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📜 Question: At school there are a number of individuals whom I do not like at all because of how unreliable, irresponsible, uncooperative, dishonest and unmannerly they've proven to be. What can I do to cope with their negative presence?
📝 Answer: Some tips on dealing with individuals who are incompatible with you, especially if they never sincerely apologized for several mistakes they did or they continue doing something which you regard as toxic:-
✅ Three dos:
1] Maintain basic good manners with them for Allah's sake, being cordial acquaintances only, not intending to form an actual connection.
☑️ For example: When they greet you with the salaam, confidently respond to their greeting with a polite smile.
2] Be honest and truthful with them as much as you can, for Allah's sake.
☑️ For instance: If they ask for your feedback concerning an outfit which they bought recently or they wish to know what your opinion is on a project they presented, and you genuinely think it's interesting or notable somehow, let them know the truth instead of imitating them in being untruthful.
3] Unapologetically avoid them for Allah's sake online and offline to shield your emotional and religious well-being.
☑️ Refrain from sitting too near them whenever you can, and don't bother checking any of their status updates, YouTube channel, and/or Facebook page/s etc. which can't add a single value to your faith/Imaan.
❌ Three don'ts:
🚫 1} As much as possible, do not backbite or gossip about individuals whom you can't stand, even if you assume that a joke or certain information could appease your ego.
🚫 2} Do not intentionally exclude them from group activities or meetings which they are supposed to partake in. While it is understandable that you don't enjoy talking to them, probably due to language barrier or you've decided to not trust them anymore, your grudge mustn't cause you to act like an emotionally wounded, insecure and unhappy bully.
🚫 3} As much as possible, do not go out of your way to inquire about their personal lives, particularly if they are known for frequently inventing lies. Don't force yourself to prolong conversations with strangers who make you feel uncomfortable.
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell (pleasant scent). As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
