Tips: Advice On How Not To Care About How People Perceive You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Five things to recall, to not care about people's opinions of you: 

1] Allah the Almighty Who created us has complete control over everything and everybody. Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala is the Only One Whom we must strive to please; we weren't designed to behave like slaves to His servants. 

2] Why should we care about how people perceive us when they themselves aren't entirely flawless and infallible? It doesn't make sense if a bunch of pencils laugh at an unsharpened pencil while they're either too short to grasp, they're broken or they're similarly blunt.  

3] A lot of the individuals who find it easy to criticize you may act hypercritical to distract themselves from their own problems and insecurities. Don't allow somebody's misery to disturb your inner peace. 

4] Just as you have the freedom to make judgments about people, according to their treatment of you or how you truly feel around them, others have a right to evaluate you based on their current circumstances and past experiences. Ultimately the way they view you says more about them than your true identity and reality. 

5] Most of the people on earth are not genuinely confident or actually happy from within. Those who are insecure with themselves or who feel as though they're lacking something which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala granted you have a tendency to magnify your faults so their emotional wounds are soothed. As long as you're doing what you believe can bring you closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, don't bother adjusting or altering yourself to appease a fellow servant.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Tips: Checklist To Determine If Your Husband Truly Deserves You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Checklist to determine if your spouse is worth loving and keeping for Allah's sake, patiently remain as your husband's loyal and patient wife if you end up checking most of these, whether you are in polygyny, LDR (long-distance relationship) or a monogamous marriage: 

1🔹 From the very beginning, you sincerely agreed to marry your husband for the sake of Allah the Almighty, eager to complete the other half of your Deen. You accepted your husband's marriage proposal not for his wealth or status but to accompany him on a loving journey to Jannah Paradise. [    ] 

2🔹 The first time you made actual eye contact with your husband, you felt shy or bashful, with your awkwardness or nervousness indicating that you really felt attracted to him. [    ] 

3🔹 Overall you strongly believe that your husband is a good man, despite his faults and imperfections. [    ] 

4🔹 Your husband, with Allah's Will and Mercy, was able to teach you at least one valuable lesson which other individuals aren't capable of teaching. Or you acknowledge that ever since you married your husband for Allah's sake, Alhamdulillah, you've become a better Muslim. [    ] 

5🔹 At least three of your husband's relatives, regardless of how old they are, harmoniously get along with you. [    ] 

6🔹 You truthfully respect your husband's current occupation and/or you admire how your hard-working husband tries his best to earn only halal income. [    ] 

7🔹 You can imagine feeling remorseful if ever you asked for a divorce. You'd rather strive to maintain patience, for Allah's sake, with your husband than occasionally pass by a non-mahram whose face reminds you of all the wonderful moments you've enjoyed together. [    ] 

8🔹 Other couples' love stories can't make you feel jealous at all. Instead of feeling envious, noticing another wife thriving in her marriage inspires you to be even more loyal to your husband for Allah's sake. [    ] 

9🔹 You're willing to relocate with your husband or work as his secretary or assistant if necessary. [    ] 

10🔹 Chatting with your husband online and face to face is enjoyable, informative and beneficial, not boring or too toxic. [    ] 

11🔹 You can visualize wanting a second wedding with your husband if ever you had to temporarily split up. You understand that it's possible to remarry your soulmate twice if Allah the Most Wise decrees it. [    ] 

12🔹 You and your husband have at least three common goals, qualities or interests. [    ] 

13🔹 You remember that you prayed two Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaarah before agreeing to marry your husband for Allah's sake. [    ] 

14🔹 Earnestly you hope and look forward to seeing your husband become more successful as a dedicated Muslim, with Allah's Will, at the most ideal timing. [    ] 

15🔹 It's easy for you to defend your husband and think of reasonable excuses to back him up whenever critics criticize him. [    ] 

16🔹 Numerous times you've shed tears while mentioning your husband's name in loving Du'as. [    ] 

17🔹 The fact that you can afford to let your husband remarry or be employed in a different city is one of the countless evidences of how much you truly love your soulmate for Allah's sake. [    ]

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📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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