💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💚 To my loving daughter and Zara, her half-sister,
Some tips from one who, for Allah's sake, loves your father,
Truly even if he was married to another -
And to each wife who may have thought, wondered or uttered
"I do not oppose polygyny. As a matter
Of fact, I know it's halal - a test for tough lovers.
I'm not as strong as them. It's not for me but others."
~•~
Without a doubt, Allah the Most Wise gave men the right
To be married legally to a max. of four wives,
Not to spoil men while some wives suffer, complain or cry,
But to increase the number of pious kids worldwide,
Or to strengthen ties between different clans and tribes,
Or train men to show wisdom in managing their time,
Or teach women to control their feelings and tame pride.
~•~
Polygyny may not appeal to most at first, but
For something to be the correct choice it's not a must
For it to be the most common or most well thought of.
Often what seems strange or unpopular is what's loved
By our Creator Allah the Almighty above
If that action involves humans humbly giving up
Selfishness and the kind of attachment that destructs.
~•~
Really loving your husband for Allah doesn't mean
"You can have only one wife. That wife is only me.
Keep just one wife. You exclusively belong to me."
But real love for Allah's sake can state confidently:
"Dear husband, I'm here as your wife for Allah Only.
That you have a right to remarry I do believe,
And seeing you lawfully happy brings inner peace."
~•~
Your spouse loving another doesn't mean you're loved less.
Take moments when they're together as chances to rest,
Opportunities to enhance strength to pass brief tests,
And self-reminders that you're doing your very best
For Allah to stay loyal, preserve this blessed marriage,
And prove your patience outweighs emotional distress,
Aware of Jannah's bliss, eager to be rewarded.
~•~
While I can't convince all to welcome polygyny,
I advise myself and all to bravely, patiently
And sincerely accept Allah's Qadr/Destiny -
That Allah granted many males the ability
To love and care for more than one woman faithfully.
So persevere if Allah decreed that you would be
One of your husband's wives. After each challenge comes ease.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📝✨ Sharing my research paper
Inn-sha-Allah in Arabic language as sadaqa jaariyah (the topic I chose at Markaz Ibn Al-Qayyim Islamic institute was about the negative consequences of divorce):
✅ Some advice in English language on how divorce is not always the best solution,
PDF document which you can Inn-sha-Allah share as sadaqah jaariya:
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