🗒️ Question: How does an INTJ personality type behave when they like you as a friend in contrast to when they don't care about you at all?
📝 Answer:
✅ You can clearly tell that an INTJ genuinely cares about you for Allah's sake when they do at least any five of these:
1] They consistently try their best to answer your emails and messages on time, instead of keeping you waiting while they're online and not actually busy.
2] They eagerly chat with long messages and occasionally go out of their way to inquire about how you and your family are doing.
3] They're surprisingly patient with your late replies, refraining from scolding you for not checking your inbox earlier, just as they hope you'd apply patience when some of their responses are delayed.
4] Whenever they find the opportunity, every now and then they give you freebies or buy you something which they think you would like, giving gifts generously without expecting anything in exchange.
5] At least thrice they directly asked you for advice or your frank opinion concerning a particular issue.
6] They easily laugh at your jokes and appreciate your attempts to make them smile.
7] When you couldn't attend a meeting or gathering you were supposed to show up at, they take the initiative to reach out, ask why you were absent, and inform you about the meeting's agenda and lessons learned.
8] The more they like you as a friend for Allah's sake, the more they curiously ask questions about yourself, as they're interested in learning more about you so your friendship can be strengthened.
9] They've borrowed items from you several times and they're willing to lend you some of their belongings.
❎ When an INTJ doesn't have any plan to build a friendship with you:
1] You notice there's a pattern in them not answering your messages promptly, not caring enough to apologize for or justify their delayed responses, and it's obvious they're not enthusiastic about chatting with you.
2] They don't follow you on Facebook, don't bother stalking any of your social media accounts, and if they're aware of the fact you maintain a YouTube channel, they show absolute zero interest in watching your other videos after the channel's initial discovery.
3] If you've broken a promise or did something which disappointed them, they look unsurprised and unaffected, as if they knew from the beginning that you're a deceitful person whom they can never count on.
4] They don't enjoy sharing any of their personal belongings with you, including detailed thoughts on specific topics and lucid dreams they're willing to discuss with a select few whom they regard as reliable. Basically the quieter and seemingly selfish an INTJ is towards you, the more the likelihood of them disliking you.
5] When an INTJ abhors you, for mistreating them in the past or for having interests which contradict theirs, they appear distant, serious, and lack enthusiasm to be playful with you.
6] You can easily tell that an INTJ hates a particular individual when they do whatever they can to avoid interacting with them and mentioning their name. A Muslim INTJ who loves you for Allah's sake likes enunciating your name often, in your presence (when talking to you) and absence (when talking about you to others in a good way), and in their loving Du'as (supplications).
7] INTJs who are uninterested in connecting with you can't tolerate your mistakes. If it seems that they've forgiven you after offending them once and yet they still treat you as if you're an irrelevant stranger to them, then accept their decision to move on without letting you in their tiny circle of carefully selected friends.
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
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