Poem: Some Advice To Each Muslimah Who's About To Be A Second Wife

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 To each lady who's about to be a second wife, 

Who agreed to a man's proposal as she admires 

How he strives to be righteous, responsible and kind, 

And though she sees that he's married, she knows from inside 

That having him as her spouse adds blessings to her life: 

~•~

Don't feel guilty of saying yes. No need to think twice 

If the man you'll marry already has a good wife, 

While you're aware that she's fine, as she humbly complies 

With Allah's Laws, and she confirms that's her husband's right 

To remarry and double the joys of marriage life. 

~•~

Before the Waleemah your intention purify. 

Eagerness to be closer to Allah should be why 

You're willing to welcome polygynous marriage life, 

Not to break families, force him to leave his first wife, 

Not to seize his wealth nor cause any marital strife.

~•~

Regard your husband's first wife as a friend who inspires 

You to keep loving your spouse, with patience day and night, 

Like readers sharing a book that's precious and worthwhile, 

And they're careful not to cause damage, tears at the sides, 

And if there are stains, both would fix or apologize.

~•~

Since you're wed to a human who errs once in a while, 

Remember to assist him, guide, remind and advise. 

Be strong enough to forgive each other, empathize, 

And encourage him to never neglect his first wife. 

Aspire to ensure your love life leads to Paradise.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "If a man has two wives and he is not just (fair) between them, he will come on the Day of Resurrection with one of his sides collapsed."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1141 

Grade: Sahih 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Hadith: Warning Against Miserliness And Selfishness When You Have The Means To Share

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah (the Almighty) said: 'Spend in charity, O son of Adam, and I shall spend on you.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 993

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah but that Allah raises his status."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2588

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Two qualities are never combined in a (true) believer: Miserliness and bad character."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1962

Grade: Sahih li ghayrihi (Authentic due to external evidence) according to Al-Albani