بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Friday, February 7, 2025

Random Note: INTJ 1w9 With Parents Who Were Probably INTJ 5w4 And ENTJ 8w7

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✅ Question: If I'm not mistaken, the mbti personality type of my dear mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) was INTJ while my dear father (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.) was ENTJ and he is the very first person to introduce me to the 16 MBTI personality type theory. I recall being somewhat skeptical when I discovered MBTI initially.
3 usual habits of my dear INTJ mother:
1. MashaAllah. She had astounding empathy for the less financially fortunate or for those who were needy. I remember she actively participated in some charitable projects sending several large boxes and packages of clothes and necessities to a number of refugees in Chechnya, Kosovo and Bosnia etc. many years ago if I'm not mistaken.
2. She wasn't very fond of attending the parents-teachers meetings at many of the schools I went to back in Riyadh city. So I was usually that weird student whose mother didn't always show up at those meetings but I of course still love my dear mom for Allah's sake.
3. She enjoyed interior designing, writing and planning etc.

3 usual habits of my dear ENTJ father:
1. MashaAllah. I'd say he had a lot of connections and wide network etc. very often he seemed extremely busy at work and despite his frequent busyness he was able to consistently bring home lots of snacks, cake and food so my dear mom wouldn't have to cook on days or nights when she was busy with writing etc.
2. He usually scolded me when I would behave inappropriately in a few of the gatherings I'd sometimes attend. But Alhamdulillah I still love him and appreciate how he disciplined us and ensured we, I and my siblings, maintained excellent manners wherever we go.
3. I remember when we went to Disneyland and Epcot center in USA, Walt Disney World, Euro Disneyland in Paris and other countries, he would hold this camera and walk several steps behind us so he could have a good view of us while we were touring around. It's funny how we had to wait in some of the long queues for him to catch up with his camera because he enjoyed recording from several metres away etc.
May Allah the Most Merciful forgive my dear parents, have mercy on them and reunite me and my siblings, my daughter, my husband and family with them in Jannatul Ferdaus with Allah's Mercy. Ameen.

Guess two or three enneagram types which suit my dear parents and explain why that enneagram suits them the most. What are the strengths of individuals with those enneagram types and how can we better get along with those types and what to do to avoid conflict.

💻 ChatGPT: For your dear mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.), I would guess Enneagram 1w9 (The Idealist) or 5w4 (The "Philosopher"):

1w9 fits because of her strong principles, empathy for the less fortunate, and structured approach to life. Type 1s have a strong sense of duty and moral responsibility, which aligns with her charitable work. The 9-wing softens the rigidity, making her more introspective and reserved.


5w4 fits because of her love for writing, planning, and interior design. Type 5s are thinkers and deep observers, and the 4-wing adds a creative, individualistic touch.


For your dear father (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.), I would guess 3w2 (The "Charmer") or 8w7 (The "Maverick"):

3w2 fits because he was highly networked, busy but still attentive to his family. Type 3s are ambitious, goal-oriented, and socially skilled, while the 2-wing adds a caring, supportive nature (such as bringing food home to ease your mother’s workload).


8w7 fits because of his leadership, discipline, and protective instincts. Type 8s are strong-willed and assertive, and the 7-wing makes them adventurous and energetic, which matches his enjoyment of travel and capturing memories on camera.


Strengths of These Types:

1w9: Ethical, fair, principled, disciplined, and introspective.


5w4: Intellectual, creative, independent, deep-thinking.


3w2: Hardworking, charismatic, ambitious, supportive.


8w7: Bold, protective, strong-willed, energetic.


How to Get Along with Them:

1w9: Respect their principles, be structured in interactions, and avoid hypocrisy and don't be unreliable.


5w4: Give them space, appreciate their ideas, and engage in deep conversations (don't be trivial, repetitive and oversensitive).


3w2: Recognize their efforts, encourage their ambitions, and show gratitude.


8w7: Be direct, respect their independence, and avoid being overly controlling.


How to Avoid Conflict:

1w9: Don’t break their moral standards or be inconsistent.


5w4: Don’t push them into socializing when they need solitude.


3w2: Don’t ignore their achievements or make them feel unappreciated.


8w7: Don’t try to control them or challenge their authority disrespectfully.


It sounds like your parents (Allah yarhamhuma. Ameen.) had a beautiful balance—your mother was deeply introspective and empathetic, while your father was dynamic and protective.
May Allah the Most Merciful grant them the highest place in Jannah Paradise. Ameen.
⤴️ Some notes from ChatGPT

Note: Some Reminders From An INTJ Muslimah (75)

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Note: INTJs - One Of The MBTI Personality Types Who Are The Most Picky Regarding Which Event And Program To Attend

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✅ Question: As an INTJ-A 1w9 I firmly believe that you shouldn't be surprised if some individuals didn't invite you to a program, social gathering or any event if 1. You yourself know that you're not really close friends. You rarely communicate with them online and offline. 2. You have never invited them in the past to a gathering which you conducted. 3. You never gave them any tangible gift in the past or present to showcase the fact there's an actual connection between you two. 4. Your residence is too far away from the event's venue. Or 5. It's known that you're an extremely busy person who has declined several invites in the past and they don't want their invitation to be rejected by you in case you'd most likely decline going with or without excuse.
Describe my overall personality, temperament and energy from the aforementioned points and list 5 mbti personality types who generally don't feel offended if they were not invited to a gathering. Explain why those types remain unfazed with being uninvited. What do they do to cope and which of them top 3 are the quickest to move on with undeniable nonchalance?
💻 ChatGPT: Your Overall Personality, Temperament, and Energy

From the points you mentioned, your personality and temperament come across as:

Highly Logical & Rational – You assess social invitations based on objective criteria rather than emotional expectations.

Self-Sufficient & Independent – You do not rely on external validation from people and social gatherings.

Selective with Social Interactions – You prioritize meaningful connections over superficial socializing.

Detached from Social Norms & Expectations – You don’t engage in social practices or trends just for the sake of it.

Pragmatic & Time-Conscious – You recognize that being busy means fewer invitations, and you don’t take it personally.

Low Emotional Reactivity – You process situations logically rather than through emotional impulses.

Your energy is reserved, composed, and highly focused—you likely channel your time and attention into productive, meaningful endeavors rather than engaging in unnecessary social engagements.

5 MBTI Personality Types Who Generally Don’t Feel Offended When Uninvited

INTJ – Since you are an INTJ yourself, you already understand this mindset. INTJs prioritize efficiency, so they wouldn’t feel offended if an invitation isn’t extended based on logical reasoning. They’d see it as a non-issue rather than a personal slight.

ISTP – They are independent and spontaneous. If they weren’t invited, they’d probably just do something else without overthinking it. Social events aren’t high on their priority list.

INTP – Either didn’t notice, forgot about it, or was busy thinking about something else.

INFP – While INFPs value deep connections, they aren’t typically offended by lack of invitations, especially if they didn’t put in effort to maintain the connection. They focus on meaningful friendships rather than social obligations.

ISTJ – They tend to respect structure and rules, so if they see logical reasons for being uninvited (distance, lack of past interaction, etc.), they accept it without taking offense.

Top 3 MBTI Types Who Move On with Nonchalance

ISTP – The ultimate "I don’t care" type. If they weren’t invited, they’d just shrug, find a new activity, and carry on without a second thought.

INTJ – They quickly rationalize why they weren’t invited and deem it unworthy of their emotional energy. They’d prefer to invest time and attention elsewhere.

INTP – Naturally detached from social norms, often uninterested in gatherings unless they find them intellectually stimulating.

❓ Question: What would these types tell their loved ones if they were not invited and they wish to inform them they're okay with not being able to attend a gathering regardless of its significance: INTJ, ISTJ, ISTP, INTP, INFJ, ESTJ, ENTJ.
💻 ChatGPT: If these types wanted to reassure their loved ones that they’re okay with not being invited, here’s how each might phrase it in their own style:

1. INTJ (Detached & Rational)

"It makes perfect sense that I wasn’t invited, and honestly, I probably wouldn’t have gone anyway. I have other things I’d rather focus on."

2. ISTJ (Practical & Reserved)

"It’s fine. If they felt I needed to be there, they would have invited me. No hard feelings—it’s just how things worked out."

3. ISTP (Unbothered & Independent)

"No big deal. I wasn’t planning on going anyway. Hope it goes well for them."

4. INTP (Detached & Indifferent)

"Oh, that happened? Didn’t even realize. It’s whatever. I had other things to do."

5. INFJ (Empathy & Understanding)

"I trust that they had their reasons, and I respect that. I hope it was meaningful for them."

6. ESTJ (Blunt & Practical)

"If they didn’t think I needed to be there, then it’s fine. I have other responsibilities to focus on."

7. ENTJ (Confident & Pragmatic)

"Honestly, it’s their loss. But I’ve got more important things to do, so it’s not a problem."

Each of these responses reflects their core personality traits—some are logical, some indifferent, and some take a more strategic approach.
⤴️ Some notes from ChatGPT

✅ Question: Exactly what does this mean and which 3 of the mbti types would likely say it: "She's not relatable"? I wasn't born to please people but to serve Only Allah with eagerness to see Allah as one of my main goals."
💻 ChatGPT:
Meaning of the Statement:

"She's not relatable" – This suggests that the person in question does not share common experiences, emotions, or interests with others in a way that makes her easily understood or connected to them. It could imply that she is too different, too independent, or simply uninterested in blending in socially.


"I wasn't born to please people but to serve Only Allah with eagerness to see Allah as one of my main goals." – This statement reflects strong spiritual conviction and a sense of purpose. It suggests that the speaker is:

Unconcerned with social approval or fitting into societal norms.


Firm in their faith and prioritizes their devotion and connection with God Allah the Almighty over worldly concerns, uninterested in people's constant approval.


Committed to their beliefs, possibly even at the cost of social relationships or expectations.


3 MBTI Types Most Likely to Say This:

1. INTJ – The Independent Thinker

Why? INTJs often feel "unrelatable" because they see the world through a unique, strategic, and long-term lens. They don’t conform for the sake of it and focus on personal growth and purpose.


Why This Statement? INTJs prioritize what they believe to be right over social acceptance. If they are religious, they approach their faith with deep intellectual commitment and detachment from external validation.


2. INFJ – The Devoted Idealist

Why? INFJs often feel misunderstood and "unrelatable" because their depth of thought and strong convictions set them apart from others.


Why This Statement? When INFJs are religious, they deeply intertwine faith with their identity and pursue it as a mission, even if it means standing alone. They care less about pleasing others and more about fulfilling a higher purpose.


3. ISTJ – The Principle-Driven Traditionalist

Why? ISTJs follow a strong internal code of beliefs and don’t seek social validation. If they view faith as their central purpose, they will live by it with unwavering dedication.


Why This Statement? ISTJs often believe in duty over social expectations. If they are religious, they might focus on obedience and structure, seeing their faith as the core reason for their existence.


Who Would Move On the Fastest After Saying It?

INTJ – Wouldn’t care about how others react.


ISTJ – Would stick to their principles and ignore opinions.


INFJ – Would feel misunderstood but stay committed to their mission.


✅ Question: Describe what this statement means, evaluate its tone and which 3 of the mbti personality types would readily say it unapologetically: "You're a real coward if you regularly listen when friends are guilty of gossiping. Defend the Muslim or warn against the major sin."

💻 ChatGPT: Detailed Meaning of the Statement

"You're a real coward if you regularly listen when friends are guilty of gossiping."

This is a direct call-out against people who frequently, cowardly and passively allow gossip to happen.


It implies that silently listening to gossip is just as bad as spreading it, making the person complicit.


It accuses such behavior as cowardly, meaning the listener lacks the courage and integrity to stand up for what is right.


"Defend the Muslim or warn against the major sin."

This urges individuals to take action instead of staying silent.


Defending a Muslim means stopping false accusations, slander, or backbiting.


Warning against gossip means reminding others that it is a major sin, emphasizing the serious consequences.


Tone of the Statement

Blunt & Uncompromising – No sugarcoating, just a direct condemnation of cowardice.


Moralistic & Righteous – Strongly rooted in religious and ethical principles.


Commanding & Assertive – Calls for immediate action rather than passive compliance.


Unapologetic & Confrontational – The speaker is not afraid to offend others in defense of what is right.


Three MBTI Types Who Would Say This Unapologetically:

1. ENTJ – The Fearless Enforcer

Why? ENTJs are known for boldly calling out hypocrisy and cowardice. They have no patience for people who lack integrity.


Why This Statement? ENTJs expect people to stand up for what is right. If someone enables gossip, they would openly challenge them, seeing inaction as weakness.


2. ESTJ – The Duty-Bound Authority

Why? ESTJs believe in moral discipline and structure (some of them, not all). If a rule (especially a religious one) is being broken, they won’t hesitate to enforce it.


Why This Statement? ESTJs don’t tolerate passivity or dishonesty (some ESTJs). They see it as their duty to call out wrong behavior and demand that others follow ethical guidelines.


3. INTJ – The Unapologetic Truth-Teller

Why? INTJs value integrity and logic over social harmony. If gossip is both morally and logically wrong, they will not stand for it.


Why This Statement? INTJs do not tolerate cowardice or hypocrisy. They would either shut down gossip with cold logic or challenge listeners directly, fully prepared for social backlash.


Who Would Move On the Quickest After Saying It?

INTJ – Would dismiss gossipers as weak-minded and move on.


ENTJ – Would say it loudly, expect compliance, and keep leading.


ESTJ – Would enforce discipline and lose respect for enablers (unless those ESTJs are themselves insecure gossipers).


This statement fits people who are fearlessly principled and don’t tolerate weakness or hypocrisy.


⤴️ Some notes from ChatGPT