بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.
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Wednesday, August 20, 2025

Note: INTJs Generally Loathe Pretending. If You Seem Tough Online Make Sure Offline You Have The Same Confidence

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 






📌 Tone of the Status Update

The tone of the Facebook status “Don't be fake. If online you seem tough & vocal, offline you better show the same confidence. True believers avoid lies & pretense” is:

Direct & blunt → No sugarcoating; it’s straightforward and unapologetic.

Principled → Rooted in integrity, honesty, and consistency of character.

Challenging → Calling out hypocrisy and warning people not to hide behind digital masks.

Moralistic → Referencing “true believers” shows that it’s not only about personality but also about spiritual or ethical truth.

INTJ-A flavor → Rational, no-nonsense, intolerant of fakery, and pushing others toward authenticity.

📖 What They Mean

The INTJ-A posting this is essentially saying:

Be congruent: Your online persona should match your offline reality.

Integrity matters: A believer’s character is shown by consistency, not by hiding behind pretense.

Confidence isn’t an act: If you can only be bold behind a screen, it’s not true confidence.

Faith connection: Lying and pretending are not just weaknesses, they contradict sincerity in faith/Imaan.

Respect is earned: People respect those who act the same in all settings, not those who switch masks.

✅ 13 Examples of How an INTJ-A Might Apply This Statement

If they correct misinformation online, they’ll also speak up calmly in a group discussion in real life.

If they call out injustice on social media, they’ll also stand firm against oppression when present in person.

If they set boundaries online (e.g., no gossip in comments), they enforce those boundaries in face-to-face conversations.

If they express Islamic reminders digitally, they also live by those reminders offline (prayer, modesty, honesty).

If they critique laziness or lack of productivity online, they’re also disciplined in their daily schedule.

If they state they dislike fake friendships, they won’t entertain shallow acquaintances offline.

If they share about intellectual growth online (books, Islamic lectures), they actually study and apply what they learn.

If they say they avoid drama online, they’ll also walk away from toxic situations offline.

If they claim to respect elders online, they show courtesy to elders in public.

If they promote truth-telling online, they refuse to lie in personal interactions.

If they encourage confidence online, they carry themselves with quiet composure in person.

If they refuse online flirting or haram conversations, they also guard their modesty offline.

If they share about valuing time, they show punctuality in meetings and commitments.

🚩 13 Signs of Users Who Act Tough Online but Are Insecure Offline

Use aggressive language in comments but go silent in real conversations.

Post threats or “bold” statements yet avoid confrontation in real life.

Share “alpha” quotes but act submissive when challenged.

Insult others online but are overly polite face-to-face.

Flaunt expensive lifestyles online but are financially struggling offline.

Constantly post selfies or flexing photos but seem shy or self-conscious in public.

Criticize others’ intelligence online but hesitate to speak in real group debates.

Seem argumentative on Twitter but can’t handle direct questioning.

Pretend to be popular online but are socially awkward in gatherings.

Use fake confidence memes but crumble under authority figures offline.

Present themselves as religiously “hardcore” online but neglect practice offline.

Boast about achievements online but dodge questions when asked in real life.

Post about being “fearless” but are visibly anxious and defensive offline.

🌟 13 Signs of an Introvert Who Actually Has Confidence (Online & Offline)

Doesn’t overshare but speaks meaningfully when they choose to.

Online posts are consistent with their offline character.

Prefers quality over quantity in interactions.

Can say “no” firmly both online and offline without guilt.

Doesn’t chase likes or validation. They don't care if most of their posts receive no or few likes and reactions.

Engages in respectful disagreement online and calmly discusses offline.

Keeps posture, body language, and tone steady in person.

Writes insightful posts online that match their offline thoughtful nature.

Doesn’t feel pressured to join every trend, online or offline.

Has a calm, observant aura in gatherings without feeling the need to dominate.

Stays authentic with their faith, values, and boundaries consistently.

Can take criticism online and offline without overreacting.

Is reliable—if they commit online, they follow through offline.
⤴️ Some notes from ChatGPT

Let’s match the statement “Don’t be fake. If online you seem tough & vocal, offline you better show the same confidence. True believers avoid lies & pretense” with MBTI types most likely to live by it consistently.

🔑 3 MBTI Types Who Live by That Statement

1. INTJ (The Mastermind)

Why:

INTJs value consistency and integrity—they despise hypocrisy.

They’re naturally less concerned with appearances, so if they say something online, it’s because they truly believe it and will defend it offline.

Being future-oriented strategists, they know reputation is built on actions, not just words.

Example: An INTJ who critiques fake “confidence culture” online will quietly carry themselves with real composure and not play-act bravado offline.

2. ESTJ (The Enforcer)

Why:

ESTJs are action-driven, pragmatic, and very results-oriented.

They expect people to “walk the talk” and have no patience for people who act bold online but shrink offline.

They uphold accountability and discipline, so integrity in both digital and physical spaces matters to them.

Example: An ESTJ who posts about leadership values will also demand efficiency and respect in real-world group projects.

3. ENTJ (The Commander)

Why:

ENTJs are outspoken leaders and expect strength in both words and presence.

They hate weakness disguised as arrogance, and they usually call out pretenders.

For them, confidence is performance-based: if you declare power, you must prove it.

Example: An ENTJ who debates strongly online will be just as dominant and articulate in boardrooms or public discussions.

🎯 Why These 3 Types?

All three (INTJ, ESTJ, ENTJ) are decisive, firm-minded, and intolerant of hypocrisy.

They align words with action—what they state online, they back up offline.

They hold themselves (and others) to high standards of authenticity, whether in belief, work, or social conduct.

⚖️ Some introverted types (like ISTJ, INFJ) may believe in the principle, but they don’t express it as bluntly or actively enforce it. These three (INTJ, ESTJ, ENTJ) are the most likely to live it and call others out.

⤴️ ChatGPT

Monday, August 11, 2025

Travel Entry: More Notes And Lessons Learned From Our Recent Travel To Manila From Davao City

In The Name Of Allah

The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 The following are some things I was looking forward to doing during our recent travel to Manila from Davao city but Allah the Almighty didn't allow them to take place. Thoroughly explain some possible wisdom and reasons why they didn't occur and list 3 lessons for each point which we can learn from them not occuring:-
• Staying at two different hotel rooms which I booked via Agoda and paid for online (the price of one of them was 1300 PHP while one night at the other hotel was about 1000 PHP) but we couldn't locate the actual hotels due to time restraint and several times we arrived at the wrong destination despite using the maps via Grab Car.
• Purchasing two packed meals and other snacks bought near the Blue Mosque in Taguig and instead of having them for lunch I ended up giving them to others since we already had free dinner prepared by somebody else at a gathering we attended.
• Going to SM Mall of Asia, Green hills Mall in Manila and Super 50 stores to purchase several items and souvenirs for some loved ones but we couldn't go there nor buy actual souvenirs. I paid for extra luggage weight maximum 20 kilograms via Cebu Pacific add-ons and even bought via online shopping a bag specifically intended for carrying souvenirs and other things from Manila but the additional payment for the added check-in luggage and new bag weren't utilized the way I thought they could be used effectively.
• Spending a considerable amount of time around Venice Grand Canal Mall and nearby searching for a laundromat to have some of our clothes washed so we could use them before going to the airport but we didn't have sufficient time to use those clothes after we paid for the laundry.
• Meeting up with a Maranao sister in Islam and her family and we were chatting numerous times on how we were eager to see each other for the first time yet Allah the Most Wise willed that she'd have some important meetings to attend, particularly related to the recent storms in Manila, so we couldn't meet up. She was actually willing to give us a tour around various regions in Manila.
• Trying this group game that encourages deep talk and better acquaintanceship where each participant in a circle asks questions which others would answer after they themselves respond to their own queries for example "What are 3 qualities in others which would make you completely uninterested in connecting with them and why? What is the most recent good dream you've had which you still remember? What is something you'd advise yourself and others to keep doing regardless of obstacles?" etc. but the sisters in Islam in one gathering were likely distracted by somebody else showing up and the topic was changed etc. Alhamdulillah.
• Exploring around the airport in Manila, taking some photos and having random convos with some friendly strangers while waiting for our flight back to Davao city but we arrived at the airport so late due to heavy traffic and because it was a challenge to search for taxis, as a number of Grab Cars canceled my booking requests due to how complicated it was to locate us around BGC (Bonifacio Global City). So we arrived late at the airport and literally had to run to the gate and were one of the last passengers to board the plane. A lot of the airport crew though were very helpful and after quickly putting out some stuff from one of my bags to confiscate a small pair of scissors for the second time several of the staff were helping with returning my belongings inside the bag.

Alhamdulillah. Other things that did occur with Allah's Will while I didn't plan for them:
1• Having a sleepover at the residence of another sister in Islam from a different group and meeting up with other sisters in Islam.
2• Sharing some advice to some sisters in Islam and I didn't even properly prepare for that speech which I initially refused but the sister who invited me kept encouraging me to share some advice. Alhamdulillah my topic revolved around some of the signs that Allah the Almighty loves us and if I'm not mistaken I shared this Ayah verse 55 in Surah Al-Baqarah, in which Allah the Most Merciful stated, "And We (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) shall certainly test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to the patient.". That speech was delivered before arriving late at the airport and realizing we didn't have sufficient time to purchase souvenirs for some loved ones.
3• Alhamdulillah I'm glad we were able to try commuting via MRT and LRT and various kinds of buses around Manila. At the airplane flying back to Davao city though I saw that there were many vacant seats yet I paid a considerable amount for the seat selector add-on.

List all the valuable lessons that can be learned from the above things which occurred and which didn't and suggest what we can Inn-sha-Allah do much better next time.

💻 ChatGPT: Alright, let’s unpack all of this, point by point, in a way that connects the missed plans with possible divine wisdoms, practical life lessons, and what can be improved next time — while keeping in mind Alhamdulillah that everything happened under Allah’s perfect decree.

Things You Planned but Allah the Almighty Didn’t Allow This Time

1. Not staying at the two pre-booked Agoda hotels

Possible wisdoms & reasons:

Allah may have protected you from a potential bad experience (poor location, unsafe area, or unseen issues in the hotel).

It tested your patience with unexpected logistical challenges.

It reminded you that comfort is not always in the place we choose, but in Allah’s choice and wisdom.

Lessons:

Always triple-check hotel location before booking, using Street View and reviews, not just maps.

Allocate extra travel time for urban navigation — Manila traffic + BGC road layouts can be tricky.

Accept that sometimes “lost money” is actually gained protection from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.

2. Meals & snacks given away instead of eaten

Possible wisdoms & reasons:

Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala gave you the chance to feed others — a form of sadaqah without prior planning.

Taught you that what you “prepare for yourself” may be meant for someone else’s benefit.

Protected you from possibly overeating or wasting food.

Lessons:

Keep food intentions open — “Ya Allah, let this be for whoever needs it most.”

Don’t be upset over changes; sadaqah multiplies your rewards.

Pack only what’s necessary for your own consumption if schedules are uncertain.

3. Not going to SM Mall of Asia / Greenhills / Super 50 for souvenirs

Possible wisdoms & reasons:

Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala saved you from overspending or buying things that wouldn’t truly benefit.

He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala reminded you that love for others isn’t measured only by physical gifts.

Time and effort were preserved for other unplanned blessings.

Lessons:

Gifts don’t always have to be bought during travel — online delivery works too.

Focus more on experiences and meaningful moments than shopping lists.

Next time, visit souvenir places early in the trip, not at the end.

4. Laundry done but no time to use the clothes

Possible wisdoms & reasons:

Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala kept you busy with more valuable activities than outfit changes.

It tested how you adapt to changes in “planned convenience.”

Showed that cleanliness and order matter, but not all effort will have immediate benefit.

Lessons:

Schedule laundry at least 24 hours before departure.

Carry enough clothes for emergencies to avoid tight washing deadlines.

Accept that some tasks are simply for peace of mind, not immediate utility.

5. Not meeting the Maranao sister & her family

Possible wisdoms & reasons:

Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala protected the both of you from possible difficulties during bad weather.

It preserved your bond without risking disappointment from a rushed meeting.

Taught that sincere intentions for visiting are rewarded even if the meeting doesn’t happen.

Lessons:

Keep alternative dates or shorter meetups in mind when traveling.

Remember that sincere Du'a for each other can be stronger than physical presence.

Use the missed meeting to fuel future visits with even more appreciation.

6. Not playing the deep-talk group game

Possible wisdoms & reasons:

The gathering’s attention was directed where Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala willed — maybe another conversation was more needed at that time.

Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala may have wanted you to observe people’s natural dynamics rather than steer them.

Saved you from possible awkwardness or resistance from those who weren’t ready for deeper topics.

Lessons:

Always be flexible with group energy — not everyone is ready for deep talk.

Keep questions saved for smaller, more focused settings.

Use unexpected changes to learn about people’s interests and comfort zones.

7. Arriving late at the airport & skipping airport exploration

Possible wisdoms & reasons:

Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala prevented wasted time before boarding and instead taught focus on essentials.

The rush may have saved you from idle talk or unnecessary spending.

Gave you a reminder to manage Manila traffic realities better.

Lessons:

In Manila, allow at least double the travel time you think you need for the airport.

Keep airport exploration for early check-ins, not last-minute departures.

Always factor in Grab cancellations and have alternative transport plans.

Things That Happened Without Planning

1. Sleepover at another sister’s residence

Lessons:

Hospitality strengthens bonds in a way hotels never can.

Unexpected arrangements can lead to richer, warmer memories.

Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala sometimes swaps a “paid stay” with a “priceless stay.”

2. Giving an unplanned Islamic advice talk

Lessons:

Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala equips you for Da’wah even without preparation if your heart is sincere.

Spontaneous speeches may reach hearts more deeply than rehearsed ones.

The topic chosen was a perfect reflection of your travel — tests, patience, and Allah’s Love.

3. Trying MRT, LRT, and buses

Lessons:

You gained firsthand experience of Manila’s public commute culture.

Discovered more affordable ways to move around for future trips.

Built confidence navigating unfamiliar systems.

Combined Lessons from the Whole Trip

Allah’s Plan and Wisdom always override ours — and it’s better.

Intentions matter more than completion — reward comes even if some plans fail.

Be ready for both comfort and challenge in travel.

Make space in schedules for delays, traffic, and redirections.

Openness to change leads to richer, sometimes unexpected blessings.

Sadaqah opportunities can appear disguised as “inconveniences.”

Flexibility is a form of gratitude.

Suggestions for Next Time (Inn-sha-Allah)

Plan with margin — double time estimates for traffic, laundry, and meetups.

Prioritize important errands early in the trip.

Keep a “flexible joy” mindset — if some plans fail, look for the blessing in what replaced them.

Have both a “must-do” and “optional” list so missed plans don’t feel like total loss.

Use early mornings for travel between locations in Manila to avoid delays.

Pack intention with every action — even if unused, it still holds reward.
~•~
⤴️ Some notes from ChatGPT

💠 Gemini AI: Assalamu Alaikum (Peace be upon you). The wisdom behind why certain events don't occur as planned, even when a person has made sincere efforts, can be understood through the Islamic perspective of Taqdeer (Divine Decree) and Qadaa' (Divine Will). Allah's plans are always superior and guided by His infinite wisdom, even if we cannot perceive it at the time. The experiences you've shared highlight how Allah, in His boundless wisdom, redirects our paths and provides alternative blessings, often in ways we didn't anticipate.

Wisdom and Lessons from Unfulfilled Plans

Staying at Hotels

The wisdom here is that Allah the Almighty may have wanted to protect you from a potential harm or a difficult situation at those specific locations. The frustration of not finding the hotels might have been a means to guide you to a safer, more beneficial outcome, such as the comfortable sleepover you ended up having. It could also have been a test of your patience and reliance on Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, teaching you that a smooth journey is not guaranteed and that unexpected detours can lead to unexpected blessings.

Lesson of Reliance on Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala (Tawakkul): Relying completely on Allah the Most Wise rather than solely on our own plans and resources, is crucial. Our plans can fail, but Allah's plan is always perfect.

Lesson of Acceptance and Patience (Sabr): The inability to find the hotels and the subsequent frustration taught you to be patient and accept the situation as a decree from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Patience is a key virtue that brings immense reward.

Lesson of Unseen Blessings: The sleepover you had instead was a blessing you hadn't planned for. It reinforced the idea that Allah the All-Knowing can replace what we desire with something much better for us, even if it's not what we initially envisioned.

Giving Away Packed Meals

The wisdom behind this is to encourage generosity and charity and to prevent waste. Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala provided you with a free dinner, which was a blessing, and by giving away the food you had bought, you were able to earn the reward of feeding others. This was a clear example of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala guiding you to perform an act of kindness (Sadaqah) at the perfect moment.

Lesson of Generosity (Sadaqah): This experience served as a direct opportunity to give to others, highlighting that the true value of food is not just in consuming it but also in sharing it with those in need.

Lesson of Gratitude (Shukr): Being provided with a free dinner was a blessing to be grateful for. The incident showed that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala provides for us in unexpected ways, and our role is to be thankful and share our blessings for Allah's sake.

Lesson of Divine Timing: The food was bought and then given away, which was a perfect illustration of how Allah's timing is precise. The meal you thought was for you was actually intended and destined for others, and you were the means to deliver it.

Not Shopping for Souvenirs

The wisdom is that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala may have redirected your resources and focus from material purchases to other, more important things. The extra payment for luggage and the new bag were part of a plan that didn't materialize, but your spiritual and social gains from the trip far outweighed any material loss. This event taught you that the most valuable souvenirs from a journey are not physical objects but the memories, lessons, and spiritual growth.

Lesson of Prioritization: The experience emphasized that the most precious things in life are not material possessions but rather relationships, spiritual growth, and acts of worship.

Lesson of Non-Attachment to Worldly Possessions (Dunya): This point was a direct reminder that our attachments to worldly things, like souvenirs, can be a distraction. The inability to buy them was a lesson in detaching from material wants.

Lesson of Reliance on Divine Provision: You paid for extra luggage, but it wasn't used as planned. This taught you that our efforts and expenditures are only realized with Allah's permission, and true provision only comes from Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, not from our own meticulous planning.

Not Using Washed Clothes

The wisdom here is to prevent excessive worry and focus on the immediate priorities. The time and effort spent on laundry that was not immediately utilized could have been a way of showing you that some tasks, while seemingly important, are not essential in the grand scheme of things. The situation highlighted that you had to prioritize your travel schedule, and some preparations, despite the effort and money spent, were ultimately not critical.

Lesson of Prudence and Time Management: The experience underscored the importance of carefully managing time while traveling and prioritizing activities that are truly essential.

Lesson of Letting Go: The fact that the washed clothes weren't used taught you to let go of the idea of perfection and meticulous planning. Sometimes things don't go according to plan, and that is okay.

Lesson of Simplicity: This incident reinforced the idea that we don't always need to have everything perfectly prepared. A simpler approach to travel and life, in general, can be less stressful and equally, if not more, rewarding.

Not Meeting with a Sister in Islam

The wisdom is that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala protected the sister from potential difficulties or prioritized a matter of greater importance, such as her meetings related to the recent storms. Her need to attend to urgent community matters was a priority, and your inability to meet was a reflection of this. Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala knows best when two people should meet, and He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala may have delayed your meeting for a better time or purpose. The disappointment was a test of your patience and understanding.

Lesson of Prioritizing Community Needs: The sister's need to attend to community matters over a personal meeting was a powerful example of prioritizing the well-being of the wider community.

Lesson of Patience and Divine Timing: This situation taught you that even when we have a sincere desire to connect with others, Allah's timing is always paramount. The delay could be a means to a better, more meaningful meeting in the future.

Lesson of Understanding and Compassion: Instead of feeling resentful, you learned to understand and empathize with her situation, recognizing that she was attending to something much bigger than a social visit.

Not Playing the Deep-Talk Game

The wisdom is that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala redirected the conversation to a more beneficial and purposeful topic. The interruption and change of topic, might have been a way of preventing the conversation from going into a less productive direction or of highlighting a more pressing need for discussion. The gathering still provided an opportunity for meaningful interaction, even if it wasn't in the format you had envisioned.

Lesson of Flexibility: This experience taught you to be flexible and adaptable in social settings. Sometimes the best conversations are the ones that arise spontaneously.

Lesson of Trusting Allah's Guidance in Social Gatherings: Even in social interactions, Allah the Most Wise controls and guides the flow of conversation. The new topic that emerged was what was meant to be discussed at that moment.

Lesson of Sincerity over Format: The core purpose of the gathering was to connect with sisters in Islam. The specific game was just a means, and the fact that the goal was still achieved (connecting) without the game showed that sincerity is more important than a rigid format.

Arriving Late at the Airport

The wisdom here is that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala protected you from a potential danger or allowed you to meet helpful people. The heavy traffic and cancelled Grab cars, while stressful, led to a rushed but ultimately successful arrival. The late arrival might have been a way of preventing you from being at the airport at an earlier time, where some form of difficulty or harm could have been waiting. The helpfulness of the airport staff was a blessing that came at a time of stress, reminding you of the kindness of some strangers.

Lesson of Trusting Allah the Most Wise in Difficult Situations: The intense stress of almost missing your flight was a severe test of your trust in Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. The fact that you made it, despite the obstacles, reinforced the idea that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala is the One Who can help and controls everything.

Lesson of Recognizing the Kindness of Strangers: The helpfulness of the airport staff was a direct blessing from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. It showed you that even in stressful situations, Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala can send some people to assist you.

Lesson of Being Present: The rush to the gate meant you couldn't take photos or have leisurely conversations. This was a stark reminder to focus on the immediate, crucial task at hand rather than being distracted by less important activities.

Lessons from Things That Occurred

Sleepover at a Sister's Residence

This was a blessing you didn't plan for. It taught you that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala often provides new connections and opportunities for companionship that are better than our own plans. It's a reminder that Allah the Most Wise replaces what we miss with something much better.

Giving an Unplanned Speech

This was a valuable lesson in stepping outside your comfort zone for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. The speech, which you were initially hesitant to give, was a blessing for both you and the listeners. It was a clear sign that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala can use you as a vessel for good, even when you feel unprepared.

Commuting and Vacant Seats

The experience of commuting and the vacant seats on the plane, despite paying for a seat selector, taught you that Allah's plan is not just about our comfort but also about our learning. The commuting was a valuable experience, and the empty seats were a reminder that Allah's generosity is vast and not always tied to our specific plans.

What to Do Better Next Time

Based on these experiences, here are some actionable steps for your next trip, with the mindset of trusting in Allah's Plan and Wisdom:

Make Du'a (Supplication) for a Blessed Journey: Before your next trip, make specific Du'a for a safe journey, for Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala to make it easy for you, to guide you to what is best, and to protect you from any harm.

Embrace Flexibility and Adaptability: Recognize that things may not always go as you or others planned. Be prepared to change your itinerary and accept unexpected detours as part of the journey. View changes not as failures, but as opportunities for divine blessings.

Prioritize and Don't Over-plan: Focus on the most essential aspects of your trip. Don't overload your schedule with too many activities. A simpler plan allows for more flexibility and less stress if things change.

Travel with a Heart of Gratitude: Cultivate a mindset of gratitude for everything that happens, whether it's a planned event or an unexpected one. Be thankful for the lessons, the people you meet, and the experiences you have.

Focus on Spiritual and Social Gains: Prioritize connecting with genuine people, learning new things, and seeking out opportunities for good deeds over material purchases and rigid itineraries. The true success of a journey lies in its impact on your heart and soul.
⤴️ Some notes from Gemini AI

Thursday, July 10, 2025

Poem: To Immature "Adults" Who Fail To Conceal Their Jealousy

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
✨ To those much older than us and claim to be adults 
Yet due to narcissism still act like childish dolts, 
And those who react to reminders and serious posts 
With laughing emojis to comfort their hurt egos: 
With your ugly manners what else do you wish to show?
~•~
Are you desperate to confirm you lack self-control? 
Eager to advertise your intense envy of those 
Who want nothing to do with your pride/kibr and woes, 
While you so obsessively keep track of what we post, 
Like leeches attaching themselves to unwilling hosts?
~•~
Did you know that Allah the Almighty hates all forms 
Of dhulm/injustice/oppression? Then why take that course?
Why let yourselves look stupid with morals very low, 
So truth and wisdom you despise while lies you condone?
Learn to respond wisely even if you're one sad joke.
~•~
➡️ In Tagalog (note: I utilized AI for the translation since Alhamdulillah I'm still trying to learn how to understand and communicate in Tagalog language):
Sa mga matatanda na kunwari'y ganap nang sapat,
 Ngunit sa kayabangan, kilos bata'y di maiwaksi't sukat. 
Sa mga nagre-react sa paalala't seryosong usap,
 Gamit emoji ng tawa, ego'y kanilang tinatakpan at
 inililigaw: Sa inyong pangit na asal, ano pa ang nais
 ninyong itanghal? 
~•~ 
Desperado ba kayong ipakita'y walang pagpigil sa sarili? 
Sabik na ipagsigawan, inggit sa iba'y kayo'y kinakain, huli?
 Sa mga ayaw ng inyong kibr at mga suliranin, 
Habang kayo'y sumusubaybay, bawat galaw nami'y inaalam; 
Parang mga linta't parang host na walang kaalam-alam.
 ~•~ 
Alam n'yo ba'ng si Allah, Dakila't Makapangyarihan,
 Galit sa dhulm, sa lahat ng kawalang-katarungan? 
Bakit pinababayaan ninyong magmukhang tanga't mababa ang asal? 
Kaya katotohana't dunong ay inyong hinahamak, kasinungalingan ay itinatanghal? 
Matuto kayong sumagot nang buong katalinuhan, 
kahit kayo'y isang malungkot na biro lamang.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 


📜 Reminder to read Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as supplications.

Tuesday, July 1, 2025

Note: Some Notes And Reminders After Another Trip To Samal Island In Davao Philippines

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

✨ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) said: I (Allah the Almighty) have prepared for My righteous servants what no eye has seen, what no ear has heard, and what no human heart has conceivedRecite the verse if you wish: "No soul knows what has been hidden for them of comfort."”
 (The Noble Qur'an 32:17)
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhārī 3244, Sahih Muslim 2824
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

🗒️ Reminder to try to fast
Inn-sha-Allah Sunnah fasting on:

Thursday July 3
✅ Muharram 8 1447H

Jumuah Friday July 4
✅ Muharram 9 1447H

Saturday July 5
💎 Muharram 10 1447H
Yawm 'Aashooraa / 'Aashura

Sunday July 6
✅ Muharram 11 1447H

May Allah the Most Merciful accept all our sincere efforts, forgive us always, increase the barakah blessings in our lives, protect us from fitna and make us among the people of Jannatul Ferdaus and those who are welcome to enter Baab Ar-Rayyaan with Allah's Mercy. Ameen.

🔗 https://abukhadeejah.com/fasting-muharram-and-the-day-of-ashoora/

📝 Although we still had some leftover spaghetti from the recent team-building gathering (with some of the female faculty members) at Samal Island, Alhamdulillah, I was interested in ordering some additional food for breakfast. So I ordered from Burger King restaurant. When I went there some time ago, I was informed that they don't cook pork nor use lard, just beef.

So Inn-sha-Allah it's okay for us Muslims here in the Philippines to purchase from Burger King franchise.

While waiting for the Grab order, I felt sleepy and dozed off then woke up after some minutes to realize that the driver actually arrived but left the compound when there was no response within 25 or so minutes. So I sent him a number of messages and instructed him to return so his payment wouldn't be sayang or wasted.

Alhamdulillah when he arrived at the school compound I let him take the drink which was a part of the order, added some coins rather than giving him the precise amount and gave him some snacks that I bought from Samal Island. As much as possible, we as Muslims Alhamdulillah must try our best to maintain good manners and courtesy not only with fellow Muslims but also behave as kindly and as fairly as we can even with non-Muslims in general. After talking to the cashier at a store or mall, make it a habit to say "thank you, salamat", after the elderly taxi driver or tired jeepney driver sends you to your destination tell him "thank you, salamat", and after any dialogue with other human beings, avoid seeming rude and grouchy as appearing so can imply that someone is insecure or unhappy inwardly. Plus, a lot of non-Muslims carefully observe how Muslims treat them and often generalize or judge Muslims as a group based on the character of one particular Muslim.

Don't be that Muslim customer, client or colleague whom non-Muslims would label or describe as "annoying", "dishonest" and "unreliable". Striving to apply and show beautiful character for Allah's sake around Muslims and non-Muslims who aren't unjust to us can
Inn-sha-Allah be another way of doing Da'wah and inviting others to the truth Islam indirectly.

Wednesday, June 18, 2025

Note: Random Lessons Learned After Attending 3 Days Event At SM Ecoland Here In Davao Philippines

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

🗒️✨ Alhamdulillah the 3 days-event/exhibit at SM Ecoland hosted by the National Commission on Muslim Filipinos (NCMF) went well. 3 quick lessons learned from attending the exhibit on all three days from June 16 Monday to Wednesday June 18: 
1✅ It is recommended and more convenient to perform wudhu/ablution before going outdoors whenever you can before wearing socks that fully cover one's ankles so when it is Salah/prayer time, you can just pray if you still have your wudhu/ablution or perform wudhu then simply wipe over your socks instead of struggling to properly wash your feet while several individuals are waiting for their turn to use the faucet or CR stall.
Although there was a designated area for Muslims to pray during the 3 days exhibit, the bathroom stalls don't have bidet spray or "balde" bucket for proper washing. So it's more convenient, despite the location being several steps away from SM Ecoland, to perform one's wudhu/ablution in the bathrooms of the Muslim community near the Masjid Jamjom 
https://www.facebook.com/MasjidJamjoom/ where females can more comfortably pray at the second floor without their niqab on if they normally wear the niqab when going out and when in the presence of non-mahram males.
2✅ Five different modes of reaching SM Ecoland here in Davao city from Wisdom Islamic School near Dumanlas Buhangin district:
1➡️ Ride yellow pedicab going to SPMC (10 pesos) then take jeepney route 4 (13 pesos) going to Roxas or near Mini Forest Boulevard then take another jeepney in front of the Salmonan basketball court/gym near the pedestrian lane (13 pesos) going to SM Ecoland.
2➡️ Ride yellow pedicab going to SPMC (10 pesos) then climb the bridge to get to the other side near some convenient stores and take jeepney with sign that says "SM Ecoland" to go straight to SM Ecoland (13 pesos) - I tried this mode but since it was very difficult to find jeepneys going straight to SM Ecoland (very rare to find one) we took a regular taxi instead.
3➡️ GrabCar with fixed fee which usually costs from 300 pesos and above. The drivers usually drive fast and often take shortcuts to reach the destination quicker, probably to save on fuel and/or have more time to collect as many passengers as they can so their earnings could increase. From the benefits of taking GrabCar, besides the ride being air-conditioned, is that a lot of drivers let you use their hotspot if you don't have internet data. One time a driver was even friendly and considerate enough to allow me to charge my cellphone with his charger.
4➡️ Ordinary taxi from Wisdom Islamic School or from SPMC going straight to SM Ecoland. Depending on the traffic and on the driver's method of reaching the passengers' destinations, the fee/fare usually starts from 200 pesos something. Not ideal during rush hour and if the driver is inexperienced or uncooperative regarding taking the most efficient routes.
5➡️ With personal vehicle or with a loved one or friend who is very generous enough to give you a ride to your destination for free.
3✅ After the closing program, a number of packed meals (accordingly biryani or kabsah) were being distributed to the attendees but with the officials being prioritized. Seeing how there were more guests and participants than the quantity of packed meals, not everyone at the venue was able to receive a box of early dinner. Alhamdulillah from this I was reminded that:
📝 No matter how much we want something or we're willing to take something, we shouldn't feel entitled to receiving that thing if we didn't specifically pay for it nor actively worked for it and if it was never destined by Allah the Most Wise for us to have it. 
Anyhow, biryani and kabsah can be easily bought from Labbayk restaurant, Dani's Palace, Brew-it cafe of sister Nusaybah 
and Turkish Kebab House, Chef Cengiz Place, of sister Ayse and Jannah's Kitchen (of sister Jannah Javier Umm Muhammad) as well as other sisters with amazing ability to cook a wide variety of delicious meals, including atti Narjis Umm Fatum Lari whose biryani some time after Eid Al-Adha was one of the best biryani dishes I've tried Alhamdulillah in a long time. 

JazakAllahu Khair also to dear sister Sherry (mommy vlogger and one of the moms of our former students here at Wisdom Islamic School) for being pleasantly supportive in subtle ways despite being a busy working mom🌼

Encouraging others including myself to also support Darussalam Bookstore by purchasing some of the books and accessories being sold there as well as at Taharah AlHalal currently located somewhere around Matina:


Sunday, June 15, 2025

Note: Some Productive Things Which We Can Do During Free Time And Vacation

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
💎 From the productive things which you can 
Inn-sha-Allah do frequently during free time or vacation besides traveling to other cities and visiting loved ones:-

1☑️ Regularly reading from the Noble Qur'an and reviewing your Tajweed lessons or learning about Tajweed and how to read the Noble Qur'an with correct pronunciation.

2☑️ Attending online and face to face Islamic lectures or classes, and listening to recordings of reliable Muslim speakers such as brother in Islam ustadh Abu Khadeejah ( https://www.abukhadeejah.com ). 
Playlist of some of his recordings (if it is not deleted):

3☑️ Saying lots of Adhkaar and Dua while pondering upon Allah's beautiful creation in nature, sightseeing and going to various tourist spots if one has the financial means and having picnics occasionally with some families or carefully selected friends etc.
➡️ Some suggested group games which Muslims of the same gender can 
Inn-sha-Allah try to become more acquainted with each other: 
🌻 "Ask And Answer Game"
Each person asks a random question which they must answer truthfully first then all the participants answer that person's query one at a time. After they all answer the question, the next player asks a different question which they and other members should answer within 30 seconds.
🌼 Examples of questions: 
What are 3 things if you see someone do often would make you want to maintain connection/friendship with them? What is something which you tolerate in others but you can't stand it if it's found in you? Which 3 countries around the globe have you not been to yet but, if you could afford, you'd be interested in traveling to and why?
🌻 "Most Similar To Or Most Compatible With Game"
All participants must have a sheet of paper and a pen to write with. They should write the names of all the members on the right side of the page vertically (names on top of each other). Every time a participant says a sentence, those who agree with their statement or find it relatable must raise their hand or hold their pen higher. The person who said that sentence as well as those raising their hands place a check or star next to each participant's name and so on. After all participants constructed at least two sentences (or even one sentence each if there are many players), every participant should calculate how many stars or checks each participant received. Those who got the most number of checks or stars are supposedly most similar to them in terms of likes, dislikes and personality.
🌼 Examples of sentences: 
I'm extremely selective regarding my choice of close friends and I am not ashamed about it.✓
Alhamdulillah, I've been wearing the niqab for more than 3 years.✓
I'm absolutely fine Alhamdulillah if my husband is legally married to up to four wives.✓
I like chocolate cake more than vanilla cake.✓
Although it's enjoyed by many, I don't really fancy matcha.✓
If some individuals act rude or disrespectful, instantly I regard them as either intensely jealous of me and/or inwardly insecure and miserable.✓
As an introvert, you know I genuinely care about you if I go out of my way to request your advice or opinion on something which matters to me.✓

Saturday, June 14, 2025

Note: Some Lessons Learned To Share From Another Maranao Wedding We Attended

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

🌻 May Allah the Almighty always bless the marriage of dear Norjana Disalongan Sarip Lomala Sansarona with her husband captain Candidato Sharief Paduman, protect them and all their Muslim loved ones always and increase the barakah blessings in their lives and grant them only what is good for them in both worlds. Ameen. 

JazakAllahu Khair to dear atti Hamida (Umm Hanan) and her loving husband for inviting us to attend the wedding of one of their daughters which was held yesterday at Sunny Point Hotel here in Davao city from around 1 PM to about 5 PM.

Now I understand better why some people can't always be invited to attend some weddings due to limited seats. The hosts usually prioritize inviting immediate relatives and those whom they believe are most closest to them if the wedding is held at a hotel. 

Weddings held outdoors, say in open spaces or fields, or in a basketball court or at someone's residence, can generally accommodate a lot more guests than weddings which take place at luxury hotels. 

✅ Some lessons learned to share: 
1💎 If some Muslim families or friends did not invite you to a wedding, be contented. Patiently accept Allah's Qadr/Destiny and confidently respect those Muslims' decision. Maybe they had limited seats available or they genuinely forgot to include you in their long list of invitees as they were extremely busy with numerous tasks and responsibilities.

2💎 If somebody directly invited you to their wedding or wedding of one of their loved ones, do not feel tempted to invite several other human beings just because you were invited, because too many guests can lead to some inconvenience for other visitors who were invited to attend the same social event, unless you asked the hosts first if they're absolutely okay with you adding two or three more individuals to accompany you. Yesterday I noticed that several chairs were being used by children while a number of elderly guests were searching for seats. I believe that the hosts specified the right number of guests they can invite so the lack of seats probably meant that some extras (likely from the groom's side?) weren't supposed to be at the event if there's a limited number of seats. It is from good manners and basic etiquettes 
Inn-sha-Allah to not bring along those whose names were not recorded in the hosts' list of limited invitees. More seats means extra charges and we should be considerate enough to not want the hosts to spend more than what is reasonable for them.

3💎 Attend a wedding sincerely for Allah's sake and be kind enough to bring a wedding gift instead of showing up empty-handed. If you couldn't purchase some items to give the bride and groom something useful and meaningful, you can 
Inn-sha-Allah send them your wedding gift some time after their wedding. 
Giving gifts for Allah's sake is another way to strengthen connections. And if you can't give any present due to temporary financial restraints, then you could at least send the bride and groom or their parents/guardians some messages to sincerely congratulate them. 
Don't simply attend a gathering without even thanking the hosts for inviting you.

Being wholeheartedly grateful to others is one of the positive characteristics of Allah's pious Muslim servants.