? 

Zuhd doesn't imply absolute abandonment 

Of the lawful joys in life nor complete abstinence 

From enjoying the blessings that Allah has given. 

Zuhd doesn't involve toxic self-deprivation. 

~•~ 

Zuhd isn't purposely depriving yourself from 

Doing what makes you happy which isn't forbidden, 

Having a good profession to earn halal income, 

And traveling around to see Allah's creation. 

It has nothing to do with conscious self-destruction. 

~•~ 

To have Zuhd is to survive as Allah's servant, 

To make use of the things Allah gave to worship Him, 

And enjoy some halal delights so with contentment 

We thank Allah more for each blessing and provision, 

Preferring Jannah, while knowing this world is fleeting. 

~•~

It means awareness that dunya isn't permanent, 

That Allah, not life, owns us, and no comparison 

Is there between Jannah's bliss and dunya's distractions, 

And when some call us "poor", we don't find it insulting, 

As we're enriched with Islam, Allah's Love and Guidance. 

~•~

While it's fine to chill and unwind every so often, 

Do charity, when there's chance, so your faith can strengthen

And your station in Paradise attains enhancement. 

Regardless of social class and accommodation, 

Pray that Jannatul Ferdaus is our destination.

~•~ 

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Take advantage of five before five: Your youth before your old age, your health before your illness, your riches before your poverty, your free time before your work, and your life before your death."

Source: Shu'ab Al-Imān 9575

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The most privileged people in the world among the people of the Hellfire will come on the Day of Resurrection to be dipped in the Hellfire, then it will be said: 'O son of Adam, did you see any good? Did you get any blessing?' He will say: 'No, by Allah, my Lord!' Then the most miserable people in the world among the people of Paradise will come on the Day of Resurrection to be dipped in Paradise, then it will be said: 'O son of Adam, did you see any hardship? Did you have any distress?' He will say: 'No, by Allah, my Lord! I did not once see hardship or distress.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2807

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/poem-be-well-prepared-for-meeting-with.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-be-contented-knowing-that-dunya-is.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-i-cant-get-jealous-for-worldly.html 

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Note: Nine Clear Signs That A Muslim Wife's Love For Her Husband Isn't A Lie

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Any female con artist and sex worker can claim that she loves a man or describe how much she enjoys frequent sexual intimacy with him when, in reality, she's only pretending to care as she selfishly wants his money and/or children. 

🔹 Nine clear signs that a Muslim wife truly loves her husband for Allah's sake, and her love isn't a lie:

1] She trusts him, or at least shows that she doesn't constantly suspect him. Just because he occasionally interacts with other females for necessity, particularly his female customers if he manages a store, female patients if he's a medical doctor, and female students if he teaches, doesn't mean he's guilty of adultery. 

2] She patiently accepts it when her husband is unable to provide sufficient money at times, especially whenever he is financially struggling. She didn't marry him for his wealth but she wants him to join her in a loving journey to Jannah Paradise. 

3] She tries her best to treat their children well, doing whatever she can to educate them about Islam and good manners. A woman who despises her husband may take out her frustration and anger on his kids once in a while, if he can't always meet her expectations. 

4] When her husband temporarily loses his job or he has tons of debts, a loyal wife goes out of her way to assist him, finding a decent profession for him, or kindly allowing him to spend from her salary if she is much wealthier than he is. 

5] She's capable of practicing unlimited empathy with him, understanding why and when to give some space when he requires to chill with his male friends and colleagues, while avoiding unnecessarily whining about his delayed replies to her messages, indifference to her missed calls, or certain personality disorders which he may be struggling with momentarily. 

6] She lovingly makes effort to harmoniously get along with his parents, siblings, relatives, and other wife/wives if she's in a polygynous marriage. 

7] She has enough patience and bravery for Allah's sake to allow her husband to remarry. She doesn't oppose his right to be married to up to four wives, as she understands that Allah the Almighty legislated this with infinite wisdom. She'd rather be a co-wife than have him disappear from her life. 

8] When eating and drinking, she enjoys taking bites or sips from where her husband ate and drank from, as though she savors receiving his kisses indirectly. 

9] Numerous times she has dedicatedly written love poems or letters to him. A woman who has zero interest in a guy would never bother writing for him a lengthy message.

~•~

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-love-for-allahs-sake-and-marriage.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-be-strong-wife-and-love-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-how-i-prove-my-love-to-my-husband.html 

Tips: What You Can Do To Manage Some People's Disrespect

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📜 Question: What can I do to cope with some people's disrespect? Even if I am nice to them, complete my tasks, or I've done nothing wrong to them on purpose, my boss and coworkers treat me disrespectfully. 

📝 Understand that even the best of all human beings, namely the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, encountered moments when he was treated unfairly and disrespectfully. Recall that time when he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam went to Taif with Zaid bin Haritha RadhiAllahu 'anhu where they initially didn't receive a warm welcome, and when some leaders of Quraish disrespected the noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam while he was praying towards the Qiblah and his daughter Fatima RadhiAllahu 'anha did what she could to assist her kindhearted father. 

No matter how kind, seemingly successful, cooperative, educated, charismatic, righteous, or good-looking you are, wherever you go on earth, a temporary platform of tests, occasionally you may encounter some awfully rude and uncivilized people. 

🔹 There are three possible reasons why somebody, whether stranger or from your family, would treat you with disrespect: 

1➡️ They're jealous of you. 

Seeing you display traits, qualities, and achievements which they're currently lacking could explain their desperate longing to make you feel miserable. 

A ) If you regularly receive unfair and awful treatment from an immature woman, she's probably envious of your inner beauty and/or the fact that you're contentedly married to a doctor while the unproductive guy whom she ended up with is jobless, uneducated, or not as attractive as your spouse. 

B ) If your employer or any older individual, who claims to be an adult, consistently treats you with disrespect, it's likely because you in your twenties remind them of their failures, depressing life experiences, or insecurities they've had when they were around your age. 

C ) If the disrespectful individuals are much younger than you, their obnoxious behavior could signify they jealously resent how your parents did a better job than theirs in terms of educating and responsibly taking care of you, or they envy your pleasant looks and/or your overall lifestyle. 

2➡️ They're sad, emotionally unwell, or insecure. 

A lot of bullies resort to bullying when they themselves are being oppressed in their unhappy homes. So they're prompted to transfer their sorrows unto others through behaving disrespectfully. 

3➡️ They're sent as brief tests from Allah the Almighty to purify you from sins you previously did, train your patience, and inspire you to stay grateful that you don't resemble them in their immaturity and absurd attitude. 

Even if you decided to move out to another workplace, you may still come across a number of troublemakers and toxic colleagues. You can either learn to solve a Rubik's cube in a hall which you've selected, choose a different office where several jigsaw puzzles must be solved within a fixed time limit, or try a new venue where you'll be given multiple-choice questions to answer every minute. Wherever you go in this planet of imperfections, you can't completely avoid people who go out of their way to disturb you because not everybody is as blessed as you in having strong faith/Imaan and a beautiful heart/soul. Alhamdulillah always.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of righteousness), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-please-only-allah.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-ways-to-react-to-peoples-rudeness.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-dont-allow-some-peoples-envy-and.html 

🗒️ Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.

Note: How Most INTJ Personality Types Deal With Making Friends And Maintaining Friendships

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Some facts about most INTJ personality types regarding making friends and maintaining friendships: 

1] Since INTJ Muslims are introverted, they welcome solitude, and would rather spend quality time with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala than attempt to build a shallow link with a person who's clearly incompatible in many ways. 

2] Generally a typical INTJ doesn't feel "lonely", specially if they're aware that those who surround them at work, school, or home are too different from them in terms of values, goals, likes, dislikes, and overall temperament. 

3] INTJs intensely abhor lies, inaccuracies, false rumors, deceitfulness, and gossiping. A quick way to successfully turn off INTJs and inspire them to lose interest in wanting to befriend you is by criticizing other people behind their backs, backbiting, or basically proving you're morally obnoxious. If you can afford to backbite about another Muslim in my presence, I wouldn't be flabbergasted if you did the same when I'm not around. 

4] INTJs value seeking knowledge, striving to apply what they've learned, and enjoy meaningful discussions from which they can learn something valuable, useful, and productive. If you're somebody who despises learning and have nothing significant to teach us, a lot of INTJs may find you uninteresting, even if you likewise perceive us as boring "intellectuals" or "nerds".

5] A lot of INTJs have a preference for writing and sharing some of their thoughts or ideas through text than expressing themselves verbally. Don't be surprised if you notice that an INTJ seems brief when you're talking to them face to face, while they're not as verbose or talkative as they are when they communicate online. 

6] You know that an INTJ regards you as a friend if: At least three times they made sincere effort to send you a message or visit you, asked you for some advice because they respect your frank opinion, or showed you their vulnerable side, feeling comfortable enough to shed tears in front of you. 

7] INTJs find more enjoyment in discussing about the future than the past, more about theories than people's personal issues, and researching solutions rather than ranting. When attending a gathering or conference where most people are blabbering about irrelevant topics, an INTJ mostly remains silent yet observant, and may speak out only if they care enough to correct someone's misinformation. 

8] INTJs are low-maintenance friends who don't obligate their loved ones to reach out 24/7. So if you're a cousin or childhood friend, Alhamdulillah we're still on good terms, meaning I don't hold any grudge against you despite the fact that we haven't spoken to each other for several months or years.

9] INTJs are not clingy. We understand that we can't compel anybody to stay in our circle if they decide to leave anytime for whatever reason. Thus having ex-friends or temporary connections is something we're already used to, and we're not the kind of person who cries over a toxic bond, irrevocable mistake, or failed experiment. If an INTJ can't solve or tolerate a particular problem, we gladly move on, uninterested in looking back on what Allah the Most Wise didn't destine. 

~•~ 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 

By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-friendship-with-intjs-what-are.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/tips-eleven-signs-indicating-intj-cares.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-whats-it-like-to-be-intj.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/tips-intj-acquaintance-vs-intj-friend.html 

https://www.crystalknows.com/personality-type/intj 

Poem: Minimize Or Avoid Stress By Doing Every Task For Allah's Sake Only

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Don't be too selfish that when you're stressed you quickly guess 

Or assume you're the only one whose life is a mess. 

There are thousands of other humans who go through tests, 

And, like you, undergo moments when they get upset, 

Anxious, tired, confused, and occasionally depressed. 

~•~

When tons of tasks and documents make you exhausted, 

When you wonder if ever you can settle your debts, 

Or fret over how you'll achieve your goals and projects, 

That other souls worldwide also struggle don't forget. 

You're not the only one on earth who encounters stress. 

~•~

All these and others are familiar with feeling stressed: 

Police officers, security guards, pharmacists, 

Teachers, school managers, administrators, nurses, 

Doctors, surgeons, construction workers, retailers, chefs, 

Students, parents, janitors, drivers, and journalists.

~•~ 

Lessen stress or avoid it with positive mindset. 

Tell yourself often, while trusting Allah, this message: 

"With this job I intend to please Allah, pass His tests, 

And earn halal income so my basic needs are met, 

To support my fam, and assist the less fortunate. 

~•~ 

To serve Allah first and foremost I shall do my best, 

Ensuring that my prayers are never neglected. 

So I don't tag myself as 'stressed out' but passionate 

And dedicated, I always have my niyyah fixed 

To strive just for Allah and gain Jannah's endless rest."

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318 

Sahih Muslim 2573

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of piety), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

Poem: Some Things You Can Do To Manage Stress As A Muslim

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Thirteen things you can do to cope with stress, as Muslims, 

When duties accumulate and chores become tiring, 

Or when loved ones' problems increase your complications, 

So rather than giving up, you choose to keep going, 

Striving in dunya for Allah until you meet Him: 

~•~

One: Pray on time, so your heart doesn't feel it's missing 

Something. Hearts can't relax if they're stained with guilt and sins. 

Two: Say lots of Adhkaar, in the daytime and evening. 

Say Dhikr in your free time, while working and waiting, 

And let Istighfaar fill up your record of actions.

~•~

Three: Instead of talking to friends prone to gossiping, 

Supplicate to Allah Who sees your situation. 

Four: Frequently read the Qur'an with deep reflection. 

Check the Tafseer to understand the verses' meanings. 

There's special healing when you read the Qur'an often.

~•~

Five: Reflect on the good times, recall Allah's blessings, 

And remember Allah loves Muslims who stay patient. 

Six: Take up lawful hobbies, such as cooking, writing, 

Calligraphy, drawing or sketching non-living things, 

Learning a foreign language, carpentry, and crafting.

~•~

Seven: Seek Islamic knowledge so your faith strengthens. 

Attend Islamic classes, or to lectures listen. 

Eight: Shun music. Keep calm with Qur'an recitations. 

Nine: Take midday naps while hearing Qur'an recordings, 

Or lie in bed and say Dhikr until you're sleeping.

~•~

Ten: Practice positive self-talk, self-affirmation, 

And study articles that boost healthy confidence. 

Eleven: Go out more to view Allah's creation.

Admire how Allah designed nature, trees and oceans. 

Or watch documentaries of Allah's inventions.

~•~

Twelve: Appreciate the senses Allah has given 

In halal ways, like caress furry cats and kittens, 

Gaze at cloudy skies, or take good care of some children.

Thirteen: Be content knowing life is not permanent, 

And pray Jannatul Ferdaus is our destination.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318 

Sahih Muslim 2573

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of righteousness), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Note: You Have Every Right To Avoid Things And People Who Make You Feel Bad About The Blessings That Allah Gave You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Imagine an examination hall where students of all grades are seated to answer different sheets of exam depending on their level and competency. If they were given one hour to complete the test, do you think those students who wistfully stare at others' exams can pass theirs well if they utilize their time wanting someone else's papers or fantasizing how nice it would be if they sat closer to the door for a quicker exit, instead of focusing on answering the questions which were allotted to them? No. Similarly, if a contestant in an automobile race kept wishing they had the car of so-and-so, or if an athlete's running speed was decelerated because they were distracted by the well-toned muscles of other runners, is there a guarantee that they'd reach at least the top three rankings? Probably not.

Insecurely keeping a close on eye on other people's lives, while forgetting about improving your own life, is one of the shortcuts to depressed moods or feeling unsatisfied with what Allah the Most Wise chose to give you as a test. You could be enjoying a nice mug of coffee and tuna sandwich until you come across videos on YouTube showcasing popular YouTubers devouring large quantities of edibles to entertain their fans. Or you could be grateful to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala that He blessed you at thirty years old with a loving spouse who tries to earn halal income abroad until you meet a woman your age who married her foreign schoolmate when she was in her teens. 

Jealous feelings usually arise when shaytan cunningly tries to remind you of something that you're lacking, and his aim is to weaken your faith/Imaaan through questioning Allah's Justice and Wisdom. AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem. 

To avoid getting triggered by envy and inferiority complex, specially to maintain your spiritual well-being, you have every right to distance yourself from things and individuals who prompt you to feel bad or inadequate regarding the favors which Allah the Most Kind wisely selected for you. 

Don't reluctantly befriend someone whose presence reminds you of your shortcomings while they can't inspire you at all to strengthen your love for Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Unfollow pages online and stop watching unproductively vlogs of materialistic people whose main aspiration is to achieve fame in this fleeting world. 

Listen to your intuition which is a gift from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala to those who strive to be near Him. If socializing with a person or stalking their status updates consistently results in your faith/Imaan getting weaker whenever they're around, then they are not deserving of your full attention. 

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look to those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125

Sahih Muslim 2963

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, who are the best people?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "One with a heart swept clean and truthful in speech." We said, “O Messenger of Allah, we know truthful in speech. What is a heart swept clean?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "One that is mindful of Allah and pure, in which there is no sin, nor aggression, nor envy." We said, “Who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "One who hates worldliness and loves the Hereafter." They said, “And who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A believer with good character."

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 4457

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-thank-allah-for-blessings-he-chose.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-pure-hearts-believe-in-allah-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/poem-tips-to-not-get-jealous-of-others.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-tips-on-how-to-manage-negative.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-some-secrets-to-not-feeling.html 

Poem: Live To Please Only Allah The Almighty, And Embrace Your Weirdness Confidently

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Bring it on - say I'm "weird", "kakaiba", "strange", "freaky", 

"Peculiar", "eccentric", "oddball" - I'm not you, clearly. 

I'd rather do what pleases Allah the Almighty 

Than conform to low standards of lost society.

I'm grateful to side with the guided minority. 

~•~

A crowd that crawls to a cave invited by monkeys 

To jump into a pit of lava for free candies 

Would call a sensible person who resists "crazy", 

"Weirdo", "misfit", or "deluded by conspiracies", 

When they're the ones in deep trouble, in reality. 

~•~

To a large number of students who do not study, 

And instead they spend most nights on games or loud parties,

That one student who takes their studies so seriously,

With a mission to pass the exams determinedly, 

Would be called "loser" while they're the real losers, really. 

~•~

A person's true worth, merits of an activity, 

And virtues of a cause can't be measured precisely 

According to how much good attention they receive. 

Prophet Nuh ('alaihis salaam) in his time had few supporters only, 

Yet Allah loves him for his hard work and right belief. 

~•~

Share Allah's Message wisely while the majority 

Of souls flee from knowledge or stay quiet cowardly. 

Pray to Allah, strive to make life choices correctly, 

And value modesty, despite critics' mockery. 

On Judgment Day we'll find out who'll be laughing lastly. 

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Islam began as something strange and it will return to being strange, so (Tooba / glad tidings to) blessed are the strangers."

Source: Sahih Muslim 145

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "We are now in this day. Blessed are the strangers." It was said, “O Messenger of Allah, who are the strangers?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Righteous people among many evil (wicked, misguided) people. Those who disobey them are more numerous than those who obey them."

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ahmed Shakir 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-focus-on-achieving-allahs-love.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-dont-be-shy-of-being-among.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-ghurabaastrangers-among-muslims.html 

Tips: Eleven Signs Of A Potential Friend Or That A Person Doesn't Hold A Grudge Against You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Just because some individuals at work or school talk to you regularly, it doesn't qualify them as "real friends". Anybody can easily smile at you out of courtesy while concealing undeniable jealousy or bitterness from an unresolved misunderstanding. 

Eleven signs that a person likes you as a potential friend or they don't hold a grudge against you at all:

1] They seem very patient with you. No matter how many times you didn't show up or you were late for an appointment, or you don't always answer their messages punctually, they readily forgive and understand that there are moments when you can get busy. 

2] When you're speaking to them face to face, you notice they're good at making eye contact, listening to you attentively, and not being distracted by their phone or unrelated activity. 

3] In a gathering or social setting, they show eagerness or willingness to sit beside you, or if you take a seat near them, they don't instantly get up to transfer to another area as though they're intimidated, but they remain seated, calm and collected. 

4] They've given you freebies, bought you drinks or snacks, or went out of their way to give you a gift or souvenir from their travel at least twice. 

5] Several times they've defended you, took your side in an argument, or saved you from an embarrassing situation. 

6] Their handshakes are usually firm and sincere, accompanied by a loving hug or cheerful vibe, not flimsy nor awkward as if they're scared to approach you. 

7] When engaging in a conversation, they occasionally ask you questions about yourself, your loved ones, interests, values, and concerns. A person who makes you feel as though you're conducting a formal job interview, because you're the only one interrogating, isn't a true friend. 

8] You can describe them as "kind", "helpful", and "generous", as they've demonstrated many times that they have the ability to assist you, offer advice, listen, help out, and share with you some of their belongings. 

9] At least twice they've invited you to an event, requested if you could accompany them outdoors, asked if they can pay a visit, or casually hang out when you're available. 

10] They've shared with you some secrets or sensitive information which they haven't told most people, or they informed you about an unforgettable dream, asking for your honest opinion. 

11] You still remember the time when they gave unsolicited advice, and you appreciate the fact that any heads-up, reminder, or correction from them shows how they care enough to hope you keep improving as a striving Muslim. 

If at least five of the above reminds you of someone, maintain connection with them for Allah's sake and have patience with their flaws, delayed responses, and mistakes. Not all souls instantly click when they first meet. Some of the strongest friendships are formed bit by bit, at a slower pace.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-three-common-qualities-of-close.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-confession-on-few-good-souls-whom.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/tips-five-differences-between-those-who.html 

http://justsharingislam.blogspot.com/2017/03/poem-similar-souls-likely-get-along.html 

Poem: When To Interfere Or Enjoin Good Deeds And When To Mind Your Business

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Three instances when it's better to enjoin what's right, 

When it's wiser to not keep certain info inside, 

And when speaking out brings you closer to Paradise: 

When the one you advise is your relative or child, 

When untold truth can harm, and informing is required. 

~•~ 

Trying to mind your business is a move that's unwise 

If someone making mistakes is a loved one or child, 

If your silence leads to their loss in this worldly life 

While they could've listened if you enjoined what is right, 

And if pride makes you fear people more than Allah's Might. 

~•~

When is it sensible to hate a sin from inside, 

And fleeing is safer than inviting needless fights, 

While still hating inwardly all that Allah dislikes? 

When correcting someone is more harmful than worthwhile, 

And they're too proud to listen despite frequent advice. 

~•~

No use in pushing a donkey if numerous times 

You've asked it to move but it refuses to give rides. 

Know that Allah is the One Who inspires, helps, and guides.  

If Allah decrees and decides that some souls don't thrive 

In terms of faith, they can't change, even if you remind. 

~•~ 

Inspire Muslims to do good, and warn against vice / crimes, 

If those whom you're advising can wisely recognize 

The need for Taqwa and the real purpose of our lives, 

And attempting to correct errors doesn't incite 

Avoidable fitna which could complicate one's life.

~•~

📖 Ali Ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever among you sees evil, let him change it with his hand (by stopping it physically). If he is unable to do so, then with his tongue (verbally, by warning or speaking against that wrongdoing). If he is unable to do so, then with his heart (by at least hating the sin instead of admiring the wrongdoers), and that is the weakest level of faith." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 49 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "There will be rulers (in the future, before the Day of Judgment) from whom you will see both goodness and corruption. One who recognizes their evil and hates it will maintain his innocence; but one who is pleased with it and follows them (in committing the wrongdoing) will be sinful." It was said, “Shall we not fight them?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "No, as long as they pray." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 1854 

Grade: Sahih 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is a mirror to his faithful brother. He protects him against loss and defends him behind his back." 

Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, 'The believer is a mirror to his brother. If he sees something wrong in him, he should correct it.' 

Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 239 

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/note-importance-of-enjoining-good-deeds.html 

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=iW9VSVkj8uA

Note: My Brief Story On How I Started Including Tahajjud As Part Of My Routine

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 The first time I was interested in including Tahajjud / Qiyaam Al-Layl as part of my regular routine was when I was around twelve or thirteen years old. I remember waking up late at night often to go to the bathroom and while most of the lights in the apartment were switched off, one of the living rooms would be brightly lit and I could overhear my parents (Allah yarhamhuma. Ameen.) praying together a special night prayer which I thought was only prayed during Ramadan and done by older individuals or adults. Alhamdulillah with Allah's Guidance I gradually became interested in praying Qiyaam Al-Layl often after conducting some thorough research about it and with frequent encouragement from my dear mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) to never quit praying Tahajjud. 

In the beginning I wasn't very regular in praying Qiyaam Al-Layl though until I discovered that there was a huge difference between starting your day after having prayed Tahajjud and facing the day without having prayed Tahajjud whether it was due to oversleeping, having my monthly excuse, or not feeling motivated due to temporary stress or sadness. 

On days when I missed out on the virtues and rewards of praying Tahajjud, since I was in my teens up till now in my early thirties, I realized that I felt "more vulnerable to fitna" and more susceptible to mood swings or annoyance. It was as if I didn't have a significant shield needed to be more careful, wiser, or strong enough to pass certain tests and challenges. Alternatively whenever I was able to wake up anywhere from 2:30 am to some minutes before Salat Al-Fajr, I noticed that my motivation to do good deeds was stronger, felt more inspired, and my intuition (from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) seemed more accurate than on days in which I missed out on Tahajjud's countless blessings. 

Praying Tahajjud for Allah's sake regularly is one of the distinctive qualities of pious Muslims who sincerely strive to be close allies and loyal supporters of Allah the Almighty and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. Try to include it as one of your best habits and 

Inn-sha-Allah you can witness the quality of your Deen and dunya improve a lot.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, 'Our Rabb (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) descends to the lowest Heaven in the last third of every night, and He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala says: "Who is calling upon Me, so that I may answer him? Who is asking from Me, so that I may give him? Who is seeking My forgiveness, so that I may forgive him?"'

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1094

Sahih Muslim 758

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-join-those-who-pray-tahajjud-often.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-benefits-of-praying-tahajjud.html 

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Poem: Distinguishing Traits Of People Who Can't Be Trusted

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Some adjectives that suit those whom you can never trust, 

So you shield yourself from traitors who put on an act 

For their selfish gains which they conceal beneath fake masks: 

Jealous, insecure, untrustworthy or dishonest, 

Unstable, and unfaithful or morally corrupt. 

~•~ 

If you've noticed some ignore your salaams on purpose 

Often online and offline, and it's a bad habit 

Of theirs to disregard simple greetings, don't expect 

Them to be kindhearted souls who keep every promise. 

Whoso treats you based on current moods can't be trusted. 

~•~

Rolling their eyes like they're performers in a circus 

Or giving you dirty looks whenever you express 

A thought or feeling could indicate they're envious. 

Whoever envies you can't be given your secrets, 

Dreams told in detail, and tips to personal success. 

~•~

If more than thrice someone's acts confused, disappointed, 

Or frustrated you, and you felt unjustly treated, 

As they refused to make up for broken promises, 

Then realize they don't deserve to be supported. 

No merits can be derived in one-sided friendships. 

~•~

Overall, don't trust anyone who can get tempted 

To do the kind of actions which shaytan would suggest, 

From lying and stealing to revealing a secret, 

Or betraying at some point, even with excuses. 

Just trust Allah, not fellow mortals He created.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782 

Sahih Muslim 2998 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When Allah gathers together the earlier and later generations on the Day of Resurrection, He will raise a banner for every (betrayer) treacherous person. It will be announced that this is the treachery of this person, the son of this person."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5823

Sahih Muslim 1735

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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Note: Five Things That Most INTJs Want Others To Know

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Five things that most INTJ personality types want others to know: 

1] If we've done some research on body language, how narcissists try to use people to reach their selfish goals, and psychology-related articles, we can usually detect, with intuition from Allah the Almighty, that a person is most likely telling a lie or deliberately being toxic to get a reaction out of us. If the individual who's guilty of putting up a front, pretending to be someone whom they aren't, or behaving immaturely, is close to us, we go out of our way to address the issue at an ideal timing and check on their well-being. If they're only strangers, we play along out of courtesy, while remaining uninterested in discovering more about their personal lives. 

2] We don't chase people, beg them to stay, nor enjoy playing hard to get. If we can acutely sense that a number of individuals despise us, we don't bother adjusting ourselves or altering our values to earn their approval. Just as we can't force ourselves to become fond of something which we find unappealing, we won't compel anybody to befriend us if they regard us as unrelatable, incompatible, or intimidating. 

3] Asking acquaintances lots of questions doesn't necessarily mean we're desperate to become their besties. It's one of our ways to evaluate if they're truly worthy of our energy, companionship, attention, loyalty, and trust. 

4] A lot of us won't label somebody as a friend until: they've seen us shed tears before while we showed them our emotional side, we've traveled with them or went to gatherings together several times, or they received multiple messages from us asking for their tips and advice. 

5] Almost always we prefer solitude to unwillingly socializing with those whom Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala didn't decree that we connect with genuinely. If we realize that someone's absurd acts are meant to make us feel "lonely", we smile or laugh inwardly, wondering why until now they haven't got the memo that true introverts, as long as we have Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, can move on without constant communication and contact with human species.

~•~ 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe. The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut  

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing is heavier upon the scale of a believer on the Day of Resurrection than his good character. Verily, Allah hates the vulgar and obscene person (prone to wicked conduct and vile speech such as knowingly telling lies, backbiting, spreading rumors)."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2002

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-five-signs-youre-muslim-empath-who.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/poem-whats-it-like-being-muslim-and-intj.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-friendship-with-intjs-what-are.html 

🌻 MBTI and cognitive functions tests:

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https://personalityatwork.co/personality/test 

https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

Poem: Three Signs That You're Confident Which Is Why You Seem Intimidating To Some People

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Three signs that you're confident, and you're not faking it, 

That your good vibes cause some to feel intimidated, 

As you trust Allah, not fearing those He created, 

While your efforts to stay real, not one bit pretentious, 

Scare off souls who are insecure or inauthentic: 

~•~

One: You don't care if you seem weird. In fact, you like it 

When you stand out and side with the few who are correct. 

You'd rather be a lone gem amidst a dark forest 

Than follow decomposing leaves and falling branches. 

With Allah's Love and Guidance you're more than contented. 

~•~

Two: You can't doubt your worth when you don't get invited 

To gatherings where you are not urgently needed. 

You give people space, your loved ones' choices you respect, 

And you're not one to expect much as you haven't met 

Everybody's needs, and Allah's Qadr you accept. 

~•~

Three: Aiming to please just Allah, you don't fear gossip. 

What critics think about you is none of your business. 

So long as it's the right thing, you don't require permit 

Or support from puppets to remain motivated. 

Journey to Allah goes on even if cowards quit.

~•~

The more you strive for Allah and the more you're guided, 

The less susceptible you are to feeling upset 

By people's misconduct and lousy moves they select. 

Any mess they put themselves in is theirs to cherish. 

Live to serve Allah, not cling to those He created. 

~•~ 

📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience and it is good for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2999

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-signs-of-people-who-are.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-she-trusts-allah-and-allahs-love.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-when-youre-contented-with-allahs.html 

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Note: Tips For Co-Wives In Polygyny

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📜 Question: As a wife in polygyny, how can I stop feeling jealous of my husband's other wives?

📝 Answer: Whether you're the first wife, second, third or fourth wife, it is part of human nature to experience feelings of jealousy now and then. According to some reports it is proven that 'Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha felt somewhat jealous of Khadija RadhiAllahu 'anha even after the first wife of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam passed away.

It is normal to feel triggered by jealousy occasionally, especially if you're in a polygynous marriage where you and other women love the same hardworking, handsome, and caring man. What is abominable is to act upon envy, to misbehave when overwhelmed by jealous sentiments and to mistreat another Muslim due to envying them.

Some examples of misconduct that a co-wife who hatefully envies you would do include:

1) Treating you rudely, deliberately ignoring you or not giving you your rights like answering your salaam, and intentionally making you feel excluded or left out whenever she can. If she organizes a social gathering, outing or meeting, she makes sure that you're not invited. She tries to make you feel awful as a way to comfort her struggle with feeling jealously threatened.

2) She encourages the friends in her circle to despise you, to avoid you and view you negatively. Her self-sabotaging envy is what causes her to spread rumors concerning you to pacify her insecurities. When others backbite or talk about you badly, instead of defending you, she obnoxiously giggles and chimes in with additional insulting remarks to spoil your reputation. Jealousy causes this insecure woman to enjoy ridiculing you, gossiping and backbiting.

3) Because she hates you out of jealousy, she can't stand to see you happy. Your accomplishments and pleasant qualities are a threat to her. Congratulating you on achieving something is awfully difficult for her to do. Although you may be friends on Facebook, she rarely reacts to your status updates yet ironically she stalks your timeline with furious resentment. The only time she leaves a comment or sends a message is when she wants to criticize you or question you about a post which she insecurely assumes is about her.

4) Since she hates your guts, she's willing to do anything that could upset you, whether it's stealing from you or your ideas, breaking her promises too often so you can't trust her anymore, and encouraging your husband to neglect you.

5) A jealous co-wife would do whatever it takes to destroy your self-esteem by acting like a toxic friend, regularly texting you with romantic photos of her and the husband you both share, giving you all the unnecessary details of how the man of the household spoils her with luxury gifts and how much she enjoys being with him. She could also purposely offer false tips and wrong advice to ensure that you don't do well in marriage or to see you fail in life.

Acting upon jealousy not only erases a Muslim's good deeds, but it also weakens the bonds of Muslim communities.

🌺 In order to prevent yourself from responding to negative feelings of envy, always remember that:

1) Allah Subhaanahu wa Taa'ala created everyone differently. Rather than comparing yourself to another Muslim, be grateful for what Allah the Almighty chose to give you. Focus on passing your own tests with Sabr/patience and Shukr/gratitude, instead of yearning for the examinations of other people.

2) Appreciate what you already have and concentrate on improving yourself with whatever Allah the Most Wise gave you rather than complaining about what you're lacking. 

While Allah the Most Loving made your co-wife successful in a business that she manages, Allah the Most Merciful blessed you with many pious Muslim kids. If your co-wife received a new apartment, recall all the good times you spent with your husband, specially when you traveled a lot in the previous years, and cherish every single moment in which you spend time together. If you don't have a child yet, while your co-wife has twins or triplets, remember that there are other women worldwide who struggle with finding a righteous man for marriage. Train yourself to stay patient for Allah's sake, and contented, submissively accepting whatever Allah destined.

3) Instead of seeing your co-wife as an opponent, competition, or homewrecker, consider her as an inspiration, encouragement for you to earn more rewards by enhancing Sabr, and strive for Allah's sake to mutually work against shaytan by doing your best to keep this polygynous marriage strong.

4) The better of two wives isn't the one who receives the most affection, gifts and attention from the husband, but the wife who strives to be closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, and who can successfully implement rewarding patience.

5) The more you realize how this world is only temporary and the more you desire Jannah eagerly, the easier it is for you go through any difficulty in polygyny patiently, and the more you avoid anything that could lead to envy, since you don't want to waste any of your good deeds, particularly by behaving unjustly and insecurely. 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it devours good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Envy destroys good deeds just as fire destroys wood. Charity extinguishes sins just as water extinguishes fire. Prayer is the light of the believer and fasting is his shield from the Hellfire."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4210

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "He has succeeded who embraces Islam, whose provision is sufficient, and who is content with what Allah has given him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1054

Grade: Sahih

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Ibn Asakir

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