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Poem: Expect Some Childish Bullying When Some Females Envy You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

✅ Some things to expect when lots of females envy you, 

As you're skilled at doing worthwhile tasks which they can't do, 

Because you're prettier than them while they're insecure, 

Or you're married and they're single, or you're a wife who 

Is fine with her spouse staying wed to four, three or two, 

~•~

Or your strong faith and trust in Allah causes them to 

Feel somewhat "inferior" so they strive to malign you, 

Unaware that Allah is the One Who granted you 

Those gifts as tests and to examine their Imaan too - 

They're not doing well if they remain jealous of you...

~•~

Here's what to expect when many females envy you: 

Jealous females treating you in a way that is rude, 

Inventing rumors about you, trying to exclude

You from their outings so their self-hatred gets reduced, 

They wish to see you sad so their hurt ego is soothed.

~•~

Expect envious females with low confidence to 

Frequently ignore your salaams, stubbornly refuse 

To show kindness to one whose good qualities seduce

Them to feeling as though they're more useless than proud mules, 

And make you feel "unseen", evincing ingratitude.

~•~

Expect loads of eye-rolling from souls who envy you, 

Spiteful giggles and ridicule from the insecure, 

Exclusion from gatherings often done by those who 

Find your inner beauty threatening so they're forced to 

Mistreat you since your self-esteem makes them insecure.

~•~

When treated with disrespect from those who envy you, 

Don't doubt your self-worth. Instead, have patience, gratitude

And contentment with the blessings which Allah gave you. 

Be contented we're not like them - disturbed, insecure

And ugly on the inside with manners immature.

~•~

They're unhappy really, emotionally abused 

By their own jealousy and sins in oppressing you. 

Await Allah's Justice. Know that Judgment Day is true. 

And believe, with certainty, acknowledge that for sure 

Most people won't envy one who's idle, plain and poor.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever wrongs his brother in his honor or anything else should resolve the matter today before it cannot be resolved with gold and silver coins. If he has good deeds to his credit, they will be taken from him according to the measure of his injustice. If he has no good deeds left, he will bear the evil deeds of the one he has oppressed."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2317

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it erases good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Envy consumes good deeds just as fire burns wood. Charity (Sadaqah) extinguishes sinful deeds just as water extinguishes fire. Prayer is the light of the believer and fasting is his shield from the Hellfire."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4210

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Ibn Asakir

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a (true Muslim) servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

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Tips: Sometimes It's Wiser To Ignore Ignorant Actions Which Don't Deserve Our Emotions And Reaction

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 While it can be tempting at times to assertively point out that a stranger's act is wrong, such as when they intentionally walk in front of you as you're about to have your items checked at the cashier's counter, there are certain instances when it's a lot wiser and farther from unnecessary drama to choose to stay calm and refuse to overreact emotionally regarding ignorant acts which do not deserve an ounce of your attention and emotion. For example, yesterday while I was at the supermarket at Abreeza Mall, when I decided to leave my filled shopping basket under the counter for some minutes while waiting for the shopper before me to complete paying for her purchases etc. this creature hurriedly left the other counter where she was queuing at and took my spot as I was browsing around some items nearby. I quickly looked at her and decided to continue browsing around instead of instigating an aimless argument because

1] It was undeniably my fault for leaving my spot in the first place when the customer in front of me was about to leave. 

2] The unethical and uncivilized creature who was rushing to have her items paid actually had much fewer items than I did. Plus, she was carrying them with her hands and seemed as though she was in a hurry or desperately needed to exit the mall likely due to some sort of anxiety. 

3] She probably thought I was an Arab due to my abaya and niqab, and I'm guessing she had a bad experience with most Arabs or niqabi (or muntaqabah/veiled) Muslimahs and her silly act was her way of getting back at all those individuals who mistreated her due to her own misconduct or stupidity. Imagine a racist Caucasian who dislikes anybody with darker skin tone and they have this awful habit of cutting in line and disrupting queues whenever she sees the chance to stand in front of anyone with darker skin. Such unbecoming act of hers makes all of the world's baby donkeys and chimpanzees combined seem way more mature than she can ever be. 

4] If she has never traveled abroad nor met any Arab or Muslimah wearing niqab, there's a likelihood that she's unaware of the impact of many of her actions on others. And this lack of awareness is typical of those who are very goal-oriented and/or task-oriented. "I need to get this done now even if some outsiders perceive me as an uneducated jerk (or stereotypical Karen)".

5] There's absolutely no reason to argue with her if I believe that she doesn't have a single ability to understand the English language and if I can imagine that both of her parents terribly failed at educating her about how to behave decently around other human beings rather than acting like an animal in a safari park excitedly jumping in front of passing vehicles to show visitors that it's an animal indeed.

✅ Some lessons learned Alhamdulillah from the creature's strange acting:

1• Be grateful Alhamdulillah that we are not as immature and "socially inept" as a lot of individuals are. 

2• The more we're trained by Allah the Almighty to have and maintain patience for His sake, the easier it gets for us 

Inn-sha-Allah to remain patient during temporary inconveniences. 

3• It feels like an amazing achievement or success Alhamdulillah when somebody's despicable acts; including social experiments, idiotic pranks and rehearsed fake dialogues; fail to trigger negative emotions. Whatever enemies and opponents want you to do which conflict with your values can be returned with genuine indifference and firm decision to conduct yourself differently from their delusional expectations.

~•~

📖 Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I have left you with two matters which will never lead you astray, as long as you hold to them: The Book of Allah (The Noble Qur'an) and the Sunnah of His noble Prophet (Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam)."

Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1661

Grade: Sahih (Authentic)

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Verily, among the best of you are those with the best character."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3366

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah (The Almighty) wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

📖 Abu Nu'aym reported: Fudayl Ibn ‘Iyad, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “If you mix with people, mix with those who have good character; it only invites to good. Do not mix with those who have bad character, for it only invites to evil.”

Source: Ḥilyat Al-Awliyā’ 11728

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